Where’d You Get That Name, Baby?
Today’s Question of the Week is about naming a baby after an older relative or friend or hero.
Did you name your baby after someone in your family — grandparent, great-grandparent, long-ago ancestor, or maybe even yourself?
Or would you choose an honorific as a name for your yet-unborn baby, and if so, which one and why?
Tell us your views on naming children after older relatives, friends, and admired figures, who you did or would honor as a namesake and why.
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on July 8th, 2014 at 11:04 pm
Expecting later this year but don’t know the gender. For a girl we are going to use the middle name Rosamund. Rosamund was a character in one of my favorite Australian novels ‘Picnic At Hanging Rock.’ Rosamund was not a main character but using it to honour the book more-so. Also living overseas, it’s a nice nod to the babies Australian heritage.
on July 8th, 2014 at 11:08 pm
At the moment, I’m not really into the idea of using family names to honor relatives. My main reason being: how do I decide who to dedicate my distant future child’s name to? My relatives all live fairly close, so of connected with all of them. I wouldn’t feel right just choosing one or two to honor.
I do like subtle references to family, though so far it’s only been by coincidence. The name Genevieve shares meaning with my mom’s name (Whitney) and I like Jack as a middle name, which is a form of my dad’s name (John). So that may come in handy someday.
So I guess I’m more of a coincidence namer. I choose names I like, and connections to people I admire are just icing on the cake.
on July 8th, 2014 at 11:12 pm
I personally think that it’s a bit narcissistic to name a child after yourself, unless it’s a family tradition (eg. Babies father, grandfather, great grandfather etc. are named James) If I have a daughter her middle name, or one of her middle names, will be Jane, after my mother. I will probably use Viola too, because my whole family love Shakespeare, it’s a character in a modern novel that I love and it sounds beautiful. I also love Welsh names, my mother is Welsh and I love honouring cultural heritage. For a son I like Emlyn, a Welsh name. I have considered the middle name Robin for a son, since my Dad’s middle name is Robin, but I don’t think he cares about being honoured or about his middle name. I am still a teenager so I have time to plan my future kid’s names…
on July 9th, 2014 at 12:23 am
I do like the idea of honoring my parents, siblings, or another relative somehow with my future babies’ names. My middle name, my mother’s middle name, and my grandma’s middle name is Lynn so I’d like my daughter to one day have that middle name as well. It’s also somewhat of a tradition in my family to give the oldest son their father’s middle name. I’d also like to do that. For boys, I like Biblical names. I like the thought of giving them a name that has a strong meaning and an important person tied to it.
on July 9th, 2014 at 12:31 am
On my side of the family it’s become a bit of a tradition for the first born son to be named after the paternal grandfather (ie my dad, in our case) as their middle name. I did wonder if there would be any arguments over traditions on my husband’s side of the family, but luckily, my father and father-in-law both have the same name! So we agreed on that long before anything else.
on July 9th, 2014 at 12:33 am
I’m not one for naming after relatives but if I did I’d use Beth as a middle definitely because my mom is Betty. My gran’s middle name is Selena which I love and my uncle Mark would get an homage as well. My grandpa is a John so a girl would be Gianna. I wouldn’t directly name after a relative but I’d use a variation of their name if I did.
on July 9th, 2014 at 1:48 am
My beleifs have me against naming a child after a living relwtive, and I’m not a fan of naming a child after yourself. I’ve seen friends stop talking to their in-laws over naming rights, so I think even if I didn’t beleive what ai do, I’d still honor a person who has passed away.
