How Does Your Own Name Affect Your Baby Name Style?
The name you know best is almost certainly your own. You’ve spent your entire life hearing it, speaking it, writing it and, at least if you’re a name nerd like us, thinking about it.
That means that your feelings about your own name — whatever they are — are most likely quite set at this point. If you hate it, you’ll probably always hate it; if you love it, you’ll always love it. And those feelings have likely played a key role in shaping your attitude toward names in general.
So how does that work for you?
How do your feelings about your own name affect your baby name taste and style?
Do you resent the plainness or popularity of your name, and so tend to favor more unusual names for your kids? Has it always bothered you if people often misspell your name, leading you to pick an easy-to-spell name for your little one? Or do you, perhaps, think that your name is amazing, and want to choose one just like it for the next generation?
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on December 12th, 2017 at 1:40 pm
My name is Jeannie. I grew up hating it because so many people misspell it and mispronounce it. My one goal when choosing a name for my child was something that was easily pronounceable and easy to spell. My other goal was to also not have him be one of a million with his name, nor have people go What did you name him?. James is a name that while is common, I really don’t know many children under 10 with the name, and it is not very high on the charts here in PA. And, I fell in love with the name James Louis. So, while I love the name Thaddeus and Canyon I could not bring my self to consider them.
on December 12th, 2017 at 1:49 pm
I’m Millie and spent a lot of my childhood (and still in adulthood) saying, “No, it’s not short for anything” and “yes, with an ‘ie'”. I love my name, I love that it is alliterative with my middle and surname, the fact that my initials are MMM isn’t an issue, my names don’t roll into each other and actually it makes my name much more memorable. My name wasn’t common at my time of birth so I grew up as the only Millie, only meeting one the same age as me when I was 14, and even then she was Amelia who went by ‘Millie’. The informality of my name sometimes gets to me and if I name a daughter in the future I will be much more likely to go with Alexandra “Lexa” rather than “just Lexa”. I’m also likely to pick a name with only one common spelling (I still get Milly a lot!) but is fairly unpopular because I enjoyed not having to be “Millie M” or “Brown-eyed Millie”.
on December 12th, 2017 at 1:58 pm
I’ve always disliked the popularity of Rachel as a name and felt it was somewhat boring. Didn’t mind the middle, Zoe, but neither had any good nickname prospects so I ended up embracing the first nickname that came my way from a mixup at school. No wonder that my taste in names tends towards the unusual and long (always needs to have good nickname options!).
on December 12th, 2017 at 2:30 pm
My name is unusual but easy to spell since it’s a word name in my native language. While I do hate my own name because of its sound and image, I like names LIKE mine (unusual and easy to spell). On the other hand, growing up in a country where it seems like you’re always just hearing the same names over and over I could never pick a popular name for a child.
on December 12th, 2017 at 2:44 pm
Honestly the only way that it has effected my name style is that I typically avoid M name. Mercy , Miriam and Miller are the only ones I include
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:00 pm
I was named Emily in 1990, right before it hit the top 10 (where it still remains!). I constantly heard my name in school, on the playground, in the shops, etc. and I always wanted to name my child something a lot more unusual. My husband, on the other hand, had never met another person with his name and used to be picked on for it, so he wanted something that was easily recognizable. We settled on Rosalie (#254 the year she was born!) nn Rosie. We haven’t met another one yet.
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:18 pm
I love my name for 2 reasons. 1. It means a lot to my mom. 2. I have tons of nickname options. When choosing names for my kids it’s important that I can detail to them all the reasons I love their name, not just shrug and say your dad and I thought it sounded cute. It’s also important that they have multiple other nicknames they can use in addition to their full name; so they can pick the version they think fits best.
I like that my name is always pronounced right and almost always spelled right. So those are preferences of mine too. But they aren’t as set in stone. Growing up there were no other Rebeccas in my grade, there was one a grade above me, one a few grades below me and I’ve known a few more in adulthood… so I never had to deal with too much duplication. I didn’t care at all about the Rebeccas I’ve known later in life, but I remember being slightly annoyed sharing my name with the 2 aforementioned girls in my school years. So I wouldn’t want a name more popular than mine was and would prefer one less popular, but I don’t need it to be super uncommon. I do like the name being recognizable due to the spelling and pronunciation preference listed above. Some of the more uncommon names that I find beautiful I also think would cause confusion and I don’t want to force that burden on another person.
