Baby Name Crazy: Has it happened to you?

Lying awake making name lists in the middle of the night.

Finding a name you love, only to have your neighbor use it for her dog.

Dealing with a partner who has no baby name ideas of his own, yet shoots down all of yours.

Writing one name on the birth certificate, only to change it a week later. And then change it back.

Have you been a victim of baby name craziness? Our message boards and comments are full of crazy, funny, and sometimes heart-breaking stories of baby name obsession, battles, indecision, procrastination, and yeah, sometimes all out insanity.

Has it happened to you? A little, a lot? Did you embrace the craziness or did it hit you unexpectedly, like a tsunami? Did you drive your partner — and maybe your family and friends — crazy about names, or were you the victim of others’ craziness?

Confess! Let’s hear your craziest baby names story. No matter how crazy it is, we bet there’s one that’s crazier.

And okay, go ahead, may you haven’t gone baby name crazy, you’ve just met someone else who has. Feel free to rant!

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Steph Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 4:52 am

Well, since I discovered this site, I have been on it religiously, reading, pondering, replying, making Word document lists with ideas and initials and ranking the names…and, I am not even pregnant yet!

andrea Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 6:49 am

Since me and my fiance started trying for a baby we have come up with a few ideas of names which we both like. for me growing up i loved the name chantelle and logan but now we have decided on having kayla mai for our little girl if we ever have one and josh for a boy

pam Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 8:27 am

Uh oh, Steph, maybe Nameberry makes people name crazy?

Sabrina Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 9:23 am

I am one week from my due date and I have been baby name crazy for most of this pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my son, we decided very early on to name him Tyler, so we told everyone that was his name. But the more people called him that, the less I liked the name. I finally confessed to my husband a week before I was due that I didn’t want to call him Tyler. So we were back to square one. We could not come up with ANYTHING that we both liked. Finally, while I was in labor, we watched the movie XXX with Vin Diesel. My husband said, “What about Xander?” I liked it but felt like it needed a formal name, too, so we ended up naming him Alexander. And it’s the perfect name for him.

My daughter is named after two of her great-grandmothers (Madelyn Esther), so that one was easy.

This second daughter has been such a challenge! My hubby doesn’t like my favorite names, I don’t like his favorite names. And what’s worse, we agreed that we would not settle on a name until she was born. So it’s been months of indecision, baby name lists, baby name blogs and websites, questions, and doubts. And my hubby is more indecisive than me! He changes his mind about names all the time. The first time I made a list, he scratched off the name Genevieve. Four months later, he decided he likes it. A few months ago, he loved Isadora (my favorite), now he’s not so sure.

One week from my due date and my biggest reason for wanting her to come is not because I am uncomfortable and my feet are swollen but because I want to name her so I can quit worrying about it!

lubberlou Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 9:25 am

One time I was talking with a pregnant lady about the names she liked. She listed her names so I told her what I would name a little girl if I had one right then. For the sake of not calling her out on it, let’s just say I said Adaline Mae (not the actual name). Well, neither of my names were in her list. And she didn’t even comment on it. But when she had her baby, she named it Mae Adaline. REALLY??? REALLY????? And she never, ever talked to me about how I had picked those names before. The sad part of it was the names were actually meaningful and thought out for me specifically – each letter in the name was after a woman in the family! Anyway, she’s pregnant again and let’s just say I asked her what her thoughts were for a name and told her I thought they were pretty. Conversation ended there – there is no way I’m offering up my favorite names again now that I’ve had to change them!

Rachel Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 9:26 am

I’m going crazy looking for a girls name! I’ve read so much on names and set myself so many restrictions that no names are left! It has to go with the names of my other children, it must not be too frilly nor unisex, nothing in the top 100 in the UK, Us or Australia, must be classic but not boring AND have a sassy nick name! Impossible! It’s keeping me awake at night!

Sabrina Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:36 am

Rachel, I have the same problem. My requirements are a longer name (preferably 3 or 4 syllables) that has a cute nickname and flows with my other kids. Added bonus if I like the meaning. And preferably not in the top 100, but I’m not totally strict on that.

