Category: Name Problems and Disputes
A double delivery surprise means four finalist names! If their twins are boys, they’re all set. But when it comes to girls’ names, they’re not sure where to begin.
My husband and I are expecting fraternal twins in a few short months. We have decided to keep the babies’ genders a surprise. As a result, we need to come up with four names (two boys and two girls).
We are at a bit of a standstill when it comes to girl names. We don’t want any names that are too matchy, and would prefer names that do not have easily derived nicknames, but other than that we don’t have any real guidelines for names.
I want names that I love as much as my other children’s names and our boy name choices.
We are quickly getting closer to the babies’ arrivals and we are desperate to find the right girl names. Do you have any suggestions for girl names to round out our list?
The Name Sage replies:
By Abby Sandel
And yet, other names are open to multiple possibilities. They’re not necessarily wrong – just different. Our assumptions about correct pronunciations are shaped by regional accents and changing trends. Pages and pages in our forum discuss this very issue.
It’s a different challenge from names that are misheard. Name your daughter Emmeline, and she’ll probably be called Emily at least some of the time. But that’s a different kind of frustration than explaining that she’s emmaLINE, rhymes with fine and sign, not emmaLYNN.
Or, of course, the opposite. Because it can be emmaLYNN, rhymes with kin and win, just as easily. Unless, of course, you pronounce it emmaLEEN.
Let’s take a look at nine baby names with pronunciations that often lead to confusion.
By Abby Sandel
When it comes to baby naming, here’s my number one rule: Use the name you love.
That sounds straightforward. And yet, as we consider names, we come across all sorts of concerns – often from those closest to us.
The result? A shortlist of three or four great names starts to seem much more complicated.
Most objections are based on generational differences, or others’ personal preferences. It’s good to listen – remember Poppy Montgomery’s story about the near-naming disaster her father-in-law averted? But for every serious, name-changing observation, a great many comments are best ignored.
Here are nine frequently-cited concerns that shouldn’t come between you and your favorite name.
His list is as classic and traditional as they come. She likes her names on the wild side. Is there any middle ground, and how can they possibly find it when every conversation ends with an eye roll?
Hoping you can break the stalemate between my partner and I. We’re expecting and we’re on such different pages, we can’t even speak about names.
He is all about tradition and timelessness whereas I enjoy adventurous and less common names that are easy to say, spell, and remember.
My partner is Alexander IV. He feels strongly about maintaining the tradition, and naming a son Alexander V. I find Alexander too common, and don’t like the confusion of having two in my life! I’m not fond of alternative nicknames like AJ, Xander, etc.
Besides Alexander, his list is Matthew, Benjamin, or Adam for a boy; Elizabeth, Sarah, or Jane for a girl. I like Ronin/Ronan, Alden, Rosco, and Cyrus for boys; Novella, Novalie, Marlo, Aleah, Amara, and Verity for a girl.
I can’t even hold back the eye-roll as he thinks hard and comes up with another name we’ve heard 10,000 times before!
We can’t even chat about this without looking at each other like we’re from another planet. We need help or this baby will be stuck as “The Kid” forever!
The Name Sage replies:
They love the name Josephine, but could their choice lead to family drama? Her sister has called dibs on the name, and says they ought to respect her wishes.