Should You Put the Name Before the Baby?

I’m always amused to see the different timetables that our forum visitors put on choosing baby names.

Help! Only four weeks to go and no name!!, one expectant parent will panic.

Others only feel urgency around baby names when the labor pains kick in, while some berries have their baby names complete with middles lined up years before they’re expecting, and still others are vacillating about the name months or years after their child’s birth.

But the big division over the timing of settling on the final baby name seems to be: Before or after the baby’s born?

Should you have the name decided and ready before the baby’s arrival? ย Or should you wait until you see your child to pick a name that fits?

What should come first, in your opinion: the baby or the name? ย And how did that play out in your real experience?

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Kibby Says:

March 19th, 2013 at 11:02 pm

I have a list compiled for both genders, with clear favorites. However, and especially for girls, I don’t think we will make the final decision until we meet her. With boys names, we have a top two, and chances are he would be one or the other (hopefully not neither!!!)

AJ_Bear Says:

March 19th, 2013 at 11:16 pm

I think it’s good to have a list of names you really love to take with you- a top ten, top five, whatever- and hopefully one of those names will fit! It doesn’t make much sense to me to wait until you’re in labor to consider names, but I’ve never been in that situation so I can’t really say I wouldn’t do it.

sarahmezz Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 12:03 am

I think you should have a very good idea of baby’s name before it’s born. You can’t expect to see the baby and then suddenly think of the perfect name. You’re setting yourselves up for a very stressful few days (or even weeks) where baby is nameless. Also, I would never decide on a name and announce it before the baby was born like some people do. You’ve got to keep some things a surprise for the birth announcement!

maddiejadore Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 12:09 am

I’m 14, and I already have all my names picked. I’m one to plan ahead.

dresdendoll Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 12:24 am

I could never wait until after the birth…that’s too stressful! With my two pregnancies, I HAD to have the names picked out ahead of time…and as the months progressed, I did begin to panic when a name had not yet been selected. If you wait until after the birth, you might feel so pressured that you could end up rushing into a mistake. Anyway, most babies look a bit too much alike at birth to leave it up to what they may look like. Also, settling upon a name ahead of time, as far ahead as possible, gives you the chance to test it out for a while, and then there’s still time to change your minds…

Tori84 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 2:22 am

We (well I) made the decision at the 20 week scan. We had a top three names (Astrid, Arabella and Imogen) and as soon as I heard that she was definitely a girl and I saw her face, she was Imogen! We didn’t tell anyone, but whenever my hubby and I were alone, when we spoke to her we called her Immy. I could not have waited until after the birth! I needed a name to greet her with! ๐Ÿ™‚
We only sorted out the middle names 2 days before her birth!

bkmapps Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 4:32 am

We had our girls named as soon as the 20 week scan confirmed they were girls, never wavered on our options and have never had any kind of name regret. This pregnancy is a boy and we have had such a hard time deciding on something and with 6 weeks left, have finally got it down to two names, but I’m worried that he will be born and won’t “look” like either of those options and we’ll be back to square one or will settle on something that we aren’t happy with. I found it so much easier to have the name in advance, but that’s just me. Each to their own.

NiamhEthna Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 5:06 am

As a name lover it would be extremely difficult to wait, you could do a compromise and have a bunch of choices you like and wait to see them to find which one suits best? Seems like the smart thing to do, unless you have one particular name that stands out, like my mum did with me, i was always a Niamh even before she met my dad!!!

Tiggerian Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 5:22 am

We took it as it came with both of ours.

Our eldest didn’t have his name before he was 3 days old and our youngest wasn’t settled completely before we saw him!

With our eldest we had the name down fairly early, but then changed our minds and couldn’t agree – so to avoid that we had two names ready for our youngest to choose from. We’ve got two girl names for the next one too, but only one boy name as we can’t find another name we both like!

I don’t understand the panic and flabbing before the due date, but I think it’s just one of those things that help some parents feel more connected to the baby and it makes it feel a bit more real, maybe?

ejs82 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 6:25 am

We had our first daughter and son’s names picked before we even started trying to start our family. With our second daughter we had two possibilities, one that I had a slight preference for and one that my husband preferred. About a month before she was born I told him that if we waited until the baby was born to make our decision, I would probably end up telling him “I just went through labor and pushed the baby out, so we’re going with my choice!” If he wanted to win me over on his preference it had to be set in stone before she was born.