For the last four or so generations the child on my father’s side (there hasn’t been multiples yet) is given an El- name as either first or mn. I’ve got Elza, after my great grandmother. I’d like to keep that tradition too.
on July 9th, 2014 at 1:59 am
my daughter is Elsie Mabel– Elsie is my mother’s given first name but she actually always went by her middle name, Virginia; and Mabel is my husband’s 90 year old grandmother’s middle name–she never had a grand or great grandchild with her namesake so we wanted to give her thatn honor while she was still alive to appreciate it! It was important to my husband and I to connect our daughter with some of the most important people in our lives as we know that both my mom and husband’s grandmother won’t be around for the majority of Elsie Mabel’s life–but we wanted to be sure she always had a connection to where she came from. On the same token we liked that although Elsie Mabel is named after relatives the name is still very much her own as not many people know my Mom as Elsie and Mabel is my husband’s grammy’s middle name.
on July 9th, 2014 at 2:05 am
On my side of the family we pass down names a lot so it’s a tradition for at least one child to get a name as a tribute to that family member.
My Husband’s side of the family also honors family members but don’t use the name itself instead they use a different version of the name or a name with a similar meaning
on July 9th, 2014 at 4:09 am
If I ever have a daughter, I plan to give her the middle name Ruth, which is my grandma’s middle name. My grandma is my hero and such a strong woman, but she will likely be gone soon, so I like that a part of her can live on.
I don’t like overt connections, like copying first and middle. And this is just my opinion, but it kind of irks me when the father’s side of the family calls dibs on name-afters if the baby is already getting dad’s last name. That paternal connection is built-in already in that case. I guess I just don’t get Bob Dan Smith, Bob Dan Smith, Jr., and Bob Dan Smith, III, which I have seen in my own family. To each his own, though.
I do like shared meanings, shared initials, shared number of letters…that sort of thing.
on July 9th, 2014 at 6:13 am
Our first child was born nine weeks ago. A beautiful baby boy, who we decided to call Atticus after the wonderful fictional character Atticus Finch from the book ‘To Kill A Mockingbird’. We had so many names in mind, but each time we tried to narrow it down, we kept included Atticus and it has grew on us over the nine months. Perhaps a contributing factor was that some names we loved like Jacob or Nathan had become too popular on baby name websites and names like Noah we believed would be heavily influenced by the recent film. We wanted something different, something from the past, something that had character and something solid. So his full name is Atticus Alexander Neely Hall. Alexander is my middle name and fathers first name, Neely is my wife’s surname (which would have been lost) and we lovingly call him Atti as a nick name. At first friends and family struggled to pronounce or spell Atticus and some asked where we got the idea for the name. However, it has caused some to read the book, watch the film or report back the names meaning. Certainly it has become a discussion point and cultural reference among those we know.
on July 9th, 2014 at 7:07 am
It is really important to use honor names for me. I want each of my future children to have at least one of their names honor family, and most of the other names on my list have historical or literary references–for instance, using the spelling Eliot instead of the more common Elliot to honor my favorite poet, T.S. Eliot.
One honor name “rule” that is very important to me is that I want to have the honor names match the sex of the child. For instance, I could use Gerald on a boy to honor my granddad but not Geraldine. I think it’s vital for girls to have positive female role models and sharing names with strong women from history, literature, or our family would be inspiring for a hypothetical daughter of mine.
on July 9th, 2014 at 7:26 am
Sadly there’s no such tradition in my family… but I would like to start one! My grandmother who quite unexpectedly got ill and passed away within the distance of a few months is an incredibly important family member. She truly has to be remembered and honoured – and her name was Krystyna (a version of Christina) and I’ll definitely use it as my future daughter’s middle name – well maybe with more international spelling like Kristina. For a first child being a boy, I’d consider using Christian as a middle name. I also have great-great grandma Franciszka (variation of Francesca) and would consider giving it as a first name in a form of Francesca or Frances (both can benefit from cute nickname Fran). My mom’s Margaret, so Mae or any variation of a name could be great, but I think I’ll leave it to my future children to honour the grandma 😉
I also love the name Aria (and a longer medieval name containing Aria, so that Aria can be an everyday nickname). It’s also a character from my favourite books written by my favourite author (my, my mothers and my grandmothers!!) – so isn’t it great? It’s so many coincidences leading to this name I just couldn’t refuse to use it for the future child.
