We’re expecting our third baby and having a great deal of difficulty picking a name.
We have a literary theme going with our kids: Ender Grey and LyraYvaine. We hope to continue the tradition by also naming this one after strong literary figures from science fiction and fantasy. It’s no secret that we prefer unusual names, and we also want everyone in the family to have a unique first initial.
Our surname is unusual, and starts with an S, so names that end with an ‘s’ or ‘x’ sound don’t work.
They found the right name for their son, and he’s due soon. But in the meantime, a cousin gave the very same name to her son – and she probably won’t be happy to share.
I am due in January, and after months (really years) of deliberating had finally settled with my husband on a baby name for our son. We had come up with several girl names that we liked but when we found out that we were having a boy we could really only agree on one name.
My cousin had a baby today and used the same name and even the same middle initial. We are not very close with her, but we live in the same area and our families are close.
She can be extremely competitive and petty. If we keep the name, she will say we “stole” it and it will certainly lead to a few raised eyebrows in the family. But if we choose a different name now it will feel like we couldn’t use our perfect name because she just got there first.
I’m only six weeks away from my due date and already our baby feels like our chosen name fits him. We’re heartbroken and starting over doesn’t seem possible given how long it took us to settle on this name. What should we do? This falls somewhere between sister’s kid and distant acquaintance.
After ten years, our database is chock full of amazing names. But every parent faces the same challenge: how to whittle those nearly 70,000 choices down to just one single name – plus a middle or two – for your child?
As Nameberry’s resident Name Sage, I help families wrestle with these decisions all the time. Sometimes it’s about reconciling different styles, or thinking up fresh ideas.
But many times, the questions are bigger. What’s most important to our family? Who do we hope our children will become? And how can we find a name that will speak to everything they are, and still leave plenty of room for all of the amazing things that they’ll do in the future?