Baby Name Regrets: Got A Few?
Nameberry was quoted last week in news stories all over the world about a new study that claimed 10 percent of parents regret their baby’s name. The reports ranged from this one in the Huffington Post to a piece in Britain‘s Daily Mail that found its way to the Italian newspaper Corriere Della Sera and on to Jezebel.
There were many questions on whether the 10 percent figure could possibly be accurate, though a story last year put the figure even higher, at 20 percent. So we decided we’d bring it back to you with a poll of our own. Any regrets about your own name choice? And if so, why?
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on October 18th, 2011 at 1:16 am
If I had it to do over again, our son would have a different middle name. I was quick to agree to the first middle that met all of our criteria, even though I didn’t get the “angels singing” reaction I craved. I also wasn’t upfront enough about choosing his nickname, and I regret that still. But I wouldn’t go so far as to say I regret his name. I just thought of a better one later.
With our second, I put every ounce of thought and energy into choosing that I’d denied myself with our first. I adore every letter, every syllable of her name and cannot imagine changing it.
on October 18th, 2011 at 9:44 am
I love my kids’ names! For me, dwelling on names over complicates them and leads to being too analytical. Don’t get me wrong, I love names and post a lot, but that became an obsession after my kids were born. My husband and I barely discussed the names. In fact, we had only talked one time about names, maybe a month before going to the hospital for each kid. We picked each one while at the hospital (one right after he was born, the other just prior to being induced). No regrets.
on October 18th, 2011 at 10:05 am
I used to wonder how Simon might be if he’d been named Simeon (which I had intended to name him, He just turned out not to be a Simeon). But I’ve long since given up on that, He’s the perfect Simon: sweet, handsome and smart.
With Leo & Josie, I’m completely happy with their names. They fit the kids, I love saying them and writing them out. Just perfect!
So, no regrets for me. 😀
on October 18th, 2011 at 10:32 am
Lola, maybe that should have been an option for the Why the regrets? poll — a different name would have been a better fit for my child. You can tell quite a bit about a child based on his or her newborn self, but not everything!
on October 18th, 2011 at 10:35 am
Having named three children, the only regret I have is with my daughter’s middle name. She’s our first born. I wish we’d either picked something with a family connection (though we couldn’t think of anything that ‘sounded right’ at the time.) Or I wish we’d pick something more ‘exciting’ or unusual. We had a hard time picking her first name – we didn’t decide until after she was born. So that left even less time for her middle name and I felt a bit rushed. My DH didn’t want to call and tell his family her name until we had a first *and* middle name. Though I think we did end up calling before her middle name was decided on.
So I guess that falls under “My tastes have changed and I’ve found other names I like better.” Though with it just being her middle name, it’s not a big deal.
on October 18th, 2011 at 12:56 pm
I’m not a parent yet, but one of my biggest worries would definitely ‘going off’ a name I used to love. I think it’s much better to play it safe and use a name you’ve loved for a long time and feel connected to, rather than one which you only suddenly discovered or recently began liking. There are so many names on my list which only appeared for a few weeks before I got tired of them.
I know from a naming a child point of view I would be most likely use something that I’ve always loved like Amelia and Nicholas, rather than my current favourites Rupert and Rosemary. I love them slightly more than Amelia and Nicholas, but the fear of not loving them a couple of months into my child’s life would be too much for me to bare.
on October 18th, 2011 at 2:26 pm
I don’t think it’s a regret issue, exactly. It was a “hmm, maybe he’d have been different if I’d named him different” but that thought faded before he was 3. And He’s considerably bigger than that now!
It comes across as regret because I’m so content with his twin & sister’s names. But it really isn’t. 🙂
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on October 18th, 2011 at 2:51 pm
If anything, I like the name we chose for our Small Child now more than I did at the time of birth, as it suits perfectly. So definitely no regrets.
on October 18th, 2011 at 2:57 pm
Well, I’m in medias res–7 months plus into my third and not sure if he’ll be my last. I don’t have any regrets thus far because the names of my first two SO completely suit them, but if this third child is my last I think I would regret over the years not naming my [only] daughter after BOTH her grandmothers. We named her a variation of my MIL’s name, and did not use any of my mom’s names. I think if she will be my only daughter I will regret not giving her the middle name Marie, shared by me, my mother, my grandmother, and my great-grandmother (and so forth). At the time we did it purposefully, so any later-born daughter wouldn’t feel left out of the honorifics. But if there is no later-born daughter, I might have to add an unofficial second middle name…
on October 18th, 2011 at 3:09 pm
I regret how common our oldest son’s name turned out to be. If I google his first name / middle name, I get almost 800,000 results! Doing the same for my younger son gives me just over 5,000 results.
While I love all of the sentimentality behind our oldest son’s first name AND middle name (they both honor special people!), I wish I would have added a second middle name that provides some of the quirky-uniqueness that I so love in names. Both his first name and his middle name are very common/classic/timeless, which are factors that appeal to me. The fact that both names have been steadily on the SSA charts for over 100 years (both with very high ranks) helps me feel secure that his name will age well with him… but it also makes me feel like he might end up feeling a lack of uniqueness or individuality.
The fact that my younger son’s first name has only recently made it into the top 100 (with it’s highest rank being #60 – SSA) and his MN having spent many years not even on the chart (currently within the top 100 and had it’s highest rank at #68 – SSA) also appeals to me. In truth, I kind of like that his name is a classic; but one that, while known, isn’t as common. I’d happily give him a second middle name also, just because I’d rather have both children have the same number of middle names and I love names.
The other part of my regret is knowing that I am done having children. Knowing that I will most likely be unable to actually name another of my own children, and loving so many names… I just wish I wasn’t as timid/afraid and used the second middle name for my more adventurous name choices 🙂
on October 18th, 2011 at 3:31 pm
No, I can honestly and happily say I have no regrets. I’m convinced no other name would work so well for him, and I still get so much pleasure out of saying his name or even seeing it in print.
I think everyone should have that kind of happiness, so I always feel great pity for parents who feel they may have chosen the wrong name.
on October 18th, 2011 at 8:02 pm
I regret my sons name. I didn’t really have too much say in it. I would totally change it if I could and not confuse the poor kid and my family.
on October 18th, 2011 at 9:33 pm
I love my daughter’s name, Caitlin, and I named her 26 years ago, well before the popularity of her name. But I resent the fact that a name that seemed unique to me — it was the name of a Welsh child I babysat at eleven — has become the same kind of monstrosity that “Brittany, Britni, Brittney” is. I often wonder if I should have called her Louisa — I love her middle name — and it so suits her. But, at 26, she would argue that fact — she goes by Kitty and hates Louisa. Oh, well. With my son, I wish that I had stuck to my guns and named him Thomas Gideon instead of Thomas Caleb. It was a compromise — my husband didn’t like either of my choices, Gideon or Benjamin. And if it were possible to have a child now, I would definitely use three names.
on October 19th, 2011 at 6:07 pm
i will be naming a baby girl in a few short months. when i think of what i would have picked 10 years ago i think that i would have disliked how popular those names have become at this point. or maybe i would have chosen something a little weirder if i had had a child when i was younger (when i was less likely to think about how it might impact my kid in their future professional life, ect). there’s no telling what i would have chosen really, and who knows if the name i do pick will be in the top 10 in 10 years time!
on February 28th, 2012 at 10:59 pm
with all of mine, i have had momentary regret ( except for Evelyn ha) but have gotten over it! i had the worst regret after Gabriella came and i suddenly realized Arabella and Gabriella sound pretty close! Luckily, my girls go by Gabry and Bella, but introducing them is still a pain sometimes ( ” Here are my children, Emerson, Evelyn, Hanson, Arabella, Gabriella…” “Wait…what?”)
on March 8th, 2012 at 1:33 pm
I really wish I had children already so I could participate in this poll! great idea (once again) Nameberry! 🙂
on June 8th, 2012 at 10:33 am
I’m not (sadly) a mama yet but when I become one, the name I have picked for my first girl I’ve been so in lvoe with for so many years I can’t imagine ever regretting using it. I can only imagine regretting if I didn’t use it! I still get so much pleasure out of saying it and writing it and seeing it in print. I look it up regularly here on nameberry even though I’ve long since memorized it’s origon, meaning, and variants. I tell people what I plan to name my daughter all the time, just for the pleasure of saying such a beautiful name out loud. I can’t wait to use it and I can’t imagine not loving it just as much in ten years!
on August 6th, 2012 at 7:56 pm
I absolutely love my daughter’s name. Her first name is a name that I’ve loved for a long time (since I was about twelve) and her middle name is a family name. I am currently pregnant and am caught between using another name I have recently fallen in love with or a family name.
on October 18th, 2012 at 8:56 pm
I don’t have kids yet, but I know my Dad regrets my brothers name. His name is Dustin, English names weren’t common in Germany when he was born (1991). But about 15 years ago, especially teenage moms started discovering them. So having an English / American name is considered trashy now. The German Nevaeh is Justin for a boy. So that is kind of unfortunate as well.
on March 18th, 2013 at 6:26 pm
I love my DD’s name. It completely suits her. Every now and then I wish I had chose a different FN, BUT I get over that real QUICK!
I haven’t met anyone with her exact name yet 🙂
As for my son, I love his name as well. I just wish I been more ‘original’ and creative with his MN. He got his father’s FN as his MN because SO didn’t want him to have 3 names && we didn’t want a jr. I’ve met like 1 person with my son’s name 🙂
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