Welcome to Nameberry’s newest column, The Name Sage. Every week, I’ll answer one reader’s questions about naming a baby-on-the-way, or general baby name angst. And here’s the best part: we’d love it if you would add your thoughtful suggestions and comments to help expectant parents decide. The world needs more nicely named children, berries! Want to see your question featured? Please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Lindsay and her husband are expecting their second child, a little sister for Charlie Layne. They love Charlie’s name, and they’re trying to find something they like just as much for their daughter-on-the-way.
We are currently struggling with whether to continue the borrowed-from-the-boys trend, which I know can nearly incite a riot! If we go for a girly name will one child feel left out?
Lindsay adds: At this point it feels more like trying to “match” to our first daughter’s name rather than picking something we truly love.
Read on for my answer, and please add your thoughtful comments, too!
Congratulations on your daughter-on-the-way!
Choosing a name for a second child is different. The name you gave to baby #1 rules out some possibilities, and suggests others. But no matter how many children you have, picking a name that you truly love always matters, even if it means your daughters answer to names that don’t immediately seem like an obvious match.
Because here’s the secret: there’s more than one way to match sibling names.
Charlie is a spunky, retro choice like Hattie or Sadie. And Charlie is a casual, breezy, nickname-name. While there are plenty of boys answering to Charlie, it’s a very mainstream choice for a daughter, too – Number 243 and rising as of 2013.
From your shortlist, the name that jumps out at me is Lola. Spunky, retro, nickname-proof. Check, check, check.
But no matter what, go with the name that you love, even if it doesn’t immediately seem like a match. And please write us back and let us know what you choose!