Names Your Mom Hates
A while back we did a blog called Not Your Mother’s Baby Names, about names that fail to bridge the gender gap. That post focused on newly-minted names that the older generations may not get, but those aren’t the only kinds of names that don’t translate across the generations.
Mom may have liked perky cheerleader names — Kerry, Missy — while you prefer serious Biblical names — Abraham and Lydia. Time-honored choices such as August and Imogen that sound classic and handsome to you may feel hopelessly dowdy to her.
The fact is, each generation tends to reinvent baby names anew, gravitating to new choices and new tastes in names. It’s how we make our name choices our own — but by definition, that may mean that Mom (and Dad and Grandma and Aunt Sue) fails to like or understand them. So our Question of the Week is: What names fail to cross the generation divide in your family? What names do you love that your mom hates? And why?
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on January 9th, 2013 at 12:24 am
My mom hates my daughter’s name: Harriet Franceszka. Cowen’s name, my 7 year old son, didn’t go over well either. The rest she thought were okay, if a little fusty (Miriam, Emeline, Eli). She kept telling me to name a baby Connie. What’s funny is that I kept wrinkling up my nose at her but now the name Constance sounds pretty to me (just not Connie).
Of my 35 nieces and nephews she dislikes Jethro, Hazel, Ethne, and she’s not so sure about Sebastian.
on January 9th, 2013 at 1:43 am
My second favourite name is Nora, but both my mum and my husband hate that one. They also don’t care for my interests in Edith, Violet, Imogen and Eleanor.
I think boys names are much easier to find common ground 🙂
on January 9th, 2013 at 2:10 am
My mom thinks Ivy is hopelessly old-fashioned, and really said up and down she hated it. For a long time. Along with hating Iris. And declaring Imogen a name I made up(?!?!?).
When I said “we’re thinking about Indigo” she said in a tiny, baffled voice “…I don’t mind Ivy anymore… it’s a name…”
on January 9th, 2013 at 2:58 am
My husband and I are TTC #1, and our mothers are eagerly asking about names. Among our conversations have been these lovely snippets:
My mom: “Pepper?? I would have to tell people that my granddaughter’s name is…PEPPER?!”
(I’ve since reassured her that my Pepper-loving phase has passed, but she still brings it up like a haunt from her past; you’d swear I traumatized her.)
My husband’s mom: “You can’t name your son LANE! He will get called ‘LAME!'” (She has tried to sway my husband on this behind my back several times now. She is very, very upset with this idea…but she means well.)
Surprisingly…SURPRISINGLY…both have loved Narnia, my top pick. I did NOT expect that one to fly with the Mom generation.
on January 9th, 2013 at 3:19 am
When expecting my son my MIL kept repeating that she hoped we would name him after DH’s grandfather, her dad who was named John. Nothing wrong with John except it’s DH’s brother’s name! When I pointed this out FIL and MIL persisted, they said we could make it ‘modern’ by dropping the ‘h’ – as Jon is soooo much better/modern than John! Ha! It became a joke between DH and I that we could name our child ‘name – without the H’ eg Ronald without the ‘h’. In the end we went for Reuben (without the ‘h’) which they liked but some of the family thought was too Jewish!
FIL doesn’t like my girls’ names – Cordelia and Persephone – Sephy in particular he thinks will hate her name when she grows up :/
My mother however loves my girls’ names, she has a plain name and loves the frilly, feminine names of her granddaughters 🙂
on January 9th, 2013 at 3:28 am
Since hubby and I are TTC our first, it’s only been conversations of “What do you think of…?” And oddly (luckily) both mom and MIL have been extremely supportive and LIKE 90% of my ideas. Non-Jewish MIL is right on board with names like Dov and Lior.
The only generational gap is with new-age word names. Gray & Olive passed, but oh wow, the faces they made at some of my favorites like Prairie, Azalea, and Lark. Novalie, Waverly, and Everly did not fare well either.
on January 9th, 2013 at 5:58 am
Our baby boy is due next month, and although we haven’t shared the name with anyone yet, I am fairly certain my family won’t like our choice of Frederik. Oh well!
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:03 am
My mom threw an absolute fit at Henry. And I quote “Please don’t name my grandson Henry!” Which DH shot down anyway.
My very Catholic grandmother said I was cursing a daughter if I named her Lilith.
Ones that have gotten a better reaction out of both have been James.
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:40 am
My very religious parents told me that if i named my dauhter Deliliah, I would be cursing her for life. Okay…???
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:26 am
I don’t have any children, but whenever I mention names I like to my Mom, she often disapproves. Right now, I’m in love with the name Frances but my mother thinks it’s too old-lady-ish. Along with names like Eliza, Marguerite (Peggy), Edith (Edie), etc.
A woman of my mother’s age learned her friend’s grandchild was named Henry and thought the name was a joke at first and hated it but has grown to love it.
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:40 am
I am LOLing at these responses. Stripedsocks — very funny on Mom backpedaling on Ivy. I’ve heard of prospective parents trying to preempt protest over a perfectly nice and normal name they’ve chosen such as Henry or Frederik by making family believe they’re going to name the baby Hezekiah or Fritz. Then Henry is such a relief!
on January 9th, 2013 at 8:06 am
I’m not close to having children, but my parents think I make up my favorite names, like Ariadne and Seraphina. My top combos are Lucy Ariadne and Matthias “Matt” Orion, which I think are great, but my mom laughs outright at. She doesn’t keep up with current name trends and thinks Isla is going to cause a lot of pronounciation issues, Piper is unique, Sadie is very dated and not used often, and more.
It’s quite funny since she’s clueless, but it still bugs me.
on January 9th, 2013 at 8:31 am
My name actually had my grandmother at odds with my mother, my double name Liza Lee (which my mother originally wanted to have as Lizalee) pronounced Liz-ah-lee, my grandmother told my mother it was made up/not a real name and even suggested since my mother loved it that she should have gotten a pet to name it and found a ‘real’ name for her granddaughter to get the best of both worlds lol but my grandmother did fall in love with me and my name pretty quickly, especially since three of her friends had granddaughters named Kristin so she had the only Liza Lee
Also my aunt and uncle thought they’d get the best of our family with their second child and said they were thinking of naming him Albert, mixed opinions on that one, most were quite happy when Eliot arrived instead but my grandmother did say ‘I was quite looking forward to having a little grandson Albie’ but she definitely loves Eliot all the same (she’s still gunning for Albert for their next child though)
on January 9th, 2013 at 8:32 am
When I was ready to have my daughter, we had the name already picked out – Maeby Alana. My mother and MIL didn’t understand my love for Maeby, but they accepted it eventually and knew I wasn’t going to change my mind. As for Alana, however, my mother didn’t want to accept. She kept giving me other A name suggestions on hopes that I would change my mind! But Alana stuck, with nods to a friend and her father’s middle name.
on January 9th, 2013 at 8:34 am
Made the mistake of telling my mom two of our names we are considering; Dominic and Felix. When I told her Felix she says,”I think you can do better” When I mentioned Dominic she said it reminded her of that “evil kid.” I told her she was thinking of Damien from The Omen movie,to which she replied, “that too” Needless to say we have not discussed names with her since.
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:02 am
My mum opposes most names I like. For boys she likes cowboy or strong names eg. Jack, Ziggy, Harley etc. She hates my choice of Austin, Ronan etc.
For girls she hates ‘old lady names’ eg. Esther, Ada, Cora, Alice… Anything I love really!
She prefers names that have double letters eg. Scarlett, Emmy, Jennifer, Jessica, Juliette and so on.
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:05 am
I kind of have the opposite situation. In the past year or so, my mom has gone into “grandma” mode and tries to “encourage” us to have a baby by suggesting baby names. The funny thing is that my brother and I have pretty normal English names, but all of her suggestions are kind of international: Katya (which I like, but my brother’s wife is Katherine nn Kat), Jemima, Andrei, Lucrezia… I’m hoping these are just her guilty pleasure names since she doesn’t have to think about the practical side. I guess my husband and I are the boring ones because our favourite name is Paul!
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:11 am
Maggie, I think your Mom must be spending some time on Nameberry!
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:31 am
My mom has good taste in names, but is hilariously unaware of popularity. She’ll suggest Lucy or Henry thinking that she’s just uncovered an old-fashioned gem that no one has thought of for years.
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:35 am
Before we found out that we were having a girl, we had chosen the name Lucien Alaric Hyde for a boy. My mother hated the name so much! She kept suggesting Daniel. When we found out that the baby was a girl, we were going to name her Lilith Persephone or Melinda Evelyn. My mother hated those names as well and kept pushing Rebecca. In the end we named our daughter Marley. We still plan on using the names Lucien Alaric and Hyde Alucard for sons in the future, so it will be interesting to see how she handles that.
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:07 am
My DH’s grandmother is the most vocal about names. We named our daughter Zara and at 5 months, she still refuses to call her by name. Instead she has made up her own nn for her- Pippa. Our last name sounds similar and she is obsessed with the royal family. Thinking I could win her over, I tried to tell her about Zara Phillips but she pretended she didn’t hear me. Oh well!
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:10 am
From Zara to Pippa…that is hilarious, Emmielou.
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:33 am
The faces my mother makes when I tell her the names I am considering are hilarious. The reaction to June was epic. You would have though I wanted to name the kid Garbage. Same with Josephine. But she liked Fleetwood, which I only mentioned in passing.
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:33 am
When I was pregnant, our top name for a boy was Oscar. No one said a thing about it when ever I mentioned it, but after he was born and we went with Gabriel instead, I got a series of “Oh thank God you didn’t name him Oscar!” phone calls and notes. They still bring it up now and then, three years later.
