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  1. #151
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    Oct 2014
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    I'm just not sure. I feel like finances prevents me from seeing what I really want because all I see is daycare and college tuition. We live in an expensive city. We also don't have any family near us to help. One child seems to be what we can afford and handle without support.

    There's part of me that wants another, if our situation were better suited to it. Bea loves other kids so I'm sure she'd love a sibling!

    Maybe I'll eat my words one day but I really only want girls, which kind of prevents me from wanting another. I love my girl!
    Mama to Beatrix

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  2. #152
    I think about this probably too much, considering that so many women end up having a smaller or larger number of kids than they ever intended. Most days I just want one child. One that I can give all of my energy and focus and resources to, and only have to deal with pregnancy and labour once. However I grew up with 3 siblings and I loved having a sister 13 months younger than me. It absolutely made my childhood happier and more fun, so it is hard to say I would ‘t want to give that opportunity to my own. Nowadays my sisters and I don’t really get along, so you have to take into account that not every sibling you bring into the world is going to be a “friend for life”. I think the same for people who say they need kids to take care of them when they’re older. NO guarantee they will do that!
    I think about finances and climate change too, but I don’t factor in college tuition as much as others do. I don’t think you HAVE to pay for college for your kid. I pay off community school classes as I go, and I don’t hold that against my parents.
    Lastly, I REALLY want to adopt, but I also want to experience pregnancy at least once, but I don’t want many children so... have one biological and one adopted? Good thing we’re not planning to have kids just yet. I figure that life will decide for us. We make plans and God laughs!
    Rosa ~ Haven ~ Irie ~ Frances ~ Eve ~ Primrose ~ Olivine ~ Georgia ~ Lucille ~ Mirabelle ~ Valley ~ Carolina ~ Prynne ~ Freya ~ Maisie ~ Calypso ~ Odessa ~ Katalina ~ Esperanza ~ Louise

    Ambrose ~ Octavio ~ Cristiano ~ Idris ~ Vicente ~ Roman ~ Abel ~ Imre ~ Francisco ~ Ichigo ~ Thorin ~ Cedric ~ Valerian ~ Silas ~ Callum ~ Alarlc ~ Felix ~ Alejandro ~ Salem ~ Theo

  3. #153
    I'm the oldest of six and it's an awesome blessing!
    mightier than the waves in the ocean is His love for you. psalm 93:4.

    18 year old florida island girl. ☀︎ Christ follower + kingdom builder. photographer. nature lover. big sissy to five. love babies to pieces and baby name addict. dreaming of a sweet husband + cute lil babies !!

    fav girlies: ember, indi, coralee, harbor, tenley, isley + haven.
    fav boys: wilder, cove, knox, hurley, coast, atlas, archer, everett + gatlin.

  4. #154
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    Feb 2020
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    I wanted 3 kids my whole life but here we are with 5 kids soon because of our amazing surprise triplets.
    mommy to:
    ivory ada (6/3/2016)
    caspian arthur (1/29/2018)
    elowen snow, finnegan jude & clover elspeth (2/15/2020)

  5. #155
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    Feb 2020
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    Hm... maybe 7?

    I know that seems crazy to some but that's just me.

    I wouldn't mind more tho, and I think it would be so cool to adopt.

    I know a big family can seem hard but I know God will provide any needs we have (that doesn't not mean be lazy and expect food to just show up on your table lol).

    I grew up with a bunch of big families some with as many as 14 kids and they were such a joy to be with.
    ~Lassies~ Sierra Lorenna Joy ~ Everly Aurora Elise ~ Natalie Cecilia May ~ Hadassah Elmira Faith ~ Cassia Elyssia Linnea ~ Tirzah Rosalie Sky ~ Destry Cora Sapphire ~ Cecily Aliyah Rose ~ Zipporah Elizabeth Shalom ~

    -Laddies- - Caspian Excalibur Milo - Wesley Michael Kent - Zephan Emory Luis - Beniah Lorenzo Evron - Ezra Levi Xavrin - Adrian Castiel Rowan - Ender Grey

  6. #156
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
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    I think the planner in me is going to just have to accept that this is something I can't completely control or anticipate! My partner and I are both from extended families where 3 children is about as small as you get, so we are both attracted to somewhat larger families. I am one of 3 and he is one of 5, and I don't see us stopping at 2. From a familial, emotional perspective I think I would like 4. Enough kids to have a lot of opportunities for connection, but not so many that they get lost. And I figure once you pass 3 it is just all par for the course. In fact, I think I would be a better mother to a larger number and would feel less pressure to do everything perfectly.

    All that being said, there are also financial and biological considerations. My SO says "we will have as many kids as the market can support", which sounds silly but is probably reasonable. We are frugal people and my child-raising philosophy is pretty low-key, but day care costs are crippling no matter what. A way to offset that burden slightly would be larger spacing between kids, but we won't begin until I am in my late-ish 20s, and I want to be done by 35 which makes this turn into a math problem.

    Ultimately we will make decisions about whether we continue or stop one at a time - check back in a decade and we will see how it went!

    Some favorites:

    Alba ~ Liana ~ Soraya ~ Paola ~ Talita ~ Esperanza ~ Salma ~ Zulema ~ Dahlia

    Maceo ~ Pascal ~ Danilo ~ Bruno ~ Javier ~ Cosimo ~ Tiago ~ Gael ~ Orlán

  7. #157
    I have 3 (soon to be 4) siblings and while I love them and they’re all great, I only want 2 or 3, depending on how much money I make. I will always have to share a room with my sister and my brother and I want my kids to have privacy.
    Elliott Stan - Rafferty Alexander - Estelle Susannah - Rosalie Arden
    Nathaniel - Malachi - Xavier - Cyrus - Damian - Oscar - Magnus
    Lucille - Delilah - Josephine - Cassandra - Gwen - Zinnia - Vivian

  8. #158
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    Feb 2020
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    We have a two year old and expecting our second. I always wanted two, and always said I'd get my tubes tied after my second, but we're going to hold off as some times I think having a third would be nice.

    But we'll see how we get on. Our limit is three, though.

  9. #159
    Join Date
    May 2019
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    I've wanted 3 for years but I feel like someone will always feel left out since it's not an even number. I don't know if I'm overthinking this but I really don't want anyone to feel left out.
    I thought of having 2 but (for now) I feel like it's not enough and 4 seems too much. Honestly I'll just wait and see how I feel about all of this when I actually have my first kid.
    m.

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    aurelia | olivia | evangeline | arielle | emma
    indie | amelia | charlotte | eleonore | lilia

    ♂ boy names:
    flynn | matteo | nolan | evander | felix
    elliot | charles | theo | finley | william

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  10. #160
    Join Date
    Jan 2020
    Location
    Southeast USA
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    Actually, I have always wanted 6 or 7...seems like a lot but everyone I know at church has about 5 to 7 kids. One family has 10!

    I also want to adopt most or all of my kids.
    gals
    Alondra Mae_Genevieve Scout_Silvia Lark_Sabre Viviana_Willow Grace Reverie_Avalon Callista_Hallie Faye_Elowen Meadow_Willoughby Rain_Seraphina Moon_Calliope Wren_Emmeline Clare_Clarissa Lune

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    Evander Sparrow_Robin Kit_Avan Dexter_Varian Winter_Auden Gray_Zedekiah Blue_Rodney Fable_Elyan Lyric_Percival Soren_Ewan Cobalt_Emrys Mickey_Nat Fable

    both
    River Quinn_Tiernan Lake_Rowan Fable_Atlantis River_Aidan Night_Avery Zenith_Sparrow Lyric_London Blue_River Quinn

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