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  1. #1
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    Relative Name Angst

    Are any of your relatives unhappy with their names? Why are they unhappy? Do they use their middle names instead of their first names? Tell us what their middle and first names are. Have they legally changed their names? What are their new names? Have they chosen nicknames to replace the names they don't like? How did they get their nicknames and what are they?

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    Middle Name/First Name Switch:
    relatives that have used middle names instead of first names:
    me: middle name was Sue, now is Susan. Use Susan as my main name socially.
    father: name was Arthur Kenneth. Family called him Kenneth from the time he was born. He changed his name to Kenneth Arthur.
    grandmother: name was Clara May. Family and then everyone called her May. Legally she was Clara May.
    aunt: born Dorothy Elaine. Was called Elaine. Dropped the Dorothy when she got married.
    aunt: born Edith Grace. Became Grace.

    Nicknames:
    me: for a long time I was Chuka.
    my brother: Tim put all different names on his driver's licenses including Mohammed McChurch. But that was just for fun. He really wanted me to name my son Mohammed. And my daughter Conchita. I really like Conchita. It means "little shell". But I didn't think either name went well with our last name.
    When my father would go to Mexico (he went often), he would have everyone call him his middle name Arturo because his first name Ken sounds a lot like the Spanish word Quien which in English means "who". If somebody asks you what your name is and you answer, who, it can lead to a lot of misunderstanding!

    Didn't like their names:
    uncle: Kirby DeWit-didn't like either name, lives with his names.
    me: originally Deborah nn Debbie-didn't like it. Changed it.
    husband: Kent Andrew. Goes by Kent, doesn't like it, wishes his name were Andrew, will never change his name. I don't blame him. It would be hard at this point.
    mother: Helen. Never liked it but always has been Helen.
    uncle: born Benjamin Franklin Watkins. Changed his first name to his mother's maiden name Hilton.
    All this family name angst proves that it's good to really think about what name you're going to name your baby and hope that they like it! And that you like it so you don't end up calling them by their middle name.

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    - My grandma was Mabel till she was 14, then changed her name to Joyce. She didn't like being called May Belle by her classmates.
    - Husband and I both changed our last names when we got married. Normal for me, not for him. (A lot easier for a woman to change her last name than a man. He had to go to court and pay $300 in fees.) We still love both families, just have a new name that's only ours and has more meaning to us.
    - My Dad hates his middle name. It was his uncle's nickname (Kay, nickname for Kenneth) and he says it's a woman's name and only uses the initial. He'd never tell his mom, though.
    - Husband had no middle name till he was 3. Picked his Dad's name.
    - Aunt goes by her legal middle name, Robin. She was originally Lynn Robin. Her parents thought that Robin wasn't a woman's name, but a child's name and wanted her to have something more grown up. Aunt tried to change it to Lynn around age 16, but it didn't stick.
    (Everyone on my mom's side of the family would never think of changing their names. It just isn't done.)

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    -My great aunt Cleta Faye goes by Faye
    -My grandma Frances Norma Jean was called Norma Jean

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    I've never heard of a couple both changing their surnames! What did you pick? (Obviously, you don't have to say if you don't want to, I'm just curious.)
    I know a few people who always go by their nicknames, but the only other one I can think of is an uncle. He was named after his father, so went by his mn at home. When he went to university, people called him his real fn. My dad (his brother) didn't find this out for a few years, and so the family kept calling him his mn name. My grandfather passed away some time ago, so now my uncle is the only one with that name, but he gets called different things by different people, depending on when they knew him.
    We don't see him much, and I'm not sure what it would be best to call him ... so it's always just "Uncle" or "Um ... hey? Hey? Could you pass the salt? Yeah, thanks."

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    My husband's grandma was born Elizabeth. She was the last child and came way after the most of them. (She had nieces/nephews older than her.) She now goes by Alice (and got it legally changed) because everyone said that they had enough children Alice (at last).

    I also had a professor who's name was originally Melanie and her middle Frances. Her whole family called her Frances and she changed it legally when she got married.

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    Re: Relative Name Angst

    My mom HATES her name. It is Rhonda Colleen. She has always wanted to change it to my grandmother's second choice for her.
    My uncle also legally changed his name from Richard to Rick. Not much difference.
    My sister goes by her initals professionally. LA. Not because she dislikes her name, she just thinks it's too common.
    My grandfather's first name was Johnny. He went by his middle nn of Eddie.

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    This sounds like an interesting topic, so I'll move it to the Talk About Baby Names forum.
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    My dad was christened Richard John, but has gone by John since childhood. Why? Who knows. We tried asking his parents many times, but they always gave conflicting answers! The most likely response is that his cousin was Robert (same surname) and there was confusion with them both being R. Smith (*not actual surname*). Seems odd to me, but, nevertheless, my dad is John!

    Apart from that, none of my relatives go by anything apart from their actual first names. Some names are shortened (e.g. Benjamin is called Ben and Debra is called Deb), but that's all.
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    My Gran wanted to call my mum Sara Alice until my uncle pointed out that her initials would be SAM and as her wanted a little brother he would call her Sam, so Gean officially called her Alice Sara. Everyone calls her Sara though.

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