Category: baby name disputes

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Compromise girl name

They’re excited to expecting another girl, but agreeing on a name? That’s another story! They compromised on Luella for their first daughter. Let’s help them find another name they can both love.

Kiara writes:

I’m hoping you can help my husband and I get on the same page. When it comes to baby names we are two ships passing in the night!

We have always had a boy name in mind – Harvey – but of course we are having our second girl.

Our first daughter is named Luella. I can’t tell you how long it took to get that name and I am anxious for us to fast track getting this new little lady named.

My husband goes for classics/mainstream favoritess mostly. Think Emma, Elsie, and Kinsey.

I tend to like names with Southern/grandma flair, or slightly offbeat names. Think Sailor, Pepper, Linnie, and Delilah.

We did like the name Linnea, but with our Luella already here we think it may be a little too similar.

Help, please … or this baby may be named Harvey-the-girl!

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Nickname-Proof Boy Names

nickname proof

Their lists are so close – but agreeing on the right name for their son has proven impossible! Can they find a nickname-proof name with a possible built-in nickname? It sounds crazy, but the answer might be yes …

Angela writes:

When we decided we were ready for kids, we discussed names and knew Stella was our girl name. Our daughter was born in 2014 and we named her Stella Lucille. Lucille was my grandmother’s name. Now we’re expecting our second, a boy due just in time for Thanksgiving!

Unlike with Stella’s name, there is nothing that jumps out and gives me the “This is it! The perfect name!” feeling. Every boy name seems so common to me.

I know Stella is growing in popularity, but to me it sounded fresh yet vintage. I would love something with that same feeling for our son. All of the names I see are just okay.

Our short list includes August, Bennett, Harrison, Hugh, Maxwell, Theodore, and Raymond/Ray. We also like Gus, Luke, Leo, Owen, Evan, and Ryan.

I like Owen August, but my husband doesn’t like it. I also love Bennett. It was my grandmother’s maiden name; however we have a very close friend named Ben, and it comes from the same grandmother that we honored with Stella’s middle name.

My husband’s favorites are Leo, Gus, Ryan, and Evan. He really wants a masculine, normal sounding name.

I would like a name which isn’t too common, but not off the wall. I prefer names without obvious nicknames, but since my husband is William, called Will, he doesn’t mind nicknames.

Any help you can give would be great!

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If Your Partner Named Your Kids….


It was an intriguing question posed over on the forums: What would your children be named, if your partner had complete control?

In my case, my husband would have chosen names from his family tree….very very sleepy names.

Our daughter would be named Molly instead of RoryMolly Rose. Or maybe Rose Elizabeth, after my husband’s grandmother and mother.

One of our sons would probably have been John and the other one Edward, called Ned. I’m guessing John Richard and Edward Victor. All serviceable choices but…..yawn.

Of course, turn the tables and my husband would say my unedited choices would be unacceptably outrageous. Flora, Otis, and Penn, maybe. Sounds fantastic to me.

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Ideally, choosing your baby’s name is a fun, inspired endeavor, but too often baby name problems get in the way.  Here are the problems we hear most often, and how to fix them:

Your family interferes with your name choice

Your mom wants you to name the baby after her.  His dad wants you to name the baby after his mom.  And everybody hates the name you’ve chosen….and isn’t shy about telling you so.  Name discussions with family can be an illuminating way to pass your pregnancy, but the minute family members start to act like they have equal voting rights, it’s time to cut off the talks.  Bowing to family name pressure is the Number 1 reason for name regret.

Your friend ruins the name you love

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This Couple Needs A Baby Name Pre-Nup!


Duana Taha reports that she and her new husband are compatible in every way, until they start talking about baby names.

I recently got married, and we’re very happy. Like a lot of just-married couples, we’re thinking about children in the near future, which is great.

Except we forgot one crucial thing. A baby name pre-nup.

Do most couples work out their baby names before they agree to be tied together forever? Was I unaware? Because there are some issues here we definitely should have discussed…!

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