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Preparing Yourself for Baby

This is the first in a series of excerpts we’re running from the highly recommended, up-to-date, interactive guide to pregnancy and infancy, “Ready, Set, Baby!”

As a soon-to-be parent, you’ve probably spent a great deal of time arming yourself with the latest wisdom on child-rearing. While this kind of mental preparation is a crucial step, it’s equally important to physically prepare yourself for becoming a parent. That’s because ensuring a healthy baby starts with ensuring a healthy you. Here are a few important steps to get you started:

Clean Up Your Beauty Act

Pregnancy and early parenthood are the perfect times to swap your chemical-filled personal care products for safer ones. While in utero, your baby is exposed to everything that you are. According to a 2005 Environmental Working Group report, researchers who tested the blood, tissue, and cells in umbilical cords were surprised to find 248 different chemicals not normally present in the human body, including mercury, fossil fuels, and chemicals used to make flame retardants.

Personal care products can be a major source of chemical exposure. Once outside the womb, your infant will spend countless hours nuzzled against you, touching your face, hair, hands, lips, and the rest of your body. It’s fair to say whatever lipstick or cologne you’re wearing, your baby is pretty much wearing it too. The ingredients in these products are largely unregulated—the U.S. government doesn’t require health studies or pre-market testing for these products before marketing and selling them to consumers.

The Environmental Working Group provides a carefully researched list of ingredients to avoid, including oxybenzone in sunscreens, parabens and fragrances in hair products, formaldehyde in nail polish, triclosans in toothpastes and soaps, and retinyl palmitate in lipsticks and body lotions.

Visit Tips for Safer Products

Clean Up Your Diet

What better time than pregnancy to clean up your diet? Limit processed foods and eat more organic fruits, veggies, and whole grains. Try to buy meats and poultry that are free-range, and are free from antibiotics. For the latter, look for labels that say “no antibiotics added,” “no antibiotics ever,” “no added antibiotics,” or “raised without the use of antibiotics.” According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the term “antibiotic-free” has no meaning when it appears on labels. If you plan to breastfeed, you should continue to avoid processed foods while nursing.

Fish is a great source of protein and brain-boosting omega-3 fatty acids, but there are some types you should limit or avoid while pregnant or nursing because of high levels of mercury.


  • • Shark
  • • Swordfish
  • • Shark
  • • Tilefish

Safe to Eat

One Serving per Week
(6 ounces total)

  • • Canned Albacore Tuna
  • • Chunk White Tuna
  • • Canned Albacore Tuna

Safe to Eat

Two Servings per Week
(12 ounces total)

  • King Mackerel
  • • Tuna Steak or Sushi
  • • Shrimp
  • Salmon
  • Pollock
  • • Catfish
  • • Cod
  • • Tilapia


Some locally caught fish can also pose a danger to your baby’s developing nervous system, so be sure to check out the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency’s fish advisories and the Mayo Clinic’s guide to foods to avoid during pregnancy.

Visit Fish Advisories

Visit Foods to Avoid

Clean Your Hands

If you’re not a regular hand washer, you should become one. If you do, you can significantly reduce the number of illnesses your infant develops during his first year. You’re probably washing after you use the bathroom, but you should start scrubbing up once you return from work, before and after preparing food, after touching a pet, before holding your infant, after a diaper change, after taking out the trash … you get the idea.

Avoid using antibacterial soap and cleansers that contain triclosan—many do, so be sure to check the ingredients listed on the package. Hand sanitizers such as Purell generally do not contain triclosan and are fine for you to use before touching your baby.

Visit Soap, Skincare, and Cosmetics Database

Clean Up Your Cleaning Products

Do everyone in the house a favor, and swap chemical-laden products for greener vinegar- or citric acid-based options. Products with bleach create fumes that can be tough on an infant’s delicate respiratory system. One major complaint with green cleaning products is that they are not as effective as traditional ones. This is sometimes true, and you may need to experiment with a few products to find the ones that work for you. The Environmental Working Group has a list of more than 2,000 cleaning products ranked from least to most toxic.

It’s also a good idea to use perfume- and dye-free laundry detergent since you’re baby will spend a lot of time resting up against your clothes.

Visit Cleaning Product Database

Clean Up Your Floors

Removing your shoes before you walk in the house will cut down on the number of chemicals and other pollutants you track into your home. Before you know it, your infant will be sitting, crawling, and walking across your floors, so why not get in the shoe-removal habit right now and encourage guests to do the same? Leave a couple of pairs of slippers in a basket by the door that are reserved for home use only.

Clean Up the Air

We’re not telling you anything you haven’t heard before, but it’s worth the reminder: If you smoke, you should quit, especially now that you’ll have a baby in the house. If you decide to continue smoking once your baby is born, never smoke around your baby or in your home. Secondhand smoke increases a child’s risk of respiratory infections, asthma, and certain cancers, including lung cancer, childhood leukemia, and cancers of the throat, brain, bladder, and rectum.

Follow these steps and you’ll be well on your way to being ready for your new baby.

This pregnancy advice post is an excerpt from Ready, Set, Baby! The Watch and Learn Guide to Your Baby’s First Year, written and produced by Maureen Connolly and published by Open Air Publishing.  For more on the guide or to order your own interactive e-book, go to the Ready, Set, Baby! website.

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To tell or not to tellL…

Whether or not to reveal the baby’s name before arrival has become a more and more pressing question for parents.

And it seems that people  are increasingly opting for keeping it a secret, for not exposing their ideas to public–make that family–scrutiny, judgment and criticism.  Because let’s face it, most relatives of an older generation–parents, in-laws, grandparents, uncles and aunts, who didn’t give much thought to the process when they were naming their kids Steven or Susan–are apt to have a very different perspective on both individual names and contemporary naming concepts and trends.

So why risk a shudder when they hear Sadie or a blank stare at the suggestion of Brayden?  No matter what name you propose, some family member or friend is bound to not like it, and may well introduce negative factors that can start to sour you on your favorites.

A recent forum on one of our favorite sites,, came down pretty much on the side of keeping the name a secret.  The interesting comments there included horror stories of relationship-straining name-napping by neighbors and in-laws, a number of parents who wanted to keep their options open for making a change if the name didn’t seem to fit the baby once she made her appearance, one couple who would only reveal the middle name choice publicly–and several people who had revealed the name of their first child only to receive such toxic comments that they resolved not to do it the next time around.

People on the “Tell” side tended to feel that being able to address their unborn child by name gave it (no longer an it!) a real identity and was a strong pre-birth bonding experience.  Probably not surprisingly,  parents were more willing to share a  classic choice like Elizabeth, than a more unusual one that they wanted to lay claim to and protect.

In the end though, with all these pros and cons, the decision, like all the others concerning your child, is ultimately yours.  After all, you know your sister-in-law better than we do.

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