Can’t Find A Name You Love? Maybe you’ve got BNDD

Colette Weston

Ohio mom of two Kristen Hunger had an easy — make that ecstatic — experience naming her first two children, Colette and Weston, pictured above.  But this time around?  She can’t find a single name she loves….and she’s afraid she knows why.

It was bound to happen. After two pregnancies during which I fell madly, unwaveringly in love with two names, I find myself pregnant again.  Except this time I’ve come down with a severe and I fear terminal case of Baby Name Desensitization Disorder.

What exactly is BNDD?  It is when you not only feel unexcited by any and every name, but you also feel apathetic and numb to the whole naming process!  The disorder is aggravated by my background as a nanny, childcare employee, Sunday school teacher and nursery coordinator at our church.  I have heard every name and know someone – or know someone who knows someone – who’s used it.  No matter what I do, I can’t find a name that excites me the way my daughter’s “Colette” or my son’s “Weston” did.

When I discovered their names, I was instantly ready to get everything monogrammed. I didn’t even look at other names or ask random people their opinions!  It was so easy to envision Colette and Weston as spirited youths growing into successful and thriving adults. Holding steady jobs and contributing to society.

Now, no matter how hard I try, every name I encounter leaves me utterly apathetic. I obsessively search lists, posts and blogs. I eavesdrop at playgrounds and libraries trying to overhear other children’s names. I rent movies just to watch the credits! And nothing! NOTHING!

After I found out we were expecting another boy, I casually mentioned the name “Calvin” to my husband.  He loves it. LOVES IT!

For me: meh. I have no reason not to like the name Calvin (although it does mean “bald” or worse “short and bald” and baldness just so happens to run on both sides of the family).  However, I have no reason to love it either.  I hear about other expectant parents whose lists consist of multiple names for boys or girls, and I am envious that their shopping cart is so full while my little basket contains just this one little and not very exciting idea.

Is Calvin a great name I should try to love, like a decent spouse in an arranged marriage? Should I trust my husband’s judgment since clearly, CLEARLY, mine is impaired? Where is the secret bin of baby names that will cure me of my BNDD?

Or have I become a baby naming prima donna? I swear my baby name requirements are few and reasonable.

1)      Can’t end in “er” because our last name ends in “er” and it sounds real sing-songy.

2)      Would hopefully come with a nickname – in fact, the thing I like best about Calvin is that it can be shorted to Cal.

3)      Should be strong and gender-specific.

4)      Ideally has two or more syllables.

That’s shorter than the list of requirements I had for a husband, and I managed to marry my Calvin-loving man within a year of our first date.  Is there a name out there I could love too?  Is falling head over heels in love with a name three times asking too much out of life?

Our regular Berry Question of the Week will return next week, with a North Carolina mom hunting for a name for her third baby.  To send in your own question for consideration for a future post, write to berryqow@nameberry.com.  Sorry, we can’t give individual name consultations, but if your question is chosen, we will comment!

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luckymomma Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 12:47 am

I love your first two kiddos’ names! I have a Ronan and Beatrix, and since Calvin was on our list for Ronan, I’ll throw out others we considered as well:
–Dominic
–Simon
–Cormac
–Declan
–Milo

I do think you should love the name, though. Sit with Calvin for a while and see if it grows. Don’t stop looking, though! Good luck.

henrye Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 1:19 am

Maybe you should go about it backwards. Stop thinking about names and think about things you have fallen in love with. Any books or movies you just feel an attachment to? Maybe you love old musicals: how about Fred(erick) (Astaire) or (Judy) Garland? You love Apocalypse now? Francis, Martin, Conrad. Have a soft spot for WWI history? Franz, Ferdinand, Rudolf, Maximilian. Kitchener! Was Colette in any way a nod to the writer? Because there’s Claudine, or something that could have Gigi for a nickname, or, Colette’s first name was Sidonie-Gabrielle, after her mother, who was known as Sido, which is kind of cool. Or think of a third letter that turns your kids’ names into an awesome acronym. Name a boy Otto or a girl Olympia and you have COW. Well, CWO, but still. But mostly just chill. Have some backups. Have Calvin loaded and ready to go. Maybe you’ll have two kids who always know exactly what they want and one who takes a little longer. Maybe you’ll have a third kid who will always surprise you. Take this as part of this journey, and just enjoy it.