Millienow2011 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 6:28 am

I started looking at baby names as soon as we began talking about ttc. We we did start I got serious. By the time we were pregnant I had already fallen in love and then out of love with several choices. We found out we were having a girl at our 20week scan and we settled on a few girl names and middle combos to choose from. My husband and I both loved one name over all the others and so had pretty much named her from 4/5 months. It’s a good job cos she arrived 3 months early. Thankfully we had her name already picked out!

I can definetly see the value in picking out names/options early!

BritishAmerican Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 6:52 am

With our first two children (a girl and then 2 years later a boy) we didn’t pick a name until after they were born. We just couldn’t decide. I had favourites but my husband wasn’t set on any of them. After our first was born and my husband saw me go through labor, he let me decide on her name. :)When our son was born we took a nap first before my husband picked between my two favourites.

Our 3rd we didn’t find out the gender and my husband decided it was his turn to pick. He picked a girl’s name and a boy’s name. The girl’s name became unsettled the last week of pregnancy, as friends used the same time for their baby. But the boy name was decided and the baby turned out to be a boy and my husband stuck with his original pick. So we had picked the name ahead of time, we just didn’t know if we would be using it because of the gender surprise.

I’ve seen many people pick out names ahead of time and announce them – I’m always interested to see if they stick with that pick. I think they always have – except for one family and we only found out their pick accidentally – they’d told their children and we heard it from one of them. They hadn’t gone public with it.

I kind of like waiting until the baby is born and seeing how the name fits on the actual child.

maggiemary Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 6:58 am

I think when the time comes, I’ll have a list of names I like beforehand, with a “favorite” selected for each gender. However, I’ll be flexible, because I do believe that babies can be born and not suit the name their parent has chosen. My cousin was settled on the name Dylan for her unborn son, and for the first day of his life he was Dylan, but my cousin said it didn’t feel right calling him Dylan as it didn’t seem to fit. I remember her saying to me, that she and her husband both thought he looked like a Vincent, a name they’d never considered before. Sure enough, they named him Vincent ‘Vinnie’, and I tell you what, he really is a Vincent/Vinnie.

constantstar Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 7:37 am

I named my DD before the arrived, at about 20 weeks probably. I announced it and had things monogrammed. Then, at about 30 weeks, I decided that couldn’t be her name and I didn’t care for it anymore! The name was Jocelyn. So, I “unannounced” the name and went back to the drawing board. We brought a list of five names to the hospital. After labor and birth, I dreamed that her name was Gabrielle and that is what we went with. I’m not even sure it was on my final list. I still think back to my top names like Harper and Sarah and wonder if she’d be different with those names. For our son due in June, I definitely wont announce the name early but I have told folks our favorites just to get feedback.

darabelle87 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 8:06 am

My little girl is due in June, and we’ve got several names we’re tossing around that we like, but I don’t think I’ll be able to settle on one until I see her and see what fits. I’m one of those babies whose name was chosen before my birth, and then changed after my parents met me. I was Amber until my mom saw me, then I became Dara. ๐Ÿ™‚ I just know something similar would happen to me if I tried to pick the name before-hand, so I’m just going to go in with several options and see which one fits best! No use stressing over it!

Jennie Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 8:27 am

Darabelle, my baby is due in June too! ๐Ÿ™‚

We’ve had a list for quite a while, but when we had the anatomy scan, I knew he was Frederick. It was our top name anyway, and when I thought of other names, they seemed so wrong. I like making the decision early so I’m not stressing about it while I’m trying to focus on giving birth (because as a name nerd, that’s what we would be talking about between contractions)!

We have already announced it; I’ve never been one to keep things secret. Obviously, I don’t know yet if it will come back to bite me, but I don’t think it will. I can’t even think of him as anything else.

UselessKitty Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:12 am

We start with a big long list of names and as the pregnancy progresses we discuss the different names, and their pros and cons, and the list gets dwindled down. For my son we had three names left on our list when he was born. Wolf, Maximus and Luther. Luther was the front runner, followed by Wolf. We dropped Maximus right away. It wasn’t stressful at all. It felt right. We even went back through some of our old favorites and considered them as well after he was born. But they didn’t stand a chance and we had knocked them off the list for a various reasons, that still stuck with us.

klcalder2 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:15 am

I’ve made list upon list for both of mine. My daughter took a little after her 20 scan for us to name. My son’s name came before we knew he was a boy. I think if we have another, I’d be willing to only have a list and not make a decision until we meet the baby, but obviously, it’s not a requirement for us ๐Ÿ™‚

sansa_nanami Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:19 am

I think my preference would be to come up with a few options that are favorites and viable, and take ’em with for the birth. When baby comes, then the decision will be made. I wouldn’t announce a name ahead of time though, to family. Maybe I might tell my closest friends, but not quite sure.

blush Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:31 am

I like the idea of having a front runner, with a few good backup options by the time the baby is born. The likelihood of namers remorse seems less that way.