Now I’m on the other side. My sister is really into the name Aurelia and no one (except me) likes it, but I know they won’t say a thing to her and will just hope she thinks of something else. It’s kind if sweet, really.
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:44 am
I’m about 90% sure my mother in law hates my daughters’ names because they’re too old-fashioned. I can’t wait to see her reaction when we tell her the next girl will be named Ruth.
on January 9th, 2013 at 10:48 am
Before I post this, I just want to say that my mom has always been extremely supportive and interested in my name obsession – always texting me new names she hears from her clients, giving me new name books she comes across and overall she does not dislike my style.
BUT…..when I was pregnant with my son, she was awful about names. She was really adamant that Maxwell was a HORRIBLE choice for a child. I guess she thought the teasing was funny, but it got me to change my mind and go with something she wanted and almost 4 years later, I regret it. I should have just went with my gut and used Maxwell, but whats done is done. As supportive as my mom has been with my name obsession, she will not be included in naming future children.
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:00 am
We haven’t yet decided on a name for our little girl (due in march) but the first name my husband and I both agreed on was Augustine, which is traditionally a boy’s name. My mother declared it the worst name ever, even for a boy and said that she would be called Ugly Auggie by kids. She said if we decide on the name she will be forced to call her Tina….what?!?!?
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:13 am
I am my mothers only child and she insists that I use Morgan, the name she wanted to give me, for my first child. She doesn’t know or care that Morgan has been on the girl’s top 100 for over 5 years, which makes it too popular, dated, and almost impossible to use for a boy due to teasing potential. The lesson in all this; mothers should choose the name they love and not be influenced by family.
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:16 am
When we were Pregnant with our daughter we were thinking early on Clementine as an opition. My mother would laugh anytime we even brought the name up and start singing, “Oh my darli’n…..” That would make my DH cringe. We actually changed our minds and had several other ideas that we loved. We finally decided on the name Francine after checking here at Nameberry and she adored it! So we have our beautiful little Francine and a happy Mom too!
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:17 am
Since my Dh and I are ttc #1, the topic of conversation with my mom and dad and mil/fil tends to turn towards names frequently. Well mainly because of my obession with the “perfect”name. My parents and the inlaws are from two different generations so that also throws a wrench into name discussions. My parents hate all of the names I have ever suggested. They asked me the other day if I had purchased some 1920’s baby name book. Haha. My inlaws tend to like the biblical names (top suggestions being Noah and Leah). My father has been the most vocal. When I told him our top boy choices Silas, Eli, Benjamin, etc. He said you know this child has to grow up in this century right? Are you trying to get him picked on, and so I asked him what he would chose. He said what about Aiden? I almost fell out. When I told my mother about love for Bronwen and Aurora she offered up better options: Makenna and Lila.
With all the “suggestions”, I was a little nervous to reveal our final choice for boy Eli Xavier, my mil’s reaction was you mean Elijah and I said no Eli and she was like thats ok but I cant even pronounce that middle name. Gotta love them! My parents are convinced I will come to my senses and pick Aiden or Makenna. Lol
on January 9th, 2013 at 12:30 pm
My mother is truly a baby-namer’s dream. She skeptically bought her seven year old a little baby name booklet at the grocery store and over time really began to accept names as a full-fledged hobby. I even have a shelf of name books my mother and grandmother have given me.
The two above are the only ones I really was vested in pleasing; sadly my grandmama passed on this spring. However, she loved my names, Ivy, Evangeline and Elizabeth especially. Future DDs Rose Evangeline Audra and Elizabeth Portia Honor both honor her, Audra being her favorite name along with Audrey (not my mom’s name) and Elizabeth being the name she wished she had been given- she grew up with 7 sisters, all with very chic names and she was Betty Ann, which bored her. No wonder she loved my more unusual choices.
My mother adores the name Tigerlily. Which honors her as my dad and hers call her Tiger. My dad hates it, loathes it and criticizes my naming choices any chance he gets. ” that’s the name of the Indian princess! Is that what you want people to think?” It is, actually. I have a full-blood Cherokee great-grandmother, my first acting gig was playing an Indian princess and Peter Pan had a heavy influence on my first novel. I don’t know why the word Tiger, which he calls mom at all times, mixed with common lily shocks him, but he also hated Gwendolyn until one day he brought up he met a woman named Gwendolyn and wouldn’t I consider naming her that over Tigerlily? Since Gwendolyn will be the first name I use, I palmfaced over that one. Dad did, however, suggest a great boys name that I’ve fallen in love with- Maximus! Glad to know we won’t have rows over the first boy and girl, but after that its fair game.