Nyx Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 1:53 am

Hmm… I’m going to throw a few out. Let me know what you think 🙂
Elliott
Grayson
Emmett
Lucas / Luke
Micah
Angus / Gus
Vincent
Hugo
Milo
Levi
Liam
Amos

little_cupcake Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 3:59 am

I was feeling a bit like this too. When naming our first, the name ‘Felix’ just jumped out at us. It was definitely the one.
With this baby, also a boy, we didn’t have a name jump out at us right away. We had a list that we went back and forth on, but none of those seemed right. They all seemed like a compromise. Things I liked, sure, but not THE ONE the way Felix was. We stopped thinking about it and a few nights later, it happened! A name we hadn’t even considered yet just sprung at us. It was amazing.
So I think you should give it time. Stop thinking about names entirely (difficult, I know!). And just wait.
If it helps, I adore the name Calvin. I begged my husband to use the name but he won’t consider it! I would absolutely love to have a little Calvin, but it seems as though it’s not to be.

Titus245Mama Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 7:25 am

Well, I think Calvin is a great name. 🙂

I had a similar experience. I had the names of my first two children (a boy and a girl) chosen within the first 8 weeks of my first pregnancy. We fell in love with both names quickly, and when our firstborn was a son, we got the chance to use the girl’s name we picked on our second born, a daughter.

With our third, I was still excited about baby-naming, but I couldn’t pick anything that made my husband happy. Actually, I blogged all about it, if you’d like to read it: http://www.godmadehomegrown.net/uncategorized/a-name-a-legacy-naming-micah-paul/#axzz1l8FdPNaZ

Many Blessings! 🙂

mermuse Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 9:20 am

I have never had a child (yet), so forgive me if I am naive and telling you something I know nothing about. But, I agree with others who say that you should LOVE the name that is going to be attached to this person you will be LOVING for the rest of your life. Maybe you just need to take a break, step back, forget about it, and come back to it in a week. Give it just a week without TRYING to find a name–without obsessing or worrying, without reading lists or flipping through books. Who knows–maybe the right name will just come to you?

And if all else fails, thank God you DO have that husband by your side. Maybe it’s his turn to fall in love with a name?

pam Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 9:53 am

Hi Kristen — I’m going to suggest you move beyond Calvin for a couple of reasons. While I like the name, it kind of crosses wires with both Colette, because of the initial C, and Weston, because of the N ending, and also has two syllables just as they do. I’d say add a syllable…or go to a different ending.

I love Levi, Amos, or Declan for you. Gil and Hal both feel like cal to me, but don’t know if you can live with Harold or Gilbert. Some other ideas:

Sebastian
Sullivan
Jefferson
Augusten or Augustus
Abel (Abe)
Elias
Raymond/Ray
Edmund/Ned (love this with Wes)
Louis/Lou
Montgomery/Monty

C in DC Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 11:08 am

I have twin girls. We had one name we loved. The second name just wouldn’t come to us. I tossed out a name one day to my DH like you did with Calvin. Hubby said “YES!” and he was done. I was “meh” about it. I tossed out more names at him, and we didn’t settle on the 2nd name until we were on our way to the hospital. We went with our “Calvin” name, and it fits our daughter well.

Calvin’s a great name. It fits with Colette and Weston. (You can call him “Vin” or “Vinny” if Cal and Col sound too similar to you.) Your hubby loves it. Give yourself some time, and see if it grows on you.

mimimom Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 11:17 am

What about Callum or Calix? You still get the nice nickname of Cal with much better meanings (Callum = dove and Calix = handsome).

LJandRL Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 11:30 am

If you like Cal, do you like Hal? I agree that I wouldn’t use the same initial as Colette if you can avoid it. But I think Hal has the same cool guy feel as Cal. One of our favourite names is Harlan nn Hal?

I’ll just suggest our other faves too in case it sparks your interest:

Lennox
Otto
Rafferty
Wyatt
Emrys
August
Sullivan
Braith
Cassius
Quentin
Kirk
Lyle
Hayes
Ashby
Vance
Quinn
Armand

Hope theres something in there. I think BNDD is such a danger when you’re a name addict like us since you’re thinking about names so much that everything can feel overfamiliar and dull after a while. I don’t think you have to have an initial feeling of certainty about a name to use it. Some names are just growers.

We don’t have kids yet but I kind of now how you feel. We have 2 top girls names, Claudie and Penelope. Claudie was an instant and head over heels love for both of us, Penelope for me at least was a grower. It hovered on my list of “likes” for a while before eventually I just realised I loved it. If you get a short list of names together that you may not love yet but are interested in, you may eventually fall in love with one. Kind of like playing the dating field lol. After Claudie and Penelope, we’re both finding it really difficult to “fall” for anything else so I can sort of relate, although we may never even have 2 daughters let alone 3 so its not really an issue for us.

Your little one is already on his way so I sincerely hope you find something soon! And for what its worth I love Colette, Weston and Harlan 🙂

Good luck!

kokotg Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 11:48 am

I’ve tried to love Calvin, too, but I can’t get past, well…Calvin. As in John. My favorite boy name with nickname is August/Gus. I have one, in fact. I’ve named three boys, so I’m familiar with your problem. But I’ve always managed to find that just one more name that I’m in love with. I’m confident it will happen for you, too.

afmastro Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 1:43 pm

I just met a grown-up Colette today at my son’s infant/toddler playgroup and I remember thinking, “What a lovely name.”

