Question of the Week: What names did you nix?
Recently we asked the Nameberry facebookers (Have you joined yet? Better hurry on over there) to tell us which baby names they’d loved that their partners nixed.
The question prompted a flood of comments, with 65 (and counting) berries weighing in on which beloved names their partners banished from consideration, and why.
Now it’s time to turn the tables. What name did you partner like that YOU turned down? And why?
That’s right, let’s hear all of your partner’s (supposedly) dumb name ideas and the reasons you put the kibosh on them.
And if you have a baby naming question of your own you’d like the group to address next time, please send it to email@example.com. Thanks!
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on March 21st, 2012 at 12:59 am
For twins: Romulus & Remus. I mean come on, really?
on March 21st, 2012 at 1:18 am
My husband suggested that we name our future son Dillonson after him!! He thought since he was Dillon he could just add -son and make it a name. I instantly put the squash on this! I tried to explain that adding -son to every name does not work. He was cute for trying but it was a definite NO!
on March 21st, 2012 at 2:06 am
The names I adore that my husband has vetoed are:
Girls: Mona, Margo, Vera, Maeve, Odessa, Geneva
Boys: Trevor, Conrad, Rocco
Most of the time why I ask him why he doesn’t like a name he answers in typical male fashion: “I just don’t like it”
on March 21st, 2012 at 2:08 am
PS My hubby has never actually suggested a name even when I’ve directly asked him. He can’t seem to come up with any on his own.
on March 21st, 2012 at 6:19 am
For the record, my husband hasn’t come up with any “dumb” baby names. That being said, there were a few boys names that I nixed (we never had any major disagreements over girls names):
–Aaron–I’ve known too many Aarons
–Isaac–love it, but our last name begins with a K, so he’d forever be “Isa” when both names were slurred together
–Marcus–to him, it’s his beloved departed great uncle. To me, it’s the kid who teased me mercilessly in grade school 😛
on March 21st, 2012 at 7:31 am
Emily. I don’t think its terrible but I had to say no because its overused, has so many variations, and I have a cousin named Emily (who doesn’t have the best reputation).
on March 21st, 2012 at 8:03 am
Well, we argued over how to spell Nicholas/Nicolas. He preferred the ‘H’, but I liked the ‘No H’ version. Hence Leo, he became.
We had no fights over Simon’s name. With Josephine,we nixed: Wilhelmina (just too long), Lily/Lilian (despite it being my beloved Grandmother’s name, it was just too popular), Dorothea (He didn’t like ANY of her nicknames!) and Rosamel as a first. I still sometimes wish I’d gone with this as a first but He thought it was ‘too much’. She adores her middle name as much as her first so it might have worked! 😀
on March 21st, 2012 at 8:46 am
My sweet husband keeps throwing out random family names for our first baby…so far I’ve vetoed Heidi, Kristi, Gretchen, Ada, and Frances.
We both like Hannah, but I have an interesting distant cousin with the same name. His family has suggested we name the baby exact repeats of the paternal grandparents’ names….which I have also vetoed.
My mother keeps suggesting Holly or Lydia – both no.
on March 21st, 2012 at 8:54 am
Oh my, so many, mainly because I work with so many children and have had many a negative name association, and the trend factors. The biggest ones were Liam, Caleb, Aidan, Jacob. For each name I could name at least 5 kids I worked with, good or bad, and that frustrated me.
on March 21st, 2012 at 9:38 am
Not really an “awful” name, but hubby suggested “Kristy.” The rest of the names on the list are either Irish/Celtic or really unique and not used often…We know probably 20 Kristys, including my cousin! I’m not really a fan for that reason. He also really likes “Faith,” which wouldn’t be so bad if it weren’t for the fact that he likes it because he always had a crush on Faith from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I will never get over that association. And her character always bugged me anyway. 🙂
on March 21st, 2012 at 10:16 am
He suggested Roxy and Coco. I laughed and told him those are dog names. He also really wants to use a name with a click in it. He lived in Africa for a couple years, met several people with clicks in their names, and thinks it would be cool. On a blond-haired blue-eyed very Scandinavian looking baby. Weirdo. Fortunately I could veto it because I should at least be able to pronounce my kid’s name correctly, right?
on March 21st, 2012 at 10:21 am
He suggested Ryden (for a girl) after we watched the movie Postgrad. Nipped that one in the bud as I can’t stand made-up names. Also, Virginia is one of his favorites. Not terrible if we didn’t live in Virginia.
