Baby Namer’s Remorse? When the name you picked just doesn’t feel right

The question of the week: Have you ever experienced namer’s remorse?

This is a term heard more and more frequently in the baby name world, describing the feeling of parents when they think they could have made a better choice for their child.

Have you ever regretted picking the name you picked?

If so, was this an immediate reaction as soon as you saw your baby, or did it happen later, when it just didn’t feel like the right fit?

Or did it happen when the name became mega-popular—or when you came to realize that it already was?

A compromise choice you regret making?

A response to negative reactions you got when people heard the name?  Spelling or pronunciation problems?

Was it just a twinge or was your remorse strong enough for you to consider actually making a legal change?

Anyone out there who did make a change?

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British American Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 8:35 pm

I have a little regret over my daughter’s middle name. We didn’t pick her first name until after she was born, after having a hard timing settling on any names that we both really liked. So after she was born we decided on a first name, within an hour or two. But then we felt under pressure to find a middle name too. My husband wanted to wait on picking a middle name, before we called family, but I think we ended up calling people before we’d picked one.

Picking the first name had been such a big deal, that we didn’t put as much thought into the middle name. My criteria for a middle name ended up being “we need 3 syllables to balance out her 1 syllable first name”. So I wished we’d either used a family name (especially when we later went on to give her brother a family name for his middle name) or that we’d gone for something a little more ‘out there’ or exciting. Rather than her having a middle name from the ‘top 10 first names’.

So for baby #3, I do plan on either using a family middle name or choosing a less popular name that I’d like as a first name, but my husband isn’t so keen on.

Nic Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 9:56 pm

We had always wanted to name our daugher Ella but it’s popularity in Australia (firmly in the top 5) really turned my DH off it. We compromised on a name my husband absolutely loved but I was unsure of. Now she is 6 I still sometimes think that I shouldn’t have compromised for the sake of popularity…

Kimber Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 10:20 pm

I have a little remorse because we spent so much time trying to pick out a name. I really liked Sloane but when we told our family they would make faces or tell us that it’s an awful name. We really like Gabrielle and that’s what we named her. We thought about Gabriella but we felt like that was too many syllables. Now I just get annoyed because half of my husband’s family says her name as Gabriel. Or people will spell it as Gabriel. OR people just decide to call her Gabriella anyways. Sometimes I think if I had just picked Sloane I wouldn’t have had these pronunciation and spelling issues. But who knows. I’m sure using that name would have a whole other set of issues.

Alex Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 10:38 pm

Don’t mention such things! We just named our new baby and we need to think we’ve given him the best name possible, and that we’ll always think so (“Takeshi”). I don’t want to admit that remorse could even exist!

Susan Chesney Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 11:10 pm

When we had our son we named him Peter. He certainly didn’t look like a Peter so we called him Baba. But we called him Peter a lot, too, so that he would know his name. As he got older, he seemed more and more like his name was Peter and we stopped calling him Baba by the time he was three. Now he’s almost twenty-five. I call him Petie.
When Peter was six, we had our daughter Laura. We called her Yitty and when she got older I called her Voovie. But we called her Laura at least half the time. I still call her Voovie a lot, and she is almost nineteen.
I think that no matter what name I gave a child, I would always come up with a nickname.
We just got a kitty and named him Samson nn Sammie and Sam. For a day or two, I had regrets and called him Crispin. But Crispin is hard to say. Sammie is fun to say all day long. Love it! A couple of days ago my husband laid down the law and said we can only call our kitty his name. The poor kitty belonged to another family who couldn’t keep him. His name was Bolt. Bolt is hard to say. So the kitty has to learn his new name. Can’t call him anything but Samson, Sammie, and Sam so he will learn his name. At this time, he has no idea what his name is. I have to make bird noises to get his attention.

Jeannie Says:

October 26th, 2010 at 11:40 pm

When my son was born 17 years ago my husband and I were going thru some difficult times with the illness of his dad and also the divorce of one of my sisters (way too much drama). We named our son Adam Blake. From the minute I signed the birth certificate I knew the name was wrong. We had not thought it through and I was having major name remorse.

After some much needed rest and a great deal of discussion (with no input from family) we changed his name to Jamison Patrick. It was really not that much trouble (took six weeks to get the official birth certificate back) and we have never regretted. Our son is definitely a “Patrick”.