Other names mom hates (dad hates everything, and still says that kids pick on kids for having unusual name, so we won’t go there) are:
Jemima (we’re from a huge southern family, but I live in the city, so I don’t think it matters much,) Mathilda (“that’s an ugly old lady’s name!”) Annabel (cow) and Felicity, which she’s actually coming around to!
I love this week’s Q, obviously.
on January 9th, 2013 at 12:35 pm
My mother and I like a few of the same names. Bethany for a girl. Declan for a boy. I am not sure they are my top picks though. However, it’s my husband that doesn’t care for the old-fashioned names that I like. I need him to be on board with the names, not my mother or mother in law, but he thinks we should please them. sigh
on January 9th, 2013 at 1:15 pm
At the start of my pregnancy i loved milina-I shared it with mum and she said over her dead body was her grand daughter going to be called a name that means blood in your stools. Sure enough I googled it and it is a different spelling but it does mean that. mum assured me that when she went to uni to study to become a doctor she would be the laughing stock..then i shared lola-whoa bad idea. Lola was a whore back in the day-you want to name your daughter after a whore? In the end i didnt share my daughters name till she arrived out of fear it might have a medicall meaning or there was a wbore with that name once…in the end she loved the final pick-phoebe. Phew…
Plum Jo Said
on January 9th, 2013 at 1:38 pm
Whew! I am so relieved that I am not the only one to horrify my Mother and Mother-in-Law with my top picks…
Dagny, Agatha, Eudora, Greer, and Faye all make my Mother go, ‘Hmmm…what about LUCY?’
on January 9th, 2013 at 1:48 pm
My mom hates Jude. She’s convinced that he’d be teased because it’s close to the girl’s name Judy. Pointing out that no one names their girls Judy anymore didn’t help.
on January 9th, 2013 at 2:47 pm
I’m only 14 but I love names and I mention one’s I like and dislike to my mum and literally every name I say unless it’s Florence she has to comment on. I like unisex names, word names, colour names etc I like;
But I don’t think I should tell her as she will comment on them. I know my favourite names will change as I get older so I’m not taking it to heart as such haha !
Here’s some my mum suggested:
Sicily – if that’s how you spell it
Romeo – I can’t believe….
on January 9th, 2013 at 3:01 pm
@rkchance: Since Morgan is becoming more dated for girls, that makes a good opportunity to try and “reclaim” it for the boys (since the chances of him having a female Morgan classmate are going down).
on January 9th, 2013 at 3:17 pm
Phew! Glad it’s not just my mom!! When we named out Munchkin Leopold she just about blew a gasket. She did like our other choice; Augustus.
Now she says its ok because she’s used to it. Would’ve been nice if she figured that out a year ago!
on January 9th, 2013 at 5:26 pm
I am only 14 so actual child naming is far, far away, but I have a name obsession that, sadly, nobody else I know seems to share. I’ve completely given up trying to discuss names with my family and friends. My friends all have very feminine and not-overly-creative styles and as for my parents, any name that they haven’t heard on at least 2 people in their lifetimes is instantly not only ‘not a name’, but a horrible, outlandish sounding word as well. They also have absolutely no knowledge of name popularity whatsoever.
I once made the mistake of mentioning that I like the name “Romilly” to my dad once, and his response was something like “What!!? Thats not a NAME! It must be one of those made-up trendy popular ones!” (Which Romilly is NOT, by the way…he likes girly, spanish/italian names (he’s spanish/canadian), hence my name,Isabella. )
My mom actually has some knowledge of name popularity and trends. She understands that old-fashioned names are coming back and that names from her generation are no longer stylish, thank god) she likes names like Olivia, Rebecca, Charlotte, etc. We can actually agree on some names, however, like Gwendolen.
I still have to keep many of my favourites secret, the ones I discovered on Nameberry, for fear I get made fun of. My style is unusual-but-not-unheard-of, and all time-periods, but they consider most of my names unheard-of if not weird.
on January 9th, 2013 at 5:37 pm
When I was pregnant with my son, every name I told my mother about she just LOVED. I think it’s because she is a closet name nerd herself and wanted to give me the “name support” she didn’t get- When she was pregant with my brother she wanted to name him Harley, but everyone told her that was crazy and he would get made fun of, so he ended up with a very common biblical name.
on January 9th, 2013 at 5:38 pm
Luckily my mom is on board with all my names. My MIL on the other hand is notorious for disliking all but a few names! She terrorized my brother and sister in law during their first two pregnancies and they vowed to keep her out of the loop on number three. They did however enjoy watching her squirm over their made up choices: Xelda for a girl and Thayndrid for a boy! I told DH we should send some testers her way to gage her opinion on our style, if not our actual choices. I told her Marguerite and Dorothea and she had the following to say: “Margarita? That’s a drink!” and “Dorothea or Dorothy makes me think of a mean old woman with a house full of parakeets”. Something tells me she knew a Dorothy…otherwise, specific much?
on January 9th, 2013 at 5:52 pm
My mother likes a lot of my choices. She likes old fashioned names (although didn’t use them on any of her children haha), and so do I. She’s not especially keen on my top boy name (Stellan) though.
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:03 pm
We’re planning on naming our little girl Rosemary Leona (Leona after husband’s gmother) to go with big bro Jonah and bis sis Susannah. My mother dislikes Leona and my MIL likes names like Rayne and Kerrigan. I get grief all the time for my other choices: Felicity, Daphne, Malachi, and Seamus.
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:13 pm
I pitched Violet and my family, particularly my mom, threw a fit. She has made it clear that if it’s not a saint’s name she wants no part of it on her grandchild.
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:13 pm
A (slightly younger) friend of my mom just named her son Kyler. Although she would never say this directly to her friend, she always says “Kyler?!? what is that? Its not even a real name!”
on January 9th, 2013 at 6:16 pm
I am far from children but my grandmother hated my name with a passion until my personality developed as I got older and now she loves it, probably because she loves me so much!
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:10 pm
I have to say, me and my mom agree on many names. Those we disagree on are just stylistic.
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:17 pm
My mother-in-law severely disapproves of the choices I’ve chosen for my daughters (mostly just because she disapproves of me and my side of the family). She states that Sadiya isn’t even a real name but one that I made up and that Wendy is too old and stuffy.
She’s going to freak when she finds out that the baby due in February is going to be named Phillipa.
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:34 pm
@namefan, thanks I actually like Morgan better for a boy, but fear teasing. I have a very unusual male name and it has caused a lot of problems.
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:36 pm
I am probably as old as the mother of a lot of new mothers, since I have kids in their twenties, and I’m a granddaughter (Aolani… great name!), but I know the experience. My dad hated two of my kids’ names: Calypso and Lilia. He told me to go back to the drawing board. I didn’t. They like their names. (Calypso is the mom to the aforementioned granddaughter.)
I’m not that old, though, and I am a prospective mid-life mom (TTC in my early 40’s) and I find my tastes have changed with the times too, instead of being frozen with my generation. I love Hazel and it was my grandmother’s middle name, so imagine how disappointed I am that it is climbing the charts so fast. 😐
on January 9th, 2013 at 7:52 pm
Luckily, my mom has always loved names as well, and we’ve been able to talk about them for years together. My husband and I have our future childrens’ names picked out (Desmond and Caroline), and my mom hasn’t said anything negative about them.
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:09 pm
haha. I love these. Honestly, I’m pretty sure my mom hates the majority of my list (with the exception of Olivia, and Anneliese, which isn’t even on my list anymore, but it used to be). And Avery. Oh, she LOVED Avery. Until she found out I would use it for a boy. And it’s a boys’ name on HER family tree. haha.
A few that I remember:
“Arianne? Oh, Ashley, you could never use that. She’ll get called Ari the Airhead!”
“Willow Beatrix? Heaven forbid! Ashley, your child will curse you if you give her such an old fashioned name as Beatrix!”
“Violet? That’s just dumb.” (I tried to get her to expound on this, but my sisters just echoed her, “Ashley, Violet’s dumb.” But why? I don’t know. Apparently Violet’s just dumb. I still don’t get it. lol.)
“Caleb? He sounds like wimp.”
“Bailey? Ashley, promise me you’ll never name your son that!”
“Rachel? Like Rachel ____?” *squinty-hate-face here*
“Charlotte? She sounds like a stuck-up prissy girl.” lol. I get the total opposite image, but okay, Mom…
I’m surprised any of my family like any of my names. I really wish they could go on a name board–ANY name board (it doesn’t have to be Nameberry!) and see for themselves that my names are downright tame compared to some of the names being used. They think all my choices are so crazy and outlandish, and like I’m torturing my future children by using them.
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:10 pm
ETA: And of course, she hates Violet and Beatrix, but absolutely sees no problem with Nevaeh, and can’t for her life understand why I hate it so much…
on January 9th, 2013 at 9:21 pm
I’ve so enjoyed reading the comments today, whether moms are good, bad, or outrageous! (not naming any names, ashthedreamer, but very funny….)
Thanks everyone for sharing.
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:23 pm
I can’t honestly say I have really shared my name choices with my parents, or his. I really do not see them understanding my style, or loving any of the names as much as I do, so I can expect nothing but bad opinions. When we do finally have a child, we will probably keep the name a secret until he/she is born. Names my mom has suggested over the years have been fairly common, like Alexis and Adrian.
on January 9th, 2013 at 11:25 pm
Oh, and to add, my brother has mentioned names he likes, like Ireland, Christian and Atticus, my mom didn’t like Ireland or Atticus, and I love them, so I hope he isn’t swayed by her opinions in the future!! Also, if she doesn’t like commonish names like Ireland and Atticus, what hopes do Lavender, Corisande and Cordelia have?
on January 10th, 2013 at 3:15 am
The names that actually made our top five all ended up with my mom’s approval, luckily. But I will never forget her visceral, over-the-top reaction to one innocent name: Scout. Not even as a first, as a middle!