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:22 pm
I do love an “ethnic spelling” (eg Roísín instead of Rosheen), because of my own name (Luísa). Luísa has this particulary spelling only in Portuguese language; however, some spellings with subtle differences (Luisa, Luiza) are present in other cultures/ languages. It’s only a detail, but it’s so symbolic for me since it’s an integrant part of my culture.
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:45 pm
I was born right at the time my name (Stephanie) was peaking at #6 in my country. It’s not terrible, but it’s my least favorite thing about my name, and means I’m more likely to seek out and value unusual names. What I love about my name that I’d like to pass on to my kids is that it has a nice meaning, is easy to pronounce in my language, is an honor name, and was chosen thoughtfully by my parents.
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:51 pm
My name is Racheli (the ach makes “ugh” sound).
I have chosen Cheli as a pronounceable nickname which I go by with friends and Rachel is my professional name when I am at work.
My name has influenced my baby name style as I like rare, uncommon names that are easy to pronounce.
on December 12th, 2017 at 3:57 pm
My name is Elena. In Croatia, where I live, it is starting to get more popular, but I have yet to meet a person over the age of 6 with my name. The name is often mispronounced, but that can be solved easily. With my name being of the “most popular” charts, it has definitely made me like unique names that are nowhere near the top. There are some names I like that are a bit more common m, but majority of my favorites are fairly uncommon. My name has also made me lean towards more E-names, and I also like A- and O- names.
on December 12th, 2017 at 4:05 pm
I have a popular name. I was often one of 2 or 3 in my class, but I was okay with that.
I love my name -Megan – even though it is occasionally misspelled (popularity often comes with a variety of spellings after all).
I like that it isn’t frilly, but isn’t too long to be used in full. Growing up a tomboy, and now being in a male-dominated field, I like the -n ending which fits in with the guys, but isn’t unisex.
I do like that it has a couple nickname options, but Maggie or Meg have never felt like they fit my personality (and friends and acquaintances alike who have tried them on me have always self-corrected saying I’m more of a ‘Megan’ than a “Meg’).
As for how that impacts the names I would consider for potential children, I like a consonant ending -n, -th, or -l and avoid the frilly -a endings in general. Though I do like names with nickname potential (what if my kid is more of a ‘Maggie’). And most of all, popularity isn’t a deal-breaker for me – though having more than 5 accepted spelling variations might be.
on December 12th, 2017 at 5:12 pm
My name is Alva which was top 26 in Sweden the year I was born, and reached top ten only 5 years later. I do love my name because I’ve always felt like an Alva (it means elf, and I’ve always loved fantasy), however, I was called “big Alva” in kindergarten (as I was the older one) and Alva M in school. This never really bothered me too much but I still wouldn’t choose a name like that for my child. I did see how much it bothered the other Alva to be called Alva D. Although I wouldn’t disqualify a name for being too popular if i really liked it. Alva is also quite short and there are no good nickname possibilities (at least in Sweden, although my dad does call me “Lalla”), so I will definitely pick a longer name.
I actually think having a very, very rare surname has affected me more (my grandparents made it up themselves). It is always being misspelled and misspronounced and doesn’t work at all in other countries as it containes an “å”. Therefore, I will definiately pick a first name that is easy to spell to make up for the last name (as I do love my surname and don’t plan on changing it). I will probably also pick a name that isn’t too swedish, while Alva isn’t too bad, my older siblings (Linnea and Ludvig) have had real problems trying to get people to pronounce their names correctly.
on December 12th, 2017 at 6:21 pm
I dislike how my name sounds, but I don’t hate it.
I loved how it was well known but not very common for people my age, so I’d like to emulate that. A name that people know and can spell, but that isn’t actually that popular.
(My name is Caroline, a well known name, but currently in the 800s in the UK – so something similar to that for my own child would be nice).
on December 12th, 2017 at 9:09 pm
Wasn’t there a really similar post to this a few months ago?
on December 13th, 2017 at 2:13 am
Having a common name, I’ve always envied my two sisters, both of whom had names that no one else we knew shared. They were the only Jodi and Joanna in the whole school, but there was always at least one other Julie in class, and at least a dozen in the school. I made up my mind in my teens that my kid would have a memorable name; she’s Calyssa.
on December 13th, 2017 at 2:41 am
My name was 16th in popularity the year I was born, for boys, I can count on one hand the number of other girl Tyler’s I’ve met. I never liked having a ‘boy name’ esp a popular one.
