Gender Shock! What to do when nature foils your naming plans?
Remember Kristen, the mom who was suffering from Baby Name Desensitization Disorder and just couldn’t settle on a name for the little brother she was expecting for Colette and Weston? Well, her problem turned out not to be BNDD or even Boy Name Ambivalence but something much more dramatic. We’ll let her tell the story:
With four weeks left till my due date, my midwife sent me for a series of ultrasounds. The baby is very healthy, but there is one detail that now has my head spinning, eyes crossing, and hair standing on end. During the ultrasound they informed us we were having a GIRL! Yes, a girl! A GIRL!
We are thrilled and excited and can’t wait to meet this little girl who has played an awesome practical joke on us! Man, she will fit into this family just great! But after years of ignoring all things having to do with girls’ names, Jeff and I have no clue where to start.
What is popular? What is trendy? What is classy? What is just weird? What is wayyy overused? Right now we are calling her lil Shocka Khan, Shocka for short, but hopefully we can replace that soon!
We are looking for a name that has a good meaning. Maybe that means “SURPRISE”! We want it to be very gender specific so on Christmas cards it doesn’t look like Colette has two little brothers, or maybe a little brother and a dog. We also like two syllable names that can be shortened. We call Colette Coco and Coley (as in Colel-ee) and Weston Wes. Any suggestion is so appreciated! All the support and suggestions we got for our little “boy” were so helpful! I feel kind of like I am greedily double dipping but I think all you Berries love a name challenge and are all so gifted in this area!
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Lori Johnson Said
on April 3rd, 2012 at 11:45 pm
What delightful news. Sharing your joy!
My recommendation is …
Annick [and] Colette [and] Weston
… a French name like Colette with a style and syllable count complementary to both Colette and Weston.
on April 4th, 2012 at 12:24 am
The first thing that came to mind for me:Clementine/Clementina . Tina, Coco and Wes sounds darling! Katrina, Colette and Weston sounds good on a family picture. But I’m sure little Shocka would be glad to have an interesting name. 😉
Also: Sophie (although Sophia is really popular, Sophie isn’t as), Faith, Athene sounds like a good mix into the sib-set. But anyways, good luck to your naming, your pickles and ice cream craving, and the baby herself! :3
on April 4th, 2012 at 1:21 am
Aw what a fun lil girlie you are going to add! Colette(Coco), Weston (Wes) and ?
Annora (Nora), Talitha (Talia/Talllie), Felicity (Flicka), Millicent (Millie or Penny), Juniper (Juno/Junie), Vivian (Vivie)
on April 4th, 2012 at 1:52 am
Colette is such a smart edgy name I think her sister needs the same pizzazz in her name.
Geraldine nn Dina
Tallulah nn Lulu
Romilly nn Milly
Epiphany nn Pip
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:25 am
Caprice – means unpredictable, could be Capri for short.
Kim W Said
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:27 am
Congratulations! With Colette and Weston, the first names I thought of were Louise nn Lulu or Lula and Edith nn Edie.
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:34 am
My first thought was Colette, Weston and Eloise.
Congratulations and good luck! 🙂
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:54 am
I love Kim’s suggestions of Louise, nn Lulu, and Edith, nn Edie. Oh, and Blythe is great, so is Margot, or Eloise, nn Lola …
Avalon – does that fail the pet test?
What a surprise – congratulations!
on April 4th, 2012 at 6:03 am
My first thought was Celia. Same intial as Colette, but a different sound. And I love the meaning – heavenly.
on April 4th, 2012 at 6:35 am
I think your childrens’ names are lovely.
With a siter named Colette, I would name a little girl Adele, Celeste, Estelle, Giselle, Sandrine, Camille or Joelle….all with a little French flair, but easily pronounceable in English…like Colette!
Good luck and congratulations!
on April 4th, 2012 at 6:46 am
I love the suggestion of Clementine nn Em and Talullah nn Lulu
I think Margaux sounds perfect with Colette and Weston. Margaux means Pearl BTW.
