When Did You Name Your Baby?
We were talking to a new mother the other day who said she waited until her son was born to make a final decision on his name.
Another parent at the table gasped in horror: Just as she’d had the nursery decorated, the layette laid in, and the car seat installed, she’d felt compelled to have the name choice prepared well in advance of the birth.
And then yet another parent confessed that he and his wife had chosen a name only when the hospital demanded that the birth certificate be finalized, well after the birth, while another dad said he’d discussed names with his wife on their first date!
When did you decide on your baby’s name? Before or after the birth? Maybe before you were even expecting?
If you’re expecting now or if children are still far in your future, when do you think you’ll make the big decision?
And how did the timing of your name decision play out? If you waited, do you think that helped clarify things or did it add to the pressure? If you chose early, did that make you feel more secure during your pregnancy or only lead to too much second-guessing?
When did you name your baby, why, and how did that work out for you?
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on September 3rd, 2014 at 12:16 am
I plan to have my name locked and loaded when it comes time for me to have babies. But I want to make sure the name matches the baby so I’ll make sure to have options ready. But I’d never wait til the last minute when it comes to names! I want to have the birth certificate and everything ready to go.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 12:18 am
We named our son about seven hours after he was born. We had a short list of four names that we’d gone over many times & we both loved. We knew before he was born what his middle name would be, decided at around 7 months along, but his first name was still up in the air. Our discussion was pretty brief & we went with a name that both my husband and I had loved even before we had gotten pregnant but had gotten negative feedback from family members. I am so happy we didn’t let outside opinions change our choice, it’s the perfect name for our wonderful boy.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 12:30 am
My parents named me a few weeks after they found out I was a girl, so pretty early. I think it’s fine to name a baby before it’s born, I think I probably would…
on September 3rd, 2014 at 1:28 am
We went to the hospital with three names….We named her two days after her birth after we tried all three names on her-she chose HER name. To me it HAD to fit. I will do so with the next child too-it was also pretty fun not knowing which name we would end up with.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 1:47 am
I’m only 21 and babies are definitely a long way off for me (I’ve been working with kids for two years, and it doesn’t half curb your broodiness!) but I’m already thinking about names. I’ve heard that before you decide on a tattoo design you should look at it every day until you’re totally used to it. I think it’s the same with names- I want to be completely used to a few names before any baby comes along, just so I can know I won’t regret my choices.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 2:43 am
We named our son 5 years before he was born. It was a name I loved but wasn’t sure my husband, then boyfriend, would like. Luckily he did and it fits our son perfectly. Now that we are starting to think about our second child, we have a girl’s name picked out but can’t agree on another boy’s name.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 3:16 am
My mum and dad had a girl name picked out shortly after they found out they were expecting me, but they didn’t find out the gender and so went to the hospital with a girls name but not a boys… It’s a good job I came out a boy! To this day my mum says she doesn’t know what she would have done if I’d been a boy.
When it’s my time to have children I’d like to be prepared with a name combo for each gender and be 100% confident to use that, realistically though we will probably have the middle(s) sorted and have two or three names for each gender to take with us and see which fits!
on September 3rd, 2014 at 4:55 am
Fell in love with our chosen name in second trimester. A name we had never heard before. And that was that. That was her name. We called her by her name for the remainder of our pregnancy and when she was born she was our baby Luna. When you love a name so deeply there is no other name to consider.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 5:50 am
No kids yet but we are pretty sure on our girls name that we found the perfect name for us. I think we will still go into the birth with two or three names we are in love with to make sure it fits. We will do the same for a boy, just don’t have any names we really love yet!
on September 3rd, 2014 at 7:16 am
My first son, we weren’t sure what we wanted. His middle name was the same as his father’s, but we had 3 first names picked out: Jason, Jude, and Liam. I alternated calling my belly different names, but when he came out, I knew he was Liam, which was my least favorite of all three names. So, when my husband and I decide that it is time for another wee one, we’re going to have a middle name that reflects on our family heritage, and a few first names, so that when Boy or Girl meets us for the first time, we can see what fits.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 8:08 am
My husband and I agreed on a son’s first name three years ago. I liked Isaiah and he liked Zachary. Isaac became our compromise. The middle name is still up for grabs though.
For a daughter we’ve changed our minds several times. Kristen to Summer to Blair to Milena back to Blair but the middle name has been fairly consistent as either Summer or Hyacinth.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 8:52 am
My parents tentatively named my sister and I the same name (Tully) for both of our first weeks, then renamed us Jessie and Tallulah. Our younger sister was named before she was born, as in they had a boys named picked out (Jethro) and a girls name (Scarlett) and she ended up being the latter. My baby brother wasn’t named until a couple of days after he was born, but had he been a girl his name was decided on months in advance (Luna Phoenix).
on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:18 am
My parents didn’t pick out my name until my mom was in labour. They still have the list, though, which I’ve seen before.
IF I have a baby, I will probably already have a name picked out.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:19 am
I had my first child years before they told you routinely what you were having, so we had names picked for the big event. For the girl’s name, I’d decided as a teen that I was using the Gaelic Caitlin to honour my Norwegian great-grandmother Katarine; Louisa to honour my German great-grandmother Luise. The boy’s name was supposed to be George Thomas, honouring my grandfathers and my husband’s. When our daughter was born, she looked so much like a Kate that there was no question of going with Caitlin Louisa.