For a while it turned me off of unisex names, and top 50. Luckily unisex names are more useable now, because I actually like a lot of, them (much to the dislike of my 8yo self) as long as it’s pared with a more gendered name in case the child wants that.
Still not into many top 50 names though.
on December 13th, 2017 at 3:37 am
I’m an Emily born in the early 1980s, so my parents could not reasonably be expected to know what would happen… I’ve always thought my name suited me perfectly, but the popularity has bothered me my whole life. As a result, my daughter has an extremely unusual name, and her sister may get an equally unusual name. I do worry that they will hate me for spelling and pronunciation difficulties, but as least their father and I will be able to reel off an extensive list of reasons why we loved and chose them.
on December 13th, 2017 at 5:45 am
I’ve always hated my given name, it’s dated, “creatively” spelled and easily marks me as coming from a certain area and my family belonging to a certain class. I changed it at the age of 14, and I’ve gone by that name since, but no matter what I do it has never felt right – no name has, I’ve also tried out my middle name and various derivations from the first. They just do the job of being a name, but there’s no feelings of identity and attachment. I don’t mind (classic, not trendy) popular names for this reason and would definitely use one, so there is no way my child could be singled out for their name like I was. I’d also hesistate with frilly names, as I gave myself one and I feel like it’s almost too much to grow into.
on December 13th, 2017 at 6:36 am
I really love my name (Rebekah) but hate how everyone except ny family automatically spell it Rebecca. Especially where I live now everyone shortens it to Becca/Bekah which I absolutely hate (having been one of 3 Rebecca/Rebekah’s at school, the one who went by Becca was not particularly nice to me) I’ve even had friends get angry at m for choosing a different nickname to go by… I think if I have kids my naming style is unusual to some extent but I’d want to make sude each name has only 1 clear standard spelling!
on December 13th, 2017 at 7:11 am
I absolutely love my name. It’s very weird, my parents literally made it up. I was embarassed when I was a little kid, but not anymore.
It make me feel like a cool fictional character, or a princess from another dimension (haha), or something like that. People are usually weirded out, but I mostly take that as a compliment.
I also take it as a challenge, I kinda feel like it would be a waste to give up on that new tradition or something. And I want my future kids to have names that would only belong to them, and that would make them feel like a cool fictional characters too. So I’m one of those people who would not use a popular name even if they love it.
I’m not gonna invent new names like my parents did tho, I’ll probably choose something very unpopular and unique, but not absolutely unfamaliar. Maybe something from myths, legends or fairytales.
on December 13th, 2017 at 7:35 am
I’ve always loved my name but I have two main problems with it: 1) people always find a way to mess it up (saying or writing it) even though it’s only five letters long and 2) I only have one nickname and though I like it I wish I had more options. Not surprising at all that the names I like are easy to say and write and generally have many nicknames, right?
I’ve only come across about seven people with my exact name throughout my life, all different ages, plus a couple with a spelling variation and a few that used it as a nickname. In all, I think around ten people that went by my name or similar. I generally like more unpopular names, but popularity isn’t an issue for me and if I like a name, it being in the top 100/50/20/10/etc won’t sway me from using it (unless it’s so popular I’ve grown tired of hearing it, but in that case I just won’t like it)
on December 13th, 2017 at 8:34 am
My name is extremely popular in my area. There were several other Alyssa’s in my school. I really hated it. So when I had my son a few months ago, I wanted something uncommon but was still recognizable.
on December 13th, 2017 at 9:25 am
My name was one of the top names of the decade when I was born, and sometimes I’m the only one in a group, but often there is confusion among others. This very well may have contributed to my relentless quest for the most rare, beautiful names for my future children (at least, for the girls).
on December 13th, 2017 at 10:55 am
My name is Elizabeth and I absolutely love it. When I was younger I hated it because I didn’t like being one of three “Liz”s in my class, but it’s become my all time favorite name. When we have kids, I really hope my husband will agree to name a girl Elizabeth, and call her Lilibet.