Names that mean surprise:
on April 4th, 2012 at 7:26 am
I love how Colette and Weston fit perfectly together, but are still completely unexpected.
I would add:
on April 4th, 2012 at 7:28 am
Oh this was such a relief to wake up to and already see so many suggestions!!! I can hear angels singing HALLELUJAH! I felt all alone on the baby naming battle front and the cavalry has arrived! My husband and I were somewhere on the same path with boys names and now with girls names we find ourselves going completely different directions!
ClaireElise I like the sound of Estelle with Colette and Weston. They all have a strong T sound in them that brings it all together. I am trying to come across girls names with either a strong T or O sound that my other two have in them. (something that came from very insightful berries while helping me name my..err…son) I am finding it a difficult though.Plus I also like Elise! 🙂 Both age well and have great nick name possibilities.
Rollo I also like your suggestions of Tallulah nn Lulu (loooove Lulu!) and Romilly nn Milly. I also like Margot (my middle name is a family name of Margaret) My husband hates it! He thinks its sounds like Large Marge the truck driver from a PeeWee Herman movie. He can veto it though cus I will veto his Rylee! That does not pass the pet test! We have several friends that named their dogs that! Its a cute name but they ruined it for me. My husband also really likes Cameron…
I also like the name Macy but for the life of me cant find a more formal name.
She is our little Trixie Belle right now and my daughter calls her Mingo as in Flamingo “cus flamingos are pink and girls like pink”. It is sad, desperate, exciting times over here for sure!
Mrs. Vandertramp Said
on April 4th, 2012 at 7:41 am
Macy could be a nickname for anything you like! How about Michelle, Maria, Marcielle, Marilla, Maxine, Miriam, Micheline, Maeve? I think Maeve is especially lovely but Macy would be a very cute nn.
It’s smart of you to want to use such a sweet name, but also give her a formal, “grown-up” name so she could be a lawyer or professor or something with a more serious name.
on April 4th, 2012 at 8:09 am
How about Beatrix? Then she can still be your Trixie Belle.
I know an adult Macy (just Macy) and I think it can stand on its own.
on April 4th, 2012 at 8:27 am
I also thought of Beatrix so she can still be your little Trixie!
Also love the suggestion of Romilly and Estelle is stunning paired with Colette and Weston. Love that her nn could be Essie. Other suggestions:
Cleo (either by herself or a nn for Cleonie)
Ottillie nn Tilly
Hazel nn Haze
Lilias nn Lily
Meredith nn Macy (a stretch but cute nonetheless)
Tabitha nn Bit or Tabby
August nn Auggie
Hattie (as nn for Harriet)
Philippa nn Pippa
Lucia or Lucy
on April 4th, 2012 at 8:30 am
I suggest this name all the time, haha, but how about Teodora? I love the possible nicknames Tea (tay-a) and Dora.
I also like the suggestion of Estelle. And Elise has been one of my favorite names for a while.
Good luck to you both!
on April 4th, 2012 at 9:52 am
Colette, Weston, &_____
Vivienne (Viv, Vivie)
Cecelia (Celia, Celie, Cece)
Rose/Rosa (Ro, Rosie)
Evelyn (Evie, Eve)
Violet (Vi, Vy)
Matilda (Milly, Tilly, Tilda)
Penelope (Penny, Nell, Poppy)
Miriam (Mira, Mimi)
on April 4th, 2012 at 9:52 am
Badara means “to take by surprise” (I like the nickname Dara).
Raziah means, “the lord’s secret” and could be a Razzie.
Holde means hidden.
Cherith is the river bed Elijah hid in and makes a nice name. Evangeline means “good news.”
on April 4th, 2012 at 9:54 am
“I am trying to come across girls names with either a strong T or O sound that my other two have in them.”
