Category: family names
Let’s say right up front that we don’t advise naming your daughter Davette to honor Grandpa Dave, or any of the other similarly awkward cross-gender namesake names.
So how do you, did you, can you best choose a name for your baby that honors a relative or friend or hero of the opposite gender?
Some parents simply use the name, as Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard did when they named their daughter Lincoln or several celebrities recently have in giving their daughters the middle name James. But this cross-gender appropriation happens most often when giving male names to girls, which may be inherently sexist — though even the most feminist parent may stop short of naming a son Mary or Patricia, even in the middle place.
So what do you do then, use the name Patrick? Or choose a name that’s more conventionally gender-identified that starts with the same first letter? Or maybe appropriate Grandma Mary‘s maiden name as a first?
There are all kinds of ways of approaches and beliefs on this subject, and we’d like to hear yours.
When i was pregnant with Baby Number 3, my older son, aged three, had lots of ideas about what I should name his little brother.
Rainbow Boy was one prime contender, I remember.
He also had an inordinate fondness for the name Jim. Not a bad name, though I feared that for a baby name expert to name her own sons Joe and Jim might be a bit too basic, like a fashion designer dressing only in white tee shirts and jeans.
Older siblings often have strong and amusing ideas about what to name the baby.
When my husband and I found out we were expecting our first child, a girl, choosing her name was efficient and simple. We tossed around a few names that neither of us hated and within 5 minutes decided that our wee girl would be called Juliette. We never wavered or second guessed ourselves. We had no idea at the time that we’d have 5 additional children rounding out our family. I didn’t recognize that choosing the first couple of kid’s names sort of sets the tone for additional kid’s name. It certainly doesn’t have to if sibset continuity doesn’t matter to you but for me, that is something I wish I’d considered.
Did you give all of your dolls perfectly coordinating names as a child? Maybe you had dolls named Sandra and Chandra. (OK so you probably didn’t name your dolls Sandra and Chandra; this is just a random example. Please go with it.) Maybe once you became a teen that same combo grated on your nerves.
Opinions vary widely on how much sibling names should match. And the rules can be different for same gender vs. opposite gender siblings and twins.
A little while back our question of the week asked berries to name their own Name Ticker family, choosing only from names in the name ticker at any given moment. It was a big success and a lot of fun with some truly fascinating results.
So continuing on that theme, today we’re asking you to name a family using only the names found on the Similar Names page of any name you choose.
I was inspired to ask this question by the Similar Names page for Eulalia, here. So many great choices! I might create a family of two girls and two boys named Eulalia and Corisande, Booker and Cyrus. Or I might go a bit more exotic and choose Aviva and Kamala, Dmitri and Vladimir.