On the other side, when it comes to boys and men in general, I wouldn’t use any family names. But I love the idea of honouring book characters or poets and writers – like Edgar or Heathcliff.
Plus, I share the initial with my mom and with my sister (M. with mom, A. with sister) and I think it’s really nice thing to have.
on July 9th, 2014 at 8:18 am
I want to honor family members (mostly our parents) by combining letters of their names to create a name for our baby. For example I like Jane Carys for a girl to honor our moms Joann and Lorraine (same -aine sound and J from Joann) and dads Carl and Thomas (Car- from Carl and -s from Thomas)
on July 9th, 2014 at 8:43 am
To be completely honest I hate naming after relatives. Like people are like on my gosh I HAVE to name my child and grandfather grandmother ect. You don’t have to do anything and it sucks if you have a beautiful first name but feel obligated to name after a relative with an ugly name. Just pick what you want, i don’t know I just don’t like it and want people to be original I feel like sometimes they can’t think of something so they just slap a relatives name without any thought. Now if you find a name from a book or something that you like, that’s different
on July 9th, 2014 at 8:47 am
Rereading that it might not make much sense but basically I’m against naming after relatives
on July 9th, 2014 at 8:58 am
@amagann – I love your daughter’s name, Elsie Mabel is beautiful.
My DH and I are expecting our first child this fall, we will be using the middle name slot to honor family. It’s not expected in our family it is just something that my husband and I want to do.
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:12 am
On my side there is really no naming tradition, aside from several of my relatives (aunts, cousins, grandmother) having the middle name Sue. I also have this middle name, so I won’t be passing it down. On my husband’s side, there is the belief that re-using someone’s name is disrespectful, however it is tradition to use names that start with the same letter as who you want to honor. For example, my husband’s middle name is Ian, after his great-great grandfather Izador.
I absolutely love the idea of using names tied to our families, and plan to do so in some way. My difficulty is trying to decide whose name to use!
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:15 am
I’m due in December, and we don’t know the baby’s sex yet. I don’t think I’ll ever have enough children to honor any living family members… I love too many names to begin with! But our second son (if there ever is to be a second son… gotta have a first son first! LOL) will have a family name… my Grandfather’s Great-Grandfather. My Grandfather and I do our family ancestry together and going through some names I fell in love with this particular one, and even though it is much farther back on the tree, my Grandfather still has memories of him. So I suppose that’s honoring a family member… but honestly it doesn’t feel too terrible much like it. Probably because I never met him, he died when my Grandfather was very young. But I love the name! (it’s Lafayette)
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:43 am
Not expecting but I hope to one day honor my grandmother who has a diminutive of Pearl for a name (although not given) with a gemstone name or a word name. Which makes perfect sense because she is Pearl, my mother Joy and I, Chastity.
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:45 am
My son’s first name is after my favorite character in my favorite book (Constantine Levin in Anna Karenina). His middle name is Silas, after my husband’s paternal grandfather’s middle name. His first name is Herman, and we just couldn’t do that to a baby, so we went with Silas. His grandfather is still living, and he was delighted when he heard that we named our son after him. In contrast, my brother named his son after our grandfather, James. When my grandfather heard this, he said, “Why would you go and do a thing like that? I hate my name.” He only calls my nephew Rebel (his middle name) b.c he so objects to the child being named after him. So I would just say, consider running this idea past the person you are wanting to honor ahead of time.
I don’t think I would name after a very young relative- we have friends who named their children after their siblings. I love my siblings, but I don’t think I would do that. I feel safer naming after great-grandparents who have had ninety years or so of honorable living, if that makes sense.