She started with a stone face, total silence as she let it sink in. Then, denial: Are you joking? Ridicule next: That’s ridiculous! Scout??? That’s not even a name! Like a Boy Scout? When I pointed out it was a literary name, From To Kill A Mockingbird, she responded: No one will know that!!! Um, yes mom, almost everyone knows that. Then panic: she literally wailed, noooooo. If you name a baby Scout, what will I tell my friends? Desperation: I won’t call her that, I’ll call her my own name for her. Finally, pleading: Please, please, please don’t name my granddaughter that name. Please!!!
on January 10th, 2013 at 1:55 pm
My mom and I had similar taste in names, fortunately; she was a lot more adventurous than my dad is. So she loved our choice of Vivian, and also liked our secondary choices (and was on my side for Ellis, for either gender.) She wasn’t as fond of our #1 boy name, Sebastian, but since we had a girl it was moot… and we’ve moved on from it anyway, as it’s too popular around here and somebody else in our group used it. But she loved our other choices of Coleman and Nathaniel. The only girl name she really hated was Caroline, but she disliked her own name of Carol. My dad is more difficult and conservative with names. He didn’t like Charlotte or Viola.
My in-laws were less vocal, although amusingly my MIL was anti Vivian for a while, but now loves it.
on January 10th, 2013 at 2:03 pm
Oh, and I’ll add, my mother wanted to name me Jessica and call me Jess and my grandmother had a fit and said no, she’ll get called Jessie, that’s a boy’s name! I wish they had, I dislike my name and really like Jessica (even if it was just as popular as my name the year I was born.)
She also wanted to name my brother Barrett but my dad wouldn’t go for it because of our last name (same reason they couldn’t use her very favorite Katherine)
on January 10th, 2013 at 2:36 pm
Oh! Thought of a bit to add about my dad’s mother. First of all, the woman has instructed me to have a set of twins, or a pair of twins (my dad is a twin) but NOT triplets, as that is TOO MUCH! My response was, “I’ll inform my ovaries.”
Then she requested I name a son Cameron, her mother’s maiden name, and a daughter Camilla Rose. Now I have no qualms about Camilla and would READILY use it, if not for the history of the name- apparently the Camilla was a group of vestal virgins used as a sacrifice in ceremonies. Um, no, thanks. And Cameron, beyond not being to my tastes, means crooked nose.
Thought of two others my dad hates: MILA, which sounds like meal-worm to him, okay, I get that, but still love the meelah sound. And phoebe. Why? Not even he knows.
He does love Dinah, though, which amazed me. And mom hates Leona which I love, especially jennyJen’s Rosemary Leona- stunning!
on January 10th, 2013 at 3:36 pm
I don’t remember my parents having any issues with naming Baby #1, but we kept talking to my MiL about it, trying to get her involved. At that time, Griffin was our #1. She hated it, couldn’t pronounce it right, and wouldn’t bother to learn how. She hated our girls name too, Greyson. We ended up with a boy, naming him Weston, 4 yrs ago.
Now that we are TTC #2, my mom and aunt are constantly sending up baby names. And getting slightly offended when we don’t like them. (They all hate Gideon) Best one? Easton.
– Um, We have a Weston, why would we want an Easton?
– “Because it would be super cute!”
– Um, No. They would kill us. What if we had a 3rd baby, would they be North or South. *palmface*
Oh, and even better, our 4 yr old loves the name Griffin for a little brother! My 83 yr old MiL will have another fit. 😉
She also hates Phoebe… some 90+ lady she knows who “works out too much. show off.” 🙂
on January 10th, 2013 at 4:22 pm
Eleven years ago my Mom and me last talked about names for future grandchildren.
I really liked Finn, Noah, Liam, Henry, Enna, Ava, Nerea and Lillian.
She hated all of those!
She wanted Marc, Aurel, Larissa, Lara, Romina, Enya, Chloé and Antje.
on January 10th, 2013 at 4:27 pm
This has to be one of my favorite blog posts in awhile. I keep coming back to catch up on all the new posts. So funny!! I went to lunch with my mother this afternoon and decided I would “try out” a “new” name combo she hadn’t heard yet. I was like mom we are leaning toward adding Seth Damien to the list, and she literally went why would you give your son an evil snake’s name..What? She said Seth sounds like I’m hissing and Damien is evil, hence evil snake’s name. And swore that if we did chose that name she was calling him Scooter.
on January 11th, 2013 at 1:25 am
Lila and Felicity. My two favorite girl’s names of all time 🙁
on January 11th, 2013 at 3:06 pm
I talked to my mom about my favorite boy name, Emrys, the other day and she was pretty on board, or at least acted like she was. She was telling me that she likes to know the origins of names, which made the name nerd in me so proud. However, every single time I talk names with her, she feels the need to tell me that she knew twins named Cassius and Lucius. EVERY SINGLE TIME.
