Category: Name Problems and Disputes
A double challenge: getting dad more involved in the naming process AND finding a girls’ name both parents love for their new daughter. But does that mean mom has to give up her favorites?
I’m looking to capture the fall season with the beautiful colors of the season being highlighted in the name. Her baby color theme is orange. That beautiful, New England, fall sunset type of orange that can be yellow or pink. We very much enjoy Biblical names and terms. Jesus is our homeboy. We aren’t afraid of Halloween themes, as our wedding was just that.
One more wrench in the works: our last name. Kids are vicious, and our last name sounds like Please without the ‘L’ sound.
The Name Sage responds:
by Abby Sandel aka The Name Sage
It’s an Ask the Name Sage first – a repeat customer! We helped them name their second daughter, and now it’s time to find a name for a third.
I was the girl with 42 names on her list but couldn’t find one I really loved. I was thrilled you had chosen our letter because you helped us fall in love with the most perfect name for our baby: Carina Iris, a sister for Viviana Rose.
We are expecting our third baby girl in early September and now we have a new problem. Well … a few new problems!
We like feminine names that not super popular but are also familiar enough to pronounce. Because they’re long, we want to be aware of potential nicknames. And some names just seem to disappear when said with Viviana and Carina.
Our last name starts with an L and ends with an ‘ee’ sound. Names like Lilly would be hard to say.
Here are our favorites:
Evangeline – We love that it means “good news.” It’s long enough to stand up to our daughters’ names. But Eve and Evie are too close to Viviana’s nickname, Vivi. Lina seems close to Carina. Is there another option I’m not thinking of?
Celia – It means heavenly, which I love, and nicknames wouldn’t be a problem. But is it too soft, or too different from our older daughters’ names?
New suggestions welcome!
The Name Sage replies:
They’ve got a long list of maybe-names for their baby girl, but how to narrow it down to just one? Maybe the answer comes from their family tree.
We’re expecting a little girl in October, our second. We already have a son, Frederick James, called Freddy. It’s the perfect name for us – Frederick is the name of a street that we love, and we both love his nickname. It’s not too popular, but instantly recognizable.
We fell in love with Elliott. Then my sister used it for her dog!
Next up was Annie for a while, and it’s sentimental because my mom, who we both adore, is named Ann. But we have two close friends named Annie, plus other women named Annie that are always going to be in our lives. Too many Annies.
Right now, we really like Hazel and Eliza – Eliza happened after we saw Hamilton! Other names we’ve liked are Francesca called Francie (but I hate Franny), Clancy, and Collins. We like gender neutral names a lot.
The name we choose must sound good with our one-syllable last name starting with a hard C sound, which means two or three syllables. We’d prefer something outside of the Top 100, but still recognizable. We don’t want her to have to spell her name her whole life!
Her middle name will be June, after my wife’s grandmother. We don’t like it as a first name because of our short last name.
Any great names jump out at you? Have we TOTALLY overthought this?
The Name Sage replies:
After poring over every possible source, narrowing list after list, sharing and getting sage advise on the NB forums, you and your partner have settled on the perfect name for your baby. Which you then proudly announce to your families.
But then there’s that one judgey relative—be it Grandma, big brother, or Mom-in-law– who rolls her eyes, followed by vehemently verbalizing her (more often than not) disapproval. Could be something like…
-I’ve never even heard of that name. How do you spell it anyway?
-Who would ever use a word as a name?
-That name went out with corsets and the Charleston.
–Do you really want my grandchild to be laughed at and teased in school?
So: Our Question of the Week is how would you handle this situation?
Would you ponder their point and consider making a change to avoid family friction, maybe switching first and middle choices?
Would you defend your adored favorite and try to make a case for why you love it?
Would you hold your ground and firmly end the conversation?
BONUS: Here are this week’s Forum Finds from Katinka:
*What a dilemma! Torn between a family favorite, a longtime love, and a coup de coeur. Which would you choose?
*Over to the boys’ side: mythological names may be white-hot right now, but would you name your son after a dragon?
*And most kids daydream about soccer or superheroes, but for a budding name nerd it’s all about the fantasy future family! What was yours?
Where do you start when choosing baby names feels like a chore?
I’m not technically looking for name advice (although as you’ll soon see we could probably use help on that front as well), I’m looking for advice on where to start when naming has lost its fun.
With our eldest, we had conversations nearly every day and we had lists galore. This time around … I feel like I’m going to go into labor and then we’ll suddenly realize we have no idea what to name this baby!
Basically, I find names that I like and my husband weighs in. He also tends to shoot down every name. Sigh.
So … where do you recommend starting when every name you’ve come across just makes you shrug? Do any of your readers have suggestions on how to get out of this funk? Had Ivy been a boy, she would’ve been given a name that has since become incredibly popular in our area so it’s really lost its appeal. Are we going to be stuck in a naming rut forever?
The Name Sage replies: