Name Sage: Grandma Hates the Name!
We’re expecting our first child, a son, in a few months. Our dilemma is this: my mom really wants to know our chosen name, but I am not sure if I want to share it.
I love my mother, but she’s very opinionated. She disliked having an uncommon name, so she gave me a very popular one.
We’ve chosen Lawson Christopher for our son. It’s obviously not a common first name – though a search of Social Security records reveals Lawson is at its most popular in 2014, so maybe we’re on the cusp of the name taking off!
Also, is there a nice way to NOT reveal the name until he’s born and it is his, or is there no real way to avoid rejecting my mom here?
If we choose to tell her, how do I steel myself adequately against any negative opinions? I’ve thought this through, and this is the first name that feels like *him*, if that makes sense. How do I stay confident, even if the reaction of my mom is a negative one?
The Name Sage replies:
It’s easy to be dismissive of this kind of struggle, isn’t it? So many people will blithely say, “It’s your baby. You choose the name!”
But even the most loving and supportive family members are sometimes genuinely surprised by the baby names we’re choosing in 2015.
While there’s lots of handwringing about those “crazy” baby names, the truth is that names have always been subject to trends. If this were 1905, Elmer and Mildred would’ve have been the height of fashion. Or how ‘bout 1925’s Norma and Eugene?
Now that babies born circa-1985 – hello, Dustin and Crystal! – are having babies of their own, fashions have changed again. Harper and Mason are mainstream, and it’s sort of stunning to meet a kiddo called Elmer.
Let’s start with the name you’ve chosen.
First, baby names are like falling in love. You just know when you’ve found The One.
As you say, Lawson is definitely catching on. There were 574 boys given the name in 2014 – a new high.
If Lawson is trending, Christopher is steady. The overall rhythm of the name is appealing, and together they’re nicely balanced – one more classic, the other more current. It’s a Goldilocks name – not too hot, not too cold, but just right.
Now – to tell grandma, or to make her wait until the baby has arrived? And, regardless of when the name is revealed, how will you handle criticism?
Your best course of action is probably to wait until Lawson’s arrival to share the name. Practice saying, “We have a few favorites, but we’re going to wait until the baby is born to decide.”
That’s no guarantee you won’t hear hurtful comments, but it does mean that criticism can’t change your decision.
I’m tempted to suggest you tell your mom you’re naming the baby Legend. Or Lexicon, Lexus, or Leviticus. Anything that will make Lawson seem like a perfectly sensible name when you finally do share it.
But that’s probably not the best approach.
Instead, the key is to discuss your concerns about your mom’s reaction – not the name you’ve lovingly chosen. “Mom, I know you like popular names, but we’ve decided to go with something a little bit different.”
You’ve done your research, and can confidently explain that names change with every generation. After all, your name was common in the 1980s – but no more.
And, of course, uncommon names are becoming more and more the norm. As of 2014, fewer than three-quarters of all children received a Top 1000 name. That’s a lot of kids with names that are really out-there.
Chances are that none of this will sway your mom. She has her opinions, based on her personal experience – as do you. Both perspectives are valid, but naming this baby is a choice that belongs to you and your husband.
Is it any consolation to know that you’re not alone? Journalist Laura Dunphy wrote about her parents’ less-than-enthusiastic reaction to her daughter’s name, Sophie Mireille. (“We hate it.”) Dunphy’s parents haven’t come around, but it hasn’t changed her enthusiasm for her daughter’s gorgeous name.
Your mom might never love the name Lawson. But nearly every parent reports that grandparents do love their grandchildren – no matter what they’re named.
Readers, have your parents been accepting of the names you’ve chosen for your children? How have you handled criticism over your children’s names?
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on August 18th, 2015 at 11:02 pm
My mom has hated both of my kids’ names, though she almost brags about my son’s name (Leopold), now, she still seems ashamed, even confused on my daughter’s (Vesper). She tells everyone that we got it from James Bond, because that seems to be the easiest connection for her to remember – though completely untrue! It’s hard to hear the criticism, and I still question our choices every time I have to repeat myself two, three, four times to curious strangers constantly asking, “And what are their names? Wait, what are their names??” When it’s the one, it’s the one. Trust your choice.
on August 18th, 2015 at 11:04 pm
My parents hate my daughter’s name: Harriet Franceszka. The middle is a family name and spelling so they don’t say as much about that but they were relentless the first two years of Harriet’s life. They would introduce her to people and say, “This is Harriet. She’s lovely despite her name.” I remember once my mom saying to my younger sister, “I’m so glad you gave Ruth a pretty name. Too bad Harriet has the ugly name.” When Harriet was old enough to start catching on to what they were saying I had a little temper tantrum and told them (and all of my many siblings who happily joined in the name bashing) that they were not allowed to say one more word about her name. Ever. For the most part they have respected that boundary. When my youngest was born I named her Clover Mildred. They liked the Mildred (my paternal grandmother) but proclaimed Clover “a cow’s name.” I gave them the evil eye and they haven’t said anything since.