I also have gobs of nieces and nephews, so lots of names are off the table for me. No Charlotte, Eleanor, Lydia, Catherine, Abigail…

Oh, and my husband recently suggested Adelaide. Really, honey? Sisters named Adelaide and Madelyn? Really? He thinks I’m too picky.

Charlottie Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:39 am

I’m exactly the same as Steph.
I visit Nameberry several times a day, and I don’t go to sleep until about 5AM, just because I want to make lists of the best and the worst names, haha (:
I only came across Nameberry when I decided to Google the meaning of my own name, ever since, I’ve been obsessed with names, and proud! My mother has convinced herself that I’ll either be a stand-up comedian or a name expert 😛
The silliest thing about my obsession is that I’m not going to be having children for at least another ten years… I don’t mind, this way, I’ll have a head start on naming the first 6 children!

pam Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 11:02 am

My own baby name craziness helped launch this site. I was a name nerd (though we didn’t have a, ahem, name for it in the pre-internet days) from the time I was a kid, but when I was actually having my first child, I went a little baby name crazy mostly because my husband wouldn’t fall into line with any of my ideas! I remember being 9 months pregnant, sitting in a restaurant for hours, writing lists and lists of girls’ names and having this nightmarish feeling that there wasn’t a single one we could agree on. I decided that meant we simply couldn’t have a girl….which of course we did. It took us a week to name her.

Leslie Owen Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 11:49 am

My husband was giving a concert in Halifax when my son was born, five weeks early. (He was in mid-aria when Thomas was born.) Because he was gone, he said I could name Thomas what I liked. I had given up on George, because of my ex-brother-in-law (much to my regret now), and we had already agreed on Thomas after my grandfather, but we had no middle name. I liked both Thomas Gideon and Thomas Benjamin; he’d said no to both. When he came home from Halifax, I had a list of every Hebrew name I could think of that I liked on it, he went down the list, and that’s how we chose Caleb.

Elizabeth Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 11:57 am

I still have my copy of Beyond Jennifer and Jason from when I was twelve, with years worth of handwritten notes, post-it notes stuck in with additions, and dog-eared pages. I used to make fake family trees for fun. I always thought I was really strange, until I read somewhere that Dakota Fanning carries around baby name books and loves them, which made me feel better about myself and about Dakota Fanning. Though not, admittedly, about the name Dakota.

NinaB Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 1:18 pm

You know I can relate!!!

Sarai Charlotte Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 1:24 pm

@ Elizabeth

I’ve always wondered if Dakota Fanning was relieved that her first name is Hannah and just uses Dakota to be different?

klcalder2 Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 2:33 pm

My poor husband. I’ve been name crazy since high school, but he had to bare the full brunt of it after we got married. I’d bring up names sparingly at first, then when we got serious about having a baby, I went nuts. There would be a new list every couple of days for him to look over and it was miserable to find a name he actually liked. He actually didn’t really like our daughter’s name at first, but knew that I wasn’t giving up on using a non-common name. After she was born, he really came around to it.

However, the craziest thing I’ve ever done with baby names was in college. I can’t tell you how many notebooks had names scrawled all up and down the margins. I’m pretty sure there were some tests I could have done better on if I had paid more attention and taken better notes, as opposed to making my margin lists :).

Bret Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 3:35 pm

Well since I found out I was pregnant I got started on finding baby names right away, I knew what I wanted with my first and it felt good to have the names picked out and out of the way so I could concentrate on other names. I also was 100% sure I was having a girl with my first and I did. Now this pregnancy I am sure its a boy so I started picking out names only to have my husband shoot them down, we found 1 name we like Aidan but its just so common now a day and we found out a girl we are not too fond of just named her son that hmph lol So I went to my notebook that has every name I have found & thought my hubby would like and I counted them (all he shot down) I counted 183 names (and counting)!!! I haven’t even started on trying to find a girls name! I feel like that I am going to be in the hospital and still not have a name -smh-

Bret Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 3:36 pm

* where it says other names should say other things 🙂

Brighton *Bree* Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 4:05 pm

Ever since I discovered Nameberry, I have been totally name crazy. Asking my whole family what they would name their future children, they all got sick of me!! Every time I would see a unique name on tv, the internet, or anywhere else, I always look it up on Nameberry, I would make lists all the time!! I kept asking my mom for opinions on names she liked out of my choices. I’m not even pregnant but I already have the names of my next 9 children LOL.

