Cross-gender namesakes: Did you, would you, can you?
Let’s say right up front that we don’t advise naming your daughter Davette to honor Grandpa Dave, or any of the other similarly awkward cross-gender namesake names.
So how do you, did you, can you best choose a name for your baby that honors a relative or friend or hero of the opposite gender?
Some parents simply use the name, as Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard did when they named their daughter Lincoln or several celebrities recently have in giving their daughters the middle name James. But this cross-gender appropriation happens most often when giving male names to girls, which may be inherently sexist — though even the most feminist parent may stop short of naming a son Mary or Patricia, even in the middle place.
So what do you do then, use the name Patrick? Or choose a name that’s more conventionally gender-identified that starts with the same first letter? Or maybe appropriate Grandma Mary‘s maiden name as a first?
There are all kinds of ways of approaches and beliefs on this subject, and we’d like to hear yours.
Did you name your child after a loved one or hero of the opposite gender? Did you use the exact name or vary it somehow?
And if you haven’t actually done it, would you, how and why or why not?
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on December 3rd, 2014 at 12:12 am
I would NOT name the girl Howard or the boy Esmeralda. Or a girl Howa and a boy Esmeraldo.
In my lifelong fantasies of having 25 kids to name (!), I’ve chosen a number of honoring names, mostly as middles, but I notice that it’s only been names I like as is.
Male names in my family I would have named males: Robert, Gordon. Roland, Lowell, Newel, Peter.
Female names in my family I would have named females: Sandra, Marjorie, Marion, Martha, Ada, Birdie, Mabel.
I loved my grandfather, but his name, Baron Adolphus, does not seem usable to me for either/any gender! 🙂 If I wanted to honor him, I would choose one of his brother’s names I like better or his wife’s, my grandmother’s.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 12:37 am
I plan on naming my first child after my maternal grandparents by using different variations of their first names for a boy and variations of their middle names for a girl.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 5:22 am
I once read about twin girls named Carlisle ‘Carly’ and Lowell ‘Ellie’. Despite not being much of a unisex name fan, I really loved this set. Both girls were named after their great-grandfathers, I believe.
I’m planning to use honor names in the middle spot for my future children, and some of the names have been tweaked to suit the respective genders. Examples: Marius (Marie), Kristiane (Kristian), Fredrik (Fredrikke), Oktavio (Oktavia), Elliott (Eline). When it comes to using the whole name itself (i.e. Kristian on a girl) it’s something I would never do unless it was a 100 % unisex name or a family surname.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 5:34 am
I would really like honor my dad some way, but his name is completely un-feminizable. As a compromise, I’ll either look for a shared meaning, or a name that starts with the same letter and has the same number of syllables or letters. My mom’s name is a feminization, so that wouldn’t be hard.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 7:33 am
I have thought of this often. I think namesakes can vary in presentation. For example, My father’s name is Michael and so the obvious gender variation is Michaela. But I think I would be more likely to give my daughter the nn “posy” as my father is an avid gardener who refuses to learn the names of flowers and calls them all “posy”.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 7:35 am
When it comes to naming a child after someone else, I wouldn’t use the exact same name whether there was gender switch or not. For example, I plan on naming my first child after my uncle Arthur, so for a boy I’d choose Aaron and for a girl I’d choose Ariana.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 7:45 am
I am one. My parents named me for a man named Addison, except I was called Madison, at that year more feminine. So, yes, it can work, with slight alterations, but pick a less popular name, prospective parents! I’m sick of being Madison S, frankly.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 8:26 am
I have a cross gender honor name, my dad is Carl and I’m Carly. I honestly never thought much of it, except my husband thinks its kind of funny and likes to tease by saying “we should name are son Carlyson” or some other crazy varient of my name.
We don’t have children but I would love to use a cross gender middle name to honor our dads for a daughter (being that our top girl name, Jane honors our moms– Joanne and Lorraine). I like Carys or Cosima to honor Carl & Thomas. I would also use Augusta on a girl (probably for a mn) which honors three generations of August’s on my husbands side (it is also his mn).
on December 3rd, 2014 at 8:57 am
i wanted to honour my sister with my son’s middle name. her name is ashleigh, often called ash, so we gave him the middle name asher. i love that he is named after his aunt. also, my uncle, stuart, is actually named after his grandmother, who’s first name was stuart. i have a friend named allison who is named after her father, who is also an allison. i think it’s a quirky tradition and one i fully support (as long as it doesn’t involve made-up names!).
on December 3rd, 2014 at 9:25 am
Well, we were lucky that my maiden name is also a first name in Italy (Gioia), so we simply used it as a middle name for DD – to honor my family. However, we are fully planning to use names that honor for our future children. We simply will choose a combo that contains one honoring name and one name we love for siblings #2, #3 etc. . .