With my son, we knew he was a boy, and we’d already decided on the first name, Thomas. Up until the seventh month, it was going to be Thomas Benjamin — and then my husband decided he didn’t like Benjamin anymore. My son was born 5 weeks early while my husband was singing a concert in Halifax, Nova Scotia (I was in Burnaby, BC), so Thomas went home without a middle name. Finally, we just went through a list of acceptable Hebrew names and settled on Caleb.
For Hebrew names, by the naming ceremony for my daughter we’d decided on Leah Gavriella and at the bris, we simply went with Kalev for my son.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:32 am
I named my first son in sixth grade (his first name at least) because that’s when my grandpa died and I knew I wanted to name my son after him. Now that I’m 20 weeks pregnant with our second (we find out on Friday if it’s a girl or boy!!!!) we have a first name of each gender picked out. I’m pretty sure I already had the boy name decided before I got pregnant with #2. I had a girl name picked out before I got pregnant but changed it to a similar one shortly after I got pregnant.
I cannot imagine not having a name picked out by the time the baby is born. For me, the boy name we have picked out is the only one that I really like. Every other name I see, I just can’t see that as the name. Not sure what to do if this one is a boy and we have a third boy! Girl names are much easier for me.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:41 am
My parents picked my name after they found out I was a girl, but they had ideas before finding out my gender.
My bestfriend’s name was going to be what her middle name is today– McKayla. But on his way to the hospital, her dad heard a song on the radio that had her first name in it, so when he got to the hospital, he told his wife he thought it was destiny that her name be what he heard on the radio. So, her name is _____ McKayla.
My aunt and uncle who just had a baby had the first and middles picked out before they were even pregnant, and stuck to them throughout the pregnancy, which I admire, because I’d be changing it left and right!
I definitely want to have it picked out before my baby is born though. I don’t think I’ll tell anyone, but I want to have some personalized little things. 🙂 Plus, I don’t think I could go into the delivery room blindly like that.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 11:51 am
our first son’s first name was chosen before i got pregnant. his middle name didnt come until about month 6 in the pregnancy. our second son’s first and middle were chosen soon after i got pregnant with him.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 1:26 pm
I’d have a couple of names picked out for each gender and make the final decision after the birth. My parents didn’t name me until 4 DAYS after I was born. They couldn’t agree on names for either gender for months.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 1:46 pm
We had names for both genders picked out by my 8th week of pregnancy. When we found out what I was having, I began calling my son by his name from then on through the pregnancy.
We puposefully picked out a name that had several variations for nicknames and waited until we met him to decide what we would call him on a day to day basis. He did not look like his full first name but the most natural nickname for that name fit him perfectly and that is what he has always been called.
This approach worked out great for us. I was able to get personalized items (mostly with initials) before he was born. I also made up a little rhyming song using his name while pregnant and sang it to him before and after birth. I am a real planner so I liked having this settled early.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 2:46 pm
We didn’t know what we were having, so had a short list for both boys and girls. We started discussing names early on in pregnancy but it took a while to whittle them down to 3-4 names for each short list that we both liked and worked in two languages. When our son was born, we tried out all names on the short list and after a couple of hours decided which suited him best.
The only thing that was decided years before I was pregnant or we had even met was that if I ever had a boy his middle name would be after my father as that’s a tradition in out family. Luckily my husband’s father had the same name, so we didn’t need to argue over it.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 2:50 pm
I am twenty years old and while children are a way off yet I have a long list of names for my future children. I plan on waiting until I see them for the first time so that I can see what name would suit them.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 3:37 pm
Because I’m quite the name-obsessed girl, I just didn’t have it in me to not have a name chosen for either of my children. I’m still awaiting the birth of #2 (due 11/4/14), but my son’s name was decided upon by my 4th month of pregnancy… I think my daughter’s name was chosen in the 5th month. Both names grew on me over time to the point it was a no-brainer, and I love having their names picked out so I can call them by name throughout my pregnancy.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 3:43 pm
I’m dead set on having Lorraine as my first daughters name. And my boyfriend is dead set on having David as his first sons name. So we already have our first son and daughters names picked out.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 4:03 pm
My husband and I discussed baby names once we were engaged. I LOVE names, so it is a constant topic of discussion for me and my hubs put the breaks on any further talks until we were pregnant. Four years later we got pregnant. We had our beloved boy name locked and loaded only to discover we were having a girl! I am so bad at liking girl names. We picked a name I would have never liked years ago, Nora. Her middle name is my mother in law’s maiden name: Raines. It fits her and I adore it. Now we are expecting again and I am at a loss for girl names. And the struggle continues…
on September 3rd, 2014 at 4:36 pm
I have only been married for a few months, but I have had my boys name picked out since I was a kid. Luckily my husband agrees with it.