What about Odette? nn Ettie or Dot
on April 4th, 2012 at 10:05 am
Beatrix or Bellatrix both sound great with Colette and Weston. They are different in heritage but similar in sound. I prefer this approach to going with another french name that leaves Weston out.
on April 4th, 2012 at 10:30 am
I have to also recommend Beatrix so you can keep the “trixie bell” nickname. It means “blessed;she who brings happiness” so I think it fits perfect.
Estelle also sounds amazing with your kiddos names….love “Essie” and “Essa”.
on April 4th, 2012 at 10:52 am
I love Beatrix Belle, nn Trixie, since she is a bit of a “trickster”! I think it fits the bill perfectly! Aside from that, I love Frances, nn Francie. Good luck!
on April 4th, 2012 at 11:20 am
Beatrix also has the hard t- love it with Colette and Weston!
Eloise (Lulu) is cute.
Genvieve (nn Eve)
I too am having a hard time with a baby girl name, but I love the names above and wish I could use them!
Alexia Mae Said
on April 4th, 2012 at 11:22 am
Story would be beautiful! She certainly started out with a pretty neat story!
I think Colette, Weston and Story sound fabulous together.
on April 4th, 2012 at 11:31 am
Girl names that I like:
on April 4th, 2012 at 11:36 am
What a surprise! My favorite girls name right now would go well with her big bro and sis: Maud.
Colette, Weston and Maud
love it! Good luck to you!
on April 4th, 2012 at 12:10 pm
Sorry, misspelled Genevieve above!
on April 4th, 2012 at 1:36 pm
Well, I will add my support to Estelle, which is a lovely name with great nn options and goes so well with Colette and Weston! I love that it shares the “l” sound and that it would allow all three names to begin and end with different sounds.
Some other options….
Victoria- more than 2 syllables, but shares a meaning with Colette.
Catriona/Caitriona- silent O, but has the t sound.
on April 4th, 2012 at 1:57 pm
Nova Verity = New Truth
on April 4th, 2012 at 2:23 pm
One more 🙂
I was looking for something that means serendipity, “happy accident,” but had no luck… Then I thought, well… what about Serendipity? It’s a mouthful, and unusual, but you could NN her Sera, Seri, Seren, Serendy…
That with a one syllable MN like:
Liv, Kate or Claire…
Sera Claire or Seri Kate…? Pretty cute.
on April 4th, 2012 at 2:32 pm
Estelle is a nice suggestion for you…Esti is a cute nn option. Oh, and I also quite like Talullah (nn Lulu) for you as well. I’d avoid using another C or W name.
Frances (Frannie, Francie)
on April 4th, 2012 at 2:43 pm
I also vote for Beatrix because I love it when a name or nickname presents itself so strongly before the baby is born – Trixie Belle! It’s like the baby is naming herself!I also thought of Tess, but is rhymes with Wes, so, no good. I also love Sylvie, the French version of Sylvia. Good luck, and let us know what you decide!
on April 4th, 2012 at 3:31 pm
i’m really liking the names Larken, Monroe, Analise, Kragan, Briley and Bonnie right now.
on April 4th, 2012 at 3:52 pm
My first thought was Tallulah, and I see that others had the same thought! Great minds…. But I have a Beatrix, so I clearly like other commenters’ suggestions of that, too. It’s a bit harsher in terms of the sound to it than either Colette or Weston, but I think it still works. And a Beatrix Isobel could easily become Trixie Belle as a nickname. I am still very drawn to Tallulah for you, though. Loki is a trickster Norse god if you wanted a middle name to keep with your surprise theme.
on April 4th, 2012 at 4:14 pm
I gotta tell you I have been saying Estelle all day long! It sounds so good with my others. It has the Est from Weston, the T from both and the L from Colette plus the girlish vintage vibe from Colette without being too matchy matchy (i.m.o). My husband loves it too. So many nicknames! God bless Nameberry! It seems so obvious why didnt I see it!
There are so many names I like, Tallulah, Larken, Clementine, Beatrix, Elouise, Story,Trixie Belle (she will always be my Trixie!) etc…But there is no denying that Estelle just looks and sounds so good with the rest!