The thing about parents is they are almost guaranteed not to like the names you pick because naming is generational. They were irate with my sister for picking Hazel, they thought my sister was crazy for naming her half-Colombian son Sebastian, they thought Danica was beyond bizarre. Of their 45 (and counting) grandkids they only truly like a few of the names and all of those have family significance. Now that I realize that I don’t take it as personally. I just wish I had clearly drawn the no-making-fun-of-my-children’s-names boundary earlier!!
on August 18th, 2015 at 11:04 pm
I think this is good advice. Back in the day it seems that everyone told their name choices in advance and today it seems that almost no one reveals the name choices early, probably for good reason!
Lawson Christopher seems like a perfectly reasonable name to me. I greatly prefer Christopher or Laurence to Lawson, but Lawson is fine too. It is not like you are planning to name your son Peanut or Google or Trilby Deluxe. 🙂
And ultimately it really is no one else’s business, even if you chose something ghastly. I cringe every time I read a thread where the poor beleaguered parent-to-be feels pressured to go with Mom’s or Grandpa’s choice. Call me old-fashioned, but to me, the one giving birth has the final say.
on August 19th, 2015 at 12:15 am
Lucky it’s not up to grandma to name the baby! That job is yours and yours alone. She just needs to keep any negativity to herself. I think you’ve chosen a really lovely name.
on August 19th, 2015 at 1:55 am
With our first we had 4 names that we were tossing around as possible first and/or middle names. We finally decided that we just had to wait and see what felt right for us when we actually held our son in our arms. Both sets of grandparents were the most upset with that decision! Not that it started a feud or anything major. Both sets were just so happy about us having our first born and wanted to be a part of it in whatever way they could.
My advice, maybe lay out you and your hubby’s criteria for choosing a name. Help her see why this is the right name for YOUR family.
Either that or say something like “we feel it best to divulge his name only once he’s here”. However, if you go that route you’ll have to make sure that Grandma doesn’t find out the name from another source!
Lawson Christopher is a wonderful name! Lawson is unique without being trendy, and while still being a legitimate name. Christopher is a timeless classic that pairs well with the more unusual Lawson. Best of all, Lawson isn’t likely to have to share his name with other little boys in his class AND he isn’t likely to have everyone mispronounce the name either 😉 Overall, I think that this will be a name that he grows up loving 😀
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:14 am
With my son, my ex and I had no common baby-naming ground: I loved Jason and Jude, he loved Thaddeus and Alfred. We settled on Liam (before knowing how popular it was becoming 😛 ), because his grandfather was Louis and mine was William. Our little Liam also received his father’s middle name “Anthony”, which was a six generation middle name in my ex’s family.
To my very critical Italian family, Anthony was perfectly acceptable. Liam was not. My mother and grandparents acted as though they couldn’t even pronounce it. It was infuriating. However, now that my little boy is 7 and the name Liam has taken off, they all love it, but still tell people I named him after Liam Neeson…. *sigh*
That being said, I think Lawson Christopher is a perfectly normal, handsom name that will wear well from infancy through manhood 🙂
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:41 am
This is why I never tell people “the names” before the baby is born. I have a couple of friends that I will run ideas by, but I don’t tell anyone anything “for sure” until I’m calling to tell them that baby is here. Most people will not be critical of a name once it’s attached to a real newborn infant–at least, not out loud.
As to Lawson, it’s not my style, but it doesn’t sound that far “out there” to me. The -son suffix is pretty common, and I don’t think it will inspire teasing or mispronunciations. One thing you might want to prepare yourself for–since Christopher is “normal”, there’s a chance that your mother might start calling him by his middle name. You should probably decide in advance if that’s okay with you. HTH!
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:56 am
This is so interesting … my mom has definitely had some things to say about her grandchildren’s names, too – and definitely not all positive. Could it be that grandparents who really do LIKE their children’s names are the exceptions?
on August 19th, 2015 at 9:11 am
Good lord, how hard is it to keep your opinion to yourself? I could never in a MILLION YEARS imagine my mother telling me that she hated the name of my child, ESPECIALLY once said child was born. She may not love the name, it may not be her style, but I could never imagine my mother saying something so rude about it. Maybe I’m just lucky, because my mother and I have somewhat the same style of names (we both like long, grand, frilly names) so there will not be much push back, but I truly can’t imagine telling my parents the name and having to suffer through nasty comments. I guess maybe my parents are the exception?
Also, my FI’s brother and wife had a baby not too long ago. They chose Madeline as her name. I was underwhelmed by it. I think Madeline is lovely, but Maddie/Maddy, to me, is just so tired and overdone. I know a dozen Maddie’s. However, I have never once voiced my opinion to the couple, nor have I spread it through the family that I dislike the name. Privately, my FI and I have said how we think Madeline is gorgeous, but insisting that everyone call the baby Maddy is just so tired, but I would be mortified to tell the parents, to their face no less, my opinion. It will do them nor the child any good to know I don’t care for the name. Why even say it?
on August 19th, 2015 at 9:46 am
Ugh, I just love how family members like to stress out pregnant ladies by critiquing their name choices! I got this from various family members and I ended up keeping the name secret until I gave birth. My advice when it comes to keeping it secret is this; whenever grandma starts pressuring you for info about the name just ask her, “What do you think we should pick?” and she (or whoever else) will most likely start listing favorites and giving suggestions and forget to even hassle you. I found that about 90% of people will suggest their own name to you! Plus it’s kind of fun. Who knew that my grandfather adored the names Cynthia and Yolanda?! Once baby is here only the socially inept and boundary-less types will say anything about an actual kid’s actual name. This will show you who to make stronger boundaries with. Best of luck!
on August 19th, 2015 at 10:34 am
Both of my kids have unusual names, but they’re family names, which seemed to curb everyone’s need to weigh in on our choices. When I was pregnant, I always prefaced their names with, “We’re naming him after my uncle and my husband’s grandfather” or “Her first name is her great-grandmother’s maiden name and my husband’s middle name.” Very few people were willing to criticize after that – who’s really going to say, “Oh no, don’t name her after a beloved deceased relative”? I don’t know if this is useful for Lawson Christopher’s parents (which is a lovely name, by the way), but it worked for me.
on August 19th, 2015 at 10:52 am
That’s a great name! I would stand your ground… Don’t tell anyone until he is here! I had the same problem… MIL is very opinionated as are several aunts…they’ve proven so with other nieces and nephews being born before our daughter… so we decided we weren’t going to tell anyone not even our short list. My husband has an aunt who absolutely hates her grandchild’s name and refuses to call him by it and let’s it be widely known that she hates it (he’s 2 and she still makes rude comments!)… It’s beyond rude but there is no reasoning with some people’s stupidity.
on August 19th, 2015 at 11:28 am
What a great name you have chosen! While it’s not a name I would ever chose personally, I can recognize how nice of a name it is.
I have no idea why families think it is a God given right to have input on the names that their family members chose for THEIR babies, especially moms. I know when I have children my mother will be horrible about bugging me about the name and telling me what I should and shouldn’t use. It seems like future grandmas tend to have hard and fast opinions about names and it’s hard to change them. That being said, I will personally be keeping my future babies names a secret, and my family won’t know when we’ve actually chosen a name.
Maybe M could tell her mom that they had chosen a name, but were now questioning it, and don’t want to tell her until their 100% sure. It’s not exactly the truth (they seem pretty positive about Lawson Christopher) but they are technically questioning things to do with the name?
on August 19th, 2015 at 12:00 pm
Naming a child is simply a matter of taste and style. If someone doesn’t like your names, it just means you have different styles- it’s not personal. My mother-in-law hates my daughter’s name, Rosemary, but we love it. I wouldn’t ask my mother-in-law for help naming my baby, and I wouldn’t ask her to decorate my house or pick out my clothes either. Our styles are just very different, nothing wrong with that.
on August 19th, 2015 at 12:41 pm
I know how hard it can be to have a parent hate the name you’ve chosen. I’m very close with my parents and asked them, tentatively, about each name on my short-list. I really wanted them to like the name we ultimately chose. It actually helped seal the deal with our daughter. I told them a guilty pleasure name not expecting them to like it and both my parents and in-laws adored the name. If I’d kept it to myself my daughter would have ended up with a different name. (Her name is Nova) I thought it was way too unusual for them to like, but they all thought it was lovely so it made the name usable to me.
However, if I’d fallen in love with Nova first and absolutely knew it was The One, I would have been even more terrified to tell my parents. If they were neutral about the name or didn’t like it then I would have definitely changed it. It really matters to me what my parents and in-laws thinks. Luckily, my in-laws are very chill about names. They have some interestingly named grandkids and they always say it’s our choice and if we like it then that’s all that matters. My parents aren’t mean about it, but they will chime in if they think a name is too weird or generally unlikable in their opinion.
I guess it depends on your relationship. For me, it really mattered a lot that they liked the name we chose. I needed that strength if I was going to fall in love with a more unusual name. We also live very close to my family and see them ALL THE TIME, so I would not have been able to handle any backhanded insults or grimaces over the name we chose.
The big difference for us is that I was so uncertain about the name until she was born. We had a few we liked, but none were 100% until we met her so I didn’t feel as vulnerable revealing our name choices. Everything was flexible. But if you feel you absolutely love the name I would perhaps wait. It’s way more rude to say you dislike the name after the baby is born. Most will just keep their mouths shut. It might be for the best if you’re really worried. The name sage gave good advice.
on August 19th, 2015 at 1:15 pm
If it helps any, here’s my experience with a similar situation. When I was expecting my daughter I told my mother that she was to be named Calyssa Paige. Mom called a couple of days later to tell me that my dad HATED this name.
I didn’t want to offend, so I seriously considered naming my girl Beverly instead, but in the end, stuck with the plan and brought Calyssa Paige into the world. Fast forward to just a couple of months ago — my mom has since passed away — and I’m visiting with my dad, and we’re discussing my now tween-age daughter, who is in the next room. I confessed to my dad how badly I felt about giving her a name that he hates. He was stunned. He then assured me that a) my daughter’s name was none of his business and b) he couldn’t imagine my daughter bearing any other name than Calyssa because it suits her so well…and that certainly she is not a Beverly. I was GREATLY relieved!
on August 19th, 2015 at 1:49 pm
I had a rule with my husband that we weren’t going to tell anyone in advance for this very reason. Before the baby comes, they’ll feel free to offer their “helpful advice.” People are much more reluctant to criticize a real live baby’s name. Of course, my husband broke the rule (which caused some issues when his parents knew in advance and mine didn’t), but he eventually learned the hard way when someone insulted our son’s name. You can’t ever please everyone, so don’t even go there.
on August 19th, 2015 at 2:00 pm
Lawson Christopher is a stunning name (with the caveat that it does depend on your surname). I found this post hilarious, though, as I was born in ’85… had I been a boy, my name would have been Dustin Ryan. The #2 choice for my (girl) name? Crystal. LOL. Great analysis on this, Name Sage! It’s true, though. Our daughter’s name, Emili@na, is outside the top 1,000. We had many American friends (many from the Midwest and South), asking us why we didn’t just use her middle name, P@ri, as her 1st. There are still limits, but people are becoming a lot more flexible than they used to be.
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:14 pm
This is one of the reasons we always choose to keep our name choices a secret until the birth. It’s really no big deal; when people ask, just let them know that you’ll reveal the name once you reveal the birth!
Happens to be, my mother told me only once my oldest was about 2, that the first time she heard us announce the name (after the birth) she wasn’t so fond of it. She said it was a name she never really liked. But she quickly followed to say that now she absolutely loves it, and cannot imagine my daughter by any other name!
Sometimes it’s best to first get to know the child before taking a public, definitive stance on the name.
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:22 pm
Another vote for Lawson Christopher and for also asking relatives what their favorite names are without giving anything away. “Oh I hadn’t thought of Smith Jones. We can think on that.”
Lawson is a name on our family tree as a first and a surname, and Christopher has long been a favorite. A handsome name!
I have a popular first name and an odd middle because my mother just liked the way they sounded together, and she didn’t let anyone sway her, including an older sister who had put “dibs” on the first name, even though she had three boys!
on August 19th, 2015 at 7:55 pm
For feedback on the name you’ve chosen, I think Lawson Christopher is the perfect *fitting in/standing out* name – one of my favorite classifications. I like the flow, the slightly preppy appeal, as well as the roguish charm. It’s not weird by any means, not outdated, but it has classic elements. Good pick.
