When Name Hate Turns to Love
I used to hate the name Raymond.
Hate, as in hate hate hate. Maybe it was that creepy kid Raymond from 8th grade. Maybe it was….oh, who knows.
The point is, if I’d made a list of all 50,000 names on Nameberry in order of how much I liked them, Raymond, would have been down there at number 49,999.
And then, something happened, something equally mysterious. I began to like Raymond. Then even to love it.
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on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:08 pm
I can think of tons of names I disliked that I now love- Nancy & Jean or Eugenia for example. Tons more that I felt neutral toward that now feel special- like Heather…I would love to meet a baby Heather despite being bored of it growing up! Imo it just depends on timing. If I was a young mom I would’ve had a Maisie or an Esme, but they didn’t feel right last year when I was pregnant…Leonie did. A name I had never considered. I strongly considered Jolene when I was pregnant but I’m so glad I didn’t use it. The appeal has worn off completely. But I’ve always been a person who goes thru phases…
on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:29 pm
I used to hate the name Paige as it was associated with someone from my childhood who was incredibly irritating. However, I met a girl in college and she is now my best friend. She changed Paige for me so much. Now I think it’s beautiful and lovely.
on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:39 pm
I used to dislike the name Laura and Mary. They just seemed too “boring” and traditional to me before, but now I just love them. Unfortunately I can’t use Mary since I have a niece named M@rybelle, but I will always love the name now.
I would love to use Laura and I may actually use it as a mn or even a fn in the future.
on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:40 pm
I absolutely hated Lola and Meredith. They are now at the top of my list!
on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:50 pm
Felix, I used to think it was such an old man type name but now I love it.
A few more… Benjamin, Jack, Florence, Eleanor, Alice
Funny actually, I always had an aversion to the name Will due to a bully/mean kid in school but when I met my husband and his name was Will…the aversion just melted away instantly and now I love it. =)
on October 23rd, 2012 at 10:52 pm
Penelope and Dorothy for me! I used to hate them both and now the are both on my short list.
on October 23rd, 2012 at 11:26 pm
Eleanor. I neer hated it but I used to think it was really old-lady-ish and boring. But then I read a book about Eleanor of Aquitaine, and after a while the name just grew on me.
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:33 am
My aunt always wanted a girl named Clementine. I would laugh and hope that she’d have boys instead, which she did. The name sounded clunky and antiquated. Then when I got engaged, she reminded me of how she’d always wanted a Clementine and as she said the name, it washed over me from the ends of my hair to the tips of my toenails and I saw it as fresh and sweet and charming. Now, my daughter bears that name and in my opinion, it suits her perfectly.
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:56 am
Elaine. I don’t know why, I just used to detest it with a passion. But it started to grow on me, partly because that’s the drummer’s name of Neon Trees and they’re my favorite band and I like her spunky hair. Now I think it sounds really pretty.
on October 24th, 2012 at 1:28 am
I think a lot of vintage-y names are like this for me. Alice, Louisa, Harriet, and Maxine are all names I love for girls, but would never have considered them a few years ago. Conrad, Otto, and Clark come to mind for boys. I think since I have started paying attention to naming trends, I have become a lot more open-minded about names. Generally, I can see past associations with names and like them for their sound, look, etc.
on October 24th, 2012 at 1:28 am
I can’t think of anynames that I have disliked and the turned around to love. I guess all the names I ‘hate’ are still out of favor with me. I’d say this is a list of names I used to not really like or care about but are now warming up to.
on October 24th, 2012 at 1:40 am
Jessica always reminded me of the fat, quiet type of girl that was a little pretentious and a little bit of a bully. This was due to a few bad Jessica’s I knew. Plus the name was over popular in the 80’s and 90’s. But now I can see why it was so popular. Such a cute name which such great nickname possibilities. Love it.
Other names I used to hate but now love:
Haley or Halley
on October 24th, 2012 at 6:02 am
Jane. All thanks to everyone on this site constantly bringing this name up on the boards. I don’t love it, but I don’t view it as plain anymore.
on October 24th, 2012 at 6:36 am
I have always loved older, classic names. For me I still don’t like trendy names. Although Logan has grown on my over the years. When I was in middle/high school it seemed like everyone I knew named their kid Logan, boy or girl. I still cringe when I hear another Brayden, Bradon, Braidin…maybe because there is no uniform way to spell the name. Everyone spells it different. I know 8 Braydins under the age of 5 and they all are spelled different.
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:03 am
Eleanor and Martha. I always thought Martha Washington growing up because I never knew any Marthas, but in college I met a Martha, and she instantly made it feel younger. Plus, it just sounds so pretty!
Same with Eleanor, plus you get Ellie!