Really gotta tell you I am pretty excited!
on April 4th, 2012 at 4:16 pm
I love the suggestions of Estelle,Tallulah,Beatrix,and Loki
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:05 pm
I love Estelle – it’s my daughter’s middle name.
Also want to suggest (some repeats):
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:21 pm
I think Millicent and Felicity work well and have your T. Using that info I will also suggest;
Mattea nn Tea
Elodie nn Ellie
To go of your dh’s like of Cameron what about Camilla nn Cam or Mila?
on April 4th, 2012 at 5:57 pm
What about Mattea Orchid? Lovely, rarely used flower name in the middle, starts with O, nn of Tea (Taya).
on April 4th, 2012 at 7:21 pm
Katarina is lovely name, rarely used. Nicknames: Rina, Kat
Crystal is very pretty also.
Nicknames: Crys, Crissie
Roxie, Rox, Anne, Annie
I’m sure whatever you choose will be beautiful for your lovely little girl! 🙂
on April 4th, 2012 at 7:48 pm
Reading that you have been calling her “Shocka” made me think of the name Electra. The Italian variation is Elettra.
I also like EnvyC11’s suggestion of Nova.
on April 4th, 2012 at 9:15 pm
What a surprise!! Congrats!
Amorette (nn Amie/Rettie) is a French name meaning little love
Astoria (nn Stori) has the o & t that can link the names together
Leontine (nn Leo/Leonie) has the o & t
Aventine (nn Avie)
Valorie (nn Val)
From the above suggestions I also love Beatrix & Blythe
on April 5th, 2012 at 12:09 am
on April 5th, 2012 at 5:05 am
A friend of mine has a little girl called Charlotte, but her nickname is Chachi (as in Joni Loves). It’s incredibly cute and the kid has a hell of a lot of character. But Chachi could be nn for a number of other names with similar sounds!
Kim W Said
on April 5th, 2012 at 5:22 am
Estelle is absolute perfection with Colette and Weston!
on April 5th, 2012 at 7:11 am
My mom was writing Estelle with the rest of my kids names and its incredible! Estelle ends in telle and Colette ends in lette and Weston and Estelle both have Est in them!WOW!They all sound so well together without being too matchy matchy tounge twistery. Its hard cus so many girls names I am drawn to end in T but that leaves Weston out and then its hard to yell their names all together. If i were to ever find myself in a situation that called for that:)
The only thing is it too old lady? Is it modern enough? Is old lady the new modern? I woke up and couldnt decide. Is Estelle better than Stella or Estella? Estella seems like a character from Fairytopia and well…we live in Cleveland. There is a stark difference?
Keep the girls names with T coming! There is gold in them there hills!
Also noticed Bellamy mentioned which is stunning and Jeff said he liked Margot!
on April 5th, 2012 at 11:32 am
If you like French names, I immediately thought of Eloise – I think it sounds nice with Colette and Weston, and it can give you some cute nicknames, like Elle/Ella/Ellie.
What about Esther? That is a nice, modern but classic name, that sounds nice with Collete and Weston. It is sort of like Estelle but less “fairytopia”.
Also just names that start with “T”: Tabetha,Teresa (Tess/Tessa for short), Thalia, etc.
on April 5th, 2012 at 2:33 pm
I personally prefer Estella to Estelle. It seems more current to me. If you go with Estella you could use Stella or Ella as a nickname too. Other names based on this baby being a surprise gift….
Isadora–variation of gift in Latin, nn Sadie
Theodora–God’s gift, nn Thea, Dora, Teddy
on April 5th, 2012 at 4:58 pm
OOOO I came across Leighton in my searching for girls names with T in them. Leighton Elizabeth (after my sister and aunt). Does it match Colette? Is it too close to Weston?
on April 5th, 2012 at 6:11 pm
Colette is so pretty and uncommon, but Weston is more on the up and coming list. So, are you searching for a happy medium?