Sounds to me from your post that you aren’t SURE that your mom hates the name you’ve chosen, but you are expecting her to hate it based on her past comments and general state of being opinionated, yes? If so, she might surprise you with a positive reaction, in which case, awesome! Or, she might have not-so-nice things to say. I think that becomes harder when the name is announced after baby boy arrives (though, as the posters note, this isn’t always the case) – once baby boy is born, and we know granny with be smitten with him, she might be more likely to latch on – or at least passively accept – a name she wasn’t initially crazy about.
I vote for keeping the name to yourselves. (BTW – Abby’s right: if it feels like *him,* it’s The One.) But, I wouldn’t look at it as keeping the name FROM your mom. If you don’t want to provide her with the bland “We’re considering a few options,” which just opens the door for her to ask what those options are (which I’d suggest not getting into with mom), but you’re feeling inclined to give her a tidbit, you could share his initials with her. Or, you could save it all for the big birthday reveal! Simply saying, “Mom, we want to keep our son’s name to ourselves until he’s born so that everyone gets a little surprise on his birthday! It’ll be fun!” is a good option. Good luck!
on August 19th, 2015 at 9:21 pm
Lawson Christopher is a wonderful name!
I hope your mother doesn’t dislike it as much as you fear, but even if she does, really it’s a) not a huge surprise because of the generation gap and b) her problem, not yours.
I do know people whose parents have never come to terms with their grandchildrens’ names, even after a few years, and although it’s a bit of a disappointment for them, it’s in no way ruined the name for them, or made them love it any less. As long as your mother loves little Lawson, it doesn’t really matter if she doesn’t love the name Lawson.
on August 19th, 2015 at 10:03 pm
Lawson Christopher is a very handsome choice. 🙂
I think that if you are showing concern of your mother’s reaction to the name I would go ahead and just reveal if after baby is born. Even if she doesn’t like it then she is less likely to vocalize it once name is attached to baby.
In our family the only person we were concerned about giving their opinion was my DH’s grandmother. We did end up revealing it at the baby shower. However, GMIL never said anything about liking or disliking it, but my FIL had told her before the baby shower to keep her opinions about our child’s name to herself.
on August 19th, 2015 at 11:21 pm
My friend told me a great story about name disapproval. She always loved the name Jacob, in particular in reference to the Biblical Jacob. She had 3 kids but didn’t feel it was the right time to use the name. So, she became pregnant (with an IUD in place, no less!) with their 4th, and it was a boy, and she finally felt it was the right time to use her favorite name, Jacob. Well, her MIL hated the name. She thought it was too Jewish (!?!?!). She kept on giving them a hard time about it, especially about how Jewish it was, and he was a Christian baby and ought to have a good Christian name. My friend and her husband never relented – they never yelled or fought with her, but they stuck by using Jacob. So MIL changed course slightly and started demanding that they give the baby a ‘regular’ middle name. So my friend’s husband said they would – and it would be Moses! Hah! MIL left them alone after that. (Incidentally, his middle name isn’t Moses – but his first name is, indeed, Jacob.)
on August 19th, 2015 at 11:37 pm
I think Lawson sounds great!
My grandmother hated the names that my parents chose for me and my brother. She kept asking my mom how “Robin Spring” was while she was pregnant with me. (She named me Raven Winter.) I resent that a bit about my grandma (She wanted me to be Mary-Elizabeth..blegh.) I couldn’t imagine having another name. (Oh…and I was named before the show thats-so-Raven…so my mom didn’t get any influence from Raven S. btw.)
on August 20th, 2015 at 7:38 am
When I was pregnant, my dad and younger brother were giving me a hard time about my daughter’s name. Her name is Noemi Xochitl. They said I should give her a “real name”. My brother argued with me about Noemi being a real name. I knew they wouldn’t like Xochitl, so I ignored their comments about her never being able to spell it. They all love her now, and don’t say anything about her middle name anymore. (At least not in front of me). I know that if I have a boy next, I will hear the comments again because we are going to name him after my husband’s grandfather, Zenon. Before I knew the gender of my daughter, I announced that would be the name for a boy, and they had the same type of comments. I personally don’t want my kids to have names that a bunch of people have.
on August 20th, 2015 at 10:26 am
My mom says that while she was pregnant with me, her dad kept suggesting increasingly outlandish family names – like, Puritan names from waaaaaaaay back. His favorite was Mindwell. I think he was teasing her, but come to think of it, I don’t actually remember him calling me by name! He passed away when I was nine, and I only remember him calling me “Girl.” I don’t think he actually had a problem with my name – my middle name is my mom’s maiden name, so he was directly honored there – but it’s a funny coincidence.
on August 20th, 2015 at 3:18 pm
With both my kids names, we had family that really disliked our choices. I just flat out didn’t care. We loved them. If it was a name that was highly teaseable or embarrassing, that’s one thing. But, different styles were not going to sway us or make us change our minds. Just make it a fun guess the name game. You might be surprised at how happy she will be one little Lawson is born.
on August 20th, 2015 at 6:00 pm
I think it’s a great name!