CassieCake Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 2:17 am

My mom often tells me that she wishes she had named me Sage or Alyssa (Ali)…. I like Cassie just fine though…

Lyndsay Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 3:09 am

I did have some regrets about my sons name (Dashiell “Dash”) for a few months after he was born. I briefly considered changing the spelling, but not the name itself. It was my husband’s favorite name and he was so gung-ho about it, and there wasn’t a name I loved as much as he loved Dash. So, we went with it. It felt sort of strange to say at first, I think mainly because it wasn’t a name I had ever experienced in real life before, ya know? But I got used to it and now I couldn’t love it more and it definitely suits him.

I do sometimes regret his middle name, though. Well, he has two, and they’re both family names. The name from my side is the second, and my husband’s side is the first. My family acts all jilted about it. Also, the first one is David which I don’t much care for at all. It’s my father in law’s name, and my brother in law’s middle, so obviously it has good meaning, which is why we picked it, but… Meh. So boring. I do love his name in full, when I don’t think about David on it’s own. But I sort of wish I’d picked something more interesting. Or even used FILs middle name, John, which I much prefer to David.

Pippa Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 9:29 am

Our son Peregrine is a month old today. I absolutely still love the name and don’t really have regrets per se, but I have been frustrated with the reaction, most commonly the immeadiate need for others to find a nickname–“what are you REALLY calling him?” etc. We were planning on calling him Peregrine, thank you!! I have developed a sense of humor about it though, but sometimes wonder if our second choice, Hugh, might have saved me a constant headache!

simplelife Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 10:36 am

I think that one way to avoid namer’s remorse is to pick a name that you (and your other half if applicable) really love and agree on. Don’t ask for other people’s opinions, and don’t pick a name just to impress. It doesn’t matter if the name is going to be popular in a few years or it matches your social clique. The name just needs to make you smile when you say it!

bonnie1107 Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 12:30 pm

Amen to poster above! I have seen some disturbing threads on this site about people going through real angst about this. Although there is no one cause, a frequent complaint is that someone reached for a more unusual name and then regretted she hadn’t gone for old-fashioned, wildly popular Kate which had been her favorite name since she was thirteen. Although now I think of it, the opposite happens too. I’ve heard complains about picking something “safe” and letting the opportunity to take a lovely risk slip away. I would say the most frequently named causes are feeling rushed, an inability to find a compromise both parents like equally, and too many demands on the naming process, for example the need to honor relatives. At the bottom is uncertainly about one’s own heart. And we’ve all been there at least once in our lives so most can sympathize.

Bella Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 1:06 pm

To Kimber:

As a Gabrielle myself, my mother and I know your pain. She fought my entire life for me to remain Gabrielle not Gabby, or Gabbi, but sometimes I feel the world as a whole lacks the brain power to pronounce a name with three syllables.

Now, I’ve chosen my own nickname for those pesky folks who cannot say my whole name. To the people who love me most I go by G or Gabrielle, and others call me Bella or Belle.

I plan to give all my kids names that come with nicknames I love.

She has no namers remourse, in fact, the only two others names she would have ever named me have dreadful nn’s IMO. Carolina, my mn, Carrie or Lina. Scarlette nn Scar.

BTW, I love my name and am glad for the Elle rather than the Ella at the end of my name.

danielle Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 3:01 pm

@Bella and @Kimber:

I have the same issues with my name, Danielle. Some people pronounce in Daniel, especially substitute teachers in middle school. I remember one time I was so embarrassed because I responded to ‘Daniel’ during role call, assuming she had mispronounced my name, forgetting that there was indeed a Daniel right before me on the list. There is also a surprising amount of people who just can’t spell my name at all. Neither of these issues happen enough to make me hate my name though. I see them as very minor.

trich323 Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 3:53 pm

When we were trying to find a name, my mom suggested Olivia. I actually really liked it but didn’t consider it because it was so popular. We ended up naming her Eliza. And even though I love her name and wouldn’t change it, sometimes I really got the urge to call her Olivia when she was first born.

Emmy Jo Says:

October 27th, 2010 at 10:26 pm

I did have baby namer’s remorse for the first few months after my son was born, but now I am convinced we picked the right name. His name is Julius Arthur. We picked Julius because we wanted something old-fashioned that wasn’t being used very much anymore — I like that Julius is biblical (although the Julius of the Bible was a relatively minor character) and I also like that it sounds rather jubilant when said aloud. Arthur is a family name from both sides, so we really wanted to use it.

For the first few months after our son was born, the reaction I got to his name was mostly negative — people thought it was an awfully “big” name for a little baby. I think I also realized that Julius doesn’t really have the simplicity I generally prize in a name. I realized only AFTER I had named him that my naming “sweet spot” seems to be names that could sound either at home in a European royal court or in an 18th century Colonial village (like Henry, or Clara, or Susannah). Julius has the royal European court feel, but it lacks the simple Colonial feel I’ve discovered I like.

I also realized that it’s easier to explain an unusual name choice if your child is named after someone important to you (like a relative or friend, or even a favorite author or book character). Julius really isn’t named after anyone, and for a while I wished we had gone with a name that I could explain by saying, “Frederick is the main character in two of my favorite 19th century novels,” or “Gideon is my favorite Biblical character,” or “Simeon is a name from my mom’s family tree.” It doesn’t quite garner as much respect to say you chose a name just because it sounded cool to you.

For the first few months after he was born, I tried to convince my husband to let me change his name. My husband refused, though — and now I ‘m glad. When Julius turned about four months old, I stopped wishing we had picked a different name. I do love the name — it makes me happy to say aloud, and even though I can’t really say he was named after anyone, I can at least point to a positive Biblical namesake (Julius in the Bible was a centurion who saved the life of Apostle Paul). Plus, while it was kind of a “big” name for a newborn, I’m amazed by how quickly he grew into it. By four or five months old, he had enough of a personality to support the name, and it didn’t seem too “big” for him anymore.

Our subsequent children (should we have any more) will probably get slightly simpler names. I’ve crossed Demetrius and Alaric and Cecilia and Evanthia off my list. But I don’t regret Julius — I just think it’s as distinguished as I want to get. Despite all the thought I had put into names beforehand, it’s interesting that I actually had to name a real person in order to fully understand my naming style.

Mishi Says:

October 28th, 2010 at 8:44 am

My partner and I had a terrible time trying to agree on names…the only one my partner wanted was “Ella”. Although I loved the name, it felt wayyyy too popular and common to me. I spent months trying to find a longer name that we could use the nickname “Ella” for…Estella, Eleanor, Gabriella, Isabella, etc. My partner finally agreed we could use “Stella” as her official birth certificate name, but call her Ella. For the first three months of her life, she was Ella but as her personality evolved and she became a highly energetic, feisty redhead, we agreed that Ella was way too cutesy a name for our bundle of fire, she was indeed a “Stella”. When we told people at 3 months we were going to start calling her Stella instead of Ella, there was quite a bit of pushback about how it wasn’t as pretty as a name, and they were already used to Ella, etc. but we remained firm. Now at 18 months there is NO doubt in anyone’s mind that she is Stella, through and through. Although, I still have a few defectors in my life that insist on calling her “Ella”. I think it will make a funny story for her someday!

ycw Says:

October 28th, 2010 at 11:46 am

My daughter’s first name is a Biblical name with a positive meaning and story which we chose because we love the story. Her middle name is a fifth generation family name (middle name for myself, mom, grandma, first name of great-grandma). No regret on the middle name, which has risen a little as both fn and mn, but is not really popular. Growing up I hated my middle name, because it seemed “plain,” and I liked my nickname (which was the most popular nickname for my incredibly popular first name). My daughter’s name is popular, too–in the top 10 or 20. When she was born, she didn’t look like the name I’d wanted to use for over 5 years. I briefly considered Rebecca (my sister’s name) or Mara (which I like as the name of a Star Wars character and a form of Mary; it’s certainly more unusual, and at the time was what seemed to suit her). But we decided whatever we chose would come to be her name, and it didn’t matter if she “looked like it” now. I did have some regrets over the popularity–especially the time I was asked if she was named after a pop culture icon and the time when I realized “Oh, no, did I give my daughter exactly the sort of popular name I now hate having?” But now I can’t imagine her as anything other than Hannah Jane. (And if she needs to distinguish herself from another Hannah, she’s going to be Hannah Jane, not Hannah C.)

