Category: baby name pressure
It’s one of the biggest problems parents-to-be complain about on the Nameberry forums: family pressure over the choice of a name.
If not promoting their own or other relatives’ names, family members might just exercise what they see as their right to voice strong, uh, opinions about names. Ugh, you can’t name your son Felix: That’s a cat’s name!
Or was your family blessedly pressure-free on the topic of names? Or maybe you even tried to talk about names with them, and they weren’t interested?
Imagine the pressure. Not only do you have the neighbors and grandparents and colleagues saying, “Congratulations! What’s his name?” but then there’s People Magazine and US Weekly and probably your publicist, too.
Given all the talk of baby name regret that we’ve heard over the last few weeks, maybe waiting to decide isn’t such a bad idea. James Van Der Beek and wife Kimberly also welcomed a son last week, a little brother for Olivia. So far Baby Van Der Beek is also nameless – or at least, the proud parents aren’t sharing.
All babies do get names eventually, of course, and a few of the names in the news this week are the very opposite of the Sisto/Van Der Beek situation. It looks like Jessica Simpson’s choice is now public knowledge, and Jersey Shore’s Snooki has shared her shortlist for a baby boy. But if the reality star has a daughter, she could be in the same boat as Sisto – in an MTV special, she said she had no ideas for a girl’s name.
My kids’ names were picked ages before they were born, and my husband and I shared them without hesitation. But it is an enduring question. How far in advance can you decide? Do you need to meet the baby first? Even if your mind is made up, dare you share the name?
This week’s list is so interesting that you have to believe the parents put lots of thought into the names in advance: