Babies due July - September 2019

[morgantaylore]

@claireelisewren haha definitely!!

[anotherkate]

Checking in 14+1 today. Around 11 weeks was the first time I felt good enough to go to barre class after work, and I'm finally not stumbling into pj's immediately in the evenings. I'm getting a taste for sweets back (Ice cream cake) but for the most part the sweets in the house are being eaten by the husband for once!

I told my office/coworkers publicly last week, and it's been SO nice to be able to talk openly about it without people overhearing. Plus everyone has been super sweet and supportive (as expected but it's still lovely). So far not toooooo many people repeat asking q's of me over and over (maybe in the first few days but that's it), but I think the questions will start coming more once I'm truly showing.

The 12 week appointment (done at 13 weeks) was really nice to hear the heartbeat. I will get just dopplers outside of the anatomy scan mid-March but that's fine with me. I'm just so in love with that whoosh-whoosh-whoosh!

We did genetic testing but I opted out of finding out the sex. For the time being I'm quite content not knowing. I like the emphasis and focus remaining on the fact that ultimately it is the baby that is changing our lives, regardless of boy or girl. It's just impossible for me not to get distracted by boyish or girlish things even though I would like to think I'm not so steeped in gender norms.... But when literally all you know abt the person is their sex it's kind of hard not to fixate and make assumptions about what kind of kid I'll have. So for now I like the idea of waiting

I AM having some frustration over finding/worrying about clothing that's gender neutral. I know in the early weeks, solid/plain onesies and sleepers will be the main thing they wear (and will probably have to be changed out of more often than imagined...), but golly I just want **some** cute clothes!! The only stuff that I find is all gray or white. So hard to find even cute yellow/green stuff. Womp womp. Anyone find any good retailers/sites with a true gender neutral selection???


OK enough rambling! Happy weekend, all!

[claireelisewren]

@anotherkate - isn't the lack of gender-neutral clothing just so frustrating!!?? It makes me so mad when I go to the girls' section and see a wall of pink, complete with princesses and ballerinas, and then to the boys' section, where I see lots of different bright colours, and things with space and dinosaurs and other interesting, cool stuff like that.

We didn't find out what we were having when I was pregnant with my daughter, and so we bought as much "neutral" clothing as possible. But you're right, that means a lot of white and grey. We also bought a lot of stuff from the boy sections, as long as it doesn't say "little dude" or something like that, then a lot of the boy stuff is fairly neutral.

We still buy quite a bit of clothing from the boys' side of the store for our daughter. She loves tigers, things with a space theme, and her favourite colour is blue. These themes are tricky to find in the girls' section!

Also! At numerous children's clothing stores, I've noticed that the "same" size of boys and girls clothes are not, in fact, the same in the toddler sizes. If we want to buy my daughter a sweater from the girls side, she's a size 3. Over on the boys side of the store, she's a size 2. I guess girls clothing is supposed to be form-fitting, and boy's clothing is supposed to be loose and comfy?? I just think kids should be able to move and play comfortably in their clothes.

Rant over. But seriously, has anyone else noticed this??

[shalexis]

It's a boy! I'll be honest, I was kind of hoping for/expecting another girl, so I was pretty surprised to learn otherwise. I'm maybe a tiny bit disappointed. But for dumb reasons, mainly that I really liked not even having to think about circumcision or taking care of a penis last time around, and I had a fair list of girl names worked out already and I have no idea for boys... But those aren't really big issues, so I'm sure it'll be great!

[claireelisewren]

@shalexis - congratulations on your big news! I think it's perfectly natural to feel a little off when things aren't how you expected they might be. When I was pregnant last time, I was convinced I was having a boy. I remember when my daughter was born, I was so so happy, but it also felt weird to say goodbye to the idea of having a son. Like I was missing him, even though he hadn't even existed. I don't know how to describe it.