Chantal, Cressida, Cordelia, Cora, Jessamine, Imogen, Penelope, Phillipa, Pippa, Beatrice, Clarice, Celine, Sabine, Sabella, Annalee, Junia, Lark, Ivy, Nora
on April 5th, 2012 at 6:20 pm
After reading all the responses I would like to add:
Marcella could have the nn Macy
Estelle is lovely, but for some reason I can see kids calling Estelle and Weston, Essie and Wessie.
on April 5th, 2012 at 10:08 pm
I noticed you have had suggestions for Margaret, Margot, and Margeaux… I love keeping it to myself, but Marguerite is in the same family, is a french variation (related to Pearl and Daisy), and has nn Greta (among others).
… I think it’s 1 syllable to many for you upon rereading your desired critera.
Congrats and good luck!
on April 6th, 2012 at 7:19 am
So after reading everyones suggestions this is our list we have. Our two favorite are on top. I fell in love with Leighton and thought it was very feminine but am now discovering its a boys name! Maybe its the spelling but it looks so girly to me. The L in Colette and Leighton sound beautiful together and then the T brings them all together. I think Leighton Elizabeth and Colette Catherine sound great together.
Estelle n.n Elle/Ellie/Stella
Leighton n.n Lele/Lulu
Eloise n.n Elle/Ellie/Lulu
Margot n.n Maggie/Maisy
Bellamy n.n Bell/Ella/Mimi
Romilly n.n Millie
Cameron n.n Cam
Rosalie n.n Rosie/Lele
Marcella n.n Marcy/Ella
on April 6th, 2012 at 8:06 am
Oh and Lola 🙂
on April 6th, 2012 at 12:18 pm
Another one I thought of with T in the name:
Bettina! It’s on my list since I love Bets as a nick name
on April 7th, 2012 at 11:08 pm
I think either Estelle/Elle or Bettina/Betty would be super cute!
on April 10th, 2012 at 7:36 am
Well I am in for a world of hurt! I can not find a name I like for more than half of a day! This is awful! I am totally setting myself up for a harsh case of post partum baby name regret! Why is this so excruciating and diffucult! What is wrong. I have had great suggestions but I just cant commit to any of them. Im just going to name her Mrs. Buttersworth or something else equally awful and try to move on.
Maybe its cus I am still in shock that I am having a girl. Maybe when I see her it will all fall into place and years from now I will laugh about all this. Maybe. Is that name Maybe?
on April 11th, 2012 at 11:10 am
Emmaline or Emmalyn??
on April 11th, 2012 at 11:19 am
on April 16th, 2012 at 6:35 pm
I think Collette, Weston and Noelle would be beautiful! Or Colette, Weston and Brielle. Colette and Noelle flow together! So does Colette and Brielle!
on April 18th, 2012 at 2:43 am
I have a friend with a daughter named Leighton- it’s a very feminine sounding name, and she definitely personifies that. 🙂
I’m in the same position you were before… Expecting my 3rd baby (my first delivery surprise) and while I was so emphatically in love with my daughter’s name (Auden Harlowe) and son’s name (Asher Jack), I’m stumped with this baby’s name and feeling underwhelmed with my potential boy options (girl, I’m good).. 100% will not name with an “A”- we needed to name for someone when I named Auden, and fell in love with Asher along the search for her name (before I knew what I was having), so it seemed fitting when I discovered it was a boy my second pregnancy. Hoping the name just comes to me. 🙂
Good luck in your search!!!
on April 23rd, 2012 at 11:37 pm
Leighton Meester is a very popular actress (Gossip Girl), if that helps at all :3
I think Beatrix and Estelle are both wonderful names that fit in perfectly with your family. However, if you’re not loving them, maybe keep them in your pocket and forget about them?
Maybe she’ll surprise you again, and come out screaming her own name. Or, maybe, inspiration will just strike you. But we’ll be here until then 😉
on May 4th, 2012 at 7:29 am
uhm i may be a bit late but ive always liked the sound of jacinth.
on May 15th, 2012 at 9:09 pm
I would say Abrielle since that’s my name. Or maybe just Aubrey ok here are some more suggestions.