That is interesting about wanting the child to share a gender with the honored person. I get what you are saying about Gerald/Geraldine and finding women to honor for our girls. But if we have another son, I am considering the middle name Marion, to honor my grandmother Mary. So I don’t know if I agree completely.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:01 am
I’ve never been a huge fan on naming traditions. My family’s tradition is using the middle name Allan/Alen for the first born sons. So both grandfathers, my uncle, my brother and three of my cousins share the same middle name. So when I became pregnant with my son is was expected to use the name, especially since my husband just happened to have the middle name Alan as well. Needless to say I didn’t use the name. I’m named after my father, my brother after our grandfather and my sister after our grandmother. So I chose a name that he could have all his own. Dominic Gabriel Lucas. Dominic has been a love of mine since i was in high school, Gabriel is my all time favorite name since I was 8 and heard it in bible school, and Lucas is after my husbands father who passed away when he was 15. I wasn’t keen on the name but his family doesn’t pass down names so if we were going to name him after anyone I felt my husbands side should be honored. If we have another son he will share the middle name Mickel with my husbands grandpa who is from Germany, and a daughter will have the middle name April after my mother, because she is, hands down, the most amazing woman I’ve ever known.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:03 am
Everyone in my family is named after a relative, and a saint. We’re Irish Catholic, it’s what we do. I’m named after two grandmothers (Mary was my paternal grandmother’s name, and Claire was my maternal great-grandmother’s middle name (Ellen Claire – but my mom went with the English spelling, dropping the i). I think that as long it doesn’t cause any struggles within families, or spouses, honoring a relative or someone you admire is a really nice way to pay tribute.
I’ve always thought that if I have a son one day, I’ll name him Emmett, or use it as a middle name, after my late maternal grandfather (except my older sister, who also is currently childless has called dibs, so I guess it’s whoever has children first haha). He was an amazing man, and he deserves to have a namesake.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:06 am
I’m on the fence with this one. I personally wouldn’t name my child after a relative unless of course I happened to like the name. But, I wouldn’t say I’m honoring a relative by using their name if I didn’t even know them. To me that’s just giving a false pretense. And of course, the whole Jr. the 2nd, 3rd, etc just seems pretentious to me. I would want my child to have their own name and their own identity. Though maybe that’s just me?
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:08 am
I think this is a great idea if that person or character has inspired you in such a great way. But, it can be a huge decision to decide who to honor if they are your family. Although I’m just a teenager, I love reading over names on Nameberry and thought that I could honor my Godmother, Beth, and my grandmother, Rose, at the same time by naming a girl Annabeth Rose. But then, my other grandmother is named Bernadine and I have no clue what to do with that name. Maybe the name Bernadette? Or her mother and my aunt Adania? So, I do like the idea of honoring your relative but its a hard decision to decide who to honor.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:30 am
I want to use Elizabeth, either as a first or a middle, but not for the most obvious reason. My Mum’s name is Elizabeth and although she IS an amazing woman, I still wouldn’t use the name just for that reason. I really, really love the name Elizabeth. It’s gorgeous and classic. It’s the name of one of my favourite character’s, Elizabeth Bennett. And so many other reasons as well- there are so many inspirational people named Elizabeth, and Elizabeth or its many nicknames and variations appear in so many of my favourite books and movies.
So I’m all for using an honour name if you actually LOVE the name, but not if you feel forced or trapped into a name, no matter how much you love the person who has that name. We won’t be honouring my MIL in our children’s naming, even if we do name one after my Mum. Because we REALLY don’t like her name and middle name. And there are just no good variations for those names that we like. And we’re fine with that.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:43 am
When I have children, my daughter will in some way be named for my Nana, her name is Jewel,(plus honors my sister whose middle name is Jewel) and my son will have my fathers name as his middle, Richard. He already has a son named for his father Robert.
My Nana is a very special woman to both my and my boyfriend. I am leaning towards the Julie/Julia/Juliet names as my mothers middle name is Lee, so these names would honor her as well. Hoever, we could also use a name of a Jewel such as emerald, ruby or opal to honor her as well. Or just use the Jewel as a middle name such as Caroline Jewel or Eleanor Jewel.
My mothers name is Margaret, which she HATES, and his grandmother name is also Margaret which she loves. I was thinking of using the name Pearl to honor all 4 at once, but realized with the last name Freshwater, it doesn’t work so well. 🙁
Richard is my dads name and while I don’t like it as a first, I love as a middle. With a strong biblical first name, such as Timothy, Joshua or Joseph
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:57 am
My husband is named after his grandfathers, a tradition we would have carried on if we’d had a boy. I’ve long wanted to honor my mother’s mother, who lived with us when I was growing up and to whom I was very, very close, and hubby’s been supportive of that. We thought we’d use her name, Anne, in the middle spot, but when it came time to choose names for our girls on the way, we decided on a first name — Antoinette — that will give us the nickname “Annie” and be unique in its own right. We also considered Elizabeth, in the first or middle spot, which was my middle name before we got married.
Our other choice — Cordelia — honors the Shakespearean character who is exemplified by her loyalty and honesty, qualities we hope both our girls will embody.
Generally, I love the idea of honor names but agree that it’s important that you love the name and feel strongly about honoring the namesake person/character.
on July 9th, 2014 at 11:28 am
For a very long time my favorite girl’s name was Aria, which I came up with as a compromise between my two grandmothers’ names Maria and Adelina. It seemed absolutely perfect, but it has gotten so popular and so trendy lately that I’ve lost my taste for it. I’m also considering Maia as a way to honor Maria, but it unfortunately does not really incorporate both of my grandmothers’ names like Aria did.
Other names I’d love to use after family include Isobel and Lucia, after my aunt and late godmother, respectively. The boys’ name in my family though are relatively generic or so extremely Portuguese that I can’t picture it on my own all-American children, but maybe Jorge or Luciano or Carlo could work.
As for a name after a character, my favorite novel is The Secret Life of Bees, where most of characters are named after months and the main character, Lily, wishes her name was October so she would fit into her new family. Since Lily itself is so popular, I’ve thought about using October to honor that book and since October is also my birth month, it fits like a wonderful fit.
on July 9th, 2014 at 11:33 am
I find that I like more family names than my husband; he’s vetoed quite a few I love. I wouldn’t have any problem naming all of my children after family with such great pickings! Grandparents are Nathan, Luis, Benedict, Vito, Beatrice, Sylvia, Marie Jeanne (Mary Jane) and Antonia. BUT, I’m not married to the idea. If we have one son, he’ll be Nathaniel Bennett and one girl, Susannah Jane (or Maeve). Neither of our families would care if we left them out.
I have a strong affection for the name Phaedra after a heroine in my favorite book series and Me(lina) for the author of that same series. My husband thinks I’m nuts to name our child after a fictional character/author, so neither will never be used.
on July 9th, 2014 at 11:40 am
My son is named after my maternal grandpa who was a wonderful man. He was a medic in WWII, in Patton’s Third Army, and was on the beaches of Normandy a day or two after D-Day. He was a part of the Battle of the Bulge and helped liberate Buchenwald, which was a concentration camp. He would only ever talk about it if one of us had a school project on it or something, but he didn’t let his awful experiences in the war change who he was. He also lost his mom when he was 4 and his dad when he was 18. So, he had a lot of reasons to have a negative outlook or have a chip on his shoulder but he never did. He was one of the most loving and happiest people I have ever known. I am so proud that my son shares his name!
I’m having my second baby in January and the boy name we have picked out (Frederick) is similar to my husband’s (Eric) and the girl name we have in mind means the same as my own, but we didn’t plan it that way.
on July 9th, 2014 at 12:30 pm
I love honor names. My daughter is named after two of her great-grandmothers and my son, due in October, will be named after my uncle and my husband’s grandfather. It helps that the original bearers of these names have passed away, so our living relatives don’t feel offended that we didn’t name anyone after them. I mean, who can really fault you for naming a child after your deceased grandmother?