Our son is a III and I couldn’t be happier with his name–Peter Sidney. No regrets.

kari Says:

October 29th, 2010 at 1:23 pm

I have a teenage Olivia. Yeah. Fortunately, she loves her name but it’s got to be strange to hear it on every other little girl (or so it seems!) nowadays. We were planning to name her Caroline, but changed our minds when she was born. I prefer Caroline now, just because of Olivia’s wild popularity, but Liv loves being a Liv and I guess that’s what matters.

PS I’m due in 13 days and we are avoiding the top 100 this time around. Lesson learned!

Samantha Brickhouse Says:

November 1st, 2010 at 8:37 am

I had regrets about my daughter’s middle name, which is winter.
People react to it like it’s “so cold” and “desolate” and moody…
well, I find it peaceful, and white, and pure… so there.

Nico Says:

November 22nd, 2010 at 8:47 pm

We just ‘changed’ our 5 day old baby girl’s name. We named her Mary Alice but she is an elegant, long limbed, fine featured, dark haired, exotic looking beauty – not a little chubby 50’s style baby that a Mary Alice is to us!
So she’s Lila Mary. Suits her to a tee :o)

peppersweet Says:

November 24th, 2010 at 10:52 am

@Nico
Oh wow. Oh, wow. I’m in the midst of writing a novel, and my main character’s name was Mary Alice! But I had the same crisis you did- too plain for this gorgeous, interesting person. So now her name is Emmeline Brynna, thank to the berries 🙂
But we both had Mary Alices! And changed their names! Awesome. And Lila Mary is just lovely 🙂 Congratulations!

kathleen Says:

February 25th, 2011 at 3:22 pm

I hate my babies name, David. My husband loves it. It’s my FIL’s name. I hated it the entire time we were pregnant. But after you’ve just gone through natural birth and the 4 names you picked out just don’t fit your newborn and your husband wont stop with the, “pick a name” over and over nor will he let you take him home sans name. Wrong name choices happen. I mean it’s probably a great classic name but for me it’s associated with the kid in high school that gave every girl he dated mono and the other kid who played dungeons and dragons in the park. I just can’t shake the fact that when I hear it or see it in writing, it makes me sad. Actually, we have yet to call him by it and he’s 9 weeks old. My husband said I could change it when he was 4 weeks and then changed his mind. Since I need his signature for the birth certificate documents. I am stuck. Now I go on nameberry and daydream. So many I like, yet my sons name I just hate.

M Says:

March 18th, 2011 at 8:24 am

Kathleen, I am really angry at your husband for you! Mothers sacrifice so much just to have a child and then tough it out through labor, and then continue to sacrifice for the rest of their lives. You deserve a say in your baby’s name. If you really feel this is the wrong name for your him start calling him the name you want. Tell your husband you resent him pushing you into naming him David and for going back on his word. Even if he doesn’t agree to officially changing the name you can still call your son the name you picked. As time goes on it will be accepted as his name. My daughter answers to her given name and Munchkin 😉 so it won’t confuse him.

Meghan Says:

March 26th, 2011 at 4:46 pm

Had a similar experience to Kathleen. My husband refused to even consider any of the normal names I had picked out (honestly, nothing unusual about the names or spellings — things like Thomas, William, James, etc) and chose Everett as a first name and Alden as a middle (after John Alden, his great-great-etc grandfather). I didn’t hate the first name, but I wasn’t crazy about it. It is a total mouthful and doesn’t shorten to anything that I like. Try, just TRY yelling it across the house or the backyard. Impossible! I do HATE Alden, but I didn’t get any say about it. DH knows I am not happy, and I if I am lucky enough to have a second child, I am picking the name with no veto. Our guy is almost 2, so we are definitely stuck with it. He’s a wonderful little boy, regardless of what we named him!

JuliaDrucilla Says:

April 18th, 2011 at 10:42 pm

Well, I do have name remorse… But about my own name. I have what one could only call a stupidly exotic first name, and two (yes, not one, but TWO) good, all- American, hayseedy last names. No middle. I hate my name passionately, but when I told my parents I was going to change my name they got REALLY upset… So much for that plan. So I started looking for a middle name to add instead. I came up with Verona. Simpler than my first name, more graceful than my last names, I thought I had the perfect name. WRONG! The parents hate it… >:-P

TS Says:

May 7th, 2011 at 9:44 pm

No Regrets. The only thing I wanted to make sure is that my son had a name fitting for the coolest kid in High School. I wanted to give him a Quarterback name (Sorry people who name their kid Atticus, but your kid is doomed).

He may be more into science or ballet and that’s totally fine, but if he is the starting quarterback, “Trent Lewis” is a one gunslinger of a name.

Anna Says:

May 10th, 2011 at 10:13 pm

Hi,

I hate my second child s name. It is just not my style of name…. I was really hesitant when we picked it but my husband loved it. He did not suggest any other names or did not like any other name as much… I thought I wld grow to like it but never managed to. She is almost 2 and it is still haunting me every day…. I wish i cld tuen the clock back. Anyone has a similar experience ? What did u to to come to terms with it?

Brandi Says:

May 17th, 2011 at 7:26 am

I have always admired long elegant names,i.e. Elisabeth, Gabrielle,Camilla,Madeline. They make great adult names and they come with cutesie nick names as well. I also admire trendy, stylish names(but not too wild)i.e. Skyler,Bailey,Ava,Ella… So my fiance and I chose to combine the two styles in our daughter’s name, thus: Kyler Gabrielle.

I love the name so much..and we call her by her nickname, “Gabbie”. My only hang-up is the male prominence of the name “Kyler”. People seem to be wary of the name Kyler for a girl -especially since the spelling isn’t softer. I don’t mind peoples’ reactions at all..they either get it and love it or they don’t get it at all. I do, however, mind the effect that may have on my daughter.

My Kyler is a very vibrant, strong character and her name suits her! But I do find myself thinking, “Gosh,did I give her the best name? Should I have spelled it differently? Chyler maybe? Kylar? ..but those don’t look right to me. People will learn to accept her name just as “Bobby” or “Charlie” (or any retro boy-turned-girl name) were eventually accepted.

I am so glad to know I’m not the only one who has had “second-thoughts”..mild though they are;it’s greatly reassuring to know that I’m not just wishy-washy and indecisive! 🙂

*Kyler Gabrielle*

Dulamorroli Says:

May 22nd, 2011 at 8:45 am

Dankie vir die interessante inligting

Mia Says:

June 2nd, 2011 at 6:34 pm

I have regrets about my own name, more than any second thoughts I might have about the kids. I changed my name when I was just about to turn 22, and I just made a mess of it, between trying to pick a name based on stupid criteria other than “OMG, I love this name!” and creating a horrible (HORRIBLE!!!) mash-up middle name that was supposed to sort of appease my parents (but failed to do that).

I love all my kids’ names; I wasn’t sure about the last kid’s name to begin with, but it has worked out to be a good choice. My husband and I just could not agree on ANYTHING, so we finally latched onto a name we could both tolerate, Elaina. She’s 6 now and loves her name. The family loves her name. She gets compliments on it regularly. It worked out. 🙂

Amber Says:

June 12th, 2011 at 2:47 pm

I have massive name regret. I have one son and 3 daughters and the only name i really like is my youngest child’s name – Beatrix. When my son, who is my eldest, was born i desperately wanted to call him jasper but my husband flatly refused – we named him called Jacob. I do quite like it still but would have preferred jasper – my husband decided that if our 3rd child had been a boy we could have called him jasper (why the delay, i didn’t understand it?), we had a girl! My 2nd child we called isabella. I knew she was a girl during my pregnancy and decided on the name before her birth. Just before she was born i really went off it, having loved the name Iris so much more – husband refused to call her iris. Everyone we know said isabella was a lovely name – which it is – and I was so fed up i gave in! now it is so popular i can’t stand it. I prefer her middle name which is Blythe but it is so hard trying to get people to call her that when i am the only one who tries – still, i think that she is my daughter, i gave her life so if i want to use her middle name, tough! my 3rd child, the boy who could have been jasper, we named phoebe. It is a cute name that i wanted and all the time i was pregnant it felt like i was carrying a great ball of sunshine (phoebe means bright and shining) so the name was just right. Butit is SO popular, a fact i was unaware of at the time and i look back now and as i still loved iris i should have fought harder for that name. There are so many names i like and i am becoming seriously obsessed with my name mistakes. yet there is NO WAY to correct things now. Other than using middle names which you really need support to make it work, which i just don’t have. Some people are not that bothered about names. I really am and this is such a massive issue for me.

tessa magnolia Says:

July 2nd, 2011 at 9:32 pm

I myself was almost a Mildred Ann nn Millie… it could always be worse!

Cami Says:

July 16th, 2011 at 1:33 am

We are filing next week to legally change my 4 month old daughter’s name. I was the classic over-thinker and threw out the only name we both loved (my grandmother’s name–the name we had been calling our daydream baby for a year before she was even conceived!) for the sake of sibset cohesion. Can you imagine? Stupidest decision EVER.

We (ok, I. My saint of a husband was just along for the ride) picked great name. A stunner of a name with the right number of syllables and the right ending–the crowning glory of our all-star sibset. And it didn’t belong to my baby. After she was born I kept looking at her, thinking ‘wow, what a great name. Too bad it’s not yours’

So when she was about 6 weeks old I told my husband I wanted to change her name and, y’all, the man cried. Really. He was so relieved. We’ve been calling her by her true name ever since, and it’s such a relief.

PS all our family and friends took the name change in stride. The lone holdout is my four year old (the one who tells everyone his name is Wolf Werewolf which isn’t in the all-star sibset, either). He still calls her the gorgeous-but-wrong name, but he also wears cowboy boots and shorts with a cape and a superhero mask made out of a (clean) pantiliner stuck over his eyes so, we’ll just consider it another quirk and hope he grows out of it.

Brighton *Bree* Says:

July 17th, 2011 at 4:40 am

I don’t have any children but I have baby name remorse about my own name. I hate my name so much, Its the gay capital of the world and I have been made fun of so many times and my name has been mispronounced into so many names, Bridget, Britta, Britain, Brittan. Ugh, I wish my mom would’ve named me something more common. Some of the names I’m considering for my future kids:

Ariana Faith
Cassia Nicole
Lucas Channing
Bronwyn or Bryn Alexandria
Olive or Olivia Grace

Allison Says:

July 18th, 2011 at 6:57 pm

I am worried about our third daughter’s middle name. Our first two I have no regrets about, they fit well with them, they flow well, and the name we are going with our third (Wren Melody) flows well, has a good story behind it, and fits with our other two girls, but I really wanted Agnes for a middle name. It’s a family name, but it doesn’t flow as well, kind of sounds smooshed “Wrenagnes”, and doesn’t fit with what we did for the first two, so I don’t think I’ll REGRET melody, but I think I will always think about and love Agnes.

Amelie Says:

July 28th, 2011 at 4:19 am

I have 3 girls (4,4 and 2)and still really like their first names. All my kids have 2 middle names, which I love, but one of my twins has ‘Larhette’ as her second middle name and now that she’s 4 I don’t really like it, even though it flows nicely (Myla Sally Larhette). I just feel it’s too long and a bit of a mouthful and there was absolutely no reason behind it.

All of their first names are often mispronounced as well which is annoying, but once you tell people (or introduce the child yourself rather than wait for their name to be read out) then it’s ok. Considering we’ve picked out 9 girls names and there’s only one I’m no longer keen on, I think we’ve done a good job.

ChicNamdBrandon Says:

August 3rd, 2011 at 7:36 pm

Well my oldest’s name fits her perfectly, my youngest however turned out to be more of a challenge. Her name Aria Ines never quite fit her. So as a baby we started calling her Growley because she was always soooo noisy. It caught on well with her 2 yr old sister who took it and ran with it. Well at about 6 months I KNEW I couldn’t call her Aria I intended to call her Ari as a nn. So I thought well I’ll call her Ines. No one called her Ines but me and I only did sometimes, now she’s almost 3 and barely knows her name. I never really pushed it with my DH because I can’t stand the way he says it (he’s a southerner and I’m a northerner.) So he pronounces it Eye-Nez and I pronounce it Ee-nes. Language barrier for sure.