I personally like Addeline ( add uh Lynn)
Brooke or Brooklyn are also ones I like
Lara ( lair uh) Lucy or Luna too
Well those are all my suggestions hope I helped!
on May 21st, 2012 at 4:35 am
I liked the suggestion of Estelle as it matches so beautifully. The nn Essie is cute too.
on May 25th, 2012 at 9:52 am
Well we did it! We managed to name our third! I was seriously starting to wonder if it was possible!
I’t wasn’t like fireworks feeling and it didn’t take my breathe away the first time I saw the name. I remember seeing it on a post here on girls names that have been on the social security top 1,000 names list since they first started recording it. I was surprised cus I personally don’t know one person …or dog…with the name. Then I saw Pam mention it in a reply about the top names for 2012. Also a member who posted a suggestion for me shared the name. Then it starting to move up on our lists because of the way everyone loved it so much or knew a beautiful and smart girl with the name. Then before you know it I was excited about it, Jeff was excited about it and slowly but surely we fell as much in love with the name as we did with our new daughter!
Elise Elaine Hunger.
The middle name is a family name. It’s my sisters name and that I was %100 sure about. I pray my daughters are close as my sister and I. That they are always are there for each other, supporting each other, learning from each other. I know that what my sister and I have isn’t always the case with sisters but my life has been so full and enriched having her be a part of it. Plus I’m a fan of alliteration (which I know some aren’t) and a family name in the middle.
I love the sound is Colette, Weston and Elise. They all are individual names but share certain sounds that make it flow well.
We did love Estelle but I couldn’t get past it being George from Seinfeld’s mothers name. She is hilarious and crazy!
Anyway I could go on and on with every little detail of how this baby naming adventure, with all it’s twist and turns unfolded. But mostly I wanted to update you all and thank you for all your suggestions and support and let you know the happy ending, or rather the happy new beginning :)!
on June 25th, 2012 at 6:48 pm
I love Juliette. Colette, Weston, and Juliette work well. Monique is very unique and underused, and I met a little girl named Vivian last week and she was adorable. Lisette is also adorable as the french version of Elizabeth. I also like Corinne.
on July 12th, 2012 at 8:09 pm
What about something like Jubilee (JuJu,Bee, BeLe)to note your joyous suprise? Other suggestions are:
Varielle (Ellie) means change
Lesley (Les) means Joy
Brinsley (Brin, Lee)
on August 19th, 2012 at 3:01 pm
Melissa-Milly ,Millie,Mel,Lissa and Lissy/Lissie
on September 29th, 2012 at 6:50 pm
on December 2nd, 2012 at 5:36 am
Colette and Weston both have Ts in them, so I recommend Charlotte. Also Coco, Wes and Lotty are so sweet together!
on February 8th, 2013 at 2:10 pm
Colette, Weston and Elise are lovely!
on February 16th, 2013 at 12:11 am
I know its silly but I’ve always loved my name, which is Keelyn. Meaning beautiful and slender. Just saying
on June 9th, 2014 at 11:02 pm
Awesome! A little girl! Congratulations! So it seems you want a 2 syllable name that can be shortened to one or something darling and cute and that in and of itself is classy and not too common. Let’s see…
You’ve got :
Collette & Weston …if I’m remembering right
Were liking Calvin which leads me to think you don’t mind repeating first or last letters of names or perhaps you would like to find something like that that pulls it all together?
Catherine ‘Cat or Cate or Catie’
Daily or Daylee
Joanne ( this one I like for you guys for some reason I could see CoCo, Wes & JoJo running around playing 😉 I like it)
Jensen ( boyish but Jen is a nice girly nickname and this feels girly to me)
Katherine ( this I think is my second favorite for you guys ~ Kat)
Olive ( like this)
Ok so yea you aren’t going to like most of these probably but I wanted to put down every name that pooped into my head after reading your question, maybe you’ll find something 🙂 good luck !
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