I would only avoid Calvin to prevent repeating the C. If you loved Calvin, perhaps the repeating C could be overlooked. But it sounds like you aren’t sold.

How about Miles?

bderosia Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 1:57 pm

What about Achilles? The only Achilles I ever meet is my brothers best friend from childhood and he is so sweet and smart. I think it is really usable and fits well with your other kids names I think.

care1032 Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 2:01 pm

I feel ya. There are absolutely no girl names out there that appeal to me. I’ve studied and considered all of them and they all seem unoriginal, too frilly, too trendy, too old, too overused, bad name association, etc. not sure how we will ever find one, but eventually we will have to decide on something. I’d just love to be excited about it! Good luck to you!

mamadrama Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 2:10 pm

Hi all!

Thanks so much for all your great advice! I have stopped thinking of names for a couple weeks now and I must confess I feel so light and free without that weight on my shoulders! It’s funny the simplicity in which we found Colette and Weston. Sadly there is no reason or story. We just saw it and loved it. I think I began to overcomplicate things.
I also had a light bulb moment just this week when my sister had her first baby boy! She named him Aiden and I know how that sits with most of us. For months my sister tried to find another name but her husband was set. But as I held baby Aiden I didn’t for one second think “What a shame. What a common boring shame” That baby was perfect and wonderful. He is full of limitless possibilities and no name will keep him in a box. He will define the name. The name won’t define him.
I agree that one of the main reasons not to like Calvin is the beginning and the end (If it was something that all my kids’ names shared that would be great) it still remains the only name we talk about but seeing some of the great suggestions we might move on. I especially love all the nick name suggestions. My father in laws name is Edward and would love to explore more names that begin with Ed. Also my father’s name is William and might explore variations of that as well. I know Liam is one.

My husband’s name is Jeffrey and I love it and would use if for a first name if it wants a lifelong battle of confusion. I insisted it be Weston’s middle name. I love Jefferson but feel like we couldn’t use it for that reason.

I can’t wait till Jeff gets home and we can talk about all these other great options! I feel so alive again 🙂

pam Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Minimom, I think Callum is a brilliant idea — might be a more attractive and modern way to get to Cal plus it has a different ending. What do you think, Kristen?

mamadrama Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 2:42 pm

I like the name and meaning too! My husband wasn’t that enthusiastic about it. But that was last month when I was like launching names at him like we were kids at summer camp and names were water balloons! I think it was his defensive maneuver to just block everything!!! I wouldn’t mind to go back over it.

We also had an aquantance have a baby boy Declan this week and the face Jeff made looked like a face a cat would make if you tried to feed it strained spinach! I like it though. It’s very strong and masculine. It’s so hard these days finding a boy’s name. Watch out ladies, these girls are after all of our boys names! I’m shocked how many names go big on the girls list. I feel as though nothing is safe! The more testosterone ridden, chest hair covered sounding of a name the better I feel about it!

Nyx Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 3:58 pm

Back for round two. But, before I start, I want to agree with another poster’s advice: You might have to give a name a chance for you to grow and love it. After all, every love is different, and it’s okay to have a different naming experience with one child as opposed to the next. (While our naming dilemma was nothing like yours, I did have issue with not going about finding the perfect name in the same way that worked so well for us the first time around.)

For me, personally, I would try and avoid a name that starts with “C” or “W”, or one that ends with “on”. I’ve always felt that there is a fine line between linking together a group of names, and giving a child individuality. However, I might recommend having a “T” or “O” in the name somewhere, as a subtle link to the two siblings names.

Before I start, I’m going to explain what each name *feels* like to me, that way I can explain why I think a certain name would work well for a sibling 😉

Colette: Very feminine and a slightly exotic-feeling, but sweet and simple at the same time.

Weston: Very masculine, with a western sort of feel, but also with a vintage feel and a surname feel.

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Colette, Weston AND Elliot – Elliot has both the “T” and the “O” to provide the subtle link through all three names, share the western/vintage/surname feel with Weston, and works beautifully with Colette. And Elliot Calvin sounds lovely together. This is one of my favorite names for this sibset 😀

Colette, Weston AND Lucas “Luke” – Links to Weston with the “S” and Colette with the “C”, shares a western/vintage feel with Weston, and has a very masculine sound/feel to the name. This might just be my second favorite name for this sibset 🙂

Colette, Weston AND Angus “Gus” – Has a subtle western feel, a strong vintage feel, and a very masculine feel. An added bonus, this name isn’t trending out there, but you get the very trendy nickname of Gus.

Colette, Weston AND Vincent “Vin/Vince”/Vinny” – Has the subtle “T” link to both names. Vincent has a subtle/almost western feel and a very vintage feel and is extremely masculine.

Colette, Weston AND Levi “Lee?” – Levi feels western and has a very modern feel, but also has a vintage feel to me… The one thing that has me hesitating (but not enough to reject the name) is how strongly the name feels linked to Weston but not at all to Colette… it starts to feel that Colette is the odd-name-out (which might work for your family, especially since she is oldest and the only girl).

Colette, Weston AND William “Liam” – While I said that I would avoid names beginning with “W”, I made an exception here because of the family link and the nickname with a different letter. William has a rather attractive masculine feel, and is a very strong vintage name. Liam is a rather attractive name on it’s own, with a slightly exotic feel. Overall, I find that this sibset is rather attractive (and I am a sucker for honoring names) 🙂

Colette, Weston AND Forrester “Fort?” – While this one might feel out there initially, I think it just might work. Forrester has the subtle “T” and “O” links, a western/surname feel, and I can easily picture my great-great-grandfather’s best friend being named Forrester. This is a name that I suggest you give some time to really get a good feel for. It might just be the one that you grow to love 😉

Colette, Weston AND Amos – Shares the subtle “O” theme throughout the names, while Amos has a vintage feel, it also shares something of the exotic with Colette and something of the adventurous with Weston. Amos is a great name if you are looking for something that is recognizable, but also something that has a unique feel.

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Names I rejected and why:

Emmett – Contains the subtle “T” link, and has the vintage/surname feel going for it. On the downside, the ending is very similar to the name Colette

Everett – Contains the subtle “T” link, and has the vintage/surname feel going for it. On the downside, the ending is very similar to the name Colette

Let me know if anything strikes you as a “maybe” 🙂

PeachThePrincess Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:01 pm

Well, a great idea is get international variations of a casual name. Per example, for the name John you can use Ioan, Ian, Ivan, Ivo, Hans, Eoin, Eoghan, Giovanni, Yohan, Yonnathan. I’ll put some suggestions:
– Vicent (a – in my opinion – cool name)

– Rodrigg (variation of Roderick)

– Caesar (the middle name of almost all the emperors of Rome)

– Gideon (a – in my opinion – suspicious and cool name from the Bible)

– Federic (variation of the spanish variation of Frederick)

– August (the original form of the name Austin)

– Ulf (german name that means wolf)

– Enzo (italian derivation of Henry)

Hope you enjoyed one of them!

mamadrama Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:30 pm

Nyx!!!
Oh my word! You take my breathe away!!! I love the way your detailed brain works! It is like medicine coated in chocolate and sprinkles!

With naming Weston my husband liked some names that began with “C” and I liked names that ended in “T” but I didn’t want to go down that road cus I knew we would have a third and that would make naming any other sibling impossible. I loved Weston cus it was so separate from Colette. So I completely agree with you about Emmett and Everett.

I actually LOVE Forrester! With our last name being Hunger do you think it is too sing songy or because it is such a long first name it works? I found Carter Hunger or Hunter or what-not sounded too forced. Like the name of a mass market cookie or something you see at the end of isles in Wal-Mart.
I even like Forest as a nickname. Although Forest Gump kind of permanently took that name. I do like it and you know what, life is like a box of chocolates!

I also have previously mentioned Vincent to my husband. I am not sure if anyone was as big of a Lost nerd as my husband was but one character happened to be a dog and it happened to be named Vincent.

Also Levi is a great contender!

I can’t wait to show this to my husband!

LJandRL
I really like your first suggestion of Lennox. It has familiar feel because of the way it starts but the ending makes it more adventurous. Do you think his nick name would unavoidably be Lenny? Are they others nick names there that I am not seeing?

linda Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:32 pm

Kristen–Thanks for opening up this productive discussion!
In terms of honoring your father-in-law, have you considered Edison, one of the most modern-sounding of the Ed names–a real light-bulb name, though I love Edmund too.
It strikes me that if anyone should have BNDD it would be Pam and me and yet…though we aren’t in baby naming mode where we have to narrow our options down to one choice, I think I speak for both of us when I say we are constantly being re-inspired by some fresh (often vintage) idea that emerges.

kjstempel Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:48 pm

I am going through the same thing right now! My husband and I are waiting for that perfect boy name to come to us, and our son is due in 4 weeks. I have looked on every list and name site and nothing stands out. I am also a teacher which eliminates so many names and it seems like all the good names are taken by friends. My husband also is ultra picky. So far we have James and Jack, but they don’t make me jump for joy! I never understood how people didn’t have a name for their baby early on and now I know. Our daughter was named around 20 weeks pregnant. I am going a little nuts, but nice to here someone can relate.

Nyx Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:53 pm

mamadrama: I think that with Forrester being 3 syllables and Hunger being 2 syllables, you avoid the sing-songy effect that you get with names like Carter Hunger (both 2 syllables and ending with “er”). Also, I think Forest is a great nickname, and I wouldn’t worry overly much about the Forest Gump connection (which isn’t going to be that big of a deal for kids born 18 years after the movie). I’m really glad that you like this name, as it struck me as one that might be perfect for your family 😀

I’m glad that you seem to be getting over your BNDD!

pam Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 5:55 pm

Forester is a great idea but I like Forest or Forrest almost better. And what about Ford as a nickname? Love that with Wes AND with your last name…

mamadrama Says:

February 1st, 2012 at 10:49 pm

So Jeff and I just went over all the lovely name suggestions. Thank you all so much you don’t even know!

From the suggestion he likes:
Lennox but says he prefers Maddox but I prefer Lennox
Edison but is it too close to Weston?
Sullivan. I also like Van for a nick name.
Gideon. I am beginning to see how we just keep ending up with boys names that end in “n” I wish it wasn’t so but they just keep showing up!

He then proceeded to list these out of nowhere! I would love some input on either nick names or overall feel.

Marshall
Remington
Trenton
Davis
Griffin

I really really like Forester but his reaction was less than compliant. Bummer hugh! I could always knock him out after labor or, more favorably during. No one could really blame me 🙂

kjstempel I can’t imagine having a fourth and actually might not after the difficulty of naming a third! I am so glad to hear how many people go through this!!! Phew!

Linda and Pam I am so glad you haven’t had a bad case of the BNDD! I think if it wasn’t the fact that it is my child and a permanent decision (mostly) that this disorder would be so acute! Either way I am thankful for your immunity-Stay Strong!

I can’t express how cathartic having this discussion with like-minded individuals has been!

loloshells Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 12:00 am

Mamadrama, if you still need a better nickname for Lennox than Lenny, I really like Nox as a nickname.

peach Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 2:45 am

I prefer these from your most recent list:
Davis — good strong name and nice flow with your last name
Edison — great name for Ed nn and just the “-n” ending isn’t too similar to Weston.
Gideon — nice different name, more syllables for good balance. A great addition to the list.

other ideas:
Bennett
Brandt
Beale
Desmond
Ellis
Graham
Maxfield
Morgan
Marlowe
Oxford
Orion
Redmond
Sennett
Sloane
Wilkes

anything new appeal? Good luck!

mamadrama Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 8:09 am

Last night at 2:45a.m as I stumbled across the room for a pregnant bathroom break and to take my anti-nausea meds (thank heavens I’m pregnant in 2012! I would still be puking in toilets and sinks and any open container. Wood woot! Shout out to modern medicine!) I had an epiphany! I was still thinking of the name Forester and why it sounded so good with Colette and Weston. “Colette, Weston and Forester” it sounds so good! Then I realized it was the letter T! Then I saw Muppets dancing around me saying “this eureka moment was brought to you by the letter T” and realizing I was still somewhere between sleep and awake I hurried back to bed. I think it works so well because there is the common element of T in all the names but the placement of it in each name is different giving each name its own feel. Also, Hunger has such soft sounding beginning that the strong T sound in each name gives it nice distinction. I think today I’m exploring boy’s names with T in them with great excitement! If you already have some in mind let me know 🙂

Loloshells Nox is a great nn idea! Thanks!

Peach two names from your list I think are great: Graham and Bennett. Jeff and I explored Bennett and Benton. One was too close to Colette and the other too close to Weston. Also several family members insisted we stay away from anything with the nn Ben because of our last name Hunger. They thought Ben Hunger would get too many jokes. But I do think Ben and Wes sound good together. I also like Desmond but don’t think I have the courage to use it. Jeff might though. I’ll check with him.
Thanks for your input on our other ideas as well!

pam Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 9:10 am

Jeff has some great ideas! I love Davis and Griffin, who could be Griff or Finn, and Trenton nn Trent has the T thing going on. Do you like Tate? I’m kind meh on that one, but another T-heavy choice. Edward or Edison nn Ted/Teddy?

pam Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 10:07 am

Also, still thinking about this, I really like Remington nn Rem as in architect Rem Koolhaas, whose real name I see is the also cool and very unusual Remment: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rem_Koolhaas

I like this better than Remy which, though a great name, feels female to me — maybe because my friend has a beautiful daughter named Remi.

Two more ideas: Tristan nn Trip and Rafferty nn Raf or Rafi.

mamadrama Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 1:41 pm

Ya Davis and Griffin stuck out to me too. I’m worried although Remington is cool and I would love to meet someone named Remington and their parents that maybe it’s too last name for me. I also like Tennyson but think. Will Remington and Tennyson sound like our house is boot camp and start yelling orders around “Remington drop and give me 20!” However, it is on the same Artist Names list as Weston so its on our short list.

I also agree that Remy is feminine. Kind of like Rory…at least in my mind.