ChicNamdBrandon Says:

August 3rd, 2011 at 8:32 pm

Well my oldest’s name fits her perfectly, my youngest however turned out to be more of a challenge. Her name Aria Ines never quite fit her. So as a baby we started calling her Growley because she was always soooo noisy. It caught on well with her 2 yr old sister who took it and ran with it. Well at about 6 months I KNEW I couldn’t call her Aria I intended to call her Ari as a nn. So I thought well I’ll call her Ines. No one called her Ines but me and I only did sometimes, now she’s almost 3 and barely knows her name. I never really pushed it with my DH because I can’t stand the way he says it (he’s a southerner and I’m a northerner.) So he pronounces it Eye-Nez and I pronounce it Ee-nes. Language barrier for sure. But as of now we are on the same page thankfully.

kimpossible7168 Says:

August 5th, 2011 at 9:46 pm

I have six kids and have(or had) some sort of problem with all their names but my oldest’s. My olsest’s name is Anthony James. I like it, my husband did not. He wanted a junior, John Henry or at least John. No way! We agreed if we had a boy, I named him whatever I wanted. If we had a girl, he named her whatever he wanted, Ashley Yvonne. Thankfully, we had a boy. He is 22 now.

Two years later… he agreed, if we have a boy, he won’t be named John. We were expecting a boy, so had not picked a girl’s name. He would be Robert Michael. We had a girl. People wanted to know her name, so we just grabbed the baby name book and chose the first name that we both thought was OK. Her name is Cristina Rochelle. Most people add the “H” to her name. Her name is long, so in school, her official papers always said Cristina Roch. Not good. We chose to spell her name without the “H” because we have a Hispanic last name. Most people call her Cristina, we call her Chella. She is 20 and likes her name, minus the whole roch thing.

Two years later, having another boy. Back to the junior thing. I was set on Joseph Daniel. Compromise….John Joseph Daniel…never called him John in my life.

Fast forward almost five years… Really wanted a girl. Thought I was having a girl. Ultrasound unable to determine. Another boy!! A lot of problems with the name so I named him Dominic Alexander. My sister-in-law was going to use Alexander for the middle name of her son due in 3 months. Husband had some issue with Alexander( I think he hated Dominic too). I stressed so much over the name, I went to the hospital when he was six days old and changed it. Dominic Matthew just turned 13. His name is my favorite of all my kids. I don’t like the nn Dom so much and only now does anyone call him that. The nn family uses is Nico or Nic.

Sixteen months later… Girl this time. I really liked Serena Celeste but, Serena Williams was starting to be all over the news at that time. I decided against it. We, shall I say, I had a couple of names I was thinking about. The lady at the hospital kept bugging me for a name for the birth certificate, I kept sending her away. We sort of decided on Julia but I was not sure of a middle name. That pesky birth certificate lady came back when I was visiting family and the husband gave her the name Julia Marie. I could not settle for that. When she was four days old, back to the hospital. Now Julia Miranda Marie is 11. I didn’t get rid of Marie because the reason my husband chose it is because it is one of my middle names. Kinda sweet.

Now for my biggest mistake, the name I don’t like to this day. My son is 8. He was overdue and I was being induced on my husband’s grandfather’s birthday(he loved him very much) who had passes away. There was a lot of drama in our life at the time. Baby names was not a hot topic for us at the time. I had chosen the name Jacob if Julia had been a boy. Mind you, I had never used a name that I had chosen for a previous baby. He wanted Jacob. It is so popular that I could not stand the thought of it. Our son was not born on his great grandfather’s birthday… he missed it by an hour and 26 minutes. My husband
decided he wanted to honor him by giving our son his name, Rosario!!!! Are you kidding. Rosario! I refused. Nice sentiment but, no way am I giving my son that name. We agreed to give him the first name Jacob(Not really,but whatever) but not the middle name Rosario. I left the hospital without naming him. There was a ton of tension in the house in the days to follow so, I asked my 3 and 4 year old what they liked. One like Jeremy, the other Michael so, that is what I named him..Jacob Jeremy Michael. I hate it to this very day and wished I had waited longer to decide. Some advice, don’t let your 3 and 4 year old name your baby. Had he been a girl she would have been Emilia Angelina or Emilia Grace.

emilymaryjane Says:

December 29th, 2011 at 6:47 pm

Well I don’t have a child but my sister is so upset. She named her baby Sophia and there are about eight at her playgroup. And three Sophies

Kat_Taylor Says:

February 8th, 2012 at 8:43 pm

Try being a Kaitlyn. It sucks. I tend to go by Kat, and my parents know I hate the name, but I’ve been thinking of changing it for a while.

Kenzi Says:

February 28th, 2012 at 10:53 pm

-i have two daughters named Arabella and Gabriella. people are still mad at me about this ( good thing they go by Gabry and Bella). -i gave my son Hanson the middle name Cullen because it means ‘handsome’ twilight has ruined that for me.
-My son is named Shephard and people think that’s mean. i love it still, but people often spell it with an ‘e’ at the end instead of an ‘a’
-My daughters name is Mykaela and we call her Aela. People can never spell her name right
-my baby, Nolle (Nol-lee) is always being called ‘Nol’ when people read her name

seltavankest Says:

March 5th, 2012 at 5:49 am

I have a lot of regrets about my own name. I was named under quite odd circumstances, where my mum heard my name in a dream, and then everyone told her it was too hard to pronounce, so she and my dad changed it to something that, in my opinion and experience, is even harder to pronounce. I’ve now been through 22 years of being called whatever people bastardise my name into and the fact that nobody can spell it (had to have my organ donor details changed 3 times due to wrong spelling of my name). The funny thing is that my mum and dad don’t even pronounce it the same. It’s Ileeya, pronounced eye (as in eyeball) lee-uh. My mum pronounces it the same as me (stress on the ee), my Dad puts stress on the i. The most common incorrect spellings are Iieeya or Lleeya, even though I always write my name in caps on forms to be clear. I’ve been called everything from Alisha to Elsa, even though there isn’t even an s in my name. I really, really wish my mum had just gone with the name from her dream, which was Aellia (ay-ell-ee-uh), which I think would probably only be pronounced wrong as “ay-lee-uh”, which is close enough to my name now that I could probably. Frustratingly, people also tend to think my name is Aaliyah when I introduce myself. My middle name isn’t really usable in my eyes, either (Marie, my French grandmother’s name, but it would just be pronounced in the English way if I used it).

I went through a string of self-created nicknames, and now use Eve, on the basis that nobody can get a 3-letter name too wrong (still been called Evie, which I hate). I’m now strongly considering changing my name to Eve and keeping Aellia as a middle name when I get married.

My fiancé and I have been talking about names for years, just because we don’t want to get to the point in our lives where we’re ready to have children and realise we don’t have any names in mind. Unfortunately, I can’t seem to help over-analysing them to see if they can be pronounced/spelled wrong by the common person. I really like Etienne, for example, but when I told him, he asked me to repeat it, and I just couldn’t help feeling it wouldn’t work. I love unusual and old names, but I really can’t face putting my children through years of repeating their name over and over again and having to correct official documents because it’s been spelled wrong.

kitchi1 Says:

August 8th, 2012 at 5:05 pm

I know this is kind of about a childs name that you regretted, but I regret naming my ferret Rosie. I don’t even like that name that much, so why did I name her it? I don’t know. Maybe because I was fed up with thinking of a name. (I should have came here) She was named Squirt, then Angelina “Angie”, then Rosie. Which I totally regret. But, she knows her name and it’s been here name for almost over a year, so I obviously can’t change it.

specimenMeg Says:

March 17th, 2013 at 8:15 pm

I don’t regret my nearly two year old daughter’s name at all… we named her Valenteen Elise. While “Valenteen” does not always get a 100% positive reception, I think it suits her and we really wanted an elegant but unique name. My only trouble with it is the spelling. I didn’t want to spell it like “Valentine” because of the holiday, which we don’t celebrate… plus it would constantly be pronounced differently. The Russian spelling, Valentin, didn’t look right at the time either. I didn’t want people pronouncing her name “Val-in-TIN”. So we went with the phonetic spelling. I am still unsure of it, and wonder if I should have gone with Valentin after all. My favorite spelling is Valentyn or Valentine, but it looks like the holiday again. Most of the time we call her Val or Vali… I go back and forth on how to spell Vali, too. Vally? Valley? Val’e? 😛

bananas4ryanna Says:

June 5th, 2013 at 12:32 am

I’m not wild about my son’s name. It was a compromise and I just think it’s “blah”. I adore my son and he’s made me love the name on HIM, but I wish I would’ve fought harder for some of my choices. I also wish I would’ve added a family name as a middle name, even if it was a 3 name situation. Oh well. *sigh*

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