As for my name style, I’d definitely say I go for evergreens where I can use a slightly unconventional nickname. My current list has names like Christopher “Kit”, James “Jem”, Phillip “Pip”, Elenor “Nell”, Margaret “Maisie”, and obviously Elizabeth “Lilibet”.
on December 13th, 2017 at 11:05 am
My name is Rebecca and it always got tacked with the last initial because there were several of us. I also have a very common last name so my name just doesn’t feel very original. It’s a name someone could choose if they were going into witness protection because it’s so common. Because of that, I am really turned off by names in the top 100. My middle name is very unique and I’ve always loved it because no one else has it. I like names that are familiar but will stand out in a sea of Sophias and Liams.
on December 13th, 2017 at 11:24 am
I’ve always loved my name and think it suits me. It wan’t too popular; I only ever had two other class mates with the same name and not at the same time. However, I have a first cousin once removed who has the same first and last name. She’s only a few years older than me, and we went to the same schools growing up. At the extremely small private school, I was just Raven in class, but school-wide I was Raven Danielle or Raven D (insert last name). When I transferred to public school, I always heard “Oh, I had a Raven (insert last name) just a couple of years ago.” That was super annoying to me. My naming style definitely reflects this. I go for unique, some would consider unusual, names. If a name is in the top 100 for either the country or state I live in, I consider it to be unusable, even if I do love it.
on December 13th, 2017 at 11:27 am
The sound of my name has influenced sounds I like. From “Emily,” I find I like the long e sound, the m sound, and the l sound, along with em- names in general. For example, I love Melanie as well – also including an m, ee, and l.
I just wish my name wasn’t so popular. I plan to avoid the top ten at least for my future kids!
on December 13th, 2017 at 12:23 pm
Growing up, I thought my name, Amy, was too short being only three letters. I use to ask my family to call me Elizabeth (my middle name.) But they just laughed. Now I love my name. It fits me and I love the meaning “Beloved.” I really feel like it’s part of my identity more than Elizabeth ever could be. It definitely influences my name choices for my children. The meaning of their names are very important to me. So much that I will drop a name that sounds nice if it doesn’t have a meaning I can love. I have a Levi Tait “brings joy through his association with God” and Anya Jeannette “grace because of God’s grace.” We liked Ava, but the long A sound was too close to my name for me. Surprisingly, short names obviously don’t bother me anymore!
on December 13th, 2017 at 1:20 pm
This is all so fascinating. It really seems as if your own name has so much to do with how you choose a name for a child! Taking what you like, changing what you don’t….
on December 13th, 2017 at 1:55 pm
Growing up, I only knew of two other people with my name, but there was never anyone at school with my name.
I like the uniqueness of my name, but sometimes wish my name was more recognizable. I always have to repeat mine at least twice before people hear it correctly.
I appreciate the family significance of my name, but sometimes am annoyed with misspellings and mispronunciations.
When I have children of my own someday, I want their names to be easy to spell and pronounce. I like historical, classic names like Polly, Emma, Marjorie, and Davis.
on December 13th, 2017 at 3:30 pm
My name is Jill & I’ve often wished I had been named in honor of someone & had a more feminine name with a strong history. So, I love those types of names for girls (Juliette, Elizabeth, Margaret, Catherine etc). I guess it has influenced my taste in boy names too. My sons each have strong, masculine names with a very long history that are in some way meaningful to myself & my husband.
on December 13th, 2017 at 3:42 pm
My name, Tiffany, influenced me in many ways. It was incredibly popular when I was a kid. I often ended up going by my surname (which is very unusual). I didn’t like that Tiffany also doesn’t have very many nicknames. It’s not like Elizabeth, which has a plethora of nicknames. Tiffany also feels so materialistic. My middle name is a filler middle, which also didn’t go with my surname (rhymes with the first syllable of my middle. So my middle wasn’t usable. Moreover, my parents didn’t really have a reason to give me the name, except that they liked it.
My family members’ names also influenced my own. My dad has his grandpa’s name as his middle. I like how meaningful that is. My mom has a made up name. She didn’t seem to notice, but it seemed like despite how cool it was to be unique, people had a lot of assumptions about her race, class, background, etc. My sister’s name was popular about a decade before she was born. Her name sounds really strange with our surname. My brother had a very popular unisex name. People always thought he was a girl.