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:25 am
I thought it was awful when I was younger, but it has grown on me.
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:43 am
Louise, Charlotte and Harriett are new likes, but I’m not sure they’ll ever be “love” Sticking to family names Caroline, Elizabeth, Georgia
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:46 am
I used to hate the name Isaac. I just thought it sounded silly and too much like “I suck.” However, it is now my favourite boys name and has been for years, I just adore it.
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:57 am
Sarah, Gage, “Em”s…
Sarah was just everywhere, but lately I am loving it.
Gage was the evil dead toddler from the original Pet Semetary movie, and it creeped me out. But now I am loving the sound of it. Though I’m not sure my brother will ever get past the zombie toddler.
And the “Em”s… all because I didn’t like some Emilys. But now I am drawn to Emerson and Emme for girls. Before, I wouldn’t have even considered it.
on October 24th, 2012 at 9:39 am
A name I hated, but now love? The only one I can think of is my own nn, Ellie. Growing up, I LOATHED it, but now I’m proud to be an Ellie. Its not very common around here, which is good, and I think it fits me.
on October 24th, 2012 at 9:50 am
Claudia. I used to feel like all she was was a cloddy sort of a name with a bad meaning. Claudia from Warehouse 13 made me love it but I still don’t care for the meaning.
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:05 am
I used to hate Desmond (I had an annoying neighbor boy named Desmond growing up), but now, it’s our top name!
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:21 am
There are also names I used to love and now dislike and wouldn’t use.
Our 2nd option for a girl was Felicity which I have really gone off. I also really dislike Jackson now which was a top boy’s name once.
This worries me more than starting to love other names, as what would have happened if we’d used those names?!
Thankfully I love my little girl Siena’s name still 🙂
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:33 am
I feel like this has happened to me multiple times. I think being on nameberry has something to do with it, honestly. Others use names I used to think were too musty and they start to grow on you. Of course, that goes with the cyclical nature of name trends in general, too.
Agatha is one name that I have really grown to like, and I know when I was a kid I thought it was an ugly old lady name.
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:39 am
The main one for me is Verity. A few years ago I counted it as a pair with Felicity (which sounds so prissy to me) and loathed them both with a passion. I still dislike Felicity, but 18 months ago I began to realise that I’d completely misunderstood Verity and fell in love with it. It’s now my top name.
I also used to dislike Lydia, as I couldn’t get over the Pride & Prejudice character or the rhyme with an STI, but now I love that one too. I think that may have been caused by rereading P&P and, despite disliking the character, seeing the name so many times made me reconsider it.
For boys, I used to think of Simon as a very weak name, but my partner made me realise how lovely it really is (even though we can’t use it with our surname, argh!).
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:45 am
I used to hate Emily and Emma, but now I love them. But I still hate Emmeline.
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:54 am
This happened to me literally this morning. And then I sign on to Nameberry to see this blog, and it confirms my beliefs that these names are perfect even more. I was trying to find middle names for my two top girl choices. I searched and searched and made a list of my favorite names, and nothing sounded right. Either the middle choices clashed with the first name, my last name, or lacked a proper flow. Finally I decided I was missing something and hit the SSA list again. There had to be something there that I liked.
I found it in Vivian. I have no idea why I always disliked the name, because now it’s in my top 2 for girls.
on October 24th, 2012 at 10:56 am
I used to hate the name Harry because it sounded like ‘hairy’. But then I watched ‘Harry Potter’, and then there’s Harry Styles, and Harry Osbourn from ‘Spiderman’ (I think there is someone else but I can’t remember), and now I think it’s a really cute nickname, not sure if I like it for a full name though.
on October 24th, 2012 at 11:19 am
I can’t really think of a name that I hated then loved, but a LOT of names that have gone the opposite way. Charlotte is the biggest one! I went from loving it, being near the top of my list to loathing it in the matter of 2 years. Weird.
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:01 pm
For some reason I never found the name Ruby to my liking, despite having a beloved grandmother with that name (Possibly because she went by a nickname of her middle name, Juanita ‘Nita’) Even after coming to Nameberry, it still felt ‘old’ and maybe a little weird. But then, all of a sudden, I got the urge to name my future children with real, meaningful names. And what was the first one to come to mind? Ruby.
I love it. The sound. The feel of it in my mouth. The picture of it following a baby to adulthood and beyond. It embodies everything I want in a name. I told my grandmother and she was honored and touched and just about couldn’t believe it. Which makes it even better.
The Future Hubby will have no choice but to comply. 🙂
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:10 pm
Imogen – I use to think it was such a strange and ugly British name, but it has grown on me.
