How I Named My Babies: Nico Gianna & Jasper Graham
How long did it take you to decide on names?
Almost the entire pregnancy! We settled on names a week before the babies arrived.
When did you know you found “The Name?”
When I texted my husband the combo I felt good about and he replied “I’m into it” without any negative feedback or associations.
Jasper Graham is called that because he is a treasure and with this quarantine, the homestead meaning felt right! My husband has liked the name Graham for many years, but we didn’t use it for our older children, so it was time!
And we chose Nico Gianna because we wanted a gender-neutral first name that would sound nice with our older daughter’s name, Parker. I knew I would use Gianna right away, as it is for the Patron Saint of mothers and unborn children, who I prayed to through my pregnancy.
Whose baby name opinions influenced you the most?
My best girlfriend, both our mothers, my sister-in-law, and our two children.
What name did you hate to let go of?
What would your babies be named if it was totally up to you? If it was up to your partner?
If it were up to my husband, baby boy Graham. I’m not sure he had a girl name he liked on his own!
Did your feelings about any of the names on your list shift over time?
Was it important to choose names that ‘matched’ your babies’ older siblings’ — or future siblings’ — names?
Yes. We have a daughter Parker and a son Quentin (nickname Quinn). We liked the gender-neutral vibe and something not too common but not super eccentric. We also wanted the twins’ names to sound right together without being too matchy.
Was it easier to come up with girl or boy names?
Did you decide on middle names before the first names, or vice versa?
How important a consideration was the flow of the first, middle, and last names?
Very! I wrote them out to assess the visual flow. The sound and initials were important to me as well.
What was your biggest fear related to baby names?
That I would pick names that would be shared by many other kids at school.
Did your babies’ older siblings have opinions or suggestions for names?
Oh yes! Our 9- and 7-year-olds were very opinionated, and it made it more difficult because we didn’t want them to dislike the names we decided on. Our daughter liked most of the names I liked. Our son would suggest the names of his first-grade friends which was cute.
Which partner had more fun with the baby name process?
Definitely me! I just presented names to my husband. I would look on Nameberry a ton as well as the Social Security name lists.
Did you share your babies’ names before they were born?
With a couple of people, like our older kids. But most didn’t know what we settled on.
Have any unexpected nicknames come up for your babies?
What was the most surprising part of the baby name process?
How hard it is to select names for two babies at the same time!
What advice would you give someone just starting the baby name process?
Put them down on paper and keep a written running list. I think name feelings fluctuate so much through a pregnancy. We thought we would circle back to our original combinations but in the last days we came up with Nico and Jasper. They felt so right to us but were unexpected for most of our friends and family.
Thank you so much, Alanna!
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Pamela Redmond Said
on October 28th, 2020 at 1:26 pm
What a fascinating story. I’m sure it’s doubly hard to come up with names for boy-girl twins but you did an amazing job! Love all four names and these are beautiful pictures. Thanks for being part of Nameberry.
on October 29th, 2020 at 9:32 pm
This is a lovely story! What beautiful names and what a great sibset. Jasper is one of my favourites, and I love Nico for a girl. These photos are stunning! I do think real and delightful stories like this give us all a lift – thankyou for sharing.
And just felt I should add, it’s not just when there is such a lovely outcome, but I think people’s honest and everyday stories, our choices and reactions, family and friends, are always welcome.
Clare Green Said
on October 30th, 2020 at 6:23 pm
Thank you for sharing! All your children’s names are fab, and I love that Jasper and Nico’s names are connected by their middle initial G.
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