When I chose my name for my kids, I thus tried to choose names that were unusual but meaningful. I wanted the names to be long enough that they could have plenty of nickname possibilities. Unisex names were straight out, and no filler middles. I also considered how the name would fit with the surname.
on December 13th, 2017 at 4:25 pm
I don’t think it is all about popularity. A name consists of more things than a number of uses. It is more about the style of a name not solely about popularity
For me, my own name did not affect my naming style. I have a rare mythological first name from another culture while I tend to like more traditional names. There’s nothing wrong with my name I just tend to like different names, it has nothing to do with my first name
on December 13th, 2017 at 5:18 pm
My name peaked in the late ’80s, shortly before I was born, towards the bottom of the top 100 chart. I never knew anyone else with my name until middle school, and as a shy, bullied kid, I often wished I had a more popular name like Ashley or Jennifer. *cue horrified gasps* I’ve since made peace with my name, and all the Ashleys and Jennifers have pointed out how annoying it is to be one of five kids with the same name in a class, so I recognize that there are pros and cons to both common and uncommon names. I think I’m less averse to using popular names than some name aficionados I’ve seen, but I also like some names that family and friends have thought too out-there. In all, I think my feelings about my name had more of an effect on my name style a decade ago than they do now.
The one thing I will say, though, is that as a kid I always hated that my name ended in a -y, because I thought that -ee ending sound was too babyish. It’s not something I’ve thought about a lot consciously, but looking at a list of my faves, only a handful end in -y or the -ee sound.
on December 13th, 2017 at 6:34 pm
I always found my name to be too popular and rather boring. For girls, I prefer short, sweet, sometimes vintage and sometimes spunky names. My boys style is a bit harder to nail down but I like trendier, “cool boy” names. The popularity of my name has led me to avoid the top 50 like the plague.
on December 14th, 2017 at 2:01 am
My name is Jessica and I usually go by Jess (and on occasion, I’ve tried out Jessie and Jay) Most of the time I’m the only Jessica. I’m relatively ambivalent about it. I don’t love it, but I don’t usually hate it unless I think about it too hard. I like my nickname better than my full name, and I despise most other ’80s – ’90s names too (Emily, Madison, Megan, Jennifer, etc). I usually go for longer, classic eccentric names that can be versatile – Joanna and Theodora, with the nicknames Jo and Theo, or Christopher (Kit). I also tend towards more melodic names with softer sounds, if that makes sense.
on December 14th, 2017 at 2:07 am
My name is Kiersten. I have always disliked it as everyone calls me “Ker-sten’ instead of Kiersten and it has always sounded plain and boyish. I wanted short and epic names and go by the nickname Kier or something more sophisticated.
My middle name is Tossa which I love its uniqueness and that I am the third generation to have in the middle name.
I am planning on giving myself kids unique cool or sophisticated names but also pronounceable.
Azriel Cerswell : Azriel I thought is approachable but cool, Cerswell is my grandmother’s surnames
Raphael Melchizedek: Raphael is my boyfriend’s favourite name and pays origin o his Portuguese ancestry and I’m huge history nerd and Melchizedek is a unique biblical name that is sophisticated and I’ve loved for a long time.
Thalia Avaris: I love Greek mythology an Percy Jackson and that is where Thalia comes from and Avaris pays tribute to Narnia through the deuteragonist of The Horse and His Boy. This pays tribute to my literary love.
Ariadne (I love the Greek connection and the feminine but not frilly name with Ari nickname)
Hassan (My favourite book is the Kite Runner) and I have followed in love with this little heard name not in the Middle Eastern families.
Elekra (Lex): Meaning ‘chosen’ which is the similar as Kiersten which is “Christ chosen’ and has zest in the name but probably wouldn’t be brave enough for a first name. Especially if I adopted a girl the meaning chosen would be fitting.
on December 14th, 2017 at 12:31 pm
My name is Eliane and as it is a typical Swiss name that you won’t here anywhere else I grew up knowing a few other Elianes and so now my favorite baby names for girls are mostly quite unique (for boys it’s another story… I absolutely love Charles, William, Henry and co.) I’ve also come to hate names with religious meanings because my name means “my god is Jehova” but I am a Atheist and believe that the parents don’t have the right to give their child a religious name as they don’t know yet what the child’s believes will be later in life. I also love unisex names for girls but I don’t think that has a lot to do with my personal name.
on December 14th, 2017 at 1:25 pm
The best thing about being called Hannah was knowing the word “palindrome” at a young age. In England in the 70s and 80s, Hannah wasn’t at all common, people would always hear Anna instead so whenever anyone asked my name I had a tendency to nervously over aspirate the “H” and then they would hear Helen or Heather which made me more nervous the next time someone asked my name and so it went on. Ironically this was probably closer to the original Hebrew pronunciation of (C)Hannah. I certainly felt I had an unusual name despite eventually ending up having another Hannah in my class for two years at primary school. There is a scattering of Hannah’s my age among my wider social network, offhand I can think of four or five but somehow I never came across anyone else called Hannah except for those two years. It isn’t girly or frilly or pretty or classic. My mother wanted to call me Isabel, I think Hannah was the compromise name – my mother had known a beautiful Hannah when she was a girl.
