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    First off, reading through this thread absolutely broke my heart. It's so hard to be so close to something and all of a sudden you aren't. Thank you for making this thread so we can support each other. I don't post as often anymore as I did in the past... and this will likely be my last post here.

    When I was 22 I found out I was pregnant. A few short days later I was bleeding and suffering intense stomach pains so I drove myself to the ER and found out I had an ectopic pregnancy and they rushed me into emergency surgery. The surgeon assured me that he was able to re-attach my tube together and I should have no issues in the future. Being 22, I decided that it was for the best and that I would have better luck when I was more ready.

    Fast forward to April 2019. 31 year old me I suspected that I was pregnant - I took 4 tests and they were all negative. A few weeks later I noticed that I was getting dizzy and sick during the day, hungrier than usual and just feeling generally different so I took another test - POSITIVE. We were so happy. I went to the doctor that day and told them that I had had an ectopic before, but at this point I was roughly 7 weeks along - with no pain and bleeding - so the doctor said that this one was likely successful... but they would not yet send me for an ultrasound.

    Call it "mother's intuition" but I knew something was wrong. The next day I got my love to drive me to the hospital, and after 2 ultrasounds I was hooked up to an IV and admitted for emergency surgery again. This time, I was advised that I should have the tube removed so there would be no chance of this happening again (it was the same side as the first ectopic), so I agreed.

    The next morning my worst nightmare came true. High as a kite on morphine, the surgeon came in and asked if he could show me photos. I said no, and he said "It will help you understand". My left tube had been removed. My right tube was barely recognizable. He said it was extremely abnormal and there would be no chance of me getting pregnant naturally.

    Unfortunately, IVF is not an option for us as we cannot afford it. I always felt like I was born to be a mother and now I am on the journey of figuring out a new life plan.

    Good luck to all of you <3 It's been amazing to read that miracles do happen I wish you all the best.
    Missa. TTC 2018.

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    @Missa, I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. I hope you are able to find happiness someday. We were very, very lucky to finally get pregnant and stay pregnant, I think about that every single day. We wouldn't have been able to afford IVF or adoption either, I can't believe how much it costs. We were in the very early stages of becoming foster parents before we got pregnant with our twins. Maybe that's something you could look into? I know it won't replace the loss you've suffered, but you could possibly help to end someone else's. <3
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  3. #30
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    Quote Originally Posted by missasolemnis View Post
    Unfortunately, IVF is not an option for us as we cannot afford it. I always felt like I was born to be a mother and now I am on the journey of figuring out a new life plan.

    Good luck to all of you <3 It's been amazing to read that miracles do happen I wish you all the best.
    I can sympathise. I want to give you the hugest hug rn. I feel like I am born to be a mother so my losses hit very hard. As my both my twin cousins, aunt and mother struggled with fertility I worry every day. I feel my fertility is bad or something in my body can't carry to term as the last M/C I was having unprotected with DH for 4 years without anything other than an early M/C. I do imagine the worse (hitting 40 and no children). IVF is VERY expensive here in Australia. Although we are lucky that if we have the right Health Insurance it is a little cheaper but still not attainable for me.
    My back up plans are adoption, foster or lots of animals and working in childcare/nursing to let my Maternal Instinct out more. But I know it still won't be the same as that bond of mother and child and seeing mine and DHs genetics make something.
    <3 if you ever want to talk my inbox here is always open <3
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