on January 12th, 2013 at 2:53 pm
Speaking as an older (I mean middle-aged) person, the names that have floored me were Sloan (so disappointing for a girl) and Ethel (you have got to be kidding me!). Well, never say never, I guess …
on January 13th, 2013 at 6:49 am
My mom thought Anya was “ugly” and that Angelina is “like calling her Angel-lina”. She pretty much has scoffed at any name brought up, and repeatedly suggests to me how pretty the name “Kathleen Rose” would be. of course, it’s just a strange coincidence that her own name is Kathleen. She also repeatedly tells me that I should name a daughter Lillian, pronounced Lil-yun. Um, no thank you. I like Lily okay, but it’s very popular, we had a cat named Lily, and I hate Lillian.
on January 13th, 2013 at 10:10 pm
Years before I had my son I told my mother I wad naming him Diesel. Dhe didn’t like it for ages. When I found out I was pregnant with a boy Itold her his name woulf be Diesel. She wad so excited to have a grandbaby finally. Her reply was shocking when she told me she had enough time to get used to it and she didn’t mind that name anymore. The next battle was MIL. She said it sounded ghetto….really. hubby being a mommas boy started to side with her. So I said Jamoliver (jamal meets oliver bc that’s what shot out of my very pregnant mouth ) is ghetto. Not Diesel. So I gave mil the choice of Diesel or Jamoliver…..I guess Diesel wasn’t so bad after all…..
on January 13th, 2013 at 10:11 pm
My mother currently hates Edith and Evangeline…
on January 16th, 2013 at 4:16 am
I given up trying to understand my Mum’s naming style.
Names such Lillian, Hazel and William (??) are acorrding to her far to old, yet she loves Florence and swears I would of been George if I had of been a boy.
She hates my middle name which she thinks is to dated (um… you gave it to me) and refuses to listen when I tell her my name is far too common (top 10 since the year I was born)
She loves Mya yet still believes that Faye is made up.
She is completly agaisnt using a full name but then calling the kid by their nn the whole time which is to quote her ‘stupid’. Well… there goes half my list.
When I ever have kids, which won’t be for a very long time yet I’m not going to tell her the name until it’s born. Then she will rant behind my back like she did when my aunt named my cousin Mackenzie but at least I won’t have to listen to her.
on January 19th, 2013 at 8:01 am
My mother pretty much hates every name that I like. We only agree on Camden for a boy and Elle for a girl. I have a more unique naming style, willing to give any name that is not in the top 500 a chance. But my mom, she goes for elegant and sophisticated yet modern. She tries to bring back names, as my name is Olivia Cathryn and my younger brother Theo Nicholas. And yes, his name is just plain Theo, not Theodore or anything. I respect her for bringing back names…I mean Olivia is in the top 5 and Theo is predicted to skyrocket up the name charts. So, my mother would hate all the names that I like: Skye, Delaney, Hadley, Wren, Calixta, etc. The thing is, she never tells me what names she loves. She obviously doesn’t think about it as much as me.
on March 2nd, 2013 at 3:07 am
It’s weird, really. My mother gave me a serious, underused name (Jeanette)but nowadays prefers rather unusual ones or perky modern ones, like Persephone, Athena, Tabitha and Piper. I, on the other hand, Prefer timeless, old-fashioned names like Frances, Martha, Beatrice and Eleanor, despite the fact that my old-fashioned name has always rubbed me the wrong way. Her name, by the way, is perky, nicknamish and very 70’s…
on March 7th, 2013 at 7:44 am
When my grandmother heard I was naming my daughter “Lola Mae” she said it the name of a Southern Hooker.
I named her Lola Mae anyway.
When I told my grandmother I was naming my son “Rocco William” Her face dropped. No words came for naming the only boy in 40 years in our family Rocco. My father-in-law, still doesn’t like the name stating.. “It’s more like a nickname..” and thus calls him.. “Stone or Pebble.”
ahh.. the name game.
on June 4th, 2013 at 7:35 am
With my last pregnancy my husband and I were nearly sold on Brielle. Unfortunately we shared the name with everyone and got lots of negative feedback. My grandma couldn’t say it???, and my mom didn’t like it… We settled on Grace, and I’m glad we did because I love it. With this one I’m not sharing though. Ps, we like Hazel this time.
on June 19th, 2013 at 3:55 pm
Before we came up with Camila for my first daughter I brought up the name Isabelle. My mom hates that name! Apparently she went to school with a girl named Isabelle and she didn’t like her very much! Also I brought up Mckenzie and my mom thinks thats a “made up” name!
on March 6th, 2014 at 1:28 am
My husband and I aren’t TTC yet, but my MIL has already weighed in her opinions on names. She asked me to make sure that we pick names that she can pronounce and spell because she has a hard time with my niece and nephew’s names, Isabella and Aiden. She said “thank goodness I can call Isabella, Bella and that’s easy.” She also asked that we pick normal names that aren’t old fashioned, like Bea (which sounds to me like an older name than Isabella or Aiden). Her name is Barbara and I think she is pushing Bea to try to get a “B” name like her’s. My youngest niece’s name is Carma Star and she fought tooth and nail for that not to be the final name pick. At my sister-in-law’s baby shower she said the name made the baby sound like a stripper. I am inclined to agree with that one though.