Elisabeth Rae Said
on March 21st, 2012 at 11:12 am
He wanted Damien Spencer. No to them individually but especially together.
on March 21st, 2012 at 11:17 am
He couldn’t get into- Annette, Suzanna, Vera & Sidney (male), Felix, Cecil.
I couldn’t get into- Cynthia, Kira, Ulysses & Cassius.
on March 21st, 2012 at 11:59 am
My husband has vetoed beatrice and thinks pearl would make a nice name. Sometimes I think he’s crazy!
on March 21st, 2012 at 12:45 pm
Darren! He never makes suggestions, and when I ask him he looks really stumped and says he can’t think of any, but he once suggested Darren. I didn’t know if he was serious. Noooo! I’m 25, all Darren’s I know are about 30-45. Its such a blokey name, I just can’t picture it on a sweet little baby.
Also Imogen for a girl, which I adore and was very proud of him for coming up with ha, but it’s such a popular name here in the UK (no 26) and I know several people with baby Imogen’s so I just couldn’t use it. Same goes for Phoebe which I think I originally brought up but he absolutely adores. It’s no 28 in the UK charts. I’d use Phoebe in the middle for him though.
It’s so funny reading other ladies responses.
Lanada – the thing about the click in the name actually made me laugh out loud, so funny! I’m glad you put your foot down!
Dillonsfan – I’m sure a tryndee wife would have jumped at the chance to use “unique” Dillonson haha. I don’t blame you for saying no! But scarily I could imagine it catching on :S
on March 21st, 2012 at 12:50 pm
My husband was dead set on naming his first son John (named for himself and his father and his father’s father…)! I told him that when it is time for him to die the Angel of Death would be confused and take our baby! That’s what happens when you marry a Jewish girl (; I could compromise and have a little Jack though. Fortunately we see eye to eye on all other babynames as we both have harmonious yupster style (his most recent suggestion was Ophelia – and I dig it).
on March 21st, 2012 at 1:02 pm
I had to nix Putter (yes, like the golf club), and Terran for boys.
on March 21st, 2012 at 1:08 pm
Nothing too terrible, but for our 1st, which we found out was going to be a boy, I had to veto Hunter and Sawyer (just NMS) and for this baby–whose gender we’ve decided not to find out–I had to nix Harrison for a boy (which I actually like, but I’m afraid they’d call him “Harry” and let’s just say, with our last name, it sounds vaguely pornographic) and for a girl, Finley, Isabella, Emily and Amber.
on March 21st, 2012 at 1:13 pm
@amandaberry, Conrad and Trevor are my husband and son’s names, how funny!
My husband never suggested a single name when I was pregnant, but when we were engaged he mentioned once that he thought Amy was a pretty name. Yes, in 1975…
He vetoed my favorite name, Theron, on the grounds that “it’s not a name.” No amount of showing him the listing on nameberry would change his mind!
on March 21st, 2012 at 1:37 pm
For our last daughter: Ariel. It’s not a terrible name. It’s just not my style. And it would sound ridiculous with our other three daughters’ names. Alice, Molly, Jane … and Ariel. I dont think so.
on March 21st, 2012 at 2:42 pm
Bethany: Just ew. Too blah.
Catherine nn Cathy: Are we naming our aunt?
Amelia: Way too popular, we are not the Jones’.
Doug: Just made me LOL.
My husband can be quite plain and predictable do far but has made some decent suggestions, even if they aren’t my style. We are TTC soon and he admits he hasn’t looked into it too deeply and is only suggesting based on hearsay.
on March 21st, 2012 at 2:50 pm
The only name that he ever suggested was Mackenzie. Her last name starts with Mc-, so in addition to not being my style (really, really, really not into Mc- or Mac- first names on girls), Mackenzie Mc__ was just a terrible idea.