Tristan came up when talking about names before we knew we were having a girl with Colette. I said “Too bad my name is Kristen cus we could never use the name Tristan.” He thought I just made it up and joked back “ya or Keffrey” Ever since that debate {that went on much longer) he says Tristan when he thinks I am making up a name. I do love it though!

pam Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 1:47 pm

Kristen, that made me laugh out loud at least three times. Your husband is a funny guy AND has interesting name ideas — definitely a keeper. Can you call a kid Tenn? We nearly named our third Penn which seemed outrageous in that pre-Gossip Girl time. Also, Pike. Wish we’d gone there.

mamadrama Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Ya, funny though cus if you say Wes and Tenn it’s pretty much saying Weston 🙂

Yes, my man is funny and good looking so I got pretty lucky! He is also a last second kind of man. He has been holding out on me. I actually think I can relax now that I know he has some great choices.

Honestly, I think Calvin is still a great name. The more I date around the more I compare names to it so maybe that is saying something. I think I will check to see what name list it is on. If anything it is a name that has the strongest actual name feel to it.

Nyx Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 5:17 pm

Because I love throwing more names out there…

Colette, Weston AND Sebastian “Bastian/Seb/Bas/Bast”- While both boys names end in “n”, they have different final sounds. Best yet, all three names share the “T” within the name, and there is a flow that seems to work, while all names also seem individual from each other.

Colette, Weston AND Thaddeus “Tad/Thad” – All three names share the “T”, but each feels a unique addition to the family.

Colette, Weston AND Forest – All three names share both the “O” and the “T”, and Forest is a nice vintage name that isn’t heard much any more.

Out of the names you’ve already mentioned, I love:

Colette, Weston AND Davis

Colette, Weston AND Griffin

Out of the names you’ve mentioned, I dislike (and why):

Marshall – To much in theme with Weston and leaves Colette as odd-name-out

Remington & Trenton – Both ending in the same “ton” as Weston

Nyx Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 5:18 pm

Oh, and I just needed to add that Colette seems like a perfect name for your daughter! She looks exactly like I would expect a Colette to look like 😀

Weston also seems to fit your son wonderfully, and he looks like he is going to find a lot of mischief throughout life 😉

aehname Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 7:15 pm

It seems that you’re liking surnames that still feel appropriate for a first name–much like Weston. Here are some names I would suggest based off your thoughts above.

Beckett
Garrett
Wyatt–nn Wylie
Trent–nn Trey? He is the third after all 🙂 OR Trey on it’s own
William–nn Wiley?
Mitchell–My nephew’s name and I think it’s adorable on a little boy
Conner
Grant
Sterling
Lincoln
Barrett
Brooks
Davis–Someone mentioned this above and I really like this.
Hayes
Truman
Bowen- nn Bo
Hunter

Do you have any family surnames you’d like to use?

mamadrama Says:

February 2nd, 2012 at 8:15 pm

Nyx your amazing!
I gotta tell you I am really liking Davis. It has a familiar, classic feel with a modern twist. I think it sound great with the other two and means beloved!!! Major points!

The reason why I think I feel so much pressure for the perfect name is because I think Colette and Weston embody everything I thought they would. They have names are a perfect snapshot of who they are.

I love the elements of Sebastian but can’t get past the cartoon lobster thing. Perhaps its because that came out when I was 7 and my mom got me the jelly watch or because it is also one of my daughters favorites.

I also love Forest! I really do!

mamadrama Says:

February 3rd, 2012 at 8:28 am

aehname
Thanks for your great suggestions. I don’t know how I missed them last night. I guess I didn’t refresh the page. Actually, my mother’s maiden name is Thornton. How cool right! Thor is a pretty fierce nick name too. I actually always thought growing up I would use it for a name of one of my children but haven’t yet. Maybe a middle name is a great possibility.

I love Wyatt but since I have Weston I don’t want to have to invest in holsters, horses, and spurs to make it believable that we are a gun slinging cowboy family. Although when Weston gets all rowdy we all sing Wild Wild Westy. I think maybe there is only room enough for one cowboy in this family.

I do like Bowen and it made me remember how much I wanted Weston to be Bowden. I thought Bo or Bodhi would be a great nick name. Jeff rejected it last time and my reject from his list was Hunter simply because our last name Hunger. Again, we are the family least likely to sling guns and ride into the sunset. Hunter Hunger sounds like a great hero of the west.

Also, I never thought of Trey as a nn for Tent. I REALLY love it as we are a nerdy nick namin family! We call Colette, Coco or Coley (sounds like Holy) and Weston, Wes or Wild Westy or Messy Wessy…yada yada…you get the idea.

I still want Declan or Forest and have till April to get my husband on my side. But seeing as we both really like Davis maybe its not worth pushing. I also am still trying to find names that have T in them. I love Trent/Trey!!!