I would hope to have those narrowed down by the final weeks of pregnancy.

raisingreaders Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:32 am

My husband and I have a tradition of selecting our baby’s name at dinner the night after our 20 week ultrasound. We have a short list going in and have always successfully picked, announced and kept a name from that point forward. It is fun and we get to call the baby by name for half the pregnancy then greet the baby with a name.

Our plan is to do the same with this one…but so far we have zero girl names and about 7 boy names!

Flick Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 10:44 am

I guess I just don’t see why “seeing the baby” makes any more sense? Babies rarely end up looking like what they did at birth and all babies basically act the same – like someone who just spent 9 months suspended in a warm, dark, liquid state,so basing it off their “personality” or looks when they are born just doesn’t compute for me. I’m not saying it’s wrong, but the whole notion just seems really silly to me.

I guess I like to have that time to prepare and get used to the name.

LadyCap Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 10:46 am

My husband wanted the baby to name itself (by having all the visitors try out names on the baby and seeing which one it would react to). I was more practical and went in with two lists of researched and vetted names, each with a top choice. I feared that naming the baby in advance would result in me building up expectations about who I wanted the baby to be (rather than dealing with the person it was) and I also feared that if I announced a name a head of time, that I would meet the baby and change my mind and have to un-annouce it.

Turned out we had a mix of methods in the end. We both agreed that our son didn’t fit any of the names that we had picked out, and my husband realized that having the baby name himself was really, really impractical, so we focused on getting to know our son and choosing a name that fit him. It was a fun process and while other people were freaking out (my aunt, the nurses, the records people, etc.), we enjoyed it and recall it as one of the nicest parts of that first really stressful week. In fact, if we have another, we would probably do it again the same way.

sahd721 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 11:33 am

We had our top names for each gender picked out before the 20 week scan – and our DS was Brody from that day on. We thought we’d have to change his name at about 30 weeks due to some drama, and I cried for days and days – I just couldn’t see him as anything else but Brody. He was my Brody.

I don’t know how it’ll be in future pregnancies, but with my first I just knew way before labor/delivery that he was Brody.

tikicatt Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 11:58 am

My best friend had found out she was having a girl and chose Katherine Alexa. Two weeks before the baby came she had a vivid dream that the baby was named Brianna Nicole. Guess what? She named the baby Brianna. Pregnancy dreams are vivid – so you can change at the last minute.

As to seeing the baby to determine the name – I know a couple that had decided on Nicholas for their son. They had him and said – oh, no he is a Samuel. They thought that he would be dark like the girls, but he was ginger. In their minds they thought Nicholas was a dark haired baby boy.

Or you can be like the new mom I met last week. She was completing her registration paperwork in the hospital when the tech came in to collect and asked what name did she choose? Graydon. Oh, we have had two Grayson’s and now a Graydon today. The response? Get me new forms. She went with Brandon instead.

Trillium Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 11:59 am

I have a top two or three picked out a couple years in advance, but then again I’m really OCD about names. I feel unsettled if I don’t have at least a front runner for each gender. It’s like a puzzle that needs to be solved: what is the perfect fit for a child who looks like us that also honors family/heritage/is awesome etc? I like thinking about it early and switching things around before there is a real baby and curious relatives to consider. I have family who switched name choices throughout the entire pregnancy, had to return a relatives monogrammed items when they changed their “set in stone” name. I probably won’t mention the name to anyone until we’re pretty far into things but I want to at least have one picked out privately in advance.

HerMajesty Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 12:11 pm

I am 15, but I already have an idea as to what names I have. My mom named me and my four siblings before we where born, and it seemed to work for her.
Also, my Aunt waited till the baby was here to name her, and it took about two weeks for her to decide. I think it would be easier to name the baby before, or take in two or three posibilities.

tarynkay Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 12:18 pm

I prefer it when people wait to announce the name till after the baby is born. It is just more exciting for me that way, and I am sure that is everyone’s top concern, right? ๐Ÿ™‚

I do think it is wiser- few people will tell a newborn’s mom that his name is awful, but many people feel free to tell expecting parents that the name they’ve chosen for their unborn child is not to their taste.

