Seeking their baby name compromise: She’s always known her future daughter’s name. But now they’re expecting a girl, and he’s not a fan of her favorite. How can they compromise on a name they’ll both love?
Annabel writes: My husband and I are expecting our first baby and we’ve just learned that it’s a girl.
When we discussed baby names at the beginning of the pregnancy, we agreed on a boy name and a girl name. I had told my husband that I always wanted to have a girl named Pearl, because it’s my middle name and also my great grandmother’s name. I love that it’s relatively uncommon today, yet familiar and classic with a vintage feel. It is the perfect name – it can be edgy or stately or cute!
The problem is my husband hates it. When we didn’t yet know the sex of the baby, I decided not to make a huge deal about the name since it might be a moot point. We settled on a girl name that we both liked and I thought I was ok with compromising and using a name that’s a second choice for me. It’s another uncommon name, Cilla. It has the same meaning as my husband’s name.
But now that I know it’s a girl, my heart is even more set on Pearl! Do I settle for my second choice or keep trying to win him over to Pearl?
My husband and I are at an impasse for deciding on a name for our baby girl due end of November and would welcome advice. My husband is German so the name has to work in both languages. We don’t want anything too popular (at least in the US), bot not too obscure. It can’t start with an S because initials would be SS.
Our son is Oskar, with the German spelling. I like that it is simple, strong and clear without too many options for nicknames. Our favorites are:
I’m slightly concerned about pronunciation of some of these names and wouldn’t want her to be correcting people her whole life. We’d pronounce Clara with a long ‘a’ like Clahra, and Lena to rhyme with Elena.