We have Eden and Edith set up to honor an Edward
Marion to honor a Mario
Franklin to honor a Francesca
Charla or Leslie to honor a Charles
Hollis to honor a Holly
Roberta or Robin to honor a Roberto
Felix for Felicia, Josepha for Joseph, etc…
on December 3rd, 2014 at 9:27 am
I’m heartened to see that people are considering naming their sons to honor female relatives! It strikes me as rather bizarre that this blog post didn’t mention the obvious, sexist truth: that girls are named to honor men all the time. The reverse is rare — and that’s a problem. If you name your daughter Lincoln to honor the President, what possible justification is there for not naming your son Abigail (as in Abigail Adams) or Betsy (as in Ross)? If it’s acceptable to name girls Lowell and Carlisle after their grandfathers, why not name their brothers Donna and Ruth? If you would name a girl to honor a man but not the reverse, ask yourself why.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 9:57 am
It is Jewish tradition that honor names use the same letter as the name of the person being honored. In that case, it is really easy to use opposite-gender honoring. For example, my brother in law’s middle name is Elliot, after his great-grandmother Esther. We plan to do something similar for our children, maybe even using both first and middle as honor names. 🙂
on December 3rd, 2014 at 10:18 am
My daughter is Caitlin Louisa after my great-grandmothers, Sofie-Katarine and Maria Luise. However, my great-grandmother Louisa (after she Americanised her name) was named after her father Louis, and named her older son Louis. So the Louis/Louisa combination has been through several generations.
My son is Thomas after my grandfather, whom my son never met.
In my family we use surnames as the way to honour a relative — My sister is Victoria Brewster, and I have two cousins who are Robert Brewster and Francesca Brewster; my niece is Cassandra Hammett. Brewster is my mother’s maiden name and honours my grandparents and great-grandfather, the sculptor George Brewster; Hammett was my father’s mother’s maiden name.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 10:34 am
As previously stated, I would/will not give my children cross gender or “unisex” names. A boy will have a boy name and a girl will have a girl name.
For boys, in honour of female relatives, I would use their maiden name or a masculine name that is of similar sound/meaning/origin as theirs.
For a girl, I would choose a name with a similar look/feel to the man I am honouring, or just choose a feminization I like and put it in one of the middle places.
Some honour names I have on my list:
Bayleigh, Hawthorne, Creighton, Wiley, and Walker (for boys, maiden names)
Eugene or Eugenia (there are several Eugene/Eugenia’s on both sides of my family tree)
Wilhelmina, Georgiana, Alessandra, Alaina, & Clarice (feminizations)
on December 3rd, 2014 at 11:01 am
I plan to possibly use Aden as a mn for a boy since it’s an anagram of my grandmother’s name, Edna (and I like it better than Dean!)
Personally I’m fine with unisex honor names but opposed to James on a girl etc unless you’re also going to name your son Amy.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 11:02 am
My son is Liam Anthony. Liam after my great-grandfather William and Anthony after my son’s father’s mn.
When my hubby and I have kids they will be:
Patrick Robert (after my mother Patrice and my fil Robert)
Micah Jude (I’m Marisa and hubby is Justin)
Kathryn Rose or Rose Kathryn (after grandmothers and great-grandmothers and my mn)
Viviane Claire (after our grandmothers)
we also love Aria Joy (Joy for mil Joyce)
on December 3rd, 2014 at 11:28 am
I’m names Laura in part after my dad Lawrence. My baby boy’s middle is Lawrence after both of us (as a bonus it’s my husband’s and father in law’s middle name as well).
on December 3rd, 2014 at 11:51 am
How is it sexist to give a cross gender name? Maybe I misunderstood the article. I feel that forcing a child to conform to any gender is misguided. Right now I really love the french name Evre which is male. I would use it on a girl in a heartbeat. Names are just sounds, they only have gender attached because of constructed meaning we give them. I am a gender neutral parent, so my daughter has a female name; Ombeline but if she wants to do “boy” things I will be very supportive because I think gender should not be limiting.