We adopted our son and his birthmom asked us what we wanted to name him before he was born so that she could put that on the birth certificate. She did not want to name him, but also did not want his name to change. We had a list of names so that if she hated the first one, we could go to the second, and so on. She liked the first name, though, so we went with that. Then he was born and I immediately thought he looked nothing like his name. But obviously, we could not change his name. I am glad that we didn’t, b.c he has grown into it and now looks exactly like his name, to the point where I introduce him to strangers and they say, “how perfect for him!”

cannebella Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 2:04 pm

I think you should have some names picked out or at least a short list that you and your partner agree on. I would probably have about two or three for each gender and then when I have the baby I would choose the name that I though suited the baby best.

frustratedauthor Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 2:12 pm

I’m fairly pragmatic about it. I plan on taking a shortlist of names to the hospital with me and choosing a name from the list once I’ve met him or her. Having said that, my firstborn son (if I should be blessed with a son), will likely be Elliot. For girls, it’s less certain. I have a decent shortlist, but no clear favorites.

Either way, my child will have a name before leaving the hospital, and that will be that. I don’t like the idea of flip-flopping and changing the baby’s name.

KerrieBee23 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 3:17 pm

Compile a list of your favourites. It’s unlikely that your child would be born and the name that fits is one you hate. But be open, like say a close relative dies before the birth or something.

Aurra Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 3:56 pm

Like many Berries, I have a favorites list of ten or so first and middle combos for each gender. Granted, I’m only 14, so many of them will fall off and new ones will replace them by the time I’m expecting. However, I do think you should have at least two names to pick from when you go into labor. After all, an Arabella Jayde gives off a different vibe than Saskia Jordan. And when you see the baby for the first time, Mary Esther might not seem fit for this spunky girl- but maybe Isla Ruby does.

Taza Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 4:00 pm

I have found with my pregnancies that I think I know the name but without a little person to attach it to I grow tired of it and eventually favorites fall off the list. I feel like a name needs a personality to fill it out.
With each of our babies we had a couple of choices going into labour (the ones that hadn’t faded). Our daughter’s name was easy and was named within hours of her birth. Our son wasn’t named for a few days after his birth. The final deciding factor in naming him was how he looked. We were deciding between Henry and Reo. He looked like a little old man and so Henry was the name. There is still something very old fashioned looking about him at two years old. I think he was well named.
Baby number three is due in 9 weeks and again we will have a short list and decide when we have a personality to fill the name.

Mcdonak1 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 4:42 pm

I had my boy name set in stone. I was less sure about the girl name. I had a list of contenders, but I liked them all, so it was hard to choose just one. I had a feeling that I was having a boy, so I didn’t stress about the girl name as much as I should have.

Of course, she was a girl. And for three days in the hospital, I was calling her “baby” (which was what I called her during pregnancy) while I kept trying to call her every name in my arsenal. None of them seemed to fit. I finally just picked the one that I had liked best without worrying if she “looked like” a Beatrix. But I got used to it, and she is perfectly Bea. Can’t picture her as any other name.

niteowl13 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 8:03 pm

I am still trying to narrow it down. I have been obsessed with names since I was a tween.
I am sure that when the time comes, I will still only be able to narrow it down to 10 for each. It definitely will be a delivery surprise. When the baby comes, I don’t think our choice will be based on what he or she looks like. I think it will be based on what name both of us can live with for the rest of our lives.

ssister Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 8:17 pm

We did have a name for our son prior to this birth and stayed with it. He definately looked like our little Michael James when we saw him! Choosing his name was a long drawn out phase that took months. It was worth it!

labmama Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 9:56 pm

We have 2 girls (didn’t know gender before birth) and each time we had one boy name, and one girl name. I felt that we needed time to get used to the names, and to see if we liked them after the dust settled, so to speak. I think I would feel too much pressure if we had to decide after baby arrived. I’d be afraid of not having enough time to think it through.

Poppy84 Says:

March 20th, 2013 at 10:08 pm

We did a combo of both, we had two full names that we loved for our son (though one was the frontrunner), but we wanted to see which one “suited” him before we decided for sure.