I also didn’t and still don’t like the lack of nicknames. In England banana is not pronounced the same way as in the States (it has a long ah bahnahnah) so I would only get Hannah Banana from my American cousins who being from the south pronounced Hannah more like “Hyena”. You would say Hannah and get one of two responses “Hard-hearted Hannah” or “Hannah and her Sisters” which annoyed me as I only had brothers. Children take these things very seriously. People have tried Han and Hannulah, Spanner and Banner and so on but nothing sticks. I would love to be Nancy or Nana or even Nan and I think that would suit me but it’s too late now. I can’t avoid plain old Hannah. Hannah is always a servant in books, never the heroine.
I have never felt fully attached to my name, as if it belongs to someone else. I remember driving out of Accra in Ghana and looming out of the darkness the rose a huge sign saying HANNAH’S CAR PARK. Now that was weird. Somehow that collection of spiky letters was attached to me, really? Once I met a hippy in the outback of Australia who said I exactly suited my name which felt wonderful for the five minutes I believed it. Hannah-Louise or Hannah-Lou much more reflects my split English and Southern identity but really I should have been called a classically English name like Lucy or Charlotte or Alice or Kate. People are always mistaking me for people with those sorts of blonde English names.
So I have mixed feelings; proud of the American-spirited Old Testament nature of my name, hooked on the meaning Grace I had always wanted to call a daughter Grace but the name became too popular, and fond of the way to looked written down and slightly resentful when it became popular among little kids when I was an adult but relieved that FINALLY people got the name first time. I thought I’d give my children beautiful names with nicknames or else Old Testament names like mine but prettier ones like Susannah, but I didn’t.
My son Soren has a very unusual name which is actively “cool” but doesn’t lend itself to nicknames (we tried Sonny and Solly) and is not easily said – not unlike my own name in fact – and it doesn’t even have the boon of a great meaning.
The twins’ names don’t have any meanings as no one knows where Leonora’s root Eleanor comes from nor indeed Phoebe, but they do have other resonances. One is named for a favourite artist the other named for being related to Artemis, twin and moon goddess. I love the spelling, the associations and sound of Phoebe but do cringe when I hear her name in playgrounds, which I do quite often and I wish I had called her Elizabeth which is her middle name. I would have called her Bess. On the other hand there is merchandise in stores with Phoebe’s name on it, 8 year old me would have LOVED that.
Leonora gets all the nicknames, mostly Leo and Lily-Nora and Lee-Lee.
We get a lot of great feedback on the youngest’s name, Daphne, and for nicknames we use Dilly but there is no avoiding Daff.
In the end I didn’t name any of the children the sort of names I thought I would use, classic, longish names with lots of nicknames and great meanings and family history. I hope that they don’t hate them. They all have great middle names to fall back on and they certainly seem to suit their names.
If I manage to have another the names in the running are Katherine, Maud and Daisy for girls and Laurence and Christopher and John for boys. Once you are naming with partner you just have to choose from the names you both like and that can be a small pool: bye bye Stellan and no to Rosalie and outlawing Frieda for every daughter. My own name was probably the germ of my love of names and meanings and etymology for all words and that’s not a bad legacy.
on December 14th, 2017 at 4:29 pm
My name is Kyrsten. (I bet if you are reading my name you are pronouncing it wrong) I hated it because I would get Kristen, Tristen, Kristin, etc. And don’t get me started on how many people I have to correct their pronunciation of my name. it is pronounced like Kiersten but my parents wanted to be unique. Soooo i’m stuck with a sucky name. Though having Kyrsten as my name hasn’t Discouraged me from wanting to give my kids unique names. Currently I want to name one of my daughters Ilianna or Jaelyn. But my biggest resentment of my name has to be the lack of nicknames. All of my favorite names have a nickname. Ilianna has Anna, Jaelyn has Jae or Lyn.