For girls, we both like similar names, but cannot agree on a combo. We have a short list (seven names), and when we are expecting we will duke it out.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 5:35 pm
I have had my son’s name picked out since i was about 12 years old i am now 23. This little boy with blond curly hair ran up to me in a parking lot and handed me a flower he couldn’t have been more than three and his mom called out “sawyer”. It was just one of those life moments. then when i met the love of my life (Ben) he just happened to be a carpenter. So our son will be named Benjamin sawyer . Translates Son of Benjamin who saws wood! lol Our future daughters name has been picked out since me and my husband met when i was 16. I wanted to name my daughter after my aunt who passed away. Her name was Myra jean and she was sweetest and happiest person anyone would ever meet So my daughters name will be Felicity Jean. MY tops will never change but after that i will probably change my mind a 100 times.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 5:53 pm
I don’t have kids yet, but I already know I will have a name for my future children before they are born. I will not, however, tell anyone because I do not want name drama, but I probably will tell people the babies initials.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 6:37 pm
We’re TTC and have boy and girl first names picked out, although we’re still bickering over middles. I don’t see them changing – we really love the ones we’ve chosen.
on September 3rd, 2014 at 9:23 pm
I have one of my future childs name. Im no where near ready to have kids. But my first daughter will be named after my mom.
on September 4th, 2014 at 4:15 pm
I’m still a teen and I think about names! I have my favorites but I’d never clearly decide until I was actually expecting. I know I will have the names before any children are born because I think its better to not wait until the last minute.
on September 4th, 2014 at 6:05 pm
Although children are a little way off, I enjoy finding new names that I love! I have a few names on the short list for both boys and girls. As I intend to leave the gender a surprise, I’ll have both boys and girls names sorted but my top names might change if my husband doesn’t agree!
on September 4th, 2014 at 7:41 pm
The name for my son wasn’t picked until I had him. I had a list of 5 names:
Theodore Jack (nn Theo)
William Jace (nn Liam)
When I first got to see him, I immediately knew that he was a Theo!
on September 4th, 2014 at 8:59 pm
I’m a long way off from having babies yet, but I have a feeling I’m going to need a husband who’s quite tolerant of the name Matthew, as that has been my favourite for a boy since I was about 5.
I’m a massively impatient person, so I wouldn’t be able to just leave it to the last minute – I’d at least need to enter the delivery room with a top 10.
on September 6th, 2014 at 8:28 am
We have had our future children’s names chosen, along with a back up name, since about a month after we started dating.
on September 6th, 2014 at 10:59 am
My mom had her names for my brother and me chosen pretty early. I was named after her favorite aunt, Irene. If I’d been a boy, she said I would’ve been Anthony, since she loves the nickname Tony. My brother, had he been a girl, would’ve been named Frances, after my mom’s cousin that had died not too long before my brother’s birth. Instead he was named after his father.
I have cousins who have the tradition of the last three generations having the same first and middle initial, so the majority of them have names picked out by the time they’re even old enough to start considering having kids.
As for me, though I don’t have any current plans for kids in the near future, have several names picked out in honor of certain family members. But, while those names are ideal, I am flexible enough to add a second middle name for the child’s father to honor people that he cares about. So, in a way, I named my future children when I was around 13 or 14, a good twelve or thirteen years ago.
on September 6th, 2014 at 12:02 pm
At first, we had our names picked out years before I got pregnant. Then, once we got pregnant and found out it was a girl, our name choice felt wrong. Plus, when we’d picked our names they were different and unusual. Then, when I got pregnant the name we’d chosen was hugely popular. We sadly had to let go of that name (I mourned the loss pretty hard. It’s still my favorite name: Aria.) Also, our last name is Stark and for any Game of Thrones fans out there you know having a daughter named Aria with the last name of Stark would be….interesting.
No other name stuck out or seemed to have the same qualities of light and ethereal femininity without being too common (I also don’t like names that can be nicknamed, so that took a lot off the table). I finally became so frustrated that I fell back to my guilty pleasures name list and, surprisingly, we found one that the whole family adored. However…I was scared it was too different. We had three name combos chosen by the time she was born, my favorite still being the really uncommon name, and the moment we saw her we instantly knew…her name was definitely Nova Elise. All other choices seemed trite.
Now we are contemplating our second child and I know it’s going to be equally as hard finding a name we love again!
on January 30th, 2015 at 7:01 pm
I’m still a teen, but I’m obsessed with names. I’m an avid writer and reader, and I’ll probably use the same technique for picking character names. The first one that jumps out at me, or I like to use names from mythology. Some of my favorites are: Minerva (nn Minnie), Apollo (this also has ties to where I come from, as I live in a very Polish neighborhood), Athena, Freya, and Ares.
on April 2nd, 2016 at 4:07 pm
I’m 23 and single as can be, but I definitely think about it. I’ve kind of been set on Alexander James, Daniel Jacob and Elizabeth Jane since 6th grade and I’ve got a few backup names lined up. I made two Excel spreadsheets, one for boys names and one for girls, of every name I found that I like for every letter of the alphabet.
I figured my future husband and I should get it out of the way ASAP so I know what to call the kid as soon as I know the sex. And so I have names for my kids on “The Sims”. I definitely don’t want a junior.
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