Find out gender or leave it a surprise?

[beautiful_madness]

I honestly don't know what I'd do. I'm not even pregnant yet but am so interested in babies, names and get really excited when I know people who are pregnant. I always like to know if they are going to find out or not. By the sounds of it, it seems like it depends on the person. Everyone has their own opinion on whether you should or should not find out. My cousin wanted to find out what she's having, went to the scan and the baby was moving too much so they couldn't tell, they went back the 2nd time and same deal. This week they tried a 3rd time to find out and finally found out they are having a girl. My cousin said it was the best feeling being told she was going to have a daughter.
But then I've heard of other people saying that keeping it a surprise, makes the pregnancy worth it. The anticipation of waking up one day and imagining it to be a boy running around and then waking up another day imagining it to be a girl in little pretty dresses makes it worth it. Plus so much fun having everyone guess.
I really don't know what I'd do but at the moment I think I would find out because I know I have to have a c-section anyway and I have to be asleep for it so if I keep it a surprise, my husband would find out what it is before I did. We wouldn't get that moment to find out together...unless we found out in the scan. Plus I'm the most impatient person in the world so it would suit my personality to find out!

[oddcreature]

We didn't find out with my daughter and I HATED not knowing. Drove me nuts.

Didn't help that we were so sure she was a girl, like ridiculously sure, so much so I couldn't envision any birth that didn't result in hearing "it's a girl". And I felt so guilty because we didn't have a boys name picked and didn't know what we'd do if we had a boy. Of course I'd still love a boy, but what would I call him?

[lrmum]

I found out for both my girls (pregnant now with no.2 due next month) and I feel like it made me feel more bonded or connected. I hated saying 'it' when talking about them before we knew. I much prefer saying "SHE is kicking" etc and this time around I think it has helped preparing my daughter, telling her she has a sister coming.

But it's a very personal choice, each to their own.

[newfootprints]

I'm gonna find out, I would LOVE to have the willpower to leave it as a surprise but I know I won't be able to lol

[goodhope]

That was me, newfootprints! I swore I was going to leave it a surprise, but I caved mid-ultrasound and demanded to know.

I ended up being really glad that I found out, and I'll find out with future children too, if possible.

[tinabina]

Finding out at the sonogram is still a surprise!

[beanie]

Finding out at the sonogram is still a surprise!

So true! Due to a blood disorder, my current pregnancy is high-risk, so I've had ALOT of sonograms. It would be tough not to know at this point. For me, knowing as much as possible about the baby is helping me feel a special connection, esp since this is my scariest pregnancy and will have to be my last. When I found out I'm having a girl, it was so neat, like opening one present on Christmas Eve.

[tmcl15]

Keep it a surprise! That's what I plan to do for a few reasons...the main one is that I am not a fan of pink carseats, highchairs, etc. And wouldn't want to have to replace everything if a boy came along later. Another reason is that I am very picky when it comes to my clothes so I imagine I will feel the same way about my childrens', if no one knows the gender they are less likely to buy clothes for the baby and rather will get the necessary baby items first. Also, I love the the thought of it being a total surprise on delivery day. Just as in your case, my husband and I differ on our opinions but I am going to try my hardest to talk him out of wanting to find out before the baby is born. Good luck!

[archiemrs11]

I dont know if I could handle the suspense but I would really want to keep it a surprise, I dont really like the idea of having all pink girly things or blue for a boy anyway. Hubbys the opposite he thinks its better to know so you can prepare.

[blessingsonboard]

For a first baby, I would prefer the surprise. It makes the entire birthing experience complete, imo. Being able to celebrate that surprise gift after all that hard work is so worth it. And, for me, I've never dealt with disappointment in that moment like I have previously when finding out via u/s.

We've found out with two of ours. Our third was hard and disappointing and I wished we had never known. I felt really let down when he was born and could just say "he's here!" Instead of, "It's a BOY!"

With this pregnancy we decided to find out and I'm thrilled to know. Different seasons bring different emotions. We have a long run on girls right now, so knowing the gender this time has taken *a lot* of pressure off of me from well-meaning friends and family.