I would want her to be treated exactly the same should she be named a male name or if she was born male. Our world isn’t quite so accepting a place but it will get there. Maybe accepting gender fluid names are a first step for some people.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 12:05 pm
I am a firm believer in keeping names easy to understand and gender specific. I have girlfriends named Jordan & Taylor…I don’t mind when others have unisex names, some are super fitting & fun, but I also know a woman named Kevin and I don’t think she enjoys it. She always says “Hi, I’m Kevin…yes like the boys name.” I know the pool is getting diluted but when I name my children…I prefer the name not to be something to explain & people will know my Jane is a girl and my Arthur is a lad.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 1:58 pm
Wow I leave for 5 minutes and there’s 19 comments! Lol
I would absolutely honor a man for my daughter and a woman for my son but it depends.
My grandpa’s name is John and my pastor’s name is John as well so for a girl I’d use Gianna for a girl. I don’t think I’d use John for a boy because it’s the most common name in America! Probably Johan, Giovanni, or even Jonah/Jonas (I know, unrelated but still great names!!!). My maternal grandpa’s name is Christopher but I’d use Christian for a boy OR a girl. I wouldn’t call a girl Christopher (people do that though, Ben Affleck’s mom’s name is Christopher!) but I wouldn’t use just Chrissy either. I don’t like Christine.
I’m not going to use my dad’s name so that’s out of the question but my mom wanted to name me Natasha because it sounds like his name. He wanted to name me Felicia *cringe!!* [for the record I don’t hate that name but anyone who has seen Friday knows the “bye Felicia!” quote]
If I was using a boy name for a girl I’d put it in the middle but sometimes that just doesn’t work. If I named after my uncle Greg I couldn’t do that for a girl.
And if I use a neutral first name like River for a girl, I wouldn’t want to use an clunky feminization like Roberta or Philippa.
I’m trying to figure out how I’d honor my mom! I can honor my gram by using her middle name. I’d probably have to use mother’s surname.
This feminism thing makes it hard sometimes! I believe in equality but also logic. I just can’t use Betty on a boy or Marcus for a girl ya know? But some names can bend the rules.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 2:33 pm
I don’t believe in using one’s children to make philosophical or political statements.
In an ideal world where no one is teased or bullied, I might considered naming a son Anna or Eliza to honor strong women in the family. In our world, I think that would be cruel. However, I would have no problem naming a son Andrew or Elliot and explaining to him that he was named after one of his great grandmother and why.
Likewise, I would not name a daughter Daniel or Michael or Joseph after honorable men in our family because I have no way of knowing when naming her if that would be something she would love or hate. Rather, I would go with Danielle or Michaela or Josephine and depending on her personality she could be Dani or Elle, Micki or Kayla, Joey or Fifi.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 3:43 pm
I honoured my dad (william) by naming my daughter Lia.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 4:21 pm
I absolutely adore Winston Churchill but don’t like how his name is associated with cigarettes in the states so I didn’t want to use it for a boy. However, I would use Clementine (his wife’s name) in a heartbeat because really, they are one of the greatest love stories ever and he wouldn’t have been Winston without her.
When I named my oldest daughter I was deciding between Miriam (my favorite girl name ever) and Marion (my grandfather’s middle name). I decided to go with Miriam but I’ve never considered it an honor name. For me, if it isn’t the exact name, it doesn’t feel like an honor name. However, I am fully aware that is just me and however other people honor their loved ones is perfectly perfect. There is no right or wrong way to express appreciation for someone’s affect on our life.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 5:04 pm
Personally, I would probably only use an honour name in the middle name spot. In that context I would use feminine names on a girl/masculine names on a boy, or if none would easily work, I’d use a surname on any child. For example, if I wanted to honour an Uncle James whose surname was Tucker, I’d use James as a boy’s middle name or Tucker as a girl’s middle name. I would definitely consider using feminized or masculinized versions of names that lent themselves well (and that I at least liked OK) – Christina for a girl to honour a Christopher, or Louis for a boy to honour a Louisa. I would not, however, give a girl the middle name Edward or a boy the middle name Jessica. Aesthetic preferences aside, I feel like it would be an administrative headache and something they/I would have to explain so often that the disadvantages would outweigh the advantages.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 6:01 pm
My son’s middle name is Nicolas, after my sister Nicole. I would have used Nicole as a girls middle name but when I had my son I decided not to wait and just alter it to the masculine version.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 6:41 pm
I’m tired to see people doing whatever they want with names 🙁 ! In a lot of countries, objects and animals have a gender. Do you think they can they switch? No! Because it’s the language. Names are a part of our language, names are words in another language. Names have meanings, origins, stories and therefore in most of cases a gender.