When pregnant with my first son, we waited until the very end of the pregnancy to tell our parents the name we chose, Tyler Owen. A few days later I received a text from my MIL suggesting different middle names because she didn’t like the name Owen. Now I’m pregnant with baby boy #2 and I told my mom we had been tossing around the name Brady. She immediately began singing the Brady Bunch theme song. There really is no pleasing everyone, so pick what you like!
on August 20th, 2015 at 7:43 pm
Lawson Christopher is good name. I think it will be cute on a little kid and grow nicely with him.
I haven’t gone through that experience yet, but I had a family member who named their first son Jeb. We live in the southern United States, where that name is generally thought of a “redneck.” Needless to say, they didn’t get great reactions from the family. They wanted to use it because JEB were the initials of the mom’s father who had just passed.
Now that I’m older, I appreciate how she worked in the family connection with their son’s name, and I never heard another word about it after he was born.
on August 21st, 2015 at 2:41 am
LOVE the name Lawson! It’s such a strong, boyish name. It’s definitely true what they say about generational names. My 2 year old niece is named Piper and my parents had never heard if it before she was born. Now they love when people comment on what a great name it is. Grandparents just have no idea about the trends of the times!
Also, you shouldn’t reveal the name until he is born. Congratulations on a really great name choice!
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on August 24th, 2015 at 7:34 am
I prefer uncommon names as well. I don’t have kids, but I have plenty of names that I love. Avila and Nalani are my two favorite, but my mom said that Avila reminds her of olive oil and Nalani is impossible to remember. This hurt my spirit at first, but now I am back to loving whatever rare name I want. Most of my family would laugh at my love for Maureen, due to the fact that I discovered it through Rent. But guess what? Other people hating your name choices isn’t going to stop you from loving them, even if you deny it. Keep your head high and choose what YOU like. Mother doesn’t always know best 🙂
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on September 5th, 2015 at 6:29 pm
I don’t have kids yet, but of course I love names so I’ve told some to my mom and sisters. Some they don’t like (@krulci, I LOVE Vesper (they did not)). It hurts a little, but in reality I want a name I like not what they like. The more worrisome part for me is getting my partner on board too all the names I have picked haha! I mentioned Wolfgang to my boyfriend’s mom (my mom think it’s a cool name as she works in a nursery with a little Wolfie (short for Wolfgang). She pretty open to names thankfully, even if they aren’t her style. His mom thought Wolfgang was crazy, but I told her right there, that that was ok because her opinion wasn’t the most important. (I actually probably said it more rudely than I intended, hopefully she forgot about it). My only advice is to go with your gut and maybe mention a name of similar popularity standing or style to gage her reaction. If you’re really nervous, I’d wait. But if you’re feeling brave I would just let her know you’ve chosen a name, and you’re not changing it so you’d really appreciate a positive response. Regardless of what she says, you’ll have made the right choice, and I’m sure she’ll agree once she sees it on her grandbaby! Good luck! I love the name as I agree to what many people said, a great mix of classic, boy to man, handsome, but not too common name!
on September 6th, 2015 at 11:43 pm
As most people have said, it’s likely best to keep your names to yourself. We always knew we’d be using uncommon names, and really had no desire to have them bashed before we even got a chance to use them. Our oldest is Leonidas, and if people know the story of King Leonidas, they absolutely LOVE it, and think we’re super awesome for using it. But most people don’t know the history, and just think it’s a really weird name, or ask us “So… what do you call him?” to which we reply “Leonidas”. Our second, Theron, is most often mistaken as Aaron, and we also have close friends who still pronounce it entirely wrong, even though we make a point to enunciate it every time. Sigh.
But this is all part of it – my husbands parents told us to change Leonidas’ name the second we told them what it was, and my family made fun of it for months afterwards (“It sounds like a disease!”). But we don’t care. We think it’s a kick-a$$ name, and I can’t imagine him as anything else.
Stick with your guns – you’ll be glad you did 🙂
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