Megan Ashley Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 4:12 pm

I’m one of the younger writing Berries on here. So, when I’m in the middle of a story, I will force my family to listen to my endless babbling about why no name will ever fit the character. They don’t get it, and quite frankly neither do I. Just think: my poor future children’s names will never be decided!

moxielove Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 4:26 pm

I fell in love with names after reading “Lord of the Flies” and discovering that each of the characters’ names’ meaning described that character. I was expecting the worst when I became pregnant because I love discussing things — anything — to death and my husband is, well, not as enamored of these games as I am. Sure there were some notable disappointments (he shot down my Sebastian without a moment’s hesitation, I laughed for a week at his suggestion of Orla) but looking back, now that the pregnancy hormones has gone, it was a surprisingly amiable process. Once I fully appreciated that this was HIS daughter too, I became less adamant about my favorites or his dislikes. And this compromise lead us to our daughter Petra’s name, which we both love. Hopefully she does too!

Emma Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 4:30 pm

I’d formally made my “at work” pregnancy announcement, and the girl that sits in the cubicle next to me was about 8 months pregnant. We talked about all things baby EXCEPT baby names. (Neither of us were telling our names, and neither of us knew what we were having.) But when we got the office email that her daughter had been born the night before, you guessed it. The exact same first AND middle name that my husband and I had fought, cried and sweat over before finally choosing. And we thought we were being so original!

Amanda Christine Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 5:03 pm

I had a crazy name moment today! My mother was given Evening Primrose Oil by her doctor and as soon as I spotted the bottle I squealed, “oh, Primrose, I love that name!” The response from the rest of the room was collective groans and “do NOT name your daughter Primrose!”s. First of all, I’m not even pregnant, but what their response really got me thinking was “am I that annoying about names?” The non-namenerds in my life do not seem to understand that I am not going to name my future children every name I express an interest in (at least not as a first name! 😉 ) I am definitely name crazy, but I suspect that I always will be, even after my husband and I have (and name) the family we are dreaming of. 🙂

pam Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 5:33 pm

Oh noooooooo, Emma! That’s enough to drive you crazy! And Amanda, for the record, I really like the name Primrose.

EJ Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 5:47 pm

klcalder2, your comment made me laugh – “my poor husband” is exactly right 🙂 I have been obsessed with names since I was about 10. When we had only been dating a few months, my now husband caught me looking at baby names online. I had to do some serious convincing that I was not already planning our future together. After we were married – and especially when I was pregnant – the poor guy had to look over list after list of possibilities. And the truth is he just doesn’t care all that much, which is totally incomprehensible to me (and makes it that much more irritating when he shoots my names down)!

Joslyn Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:12 pm

I read the entire book Ada to Aidan in one sitting, put the book down and declared,”I’m gonna need a bigger book!” Didn’t like a single one. Yet I keep thinking…it has to be in here somewhere…doesn’t it?! I refuse to be too popular or too far out there. Yet I want it to be familiar and spellable, yet unique and original. I want it to have meaning. I want to use everyone’s names that I love. My husband is at least honest about names he likes or doesn’t like. And if he doesn’t like it, off it goes! But I get no offers back. So a few have found their way back out of pure spite lol! And worst of all, my most favorite that I have wanted for 20 years is the number one name. Darn you twilight fans!! They tell me I may have to wait to meet her before I will know, but I want to know it now!! How’s that for a rant!! But I am still lovin this!!!!!!!!

Peri Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:18 pm

We started telling our baby name list to our couple best friends in the car, exchanging names and such. After we had listed our 4 top names they started making fun of them saying they were to close to FH sisters name, rhyming them and saying for example Wren currently at number 1, was like ren and stimpy and if we names our kid that they will its whole life ask how stimpy is. My husband then said yeah I did not think of those things maybe we should look at different names…I started pissed off, back to square one 🙁

pam Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:22 pm

Very entertaining rant, Joslyn. And Peri, oh nooooooo. That is the nightmare of sharing your name choices.