For me, he nixed Helen and Jude. He said that Helen was an ugly girl’s name. Not only do I strongly disagree, but it was my grandmother’s name, so way to be a jerk. He thought that Jude was too close to his estranged sister’s name, which I understood.
on March 21st, 2012 at 3:08 pm
Vivienne and Leonardo. He just couldn’t get behind them. I will say he suggested; Bill ( as eveyone likes a Bill), Sarah, Lisa and Mark. While nothing wrong with these choices I feel like the 70s are over!
C in DC Said
on March 21st, 2012 at 4:18 pm
He likes Petra, after his dad Peter. Petra just doesn’t work well with our surname. He also suggested Sloane.
He nixed every name I suggested for our girl twins except the 2 we used.
on March 21st, 2012 at 4:43 pm
I wanted our daughter to be Caitlin Emily Louisa and he said no to Emily — name was too long. Since he’d agreed to hyphenate our surnames, he had a point.
Because my son was born while he was singing in Halifax (literally; Tom was born in the middle of the concert), he said I could name him whatever I wanted — NOT. We had already agreed on Thomas, after my maternal grandfather (and a family name for 12 generations), but…I wanted Thomas Benjamin, and he said no. Then I wanted Thomas Gideon, and he said no. So much for any name I wanted! We finally settled on Thomas Caleb, but I still would have liked Thomas Gideon, and my son hates the name Caleb. He keeps threatening to change his name to Thomas Alexander.
on March 21st, 2012 at 8:50 pm
Gavin – this is a coworker’s sons name. I had to remind him of this several times.
Rue – from The Hunger Games, I’m just not a fan (well not as a full name definitely)
Primrose – also from The Hunger Games. I actually like this but I fear it might be too much, plus I had my heart set on Louisa (not that it matters, as this baby is a boy!)
on March 21st, 2012 at 9:35 pm
He wants Carly! I nix that right away! Way too trendy for my taste.
on March 22nd, 2012 at 5:54 am
My ex liked just about every single top 10 name and was very stubborn about it. This is why she is my ex. haha! I was not about to have an Emily.
You know what’s funny? The new love interest in my life looooooves Emma. But she also likes all the names I bring up. And she finds me cool names all the time… she really knows how to win my heart. :]
on March 22nd, 2012 at 3:28 pm
He liked Walter, but I wasn’t that into it, especially since he wanted to call him Walt, which is 10 times worse than Walter! He also liked Klaus. I don’t really know why. Too strange for me and I don’t like the sound of it. For girls we actually both really liked Vera, but found out my mother hated a Vera when she was younger and also we love nicknames and couldn’t get a good one out of Vera. Doesn’t matter, we ended up with an Isaac, nn Ike ( hubby Mike’s idea) who now goes mostly by Ikey ( neither one of us planned that nn, it just kind of happened)!
on March 22nd, 2012 at 10:05 pm
Solomon (nickname Solo) was my husband’s favorite for our first. Interestingly, one of our friends named her second son Solomon! So somebody used it, lol
He also liked Leif, which is kinda cool but clashed madly with our surname.
Some that I’ve pitched that he’s nixed, since I didn’t get in on last week’s thread: Clementine, Aviva, Adrian.
on March 28th, 2012 at 5:01 pm
My husband has vetoed so many names that I adore. Daphne and Owen have been my favorites for a long time, but my husband hates Daphne and has lukewarm feelings for Owen. Ah, well, it makes it fun for me, because now I get to obsess about finding names we both love.
on March 28th, 2012 at 11:13 pm
Some of my favorites my hubby nixed:
I’m SO sad he didn’t agree on Tiara, I’ve loved that name for years!
on March 28th, 2012 at 11:16 pm
Another one I loved was Ashlynn. DH dated a girl named Ashley who was crazy and didn’t treat him very well. I guess that love will never be used!
on March 29th, 2012 at 3:40 pm
Justus. I hate it. He loves it. His name is Justin. It’s TOO close. AND it’s to follow the JJJ initial thing his family has going – which I also hate. I’ve flopped back and forth on what to do, but as of now, I won’t use it.
on April 16th, 2012 at 6:45 pm
He likes Emma! it’s is just way too popular for what I want.
on April 18th, 2012 at 11:07 pm
Jennifer and Stacy. Those were the names of half of the girls I grew up with. They’re not bad names, but I’ve just known so dang many of them.
on May 1st, 2012 at 5:09 pm
Paul,Michael, Eric, Laura, Lisa, Samantha, Jennifer, Erica, Deleny, Melissa, Ashley, Adam, Nicholas, John, Jordan
on May 7th, 2012 at 10:03 am
Names that he suggested and I said no
Bethany – nice but still popular here
Calli – a bit trendy spelt like this and feels more like a nickname
Lana – reminds me of the character from Smallville who I didn’t like much and then I wonder if that’s why he likes the name?!
To be honest he doesn’t suggest many names at all leaving it all to me. He just doesn’t get my love of names. I’ve suggested countless beautiful interesting ones to which he immediately says no – Matilda, Romana, Elena, Eliana, Theora…the list goes on. He has no real explaination just that he ‘doesn’t like it’. The only one he went into more detail with was Pearl of which he said I wasn’t giving birth to a Grandma. I think it’s lovely and only wanted it in the middle spot anyway. He wasn’t persuaded by the connection to my mothers name Margaret either. It’s no wonder trying to name no.3 has been tricky – the hardest yet!
on May 23rd, 2012 at 4:53 pm
my hubby wants to name baby#1 (if it’s a boy) after his father who is Richard Roy… not happening. bro-in-law is also Richard and they refer to the father son duo as ‘big dick’ and ‘little dick’ don’t want my child potentially being called “tiny Dick” 🙁
on May 30th, 2012 at 1:10 pm
We are thinking about trying for another child and dicussed some names. I nixed Patrick, because I hate the nickname Pat. It makes me think of the character on SNL whose gender was a mystery.
on June 15th, 2012 at 5:41 pm
The only thing I hate about having children with my husband is the whole naming process. It drives me crazy because our views are so different. I have said “NO!” to nearly every name he has suggested but the one I veto most often is Tarzan. I absolutely refuse to name my child that and have told my husband even if something were to happen and that was his dying wish, I STILL wouldn’t do it! He said he has always wanted a son named Tarzan because that was the name (not nn) of a close childhood friend. Supposedly, this kid never got teased about it and was a popular guy. He drowned as a teenager so this is a way for my husband to honor his memory.
Our first two children were girls but up until we found out, he pushed for Tarzan. Afterwards, he suggested Tarzana- which I find equally appalling. He said not only would it honor his friend, but his mother used to live in Tarzana, Ca. so it would honor her too.
Other names I’ve shot down are:
Conan (as in The Destroyer/The Barbarian)
Über or ÜberMonster
Warmad or Madwar
most of these are from this pregnancy; I can’t remember all the others. This is our fourth child together and like the first three, probably won’t get his/her name until the faculty comes in with the forms for the birth certificate 🙁
Unfortunately, my husband is dead serious when he suggests these names…says he wants the kid to be different. He doesn’t get that with any of these names, it will be a bad different. After our 3rd I told him that if we had another, I would get to choose the full name (with our daughters, he chose fn, I chose mn and he chose both for our son) but I don’t want a name that only appeals to me- I want us both to like it so I continue to browse baby-naming sites.
on July 2nd, 2012 at 2:38 pm
I have banished:
Aiden, Hayeden, Brayden etc
Any Car Names (Bentley, mercedes, etc)
Made up/trendy names- “Jace” “Neveah”
James, because I just don’t like the sound it makes.
Any character names (Rue, Primrose, etc)
on August 1st, 2012 at 11:52 am
These stories are hilarious and horrible all at once! lol My husband is like a lot of yours- disinterested in naming. Which discourages me because I’m so obsessed and have been since I was around 10.