One of my closest friends avoided the whole “names you parents hate” debate by not telling anyone the baby’s name until after delivery. She never shared names they were thinking about, names that she like but wouldn’t use, not even what letter the name started with! That way, by the time the baby was here and they had an adorable baby to attach the name to, no one had a negative thing to say. Everyone was just so excited to finally know the name! I plan on doing this as well to avoid the countless use-this-not-that conversations that sure to come from all sides of my family.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:42 pm
My mom’s always urging me to consider names such as Violet, Charlotte, and Cordelia, saying that she was never “allowed” to use them… um, not true- she does whatever she wants. Always has. My name is M!r@nd@ and my sister is N@om!, for goodness sakes! It’s not like she went with Anne or Sarah.
My MIL wants me to use family names like Cora, Ann, Lucy, or Frances. All very pretty. But they just don’t give me that “spark.”
My mom and MIL both think that names like Avery, Isla, Greyson, and Lincoln are terribly clever and unique.
When we announced our son’s name, my MIL said tactfully “well, maybe you will change your mind.” We didn’t. I don’t remember my mom having any reaction. She wasn’t very interested in my pregnancy. She maintains a respectful, supportive attitude towards “my” names, whatever they may be, as she knows how important they are to me.
I have not shared our present picks with anyone, and plan on holding out as long as possible.
on July 10th, 2014 at 10:02 pm
My mom doesn’t particularly like her name Talia, even though her name is Tais Rosalia and goes by Talia for short but I actually really love her name. I would Thalia to honor her if I get the chance but she would probably try to sway my decision 😉
on October 28th, 2014 at 2:30 am
These mommas crack me up Judy from jude???guess a lot of handsome little judess will made fun of. And I agree since no one uses Judy anymore. My mom usually likes my names and really liked everleigh spelled like that since my middle name is Leigh but some she is less supportive of like indigo and she still just kind of says whatever bc its my decision and in the end I think itd be ok tho im not naming right now. Im pretty lucky considering these crazy moms and mom in laws (no offense haha)
on October 28th, 2014 at 2:32 am
My bf on the other hand…says i have crazy taste and only likes the name jack…regardless of gender. Also maybe its me but many of these I dont see the name teasing potential…ugly auggie??? I know a female augustine and I love morgan for a boy
on October 28th, 2014 at 5:59 am
My mom is very supportive of names we choose and never even blinked when I named my first two Jocelyn Aurelia and Liam Donovan even through my siblings and I are Fawn, Jordan (girl), Christina, and Jonathan. My grandma laughed when I told he I want to use my great grandmother’s middle name, Devona, as a middle for my next because her mother hated it. I remarried and originally thought my MIL would be more old fashioned and protest names but found out my FIL almost named my husband Blaze Cosmos and backed out and last minute and my husband keeps saying he’s going to name our first son Beastman so anything we actually choose will be tame in comparison.
on November 5th, 2014 at 3:42 pm
My mother doesn’t like any of the names I like except for August and Tabitha. She says my names are too out there and this is coming from the woman who named me Darshan and if I had been a boy she would have named me Luther James
on December 14th, 2014 at 1:14 pm
I love the names Domenica and Agatha, both of which my mom hates. She says Domenica makes her think of an elderly nun, and Agatha sounds hopelessly stuffy and old-fashioned. If I ever have kids, I’m going to make sure my husband and I are absolutely sure of our choice and prepared to defend it before I share it with her.
on February 10th, 2018 at 2:50 am
No kids on the horizon for a long time, but I do have names….
Nothing but negative reactions from my family (and most other people, even this site has bad things to say about it) to Innocencia, which I think is really pretty.
Both my mother and sister also hate Hector. My two picks for boys names are Nicholas Orion and Hector Menelaus, Hector is in the FN spot because it’s the relatively normal one of the pair, but apparently if I ever named a child that they would hate me. Someone another site suggested Hector James and Menelaus Alexander and I love the idea of using those for twins, however I’m doubtful of getting my hypothetical future husband to agree to Menelaus as a first name (Or Innocencia).
on February 10th, 2018 at 3:09 am
Edit: The suggestion that i thought would be great for twins was actually Hector James and Alexander Menelaus
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