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:14 pm
I’m really liking Claudius lately.
on October 24th, 2012 at 12:22 pm
I always viewed it as painfully plain, but now I would love to use it. It might be because there’s a girl named Anna in the daycare where I work and she’s everything I want my own daughter to be. Strong, unafraid, not worried about getting her hands dirty, curious, mobile, playful, clever, considerate, serious, a little prim and proper in the sense that things should be a certain way, she never really gets angry with you, loves to make things and roleplay, healthy appetite, independent… A wonder ^^
The name Anna now embodies all that for me, so it seems so perfect 🙂
on October 24th, 2012 at 1:10 pm
For some reason I’ve never liked the name Paul. Now, I still don’t love it, but I don’t hate it as much. I think this is because I love the feminine version of Paul, Pauline, and I like Pauline because of Ballet Shoes. I’m also trying to get myself to like the Esther. I like the image I get when I think of the name, but I don’t like saying it or reading it.
on October 24th, 2012 at 1:18 pm
I used to hate Levi. I even discouraged friends for using it. Now I kind of love it.
on October 24th, 2012 at 2:20 pm
Philip. It’s dh’s favorite and I once told him I hated the “Phil” part, the “ill” part and the “ip” part. Then I saw a toddler at the park named Philip and he carried it so well. Such a princly classic. I was so enchanted that we nearly named our 3rd son Philip but went with it as a middle name instead. Having it as my son’s middle name makes me love it even more. I frequently call him by both names – James Philip.
on October 24th, 2012 at 2:44 pm
I used to hate Beatrice and now I looove it. I kind of like Emilie now but am still working on my love for it. Haha.
on October 24th, 2012 at 2:52 pm
Tabitha and Calliope. I used to hate both and now I love them! Its happened reverse too. Many names I used to love, like Gianna, I now can’t stand.
on October 24th, 2012 at 3:23 pm
I used to hate Iris. I thought of it as a musty, dated, old lady name – but then I met a little girl called Iris and the instant I found out her name I realised how great it was. It’s also the same with Maeve. I used to prefer just May/Mae, because Maeve just sounded old and well, odd. But one day it dawned on me how pretty it was, and it’s also a great way to honour family, so I’m hoping I will be able to use it for a future daughter’s name one day 😀
on October 24th, 2012 at 3:41 pm
Raymond is my grandfather’s name. He passed away when my mom was young, around 12. I’ve always thought about using it, but I don’t love it enough to use it as a first name. Probably a middle. <3
Jennifer is the most recent one to go from hated to loved, because of Jennifer Lawrence. She's such a role model! Gemma is growing on me, but I still wouldn't use it.
I have more names that go from being liked to disliked, though, such as Maisie and Bianca. My taste in names has changed so much over the past year, and I know that it will continue to change for the next 10 or so years before I have my first child.
on October 24th, 2012 at 3:45 pm
I have no names on which I’ve done a complete 180, from “hate” to “love,” but I’ve had a lot of names go from “ho-hum” to “love.” My top boy and girl names, Tobias and Una, were both that way.
In the case of Tobias, it was having a fellow Berry suggest it to me in a name game. Once I really stopped to look at it, I fell in love with it.
With Una, I had a few good literary associations, but I didn’t love it until I started researching it to find reasons for its differing pronunciations. As with Tobias, once I spent some time with Una I fell in love.
Two others I’ve consistently hated, Archibald and Mortimer (so FUSTY!) have started growing on me, but I doubt it’ll ever be love. Then again, you never know…
on October 24th, 2012 at 4:44 pm
I have 3 girls names I used to HATE Naomi, Sophie, and Nancy. But now I love love love Naomi and Sophie and Nancy is growing on me. Both nancy and Naomi used to sound so old lady-ish but a few years ago I met a baby named Naomi and I have watched her grow up and now the name feels so fresh and new. And the other day I met a teen girl named Nancy in one of my classes and it is feeling newer rather than dated to me.
Sophie has been so popular, but I see why. I think the reason I hated it was because I was jealous that I wouldn’t name my kid Sophie because it is so popular
on October 24th, 2012 at 4:59 pm
When I was younger, my friend sat for Dominic and Elise. I thought Dominic was the ugliest possible name. Who on Earth would name their baby something so terrible? Turns out, I would. My Dominic is now 14 and of my four sons, his name is my favorite. I thought Jeremy was equally as bad… lo and behold, my youngest has that in the middle spot. Emmett…yuck! Now, one of my favs. but would probably use Ezra.