Names I’ve said no to: Lauren (I graduated with 5 of them, 4 having the same last initial as ours. It’s just overused/dated.), Crystal (stripper name imo), Renee (dated), Alexander (2 in my fam), Zachary (Zac Hanson is/was my hugest crush ever. Too weird. lol Plus EVERYBODY in my fam would assume I named the kid after him.), Devin Scott Jr (husband’s name obviously. Would call him DJ. I love ‘Roseanne’ but no way.)
Names he said no to- all of them, including Hannah, Gemma (I adore this name, so I’m heartbroken. He says it’s weird.), any names that sound ‘too white’ as we are a mixed race couple.
It’s been a tough road and prob will continue that way.
on August 4th, 2012 at 8:25 pm
names my husband refused:
Marin–he said it sounded like a redneck saying the word ‘marrying’. and then proceeded to say in a horrible southern accent “ima marin yah.”
Farrah – he said it reminds him of mummies??? like what?
Cassius –too bad because i’m still using it!
Names I said no to:
Jerome –no way..
on August 8th, 2012 at 6:23 pm
I nixed his favorite name and only suggestion: “Xander” because it is too popular either on its own or as a nn for Alexander. Plus his reason for liking it is pretty weak “it sounds like an awesome comic book dark super-hero type”
on September 26th, 2012 at 11:25 pm
on November 15th, 2012 at 4:12 pm
Putter. He still begs for this name but I find it absolutely ridiculous. Cute “dad only” nickname, horrible on a birth certificate.
on November 21st, 2012 at 2:45 pm
The main two that come to mind are Dorcas and Beulah. Just, no.
on November 21st, 2012 at 2:46 pm
The main two that come to mind are Dorcas and Beulah. Just, no.
I think Lainalou wins for worst names though. lol
on April 7th, 2013 at 11:18 pm
He has rejected almost all of my names and when I say why he says “because I don’t like it.” Wtf. Ok. Or, “I never imagined naming my kid ____.” Um excuse me but you said you’ve never considered names until you found out I was pregnant ??? So which is it??
I love the name Quintin and he absolutely refuses. He likes Elijah (nn Eli), Noah, and Jameson. Omg talk about COMMON. I told him I won’t use a common name. I have a daughter named Avila and tried telling him it has to “go” with her name and he just doesn’t listen. He thinks spelling a common name a ridiculous way is ok since his mom did that with his sister Nikkole. He also said his and his sib’s names don’t go together so why does ours? I told him I’m not his mom and I’m not picking some random name the day the baby is born.
Since he won’t make suggestions anymore (I’m “mean” apparently by explaining how I won’t use a name that I know a bunch of kids named that. He thinks since he doesn’t then I’m just “out to get him” or something stupid. Seriously he’s driving me absolutely nuts) and refuses all my names without reason and claims he’s just gonna call it “Baby Dos” anyway I’m just gonna pick whatever name I and I alone like. 🙂
on June 24th, 2013 at 12:51 am
For some reason I will never understand, but that I attribute at least in part to his WASPiness, my husband has repeatedly suggested family names that belong to people he 1) never met, 2) barely knew, or 3) does not find particularly admirable or likable, just because they’re family names. I have vetoed all of these.
on July 23rd, 2013 at 6:38 pm
Any name in the top 200! Caleb means dog for Pete’s sake. Otherwise I liked it. My Husband wanted Demarys Malita. Ya, no! With names of Amy and Jason we were not about to go common. On baby number 3 we had numerous request from both sides for Edward and Elijah. I had a dog as a kid named Ed and I also think of the horse. And Elijah is my most hated name. Makes me cringe.
on September 28th, 2013 at 4:26 am
This is more of a problem for DH and I, as we come from 2 very different cultures (American and Iranian). He jokes about Asghar and Ghadr for boys, which I can’t even pronounce. If I conceded, I think he might use them (despite the fact that most Iranians even think they’re quite bad). I love Christiana and Cosette, which both got nixed due to similarity to bad words in Farsi. Ammon and Jericho fell into his “weird” category. Sterling was nixed, as it’s hard for Iranians to pronounce. Orion makes him think of oreos. So it was a long road, but we’ve narrowed it to Emiliana, Valentina, and Parisa for girls, and Soren and Kian for boys.
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