For my husband and I, using family names was pretty much the only way to come to any kind of agreement, since we don’t really have similar naming styles otherwise. Limiting our choices to this tiny subset of names forced us to compromise, and we both have ended up loving both of our children’s names.
on July 9th, 2014 at 12:48 pm
In my family, it is tradition for all of the boys to have the middle name Carlton. My great-grandfather is Rudolph Carlton, my grandfather is Robert Carlton, my dad and his brother are Chris Carlton and Chad Carlton, and my brother is named Nichalaus Carlton(my dad came up with the spelling). Also my mom, Nicole, made sure to incorporate her name into each of ours. I’m Madeleine Nicole, my brother is Nichalaus which is the male form of Nicole, and my sister is Frances Milena Angela. Angela is my mom’s middle name. Since Milena is their last kid, my parents made sure to incorporate all the important women into her name. Frances(my grandmothers name) Milena(my moms cousins name)Angela(my grandmother’s and my mom’s middle name). So, I love tradition in passing down names through the family :).
on July 9th, 2014 at 1:19 pm
I like the idea of using honor names for my future children 🙂 I want to name my firstborn son Thaddeus John after two of my great-uncles, and my firstborn daughter Johannah Peyton (Johannah after my maternal great-grandmother, Peyton because I think it goes well with Johannah). My second son will most likely be Kenneth Tobias (Kenneth after another great-uncle, Tobias after the character from the Divergent trilogy), and my second daughter will most likely be Anna Louise, after two of my great-aunts (in my family, Anna is pronounced AHN-nah).
I’m also toying with the idea of using names from my heritage for my kids (my heritage is Polish/Irish/Jewish/(possibly) Czech): Feliks Casimir, Cillian Padraic, Eoin Douglas, Finnian Dallas, Samuel Eliezer, Elijah Gabriel, Joseph Benjamin (Joseph is also a family name, after my uncle and great-grandfather), Gideon Asher, Ignacy Rishon (Ignacy is Polish, Rishon is Jewish; Zofia Chesna, Rowan Siobhan, Krystiana Rishona (Krystiana is Polish, Rishona is Jewish), Saoirse Niamh, Mallory Caoimhe, Erin Bailey, Rebekah Sarai, Sarah Mackenzie (Sarah is Jewish, Mackenzie is Irish). I could go on, but that would take hours XD
on July 9th, 2014 at 1:31 pm
I’m planning to give all of my future children at least one honouring middle name. High up on my list are my late grandmother, mum, and sister for girls, and my uncle for a boy. They are people who have been there for me through a lot of hard times, they are strong and amazing and I would love to be able to tell my children that one of their names takes after such a brilliant person. I wouldn’t mind using some names of relatives as first names, Vivienne and Mary for example. Vivienne was my grandmother’s name who sadly passed away seven years ago, while Mary has been used a lot in the family as a middle name but not as a first name by any living relatives.
on July 9th, 2014 at 1:57 pm
My daughter’s name is Trudy Josephine. We named her for my grandma Gertrude who went by Trudy all her days. Josephine is in honor of my husband’s grandmother Joan. I was originally looking for a G name and a J name, but I really hated most G names and the ones I didn’t hate I didn’t love enough to bestow. So we settled on Trudy. Early in the pregnancy, we had the name “Josephine Grace” high on the list, but couldn’t really get excited over it. We loved Josephine, but couldn’t get behind Grace. Then came the long period of Gertrude Josephine which seemed too cumbersome when we’d intended to call her Trudy from the get-go. So we decided to nix the formal name and we’ve got our sweet little Trudy-Jo.
on July 9th, 2014 at 2:04 pm
My son’s middle name is Thomas, which was my father’s name. It is also my husband and his father’s given first name, although they both went by their middle name. It is nice to honor them all at once!
If we have a daughter her middle name will likely be some form of Helen in honor of my grandmother who I was very close to, and my husband loved as well. (Helena, Helene, Elena) My husband’s grandmother Genevieve, is a contender, and my mother would LOVE for us to use her name, too, but how many names can you give a child?! We’d have to add his mom’s name, too. Her name might be Helena Genevieve Kathleen Barbara McLastName! Oh, and my best friend’s beautiful name is Katheryn, which I could use maybe spelled more traditionally. Flip a coin!