For girls, names come and go. Love them, hate them. Many names I thought sounded old ladyish are now very appealing. Names I used to love would never be considered now. I am loving Evangeline and Mavis currently. Never would have looked twice at either name a year ago.
on October 24th, 2012 at 6:06 pm
I used to hate Ruthie, but now I love it. Same with Georgia.
on October 24th, 2012 at 6:29 pm
Not really hate, but dislike. I disliked George Philip, Harry, Agnes, and Felicity, but now I adore all five of them.
on October 24th, 2012 at 8:34 pm
For me, it was Tallulah…I thought it was the strangest name, but now it’s growing on me, I might use it someday. I also disliked Isabella years ago, I thought it sounded very snobby. But I think it’s cute now, even though I probably won’t use it. I guess I’m saying I like it for other kids. Just goes to show that you grow and your tastes change over the years.
on October 24th, 2012 at 11:39 pm
My sister named her daughter Ethne and I didn’t think it sounded like a real name. Now I love it. It just took a few years of saying it. 🙂
on October 25th, 2012 at 2:45 pm
For me, it’s Olive. I didn’t understand why people wanted to name their babies such an ugly name. Now, I’m warming to it – at least as a middle name.
on October 26th, 2012 at 9:30 pm
I’ve noticed the same thing about myself. I used to despise Penelope. When my sweet MIL suggested it when I got pregnant with my second, I thought how horrible, but said well that might be nice. As I’ve matured and thought about it, I so wish I had used it when she was alive. She was a great mom to 4 boys. (The last two being twins) and loved every minute. She never voiced wishing for a daughter, but now I know that was her “girl” name. Even if I had just used it as a mn it would have made her smile. I wish I had. I truly love the name now that I’m older. Maybe it will be used some day but Mammaw won’t get to enjoy it. Others I now like…Vivienne, Mary, Anastasia, Vincent, George. More often, I have previous loves that I dont care for now. Brittany, Ashley, Nicole, Jacob, Joshua, Bridgett, Kelly.
Most of the despised names, i still cant stand. Agnes or Agatha have a sound like agony to me. Unpleasant feeling. Others…Boris, Claude of any type, Belva, Marvin(yuk) Mallory, Eunice, Hunter, Maggie among a few. I can be quirky that way.. Lol
on October 27th, 2012 at 4:09 pm
Piper! I used to hate it but now it’s our top choice 🙂 The more I heard it, the less I hated it and the more I started to love it.
on January 24th, 2013 at 3:59 am
I actually despised Mary for years.
Now it’s my favourite name! 😮
on November 10th, 2013 at 10:19 am
I used to hate Asher.
But it seems to be wearing off a little. I’m not sure.
I liked Bethany long ago, then started disliking it, now I’m starting to like it again but I realized it doesn’t work with my last name so I wish I still hated it haha!
on November 13th, 2013 at 11:20 am
I used to hate my middle name Geraldine because I thought it was ugly and old fashioned. Now I love it’s old fashioned sound but I would still never use it as a first name just middle!!:) I Also used to hate classic names such as Mary, grace and Evelyn but I adore them now!!!
on September 23rd, 2014 at 11:57 pm
I used to really hate the name Adelaide but now I love it! I also used to hate Hugo but like with Adelaide I have grown to love it!
on August 5th, 2015 at 8:45 am
I think with the two names I now like it’s just because of the association
Stella- I like the name Stella because of the character from Winx Club (I didn’t like that television show when I was little) but I started watching How I Met Your Mother and there was Stella in that show too (and since I love that show), I love the name.
Harper- I hated this name because it sounded off, but right now it sounds so pretty and cool. Too bad it’s become so popular…
on September 18th, 2015 at 2:32 pm
I used to HATE Olivia, but now I love it. I still wouldn’t use it, because it is far too popular, but I really love the sound. I also used to hate Alicia, but now it is in my top five favorite names. There are also some names that I used to love but now I hate, such as Sarah and Christopher (what was I thinking?). I also used to hate Hannah, but that’s beginning to grow on me. I tend to not like names that are popular, because I get tired of them so quickly, and I am more likely to have a bad association with them.
on October 8th, 2015 at 1:51 am
Yep! I first heard the name Freya when I was 12 and declared it to be the ugliest name ever!! Then naming my 3rd daughter it kept catching my eye. I kept overlooking it because I didn’t think I could choose a name that I had openly said I didn’t like. In the end my new found love (and husband’s positive reaction) won out and we now have a gorgeous 2yo Freya
on June 24th, 2017 at 7:12 am
This isn’t as extreme as “hate” to “love” but up until recently the name Oliver would just have been whatever to me, but now (due mostly to Arrow, and also a character in a roleplay I’m in) it’s really growing on me. Also, nickname “Ollie” I don’t think I would have liked it at all before, but now I kind of do.
on December 22nd, 2017 at 2:25 pm
RainstreamofSpiritClan Same! I used to hate Oliver now I love it (due to Mighty Med though), but I do NOT like Oliver
on July 3rd, 2020 at 3:08 am
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