KrisMichelle Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:49 pm

I have driven my husband so crazy with name talk that he has offered to let me name our next child without his imput, so long as I don’t talk to him about names until I’m ready to reveal it. 🙂

KrisMichelle Says:

August 10th, 2011 at 10:50 pm

And I should add that I’m not even pregnant yet.

RoseLee Says:

August 11th, 2011 at 7:35 am

I went to visit my sister who was due to deliver her baby a few months before mine. I told her the name we had picked out for our daughter, and when she delivered her daughter she named her almost exactly the same name!! The name had no meaning to her, my husband and I had picked the first and middle names to reflect something special in our lives! Then she smugly told me since she gave birth first, I would just have to change the name. It’s 23 years later and the cousins have almost identical names! On the other hand, a favorite girls name was actually made up as an acronym by friends of mine for their daughter. A song called “Since I’ve Been Loving You” was the inspiration for their daughters name…Sibly.

Jen Says:

August 11th, 2011 at 9:14 am

I have been a name nerd since I was 12 and my cousin and I would lie awake at night for hours discussing names. Since then I make annual favourite name lists, pore over the new social security data and the worst – check people’s facebooks to find out what their siblings and their sibsets are.

I should note I’m only in University and am a long, long way off having a baby.

Myka Says:

August 11th, 2011 at 11:52 am

I have loved names for a long time but it hasn’t been until recently that I have gone completely insane. I am about 10 weeks pregnant and thought I had everything worked out. We had selected Rhett for a boy and Calista for a girl. However, we had our first ultrasound the other day and all I could think about was how Calista didn’t fit with the image on the screen. It sounded so “old ladyish” I hope that doesn’t offend anyone, sorry. Anyway, after that point I have been obsessively making list after list of names most of which my husband shoots down promptly. I think we have finally settled on something I feel comfortable with looking at our baby. My lips, however, are sealed. 🙂

jessesgirl Says:

August 15th, 2011 at 12:18 am

I have been baby name crazy since I was about 12 so for 11 years! I made huge lists. I drove my mom crazy and now I drive my husband crazy! We just had our 1st child and it was not hard naming him but my husband didn’t want to talk about names until we knew what we were having. I have a feeling that when/if we have a girl it will be war! Lol! My favorite girl name is Esme and my husband will not have it. I really hopes he changes his mind!

XQ Says:

August 29th, 2011 at 2:16 am

I became a name nerd when I started reading for pleasure when I was 12 or so. I would write stories and search baby name books nightly and if I found a name in a novel I was reading that I liked I would put it in my “file”. When I was 14 I was reading a book and came across the name Xavier and fell in love! I met my husband five years later, and when ever we would talk about having children I would tell him “if we have a boy his name will be Xavier”. I stayed true to my word 12 years after I fell in love with the name I named my first son Xavier. Naming my daughter was so much harder! we were in the car on the way to my last dr’s apt when we finally said ok seriously this poor baby needs a name. we both liked Quinn for a girl but couldn’t deside on a boys name. Quinn Mary-Grace was born three days later.

While I was pregnant with my daughter I actually held a mini “contest” on my facebook profile to help us come up with names. the problem was every name that I read or heard I could find a problem with it. either an association or famous person with that name.

I have already started looking for names for my next baby. nope not pregnant but might be soon! Thinking Xanthe/Zanthe for a girl and Xavinn(Zavinn) or Zander for a boy. I hate to ask what people think… but??

my best friend often made fun of my choice of Xavier before he was born and I got a very, um, ‘interesting’ reaction from people once I had named both of my kids. “Quinn? I thought you had a girl.” “oh, um, how interesting…” “Xavier? like X-MEN?”

emilymaryjane Says:

December 22nd, 2011 at 1:04 am

I have been baby name crazy ever since I was seven (I am fourteen now). But one of my favourite names Sophie has been stolen by my big sis whose decided her daughter is going to be called Sophia Marike. So I am now back on the ultimate name resource (Nameberry) so much fun!!!!!