For example, Eli is a man in the Bible. It has a strong masculine story and origin since a very long time. Elliott, Elias or Elijah come from the name Eli. They are all masculine variations and these names appeared masculine EVERYWHERE in the world (there is a reason!). They are wrong and weird on girls. Another example. Dresses became popular for women, women wear dresses. What about a man wearing a dress! Is that weird? Yes it is. (I could have used make up or heels).
I don’t understand parents, I’m sorry. A first name is so important! It’s not funny when people tease you, it’s not funny to justify her/his sexual identity every day, it’s pointless, it’s not very serious when you want to get a job and it’s disrespectful for the names’ origin and tradition.
Our society, etymologists, linguists and other persons put rules and defined genders. We have rules for everything because it’s important. We do have differences between men and women even if we are equal. A man will never have a vagina and a woman will never have a penis.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 6:44 pm
I plan on using family middles for all my (future) kids, so yes, I would. I wouldn’t use the exact name in most cases unless it’s already unisex (i.e. my mom is named Lynn, which is an accepted but uncommon boys’ name). And I want 4 children, so I would most likely use male-honoring names on sons and female-honoring names on daughters, unless it was my last kid and I still hadn’t honored Grandpa Donald, for example. Then I’d probably go with Donna or Paulette/Pauline/Paula in the middle since his middle is Paul. Or Jude for a boy to honor my grandma Judith. But I wouldn’t just name my daughter Donald or my son Judith.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 6:49 pm
I don’t have any problems with honoring people, though. My grandpa’s name is Louis and I could name my daughter Louise.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 7:40 pm
Does anyone remember that one episode of Andy Griffith where they name the baby Andylina to honor Andy? I love that they ignored the totally normal Andrea option.
I really love names like Bernadette and Jamesina. I don’t see anything anti-feminist about using those. Why is the masculine form the only legitimate one? Also, what if I am honoring grandma Bernadette?
If you are going to name your daughter Bernard or James, just please be prepared for people to assume that your baby is a boy and don’t be offended.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 9:14 pm
The only ones I can think of to use are Jane in place of John…we have SO many Johns in our family. I also really like Josephine to honor my grandfather’s middle name of Joseph. I think those are great choices. Also, I have two brothers that are named after Texas towns/counties so if we had a girl to honor them I would pick a girl Texas town. Example: Magnolia is a town in Texas very close to us.
on December 3rd, 2014 at 11:58 pm
The only people I’d consider naming my kids after who I don’t know personally just happen to be named Joseph and Josephine, so I’ve long-considered using Josephine (or another feminized/gender-neutral variation of Joseph) as a middle name.
on December 4th, 2014 at 12:10 am
@McCharlie Lots of women have penises, many men have vaginas, there’s more people who are intersex than natural redheads, and language isn’t static.
on December 4th, 2014 at 12:19 am
I am not going to get in on the debate.
However, there are some variations of names that I would use, my paternal grandfather’s name was Wray and my grandmother’s middle name is Lorraine so Raina is a top contender (mainly for it’s connection to my grandfather who passed away when I was ten.) Being of typical English heritage, we have loads of Williams and Johns in the family tree, I am now liking Willa; but I am not really the biggest fan of Jane. As well as some last names such as Merrett, Larkin, Whitney, Noon, Dempsey Gannon, Marshall and Logan. The only ones I’d really consider using would be Merrett, Larkin, Logan and Marshall. Logan and Marshall being especially masculine in my view (though Logan is being used on Southern girls these days.) But ultimately, if it has value to the family then it’s really no one else’s business what someone picks; in the case of Kristen Bell and Dax, they picked Lincoln because Dax loved the car and as she put it, “I let him win.” My male little cousin was also named after the Lincoln continental. No one does it to make life hard for their child or to be criticised though.
on December 4th, 2014 at 9:33 am
@McCharlie have you ever heard of transgender people? AKA, women who have a penis and men who have a vagina.
on December 4th, 2014 at 12:15 pm
As a rule I don’t really consider honour names as an option for me personally. I believe each child should be given their own unique name and so be able to develop their own identity. If I was forced in some bizarre circumstances to use “honour names” they would be the most distantly related names as in perhaps the same meaning or the same first letter. But even something as little as that I have an aversion to. I personally would not name a child male or female with a name of a relative if I didn’t like the name no matter how much I adored or admired the person.
As far as using traditionally male or female names on offspring of the opposite sex I don’t necessarily disagree with but within reason. I don’t care when others do it, I just don’t think I would choose to do it. Having said that there are some names that I wouldn’t altogether mind on the opposite sex including Jane on a male, or Elliot on a female.
on December 4th, 2014 at 2:05 pm
We have two genders (male and female) and our gender is defined a few weeks after the conception. Women who have a penis got a surgery. It’s not natural. Same for men with a vagina. And I’m okay with that, I mean, I don’t mind. I wanted to say that there is a difference between a person with a penis and a person with a vagina.
on December 4th, 2014 at 2:38 pm
A lot of my future choices include honor names. Some, I’ve changed based on preference and some that I’ve kept the same. I think as long as the name fits and it’s a name that you personally like, there shouldn’t be a problem. Besides, gender isn’t always black and white. I was given a very female identified first name, but I identify as male. Since my parents did not take that option into consideration, I’ve always held a deep resentment of my name. Saying girls should have girl names and boys should have boy names leaves a lot of people, like me, out of consideration.
Here are some of my honor names, to get back on a better topic of conversation.
For my girls list: Lena for my grandmother (though I’d call her Leni), Owen for my great-grandfather, and Kennedy, after my father’s love of Politics.
For boys: Alfie after my grandpa Alfred, Newton (News) for my love of Science, and Rory after my great-grandmother Rosemary.
on December 4th, 2014 at 6:47 pm
I might end up using Robyn as a middle for a girl because my Dad’s middle name is Robin but I’d probably only do that if I had two girls because I think my first daughter will be Jane in the middle to honour my Mum. Of course I am still a teenager so I may completely change my mind when I have children.
on December 4th, 2014 at 7:47 pm
First of all, after reading through all of the comments, I just want to say that it’s disrespectful to transgender people to call them “men with vaginas or women with penises”. I can speak because I identify as transgender myself. I don’t want to rant, I just wanted to inform you that it can be extremely harmful to people who fall into the category of being trans*. In short, your body doesn’t define who you are. I am who I am because I say I so. It isn’t a choice, just a fact.
Anyways, back on topic, if I was going to honor relatives, I would certainly honor relatives of opposite genders to the child receiving the name. Of course I wouldn’t name a boy Susan (my mom’s name) or a girl John (my stepdad). I would name a boy Dev, after my brother Devon or a girl Caroline after my grandma. I would use Ray (my grandpa’s name) as a girl’s middle name or Eli on a boy to honor my mom via her middle, Elizabeth. In general though, I don’t really like the idea of honoring people with my child’s name. I would rather give my son or daughter their own unique moniker.
on December 4th, 2014 at 7:53 pm
Wow. I am having a hard time staying out of the sex/gender discussion but… no, pass. I will say that it makes sense to choose a name that you love, and that you think your baby will love, and if to you that means that it will be recognized (and understood) within your family/social circle/community, whatever. We all have our criteria.
I’m not crazy about unisex names, maybe in part because of the sexism that obviously dictates what we consider appropriate for boys and girls, but also because they’re just not my favorite names. My feelings on honor names are mixed because I really can’t imagine choosing an honor name that I didn’t really really love on its own. I’m sure it would be nice if a name I already loved honored someone special- but that still means I’m really using a name I love and the honor part is the cherry on top.
on December 4th, 2014 at 10:40 pm
It depends on the name. I would love to use Jay or Jo as a middle for a future daughter, but there is no way I would consider Jason or Jackson, Matthew or Kevin. Likewise, I would not name my son Elizabeth or Ann, but I may consider Casey, Kelly, Lindsay, or Jess, if I wanted to honor one.
on December 5th, 2014 at 1:19 pm
I used the middle name Allen for my youngest daughter, as a tribute to my male cousin who died of brain cancer before his 30th birthday. The meaning to us means much more than the fact that Allen is typically a male name.
on December 5th, 2014 at 5:00 pm
please don’t say “opposite gender”
please don’t say “opposite gender”
please don’t say “opposite gender”
on December 5th, 2014 at 6:23 pm
I don’t think I would use honor names cross gender, except when I only have girls or only boys. This is because the people I’d possibly want to honor don’t have names that are easily used or adapted for the other gender, or I don’t like the possibilities. I would probably use my (grand)dad’s name for a boy and similar my (grand)mom’s for a girl. ‘
on December 6th, 2014 at 5:13 am
If we ever have a son his middle name will be James, it’s my husband’s middle name but also his dad’s middle and his Grandad’s first so it’s kind of honouring my hunsband’s family but hasn’t been chosen to honour anyone in particular. However, my mother’s maiden name is James so that’s one the the big reasons why I’d like to use the name as I’d really like to honour my grandparents.
For boy number 2, we have considered honouring his dad Jeremy but I would choose Jeremiah to honour him but my husband doesn’t understand that as it wasn’t his name so believes it doesn’t actually honour him.
For a girl I would love to use Elizabeth or Maude after my grandma Elizabeth Maude but my husband isn’t a fan of either and I just know it would cause uproar if I used her name and not my other grandmother’s.
I hadn’t considered naming a son after a female relative or a daughter after a male. I’d perhaps consider using Angarad to honour my grandad Angus.
on December 6th, 2014 at 4:32 pm
I don’t have any kids yet but when my grandpa died, I was 10, and I promised myself I would name my first kid after him… the problem is his name is Merrill and that just isn’t my favorite. Though his middle name (though he changed it) was orginally Mace, which I really like or could even extend to Mason. I am pretty sure my first son will have the middle name Mace for this reason.
I also would like to honor my grandma, and her maiden name was Wolfson. I think It would be a pretty cool first name for a boy. I could see myself going for Wolfson Mace but I might wait and if I have a second son name him Wolfson and have Mace the middle name from my favorite name at the time (right now I really like Sidney Mace “Sid” but who knows what I will like when I am actually pregnant lol)
For girls, 3 of my great grandmothers where named Isabelle or Belle. To honor them and carry on the tradition I want to give my future daughter the middle name Belle.
on December 7th, 2014 at 12:01 am
I’m okay with cross gender honor names, but I would never name my son Nancy after my grandma.
I do like Stephen for my mom (Stephanie). That would probably be in the middle name spot. Some one pointed out Eugenia for a Eugene, which I really like, as I have a few Eugene’s in my family (my grandpa, my bro’s middle name). Also, my bro’s name is Hayden, so that’s unisex……
on December 7th, 2014 at 11:12 am
I’m definitely going to name a son Dean after my grandmother Geraldine and am seriously considering Petra as a middle after my grandfather Peter, though I’m loving the idea of brothers Dean & Peter.
on December 24th, 2014 at 4:52 pm
Personally, I would only really consider using the exact name in the middle position unless the honoree/namesake was dead. If deceased I’d consider putting the exact name in the first position but I’d have to like the name itself…
I’ve thought about people I might name a child for (from my family as I’m unmarried)… Honestly I’m just not that sentimental when it comes to names, I suppose because the only time where I feel I’d be moved to do it is if there was an extraordinary event or story attached to the person. I absolutely adore my mother & father but I don’t feel an overwhelming need to name a child after them but perhaps that would be different if they were deceased. I think it’s fun to gain inspiration from your family tree though. There are plenty of names to build upon or adapt on my family tree.
I wouldn’t hesitate giving my son a traditionally female name in the middle (a la James example) if there was a woman I really wanted to honor with the exact name. Of course, my Auntie, who is one of few I could see myself naming a child after at this point, is Terri Lou so her first & middle are fairly unisex to begin with. If there was a name I loved and thought would suit my child but it didn’t fit into the gender binary rules I think I would probably use it anyway.
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