Also, my son’s initials are QT, which sounds like cutie, my husband’s nickname for my Grandma Helen. So, in a way she is honored already!
And, my reply wasn’t going to be a long one….
on July 9th, 2014 at 3:30 pm
I wouldn’t mind naming a child after family. In DH’s family EVERYONE has a name from his maternal side of the family tree except one brother who is named after his great great grandfather and his greatgrandfather on his dad’s side. Although that’s due to the circumstances regarding an unnamed father. As nice as it is I can only hear so many Fredericks, Jameses, Claytons, etc.
In my family there are no “family rules” involving names so everyone kind of uses whatever.
DH wants an honoring name somewhere in our future kids names while I don’t. So far I’ve been able to find names he loves because they have meaning to us or bring up a fond memory moreso than than a name he kind of likes but only because it shows up on a family tree somewhere down the line.
on July 9th, 2014 at 4:36 pm
My children each have some family connection in their names. My oldest has the middle name Gabriella because we wanted to use a G name in honor of my husbands mom who passed away. Her name was Gumercinda which really wasn’t an option even for the middle spot for me. My second daughter has the middle name Roxey which was my great-grandmother’s name and I have R as my middle initial in remembrance of her. I love the name Roxey but apparently she hated it and threatened to haunt my mom (the only granddaughter) if she named a child after her. My third daughter is Sara Elizabeth. Both my mother and grandmother have S names so I thought that would be a nice nod to them and Elizabeth is my name and the name of a couple of relatives from my husband’s side that he is close to.
on July 9th, 2014 at 8:07 pm
We named all our kids for people in the Bible. We chose great men and women whose actions and character traits we want our children to emulate. I am very, very happy with our choices.
The only reason we’d name after a relative is if he/she had passed away already, and so far in our family we do not have anyone who has not already been ‘honored’ by another cousin being named for him/her.
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:14 pm
I used Katharine for my daughter after Katharine Hepburn–a strong spirited female role model who also happens to be the most Oscar winning actress of all time. My daughter’s middle name is Scarlett which is sort of an anagram for my grandmother Stella. 🙂
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:17 pm
For me middle names are made for honoring family! That is definitely my plan. Two that I would especially like to use are my father’s middle name and my mom’s maiden name.
My dad’s mn was also my grandfather’s mn and he went by both his first and middle. The name came from the surname of a country doctor who saved his life during his birth. It’s a special name in my family!
My mother’s maiden name ended with her generation. Even though she had six other siblings there was only one boy..and he had all daughters!
on July 9th, 2014 at 9:33 pm
The name I choose for our daughter is actually an anagram for my mother’s name.
DYLAN = LYNDA. That part came to me in a dream. I called my mom at four am and told her my revelation and that was that. Her middle name Brigid is after my best friend, who also named her daughter Joslyn after me. I love having that connection even though we live far apart. I like middle names to be after a person that inspires you with traits you would hope your child would emulate, a family member or close friend, heroes. And I prefer not to change the names spelling as a sign of honoring them. My mother begged me to spell her mn Brigitte since it just sounded better to her, but I felt that changed the name altogether and wouldn’t honor my friend.
on July 9th, 2014 at 10:10 pm
I don’t have children yet, but I plan to honor my maternal grandparents by using their first names as my children’s middle names. The names (Mary and Benjamin) happen to be traditional and religious (and I am neither) but they are lovely and more importantly, reflect my hope that my children will live in their great grandparents’ model. I personally think it’s best to use names that honor people who have passed rather than the living. My own middle name is my great grandmother’s name, which makes me feel tied not only to her but to the little girl that my mom once was, playing in her loving nonna’s kitchen. My first name is derived from my mother’s which in turn is derived from her mother’s. I love the connection, but I will admit I have struggled with feeling obligated to carry on the tradition if I have a daughter. I will definitely carry it on, but likely as a middle name.
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