Category: Name Problems and Disputes
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I need some help coming up with a name for our FIFTH baby. Our oldest is a boy and the rest are girls. New baby is another girl, which makes it harder – we already have three! My husband and I struggle finding a baby name we both like – two of our children were nameless five days after they were born. We both like longer names that can be easily nicknamed. We also like older names, but not “popular” older names (no Hazel). Our children’s names and nicknames are:
Thanks for the help!
The Name Sage replies:
I can name twenty children on paper, easy. More, even. It’s not at all difficult for me to come up with exciting first name ideas paired with perfect middle names, with family names and saint names easily woven into each combination. I can construct each first+middle combo so that they go with the others in terms of style and feel, and coming up with fun and friendly nicknames for everyday use is a particularly enjoyable pastime for me.
But naming children in real life isn’t so easy. I have strong opinions about names—those I like and those that I really don’t see fitting our children. My husband has fairly strong opinions as well, in a different way. I make lists and form combinations whether pregnant or not, while my husband prefers not to think or talk about names until a baby’s actually on the way, preferably as close to the due date as possible, and when we do finally talk names, he enjoys vetoing my ideas and might offer one or two of his own. (Might.) I know this must sound familiar to many of you!
My husband and I are expecting our first child and we just found out it’s a boy!
Baby is due September 28th so I’m just starting to seriously consider names. We know for sure that we would like to name him after my husband’s mother who passed away four years ago. Her name was Jacqueline.
We love Jackson but my cousin already used that name for her son. Jonathon (nickname Jack) was vetoed and just Jack doesn’t feel quite finished to us. Jackie and Clair (after her middle name) are too feminine for my husband’s preference.
We’re open to creative ways to honor my mother-in-law to sidestep the name stealing possibility, but it seems like options are limited. The guilt I’m feeling from both sides is making this challenging, too.
I’d appreciate any advice you may have, or creative name suggestions that we may have bypassed! I just read the article on “9 creative ways to honor loved ones with your child’s name” which has me seeking alternative solutions, too.
The Name Sage replies:
A double challenge: getting dad more involved in the naming process AND finding a girls’ name both parents love for their new daughter. But does that mean mom has to give up her favorites?
I’m looking to capture the fall season with the beautiful colors of the season being highlighted in the name. Her baby color theme is orange. That beautiful, New England, fall sunset type of orange that can be yellow or pink. We very much enjoy Biblical names and terms. Jesus is our homeboy. We aren’t afraid of Halloween themes, as our wedding was just that.
One more wrench in the works: our last name. Kids are vicious, and our last name sounds like Please without the ‘L’ sound.
The Name Sage responds:
by Abby Sandel aka The Name Sage
It’s an Ask the Name Sage first – a repeat customer! We helped them name their second daughter, and now it’s time to find a name for a third.
I was the girl with 42 names on her list but couldn’t find one I really loved. I was thrilled you had chosen our letter because you helped us fall in love with the most perfect name for our baby: Carina Iris, a sister for Viviana Rose.
We are expecting our third baby girl in early September and now we have a new problem. Well … a few new problems!
We like feminine names that not super popular but are also familiar enough to pronounce. Because they’re long, we want to be aware of potential nicknames. And some names just seem to disappear when said with Viviana and Carina.
Our last name starts with an L and ends with an ‘ee’ sound. Names like Lilly would be hard to say.
Here are our favorites:
Evangeline – We love that it means “good news.” It’s long enough to stand up to our daughters’ names. But Eve and Evie are too close to Viviana’s nickname, Vivi. Lina seems close to Carina. Is there another option I’m not thinking of?
Celia – It means heavenly, which I love, and nicknames wouldn’t be a problem. But is it too soft, or too different from our older daughters’ names?
New suggestions welcome!
The Name Sage replies: