Category: Questions of the Week
Most parents today have the choice of whether to learn their baby’s gender long before birth, even without invasive tests.
Other reasons for finding out the gender aside, we’re wondering whether it helps or hurts in choosing a name.
What’s your experience? Did you, would you, find out your baby’s gender before birth?
Did it make it easier to find the right name….or maybe harder? Did you announce both the gender and the name before your baby was born, or keep the name announcement separate?
But what about the names that are common in your little corner of the world? The names you seem to hear all the time in the neighborhood playground, at the pediatrician’s office, in the classroom?
Okay, so maybe you’re not going to give all your children names that begin with C…..or that start with vowels or contain the lovely letter L. (Or maybe you are, and that’s okay too.)
But have you noticed a sound pattern to the names you like? You might find yourself attracted to names that contain the letter O — as I knew I was when I realized I’d given my children the O-heavy names Rory, Joe, and Owen.
Or you might love names that have the soft S sound in there somewhere, or that start with A or end with N.
And at the same time, maybe you DON‘T like names with the hard K sound or that end in the trendy -er.
Let’s say right up front that we don’t advise naming your daughter Davette to honor Grandpa Dave, or any of the other similarly awkward cross-gender namesake names.
So how do you, did you, can you best choose a name for your baby that honors a relative or friend or hero of the opposite gender?
Some parents simply use the name, as Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard did when they named their daughter Lincoln or several celebrities recently have in giving their daughters the middle name James. But this cross-gender appropriation happens most often when giving male names to girls, which may be inherently sexist — though even the most feminist parent may stop short of naming a son Mary or Patricia, even in the middle place.
So what do you do then, use the name Patrick? Or choose a name that’s more conventionally gender-identified that starts with the same first letter? Or maybe appropriate Grandma Mary‘s maiden name as a first?
There are all kinds of ways of approaches and beliefs on this subject, and we’d like to hear yours.
For the full list of flower names, go here.
Which is your very favorite flower name? Your guilty pleasure? The name you’d choose for a child…or even yourself?