Category: baby name disputes

Abby Berry Juice profile image

Can These Baby Namers Ever Agree?

a Name Sage post by: Abby View all Name Sage posts
baby names compromise

His list is as classic and traditional as they come. She likes her names on the wild side. Is there any middle ground, and how can they possibly find it when every conversation ends with an eye roll?

Jenna writes:

Hoping you can break the stalemate between my partner and I.  We’re expecting and we’re on such different pages, we can’t even speak about names.

He is all about tradition and timelessness whereas I enjoy adventurous and less common names that are easy to say, spell, and remember.

My partner is Alexander IV. He feels strongly about maintaining the tradition, and naming a son Alexander V. I find Alexander too common, and don’t like the confusion of having two in my life! I’m not fond of alternative nicknames like AJ, Xander, etc.

Besides Alexander, his list is Matthew, Benjamin, or Adam for a boy; Elizabeth, Sarah, or Jane for a girl. I like Ronin/Ronan, Alden, Rosco, and Cyrus for boys; Novella, Novalie, Marlo, Aleah, Amara, and Verity for a girl.

I’m willing to compromise with more common choices, like Bennett, Sloan, Kyla, Ryann, Blaire, or Norah.

For middle names, I like the idea of using Alexander for a son. For girls, I like Amorette and Lorienne, which he calls “made-up French names.”

I can’t even hold back the eye-roll as he thinks hard and comes up with another name we’ve heard 10,000 times before!

We can’t even chat about this without looking at each other like we’re from another planet.  We need help or this baby will be stuck as “The Kid” forever!

The Name Sage replies:

Read More

a Name Sage post by: Abby View all Name Sage posts

They’re excited to expecting another girl, but agreeing on a name? That’s another story! They compromised on Luella for their first daughter. Let’s help them find another name they can both love.

Kiara writes:

I’m hoping you can help my husband and I get on the same page. When it comes to baby names we are two ships passing in the night!

We have always had a boy name in mind – Harvey – but of course we are having our second girl.

Our first daughter is named Luella. I can’t tell you how long it took to get that name and I am anxious for us to fast track getting this new little lady named.

My husband goes for classics/mainstream favoritess mostly. Think Emma, Elsie, and Kinsey.

I tend to like names with Southern/grandma flair, or slightly offbeat names. Think Sailor, Pepper, Linnie, and Delilah.

We did like the name Linnea, but with our Luella already here we think it may be a little too similar.

Help, please … or this baby may be named Harvey-the-girl!

The Name Sage replies:

Read More

Nickname-Proof Boy Names

Their lists are so close – but agreeing on the right name for their son has proven impossible! Can they find a nickname-proof name with a possible built-in nickname? It sounds crazy, but the answer might be yes …

Angela writes:

When we decided we were ready for kids, we discussed names and knew Stella was our girl name. Our daughter was born in 2014 and we named her Stella Lucille. Lucille was my grandmother’s name. Now we’re expecting our second, a boy due just in time for Thanksgiving!

Unlike with Stella’s name, there is nothing that jumps out and gives me the “This is it! The perfect name!” feeling. Every boy name seems so common to me.

I know Stella is growing in popularity, but to me it sounded fresh yet vintage. I would love something with that same feeling for our son. All of the names I see are just okay.

Our short list includes August, Bennett, Harrison, Hugh, Maxwell, Theodore, and Raymond/Ray. We also like Gus, Luke, Leo, Owen, Evan, and Ryan.

I like Owen August, but my husband doesn’t like it. I also love Bennett. It was my grandmother’s maiden name; however we have a very close friend named Ben, and it comes from the same grandmother that we honored with Stella’s middle name.

My husband’s favorites are Leo, Gus, Ryan, and Evan. He really wants a masculine, normal sounding name.

I would like a name which isn’t too common, but not off the wall. I prefer names without obvious nicknames, but since my husband is William, called Will, he doesn’t mind nicknames.

Any help you can give would be great!

The Name Sage replies:

Read More

If Your Partner Named Your Kids….

It was an intriguing question posed over on the forums: What would your children be named, if your partner had complete control?

In my case, my husband would have chosen names from his family tree….very very sleepy names.

Our daughter would be named Molly instead of RoryMolly Rose. Or maybe Rose Elizabeth, after my husband’s grandmother and mother.

One of our sons would probably have been John and the other one Edward, called Ned. I’m guessing John Richard and Edward Victor. All serviceable choices but…..yawn.

Of course, turn the tables and my husband would say my unedited choices would be unacceptably outrageous. Flora, Otis, and Penn, maybe. Sounds fantastic to me.

Read More

Ideally, choosing your baby’s name is a fun, inspired endeavor, but too often baby name problems get in the way.  Here are the problems we hear most often, and how to fix them:

Your family interferes with your name choice

Your mom wants you to name the baby after her.  His dad wants you to name the baby after his mom.  And everybody hates the name you’ve chosen….and isn’t shy about telling you so.  Name discussions with family can be an illuminating way to pass your pregnancy, but the minute family members start to act like they have equal voting rights, it’s time to cut off the talks.  Bowing to family name pressure is the Number 1 reason for name regret.

Your friend ruins the name you love

Read More