Nyx Says:

February 3rd, 2012 at 2:34 pm

@mamadrama – Sounds like your BNDD is well on it’s way to being cured 😀

Colette, Weston AND Thornton – I really love the idea of Thornton/Thor as a little brother to Weston, and I love that the name could have the little story linking him to his family’s heritage. Both names have a surname feel, and both feel like rough-in-tumble, fun-loving boys. And Thornton also has something of a vintage feel (I could almost see it as a character in an Austin or Bronte novel) that ties in well with Colette. And finally, there is a subtle “O” theme throughout the three sibling’s names that helps link them without being obvious.

Also, I wanted to add that if you were to go with Davis, that Calvin could work well as a MN (or vice versa).

Best of luck and I’m sure that you and Jeff are going to find the perfect name for this child 🙂

hollylane Says:

February 4th, 2012 at 12:11 pm

Before I got too far down the comments, Ned came into mind. Then I read your thoughts about Ed- names and it seemed to fit. I LOVE Ned and don’t think it gets enough love.

I do like Forest and that seems like a great choice.

I also thought maybe Timothy. Just a thought. Has both a T and an O.

hollylane Says:

February 4th, 2012 at 12:23 pm

Sorry for the repeat… working on my phone.

mamadrama Says:

February 4th, 2012 at 5:52 pm

Nyx thank you soooo much for all your help, I mean therapy. You helped me figure out my naming style and to how to break down names into the sounds that works and dont work! Whewie!That alone helped me eliminate sooo many names that were bonbarding me with confusion. I now have a vision. I am on a warpath for boys names with O’s and T’s! If I ever find myself in this situation again I want to hire you out as a consultant! 🙂

Hollylane
Your right Ned is a great NN. I wonder what other names can lead to it?

I do love me some Forest. It is on the short list with Davis.

hollylane Says:

February 5th, 2012 at 12:04 am

Edgar, Edmund, Edward, Edison, Edsel, Eamon, Edwin and… what about Theodore.

On the T-O names… Aside from Timothy which I already threw out, and trying to avoid any names that end in -en/-on/-an because of your son’s name and -er because of your last name, how about:

-Theodore as above since it gets to name AND has T and O
-Tobias, Toby, I quite think Tobin has potential even with the ending
-Troy
-Otis
-Talbot
-Corbett
-Court
-Hawthorne

I’ll see what I come up with overnight.

Saracita00 Says:

February 13th, 2012 at 3:31 pm

I’ve been reading through all the comments and suggestions for you and I just have to say, Thornton was the first name that got the “raise eyebrows and say OOOH” reaction from me. I think it’s just fantastic with your other kids’ names; I love that it has family connection; and it’s SO unexpected while not being “out there.” There are lots of great suggestions but Thornton is really a standout IMO! Hope you are making progress on your naming journey! We’re having our fourth in April and I went through a longggggg process to define what elements I love and hate about various names — thanks to the great nameberry community!

loloshells Says:

February 19th, 2012 at 12:06 pm

Love Thornton. I used to joke that if I ever have a boy I would name him after a superhero or comic book character. I kept calling him Wolverine, lol. But then this led me to Thor, which I actually truly fell in love with. However sadly, if we were to have a boy, he would not look anything like a Thor (tall, blonde, sturdy) Our boy will end up short, with dark hair and eyes. So I decided that no matter the first name, my son (if ever I have one) will have the middle name Thor. I just love it too much. 🙂

kimall4paws Says:

February 26th, 2012 at 4:40 pm

I have fallen in love… sadly my love is not with any of the names because I have a horrid case of the BNDD too. Instead I have fallen in love with you Kristen and all of you who are posting suggestions!! We are on our 4th baby and I thought I was the only one out there struggling. You have so many great suggestions here I am going to branch out and post my own story with current kids names hoping someone can help us.
I wish you luck on your journey and my vote for you with your awesome kids name is to add Thorton to the mix. I love how it flows as well as the family connection! However, my wish for you is to find something that you fall madly in love with!
Congrats on baby #3!

mamadrama Says:

February 27th, 2012 at 4:29 pm

Thanks all for all your help and support. A little less than 8 weeks till the little guy arrives and we have a nice short list to bring to the hospital. We will see what happens when we meet him and I am finally O.K with not having an absolute 100% nailed down name. I have come to enjoy this adventure! I am sure it is just the begining.

Thornton does have a lot going for it besided both my husband and I agreeing on it. Do you think that Weston and Thornton are too close since they both end in TON?

loloshells: No joke my husband does have a super power. He can grow a beard in 4hrs flat! Perhaps we should name him Wolverine. It is very fitting.

kimall4paws: I can only imagine what you are going through! All I can say is that all of the berries have been a trememdous help and support to me and I am sure they would love to help you as well!

kimall4paws Says:

February 28th, 2012 at 3:15 pm

Here’s to hoping those 8 weeks fly by 🙂 AND, for your labor and delivery to be easy and pain free as much as possible.
I, as well as the rest of the group on here cannot wait to hear the name you decide for the newest love of your life and member of your family. Good luck!

mamadrama Says:

March 10th, 2012 at 8:27 am

Well some updates have formed. Thornton is my mothers maiden name and she absolutely hates it!!! Apparently years of being called “Thornbum” would make anyone hate it and fear of that being put upon her grandson is too much.

I have come to quite like Calvin despite its horrid meaning an d beginning with C and ending in N.

Also I have discovered this week that Trent is family name. The nick name Trey (which was a name of the day recently on Nameberry) would mean third which would be fitting and its heavy on the T sound. I am slightly worried that its a little on the trendy side.

I think we have it narrowed down to Trent or Calvin.

HRH Says:

March 22nd, 2012 at 12:30 am

Thank you so much for articulating exactly how I feel! My first 3 kids were so exciting to name. They are Vincent, Franklin and Colette (Vinny, Frankie and Coco. Now that we are pregnant with #4 I am really struggling to find ANY boy name that I can live with forever. Had #3 been a boy, I fear he would still be unnamed two years later. Maybe this little one will be a girl and I will be put out of my baby naming misery!

Please update us when your new miracle arrives! I really like Calvin. Good luck!

phaedraP Says:

April 1st, 2012 at 10:28 pm

Reading this post is so odd for me. I’m pregnant with my 4th kid, who we’re thinking of naming Calvin. I definitely have BNDD after naming 3 kids with a fair amount of enthusiasm.

And my husband’s name is Jeffrey too!

Weird. :/

Thanks for writing this post so I could get so many good naming ideas. We’ll probably end up with Calvin too though. 😉

hayleyb Says:

April 19th, 2012 at 5:58 pm

i have this exact problem with my third. i could have written this myself!

spartansnc Says:

May 15th, 2012 at 1:07 am

It is SO reassuring to find posting like this and the support~ We are having our 2nd child, and you would think the naming process would be so easy, especially since our first is a girl (Avery Grace) and the second is a boy! We were determined with Avery to name our assumed boy Wyatt, and since then I have moved on and my husband has not. We play the “What do you think” game every night without much success. Here are some that we have pondered (although the suggestions are amazing thus far!)
Jackson
Everett
Angus
Anderson
Andrew
Austin (our boy is due in August)
Wyatt
Dylan
Porter
Holden
Haven
Parker….

Without stealing the light, and starting a similar and repetitive post can anyone give some ideas this way. We have chosen Gary as a middle name after my uncle who passed away from cancer. So… it makes it very difficult. THANKS!!!

There are so many…

Looking4Name Says:

May 30th, 2012 at 5:43 pm

When I first found out I was pregnant, I felt it was a boy and quickly settled on a boy name. However, the 20 week ultrasound told me it “appears to be a girl” and I have struggled to find a name ever since! Just this week I even asked my OB to check the images again to confirm gender….I’m 37 weeks and not excited by ANY girl names!!! I looked at food, travel destinations, literature, movies (yep, I check credits, too) and on and on…. I feel your pain and wish you the best!!!

Lainalou Says:

June 21st, 2012 at 1:03 am

I definitely have BNDD. I have gone through countless books and sites countless times. This is my fourth child in four years and nothing appeals to me.

makeupbyjanine Says:

October 16th, 2012 at 5:51 pm

@mamadrama what did you end up naming him? 🙂

cosmic_dusts Says:

January 21st, 2013 at 5:10 am

I don’t have any children, but out of all the names that exist, I like one. Just one.

jojolovesjello Says:

March 28th, 2013 at 1:15 pm

I just stumbled upon this lovely blog post, and the amount of support and ideas in the comments was just phenomenal! How very disappointed I was to find that after all that, we never find our what mamadrama named her son! Did she pick the name meaning short and bald, or did she go with Treat? I do wonder if Forest made the cut with how much it was loved in a lot of the comments. Or did they end up with a completely different name altogether? Hmmm.

mamadrama Says:

October 1st, 2013 at 7:53 pm

Hello all! I wanted to let you know three weeks before my due date I had an ultrasound that revealed I was actually expecting a GIRL! No the decision making wasn’t any easier. It was so surreal to feel as though…dare I say… lost a boy….because he was never a he….but it did take me time to wrap my head around. Oh the sleepless nights! The back and forths, the ups and downs and many the last minuete exchanges and returns! I was in a name haze! Luckily I was able to submit another post and got plenty of leads and suggestions from others. You are all truly inspired namers! We named our daughter Elise Elaine. The middle name was after my sister. She is so special and wonderful and I’m sure she has more surprises for us still 😉

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