on December 14th, 2017 at 8:43 pm
My name is Charlotte, but I literally always go by Charley (except in professional settings). There was another Charlie I went to school with from ages 4 to 18, but spelled the more common way and he was a boy. I have yet to meet a girl called Charley that is spelled the same way as mine, and everyone I meet spells my name wrong the first time round. Even my family sometimes still spell my name wrong. My dream girl names are more unique, such as Adelaide, Amélie and Nell, but my dream boy names are less so, such as Francis and Noah.
on December 15th, 2017 at 1:47 pm
My name is Halsey and I always hated it when growing up because it was constantly mispronounced. I love it now and appreciate that it is strong, uncommon, and perfectly me! I wanted to kids to have names that were similarly strong, uncommon, but not ‘fashionable’ or following a current trend or fad. Also ones that were simple so that they wouldn’t have to go through years of hating their difficult to pronounce or misspelled name! My first daughter is named Pearl and her siblings will have similarly ‘old-fashioned’ type names.
on December 16th, 2017 at 5:56 am
I feel so ambivalent about my name: I used to want to change it to my middle name, Eloise, but couldn’t ever go through with it because it’s a virtuous babe, attached to my mum’s name and it looks beautiful as a word. It doesn’t suit me, though, it’s less romantic than I think am, and I don’t like hearing myself say it. It’s influenced my decision with my own daughter positively in that I chose a name also connected to someone in the family, but I also made sure it could be a writer’s name and lead to playful nicknames.
on December 16th, 2017 at 11:18 am
I’ve always liked my name: Marina. I enjoyed being the only Marina in my school! I also appreciate that while my parents gave me a unique name, it’s still easily pronounceable.
This is why I chose Adelaide for my daughter…it’s fairly unique, yet still familiar.
on December 16th, 2017 at 10:30 pm
I’m a Hannah, which was in the top 5 in the three years around the year I was born, so that means that I grew up with always having loads of Hannahs’ around. I graduated with 4 Hannahs’, and it was to the point where we basically went by our last names instead. I never have liked just being one of the Hannahs’ and I plan on giving my kids names that are somewhat unique, but still recognizable.
on December 17th, 2017 at 1:03 am
This is so interesting to me. I hated anyone calling me by a nickname. My name is Jacquelyn, which is long to spell, but only two syllables. I hated Jackie/Jacquie with a passion. It was just not me at all.
I feel like it affected my preference for girls names, I like strong sounding names, dislike frilly and do not like any nick names that are remotely cutesy.
on December 18th, 2017 at 2:18 am
My own name is fairly ‘normal’ (Jessie- super familiar but not overly common on its own; most people assume it’s short for Jessica) but my 7 younger siblings all have pretty interesting and unusual names (eg Tallulah and Aloysius). I don’t know if all this has any bearing on my naming style, but I would definitely say my style is VERY bold; most names I love are names that for others would probably be guilty pleasures or just a plain no! I think what may have had an influence on my naming style is the community in which I was raised, which was a super-creative, artsy, somewhat bohemian country town where a child named Jayden would be more out of place than a child named Echo.
on December 18th, 2017 at 6:28 pm
I believe my name ranked in the 90-100 range on the list the year I was born. While there have been plenty of other Catherine’s in my class in middle and high school, most of them went by Kate or Katie, making me the only Catherine who went by Catherine, so I didn’t mind that too much. The two things that did always bother me were everyone assuming my name was spelled with a K since that spelling was more popular in the 90’s, and being asked if I go by Catherine on the first day of class AFTER the teacher said tell me if you go by a nickname. My sister has a very 90’s name and my brother has a name that wasn’t popular in the 90’s and is just now popular, all of which has impacted my style of liking names that are classics or well known, but not top 10. I also like names that have only 1 common spelling; I never want my child to have to spell out their entire name so it will be spelled correctly (and will probably still be misspelled).
on June 22nd, 2018 at 3:28 pm
I actually really enjoy having an unusual but simple name: Kiki. It kinda just fits me! I admit, as an adult I worry that in a professional setting I’m not taken all that seriously…. But ultimately, it’s who I am and I love it. As soon as I knew I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to name our daughter something that is also not super common, but easy to pronounce and understand, except this time have it have a more mature full name with adorable nick-name. This way, she can choose which one to go by as an adult, which is something I wish I had sometimes.
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