emilymaryjane Says:

December 29th, 2011 at 7:06 am

Ive been baby name crazy 4 evs Nameberry just funds my addiction =)

Kenzi Says:

February 28th, 2012 at 11:10 pm

When i was 6 months pregnant with my 2nd daughter ( and 4th child) i told my 8 month pregnant best friend her name would be Isabella Bradlyn. what did my dear friend do when her baby was born you ask? Name her Isabella Brayden. what is the difference! not much! so my daughter was named Arabella Paxton instead. and my Bella and her Bella get along just fine.

Wyndre Says:

May 4th, 2012 at 10:16 am

I like your kids names. Xanthe makes me think of the book series by Piers Anthony. One of my favorites. Ever watch Buffy the tv show? There is a character named Zander.
unfortunately these are going to be that kind of comments you will have to listen to for choosing something different. that doesn’t mean that you should not choose them if you and your other half love them. I don’t like people who make fun of their friends for their names. that’s why most people I know choose not to reveal their names.

KAM Says:

July 10th, 2012 at 7:36 am

I am years away from having a baby, yet baby names fascinate me, and nameberry has only fueled it. Yesterday I was talking about baby names with my family and my dad said, “Why are you talking about baby names?” I told him I was collecting name ideas for a story- which is partially true, but mostly ’cause I’m baby name crazy!

AnaJo Says:

September 26th, 2012 at 1:05 am

I’ve been name crazy for years. As a child I would walk through graveyards with a notebook in hand and write down as many old and beautiful names as possible. I had stuffed animals with the monikers of Franticia, and Herbert.

Wherever I went, I would “quiz” people about their name (why their parents chose it; origins; meaning etc….). Surprisingly not many of them knew the answers, but most enjoyed the attention.

I was probably one of the very few, if not only, high schoolers who had shoe boxes shoved under their bed full of stacks of index cards; each card containing a name on one side and its origin and meaning on the other.

There was a time when I dreamed of writing a name book, but now I just collect them. I am an unofficial name collector.
Maybe one day I’ll figure out a way to turn my collection into a book, but for now I will gleefully bestow them onto my children!
And of course, forever search for new ones…

larkub101 Says:

January 28th, 2013 at 11:30 am

I am certifiably baby-name crazy. I’m sure most of us on Nameberry have at least one list of names. Mine? 206. 206 girls names. Haven’t even counted the boys names. I used to take pride in my name list, but when I show my friends they either tell I’m crazy for having a name list, or tell me I’m crazy for some of the names on the name list.

Did I mention I’m only 16? My best friend says when it actually comes time to name my kids I’m going to have a complex. I think I need help.

csd267 Says:

September 25th, 2013 at 12:09 pm

I have a son and have been crazy lately about finding a girls name that I like. It is close to impossible to me because there are so many choices!

Theodora_Phoenix Says:

May 25th, 2014 at 1:28 pm

I am 15 and love making names and lists of names. I am not even planning for the future.I am completely obsessed with baby names. I am quite a young fan. Now here’s the catch- unlike most “teenberies” I don’t ever even want to be pregnant or have kids! All my collecting is for nothing but I just can’t help myself. Nobody would understand. I can’t even explain it to my mom.

Theodora_Phoenix Says:

May 25th, 2014 at 1:28 pm

I am 15 and love making names and lists of names. I am not even planning for the future.I am completely obsessed with baby names. I am quite a young fan. Now here’s the catch- unlike most “teenberies” I don’t ever even want to be pregnant or have kids! All my collecting is for nothing but I just can’t help myself. Nobody would understand. I can’t even explain it to my mom.

The_Supernatural_Hufflepuff Says:

November 5th, 2014 at 8:35 pm

I have been obsessed with names since middle school. A few years ago I began mu favorite names list and over the years it has changed and it now has over 60 names (for each gender) including middle names I would use for the names. My family and friends think it’s funny how obsessed I am. My mom just rolls her eyes and listens when I tell her my name choices but she doesn’t comment on them anymore

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