ร don’t think it is so much that it suited him better, but more that once we had a small person in our arms, it was much clearer which name we could see ourselves using for the rest of our/his lives

For the record, it was the frontrunner that my husband and I had first discussed 3 years earlier, but we made sure our minds were open to other options.

therealburger Says:

March 21st, 2013 at 4:29 pm

My husband and I started discussing children’s names shortly after we began dating. So by the time we were actually pregnant years later, we’d narrowed our list down to two girls names and one boys name. Around the 20 week ultrasound, when we learned we were having a girl, we decided to choose Beatrice over Elizabeth.

When I first got to hold her and study her, the name Jocelyn popped into my head. Jocelyn is a name we had never ever considered and one I also didn’t care for. Strangely, the next morning, my husband remarked that she looked more like a Jocelyn than a Beatrice. I didn’t say anything for for fear he would want to change it. She’s over 2 now, and I still have never told him. Which is fine, because she totally seems like a Beatrice to me now.

Ericalynn1031 Says:

March 21st, 2013 at 10:42 pm

I had an emergency c-section 9 days before my due date and was definitely not expecting to have a baby that day. Before going into surgery my SO and I had settled to two names and decided when we saw our little guy.

I ended up calling our son “Baby” for the first five months of his life.

jenjenbarnes Says:

March 21st, 2013 at 11:16 pm

I’ve done it both ways. My first baby was named the second we found out she was a girl. My second little girl didn’t have a name for 3 days…which was awful! We had 2 names narrowed down but just couldn’t decide which one fit her. Now that we named her, I almost regret it and wish we had picked the other name (although she has completely grown into her name). I think the next time around I will definitely go with picking out the name first!

GrecianErn Says:

March 22nd, 2013 at 1:47 pm

We had names picked… and when we found out our son was a real boy, none of them fit. We decided on Weston, fully intending to call him West, around 25 weeks. He fits his name perfectly, his whole name. He doesn’t have a nickname.

Our last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, but we’d already begun talking names… and my husband’s favorite, one I had vetoed with our son, kept popping back into my head.

Maybe it will be perfect next time.

narmstrong2008 Says:

April 1st, 2013 at 12:19 pm

I picked out 2 names that I liked for my son and waited until he was born before choosing.

ItzAshh Says:

April 4th, 2013 at 4:27 am

I refuse to “wait and see.” That is NOT in my personality; I’m definitely a plan-ahead and be prepared sort of person. I also think it’s important to go through the naming process early – it gives you and your family a chance to try out the name, use it in many different situations (especially if you have kids already! Getting used to saying them all together or different pairings if you have multiple children; especially if they are close in age, etc) that you may not realize or think of if you wait to see what the baby looks like. Besides, a “fresh” newborn looks completely different even a week later and definitely months later so I, personally, feel like that is a funny argument. I also liked going through my pregnancy being able to call my baby by their name instead of “baby” or “peanut” or whatever the case may be.

With my first pregnancy, the baby’s father and I decided on a boy name the day I found out I was pregnant: Benjamin David-Isaac (I have had Isaac picked for my first-born son’s middle name since I was 9). Our girl option wasn’t decided until later (but before my 20wk anatomy ultrasound). The baby wouldn’t cooperate so we had to be surprised at birth and I know that if we had to decide a name then it would’ve been too stressful and would’ve picked something we both regretted.
This pregnancy my SO is not nearly as concerned with picking a name “yet” and we will be scheduling our 20wk ultrasound for either the end of the month or early next month – I’m definitely already in a panic. I need time to go over the name, use it with and without my daughter’s name (Avila Ireland-Nicole), and let the families get used to it, and find out any negative meanings or associations with it (such as when I suggested the name Dorian to my much younger cousins (ages 11-6) and they all went “Dorian? You mean Dory? From Finding Nemo?? Why would you name her that?? It’s a BOY name???!” An association I, as a 25 year old, obviously would not make and since they’re all much closer in age to my children I need to be aware of how their peers would perceive them as well) before naming them something, just to find out in their generation it means and gives off a completely different image than I imagined.

emilybk Says:

April 5th, 2013 at 3:23 pm

My husband and I grew up in the South, where using family names is a common tradition that was important to us to carry on. We had our names picked out well before getting pregnant, and solidified middle names even before our 20-week ultrasound.

As soon as we saw we were having a girl, we were so excited to be able to call her by name: Cates Margaret. Cates was my husband’s grandmother’s maiden name (and his own middle name); there are no more men with this surname in his family, so he really wanted to pass it on. Margaret was my grandmother’s name, and is also the name of my aunt.

We never considered changing our minds because we really wanted to honor our grandmothers in this way, and Cates’s name fit her perfectly from the moment she was born. I can’t imagine her being called anything else!

nanthrax Says:

April 5th, 2013 at 3:38 pm

We knew we were expecting a girl and had our top three picked out. However, she did not look like any of the three. So we spent some time with her and kept throwing out names that had been on our short list but didn’t make the top three. Cecilia Catherine ended up being the perfect fit, though before she was born she was going to be Natalie, Melinda, or Bridget Rose.

mjeezy13 Says:

July 15th, 2013 at 12:38 am

Our first wasn’t totally planned, but we had her name settled not long after the 20 week anatomy scan. We already knew before getting pregnant with #2 that we would follow a family tradition for a son’s first name, and his middle name was settled not long after the 20 week scan. We are currently ttc #3 and I already have the perfect names picked out for both a girl and a boy…so much so that I’m secretly hoping for b/g twins, however unlikely that would be for us. ๐Ÿ˜‰

mom3 Says:

July 31st, 2013 at 9:04 am

For our first 2 (twins) we had them picked out before & calling them by name before they were born. For the 3rd, despite all the names & all the narrowed down lists, nothing stood out as a front runner that we connected with so we had to wait to meet him and try out a few that had previously been on our ‘list’ plus a few new ones that came to mind upon meeting him. IMO babies can suit or not suit a name, despite how tiny they are or how much they change in those first 2 yrs. I have to admit it was definitely more stressful this way but unavoidable when you can’t find a name you fall in love with before hand.

mel_finch Says:

July 31st, 2013 at 7:24 pm

I sort of get where people who want to see the kid before they name them are coming from, but it’s just not something I would ever do. Why add more stress to the whole giving-birth thing? Maybe in ten or so years when I start having kids, I’ll feel differently, but I don’t quite understand how a baby can look like a certain name. Babies all look pretty much the same (to me, anyway). And what if you go into the hospital with your top two names, and when the baby is born you’re convinced he or she is one of the names, and your spouse thinks the other name is ‘the one’? Knowing the same beforehand removed the possibility of the baby being nameless for a week.

But like I said, I could change my mind. It’s just that right now I think choosing the name before the birth would remove a lot of the stress.

wickedjr89 Says:

October 31st, 2013 at 9:00 pm

I’ve never had a child so I can’t say from experience but I would think to have maybe a few names planned ahead of time, maybe like a top 5, and see what “fits” or “feels right” when the baby is born. I don’t see how anyone can wait to even consider names until the baby is born, that would seem to me setting yourself up for a very stressful few days or weeks where baby is nameless. Also I don’t know about telling family and friends name choices before the birth, chances are they’d have very different ideas and just make you frustrated or constantly change your mind or put down everything you love and even like…chances are they will (hopefully) love the baby regardless of what you’ve named your baby once they are born. The name needs to work for the baby and the parents, most importantly the baby, no one else.

mulme944 Says:

July 23rd, 2014 at 8:11 am

I am a planner. My husband and I had chosen our son’s name by the time I was 6 weeks pregnant or so. We had a girls’ name (Amity Maison), but didn’t worry too much about it, since we were hoping for a boy. The middle name is a family name (Nevin), and the first name (Travis) is simply one we agreed upon as handsome. I would read list of interesting names to my husband, and he would pass or veto them. Travis was the first one he got really excited about. We really do love our Travis Nevin, and the extended family agrees his name suits him perfectly.
We are TTC, and I hope to have the name set in stone before the gender reveal, just as we did the first time.

Toya B Says:

May 30th, 2016 at 11:36 am

I’m only 14, and totally have no idea what I would call a real live baby, because I can’t imagine calling a baby any of the names I actually like!

But my French teacher went with an interesting idea, that I haven’t heard anyone mention. She put a box on the reception desk at school for first name suggestions that she and her partner were going to choose between. As a joke, some of my friends put in a slip of paper saying ‘Cornelius’. Anyway, that was what he was called. It was kind of a joke, but it was useful to have a name to call him without it ever being expected to be ‘the name’. Now he’s born, they’ve called him Aiden Jack Cornelius, just for the story ๐Ÿ™‚

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