Category: baby name compromise

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They both have their favorites, but his list is way too short! Let’s come up with some more names for these first-time parents to ponder. 

Rachel writes:

My husband and I are expecting our first child in a few months. We are definitely having a hard time agreeing on a name we both love.

My favorite is Sienna Bryce for a girl and Oliver Jamison for a boy.

My husband doesn’t like much except Natalie for a girl or Owen for a boy. I do like the names, but I’m not in love, and I don’t want to settle on a name that is for life.

We both like Elisabeth so that will likely be our middle name for a girl. (We know another girl with the name, so it can’t be the first.)

I also like Emelia, Georgia, Selina, Casey, Annika, and Danica for a girl, and Lincoln, Emmett, and Archer.

Our last name is Ukrainian, is three syllables, starts with Pr- and ends with -uk.

I’m hoping you can give us some more ideas that my husband may be open to. Thanks!

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Can These Baby Namers Ever Agree?

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His list is as classic and traditional as they come. She likes her names on the wild side. Is there any middle ground, and how can they possibly find it when every conversation ends with an eye roll?

Jenna writes:

Hoping you can break the stalemate between my partner and I.  We’re expecting and we’re on such different pages, we can’t even speak about names.

He is all about tradition and timelessness whereas I enjoy adventurous and less common names that are easy to say, spell, and remember.

My partner is Alexander IV. He feels strongly about maintaining the tradition, and naming a son Alexander V. I find Alexander too common, and don’t like the confusion of having two in my life! I’m not fond of alternative nicknames like AJ, Xander, etc.

Besides Alexander, his list is Matthew, Benjamin, or Adam for a boy; Elizabeth, Sarah, or Jane for a girl. I like Ronin/Ronan, Alden, Rosco, and Cyrus for boys; Novella, Novalie, Marlo, Aleah, Amara, and Verity for a girl.

I’m willing to compromise with more common choices, like Bennett, Sloan, Kyla, Ryann, Blaire, or Norah.

For middle names, I like the idea of using Alexander for a son. For girls, I like Amorette and Lorienne, which he calls “made-up French names.”

I can’t even hold back the eye-roll as he thinks hard and comes up with another name we’ve heard 10,000 times before!

We can’t even chat about this without looking at each other like we’re from another planet.  We need help or this baby will be stuck as “The Kid” forever!

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Boy Baby Names: A time for compromise

They don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl, but they do know the names – or they did. Now friends have chosen their top boy baby name, and it’s back to the drawing board for Anna and her husband.

Anna writes:

We’ve got a bit of a dilemma on our hands, and I’m hoping you can help.

Our older two are Daphne Rose and Charles Ender.

We love old-fashioned yet less common first names (literary or Biblical) paired with family names for the middle name.

Since the baby is due on the Ides of March, I like the idea of Julius Caesar, Shakespeare, or Latin-sounding names.

While my husband and I love the name Juliet Mae if this next baby is a girl, we simply cannot agree on a name for a boy. I think his ideas are too common, and he thinks mine are too unusual.

Some names I like are Corin, Julian, Bennet, and Silas. Some names he likes include Mark, Aaron, Noah, and Asher. Family names for the middle name could be Cole, Treloar, Woods, Birk, James, and Ray.

We thought we had agreed on the name Gideon Cole, but close friends just named their son Gideon.

Please help! I’m so sick of searching endlessly through literary, old-fashioned, and Biblical name lists!

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Amanda writes:

We are expecting our second child on February 16th, exactly two years after we welcomed our daughter, Evelina Viti. She goes by Lina. We chose not to find out the gender again this time, but it is making choosing a name that much harder!

Evelina’s middle name is from my husband’s family, which is very Italian. Our last name is Italian, too, and ends in ‘o’.

If Evelina had been a boy, we had chosen Byron Robert. Now that we have Evelina, we feel that Byron doesn’t work. It’s too English and short next to her very Italian, four-syllable name.

Most of the boy names I like are English or German, including Marius, Jasper, and Leander. My husband prefers something Italian, like Santino.

If this baby is a girl, we are equally stumped. I have suggested Lorelei, a nod to my German heritage. My husband is not totally opposed, but he doesn’t like that it means temptress. The middle name will be Magdalena, after my grandmother.

We both love traditional names that are somewhat unusual now. The meaning of the name is also important to us. We had a difficult pregnancy, so the fact that Evelina meant “wished for child” made it even more perfect.

So basically, I am afraid I won’t be able to find a name I love as much as my firstborn’s name!

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How to Find A Name You BOTH Love

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Nell writes:

We’re expecting our first child, and we’re keeping the gender a surprise.

We have no idea where to start with names! I like vintage like Ignatius, Posey or Nancy, and my husband is into the more trendy names like Mason or Parker or Ava.

Any suggestions would greatly be appreciated! I’m due in early January.

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