Category: baby name problems
by Paul Ratner
As my wife and I are counting down to the birth of our son, we are happy, eager, completely discomforted (well, that’s mostly my heroic wife) and stuck in agonizing limbo over choosing a name for our upcoming guy. It seemed like a simple enough thing to do. There are a million names out there to pick from. But immediately, we realized that choosing a name for this very new person is a tremendous responsibility. He’ll have to go through his whole life with it, responding dozens of times a day to the combination of sounds we pick out for him. And each such word carries the whole gamut of human experience in its letters.
We’re looking for a long name – three or more syllables, with a similar style to her sisters’ names. But it needs to have a different sound and dominant letters, so we can’t repeat anna/enne/lise/viv/elly.
The Name Sage says:
My husband and I are expecting our first baby girl in June after having four boys, and we CANNOT agree on a girl’s name.
We’re looking for a name that is feminine, but not frilly. My husband likes names that are a little bit more modern and I like older names. We don’t want to repeat an initial, so D, J, A, and L names are out. We do agree on a middle name: Moriah.
Welcome to Nameberry’s newest column, The Name Sage. Every week, I’ll answer one reader’s questions about naming a baby-on-the-way, or general baby name angst. And here’s the best part: we’d love it if you would add your thoughtful suggestions and comments to help expectant parents decide. The world needs more nicely named children, berries! Want to see your question featured? Please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Kathleen and her husband are expecting their first child, a boy. She writes:
Here’s our dilemma: my husband is in love with the name Peter.
While I don’t love it, it has started to grow on me. My main concern is the dirty joke associated with it. Do you think that’s still an issue these days? Also, can you suggest any some middle names to go with Peter?
By Gay Cioffi
Just as in real estate where the three most important things are: LOCATION… LOCATION…. LOCATION, when bestowing a name on a baby the three most important things are: PRONUNCIATION… PRONUNCIATION… PRONUNCIATION.
As a person whose last name is almost never pronounced correctly, Cioffi (the Ci is like Ch and …oh, if only I had a buck for every time I have had to say that!!), I know that navigating the social territory of “when and how often to correct” those who mispronounce it is tricky, to say the least. I had a third grade teacher who pronounced it KEY-OFF and I cringed every time I was called on for the entire school year.