How Not to Steal a Baby Name
Rebecca and her sister share many things in common – including a favorite girl’s name. Let’s talk about avoiding name theft, and finding a name you love.
She says we can use it, but I’m not sure. It still feels like we’re stealing her favorite name, and I wonder if I’ll regret it – or if she will regret agreeing to it.
The Name Sage responds:
The new parents initially said they couldn’t take it, but Monica insisted. She loved the name, yes – but she cared about her friends and family more.
It sounds like you and your sister are re-playing this scene. And that’s a happy outcome!
You’re sensitive about avoiding name theft. But your sister is equally reasonable about her feelings for you and her new niece.
There’s no guarantee your sister will ever use the name. Maybe she’ll never have a daughter. And even if she does, her partner might not agree.
Giving up the name preserves your sister’s options. Imagine if you pass on Margaret because avoiding name theft matters to you. But a year later, your new niece arrives – and your sister would really rather choose a different name. That’s harder to do if she knows you sacrificed your favorite name.
A nicely-named niece is a great outcome! You’re assuming that using the name results in a loss for your sister. But she may see it as a chance to hear her favorite name forever.
But before you do, let’s explore more classic choices with sparky, upbeat nicknames. Because if you happen to find a name you love better, then avoiding name theft isn’t an issue at all.
If this list leaves you feeling flat, then your answer is clear.
Readers, have you given up a favorite name for a sibling or close friend? How did it work out? And are there other Margaret/Maggie alternatives you’d suggest?