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  1. #1
    Join Date
    Nov 2018

    Surprise or Not?

    Do y'all plan to keep the baby's sex a surprise until birth? Or find out as soon as you can?

    I'm debating between the two: I want to say surprise, but I also want to do letters spelling out baby's name as part of the nursery decor and don't know if I'd have time after.

    Charlotte Isabella | Evelyn Rose | Esther Charlotte | Esther Rose | Evelyn Charlotte

    Benjamin Joseph | Daniel Joseph | Daniel Thomas | Joshua Thomas

  2. #2
    Personally, I think that not knowing the sex until birth is a little more exciting, but then we're doing gender neutral nurseries...

    Could you possibly get the letters for both boy and girl names ready and then just do the right name when the baby arrives? And you can save the remaining letters for your future second child.
    Victoria "Vix"

    ♉︎Nell (2013)
    ♉︎Teddy (2018)
    ♊︎Maggie (2019)

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Nov 2018
    That's a good idea!

    I'm doing a gender neutral nursery, too (Winnie the Pooh).

    Charlotte Isabella | Evelyn Rose | Esther Charlotte | Esther Rose | Evelyn Charlotte

    Benjamin Joseph | Daniel Joseph | Daniel Thomas | Joshua Thomas

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jun 2018
    Northern Europe
    I always find that decision very difficult.
    In the end I found out with both, my son Hjörtur and this baby. Both times I was set on not finding out before the baby was born, and both times I changed my mind. To be honest, with Hjörtur I regretted finding out, because I felt it ruined the magic a bit. I can't explain why this time I decided to find out again, but this time I'm glad I did. I feel like I'm better prepared now. We are sticking to a gender neutral nursery though (owls!), and most of the baby clothes and stuff will be gender neutral. We're also not telling anyone else, SO and I are the only ones that know the gender of this baby (and people on Nameberry ).
    Mother to Hjörtur Emmanuel & Barnabas Húni

    Ephraim Óli * Thaddeus Hreinn * Vignir Ulysses * Nikolai Svani * Zalman Torfi
    Ondine Lilach * Lucinde Meital * Mareva Bluma * Lavinia Perle * Magdalene Dune

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Jun 2016
    I wouldn't wait to find out. I like to know as soon as is possible! We are finding out through genetic testing this time. I like the feeling of calling baby by name. Although we ended up naming our son a different name* than we had called him while pregnant I can see how it might be fun to find out at birth for some, but that's just not for me.
    Last edited by yuma; June 20th, 2019 at 03:42 PM. Reason: *

    FC 12/21/2017
    RO EDD 01/10/2020

    Innes Pine. Emil Shepherd. Ivo Maximilien.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Apr 2019
    My older sister has two children, she found out the gender for her first child (a girl) and kept the second one a surprise. I loved the anticipation, I think it makes the whole experience that much more fun. I plan to do the same if/when I have children!
    annabelle | teenberry | dog mom to cassie

    planning ahead:

    genevieve ophelia | maeve rosalind | ines victoria | elizabeth june | madeleine tessa | elodie pearl | amelia violette

    sebastian leo | philip tobias | august james | clark alexander | harrison samuel | asa maxwell | seamus john | cillian arthur | quentin thomas | reid ellis

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    United States
    With this baby, we definitely intend to find out. In theory, I like the idea of waiting. I think it would be really special for the doctor or my husband to announce what the baby is. I've also heard that not knowing can be a sort of "incentive" for mothers to push through delivery. I guess that makes sense.

    We just think it will be a surprise either way. Either you find out sooner or later. Having the technician tell us will be just as special as finding out after birth. As far as nursery planning and all of that, we'll probably keep things pretty neutral/unplanned anyway.

    Elim Nathaniel James due Feb 2020 <3

    "Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself"~ Coco Chanel

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Jul 2017
    Scotland (I wish)
    Never understood how finding out the sex during an ultrasound is less of a surprise than finding out after birth.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Feb 2019
    I opted to find out the gender.

    Funnily enough, at my 20 week scan Hattie had her legs crossed! I couldn't not know so I booked a private scan.

    I enjoyed being able to discuss names seriously once we found out her gender and it also made it all much more real for me as a FTM. I felt I had a deeper connection to her following and it felt magical knowing this first little tidbit that may define who she is or will be.

    I did get the "Oh, the surprise is ruined" reactions but to me it was still a surprise, just 20 weeks earlier! (wholeheartedly agree with wandsworth)
    Harriet Elizabeth Rose 'Hattie'
    Born December '18

    Ideas for #2:

    Eleanor Charlotte Jane 'Nell/Nellie'

    Florence. Matilda. Beatrice. Poppy. Alice. Charlotte. Emilia. Martha. Millie. Willow.

    Theodore Robin Charles 'Ted/Teddy'

    Edward. William. Alexander. Frederick. Thomas. Charles. Benjamin. James. Joseph. Max. Rory. Arlo. Sebastian. Toby.

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Apr 2018
    We found out with all three of ours. Of course, we were told our third was going to be a boy, and we ended up having a girl, so even if you find out you can still be surprised.
    Mommy to Audrey Jeanine and Ezra Marvin

    Surprise! Violet Lenore born 4/1/19

    Some favorite girls names

    Celia Joy ~ Dahlia Rue ~ Thea Grace ~ Violet Lenore

    Some favorite boys names: Gideon Kent ~ Jasper Lee ~ Oscar Jack ~ Tobias Poe

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