Question of the Week: What’s your middle-name mindset?
In today’s baby name scenario, middle names have moved from insignificant supporting players to full-fledged costars, with a very small number of parents electing to avoid the issue and use no middle name at all.
So this week’s question is: what role does a middle name play for you?
- Would you or did you use one or two or more middles?
- Would that position be reserved for mom’s maiden name, another family name or a personal hero you wish to honor?
- How about the idea of honoring both grandmothers or grandfathers as Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin did with their kids Apple Blythe Allison and Moses Bruce Anthony?
- Would you put that slightly too outré name you don’t quite dare to use as a first into second place? Or, flipping that coin, would you give your creatively named child a classic middle for him to fall back on?
- How much do sound, syllables, initials factor into your decision?
- If the child has a unisex first name, would you give him or her a more gender-specirfic middle?
- How would this baby’s middle name relate to those of her present or future siblings’?
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Emmy Jo Said
on July 7th, 2010 at 2:31 am
We are planning to give all our children family middle names. I have a family middle name which I feel very attached to. My husband, on the other hand, was just given a middle name that his mom thought sounded nice, and he’s never liked it that much.
It’s especially cool when a name is found on both sides of the family. Our son’s middle name is Arthur, and we chose it because it was shared by both my dad and my husband’s favorite grandpa. I also love the idea of adapting a family member’s name to get something a little more exciting. I refuse to use the predictable Marie, Anne, or Elizabeth in the middle name slot! My husband’s grandmother is Floris Marie, so we’re thinking Marigold might be a creative way to honor her. Anneliese is also high on our middle name list for a girl, as it incorporates both my mother’s middle name and my mother-in-law’s middle name. For our next son, we like Bennett (after grandpa Ben).
Flow is also a very important consideration for me. I want the name to sound good when said aloud. That doesn’t mean I’ll be picking “filler” middles — just that I’ll choose the family name that sounds best with the first name we like. I do believe in balancing the number of syllables and also in balancing the overall “feel” of the names. I do agree that very uncommon first names should have more traditional middles, and very common first names need a more lively middle.
In general, I’m a one-middle-name sort of person. However, I am considering using two middles for our first daughter. We want to name her Clara and give her my middle name (Joy), but with our one-syllable last name it does sound a bit abrupt. We’re considering using a longer second middle name to keep it from sounding too plain. I definitely think two middles is the way to go if you feel compelled to use a predictable family middle name but bristle at the thought of being thought so uncreative. For example, if the first daughter in your family is always supposed to get the middle name Marie, you might feel better about using Sarah Anastasia Marie instead of just Sarah Marie.
If anyone is interested, I wrote a baby name blog post on how to pick a stylistically pleasing middle name:
on July 7th, 2010 at 3:20 am
Would you or did you use one or two or more middles? I plan on using two middle name yes.
Would that position be reserved for mom’s maiden name, another family name or a personal hero you wish to honor? Yes-kinda. For me and my husband, our childs middle names, are going to be M or N names, to continue a family tradition, and some of these M and N names are for family members of heros. While on the ones that arnt, we use the second middle name to honor somebody. We see it as important in names.
How about the idea of honoring both grandmothers or grandfathers as Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin did with their kids Apple Blythe Allison and Moses Bruce Anthony? The idea doesnt bother me, it really depend son if the name flows, i wouldnt choose a name like Sophia Allison Nicole, simply becaus ei dont like when the last letter of one name, is the same as as the first letter of another. So i guess it depends.
Would you put that slightly too outré name you don’t quite dare to use as a first into second place? Or, flipping that coin, would you give your creatively named child a classic middle for him to fall back on? I would deffinatly move a crazier name to a middle, that way, if they dont like their first name, they can use their middle name, or if they hate their middle name, they dont have to use it. Same as with giving a more outlandish first name, i would give a simple classic middle name to fall back on, only because, just because we like the name Kookabura (example only), doesnt mean the child will, which would be exceptable since its a weird name, so a better classic middle name gives them the option of using it on job applications and other professional settings.
How much do sound, syllables, initials factor into your decision? Initials dont, i rarely think about initials because there are so few situations where someone will say or use your initials. However i would notice the more, obvious, initial worries. Syllables are another thing i dont tend to worry about because i love long names, long beatiful fantasic names and if it sounds good and flows and makes us happy, then it shouldnt matter if her name is Evangelene Genivieve Elizabeth (example only), if i love something, im going to use it. But sound is important. There are many times that i read a name, and i like it, but i have to be able to say it, and still like it. It has to flow nicely.
If the child has a unisex first name, would you give him or her a more gender-specirfic middle? Well i would never use a name i considered to be unisex, but in the situation, yes i would.
How would this baby’s middle name relate to those of her present or future siblings’? I have a style for names, all of my girls names are more classically elegant type names, so all the names flow, i wouldnt want to break the cycle. Just like with boys i tend to lean towards surnames, and shorter very masculine names.
I like middle names, i like two middle names, but i do think they can get….extreme, when you get into 3 or 4 middle names its slightly redicouls. But i dislike when poeple go ‘two middle names? why thats stupid! they look to long’ Well i think one middle name looks to short but i dont think your names are stupid because there short.
on July 7th, 2010 at 5:48 am
For me a middle name has to mean something, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be family. When my first daughter was born, we gave her an elegant, slightly complex first name and no middle name. We felt we’d said everything in the first name. When my second daughter was born, we’d been calling her Pearl all through the pregnancy as a kind of jokey nickname. We came to love the name, and feel it meant something to us, so we used it for a middle name (she has quite a simple first name, three letters). I have a bland generic middle name, and really would rather do without it.
* Would you or did you use one or two or more middles?
One only. We have a really convoluted double barrel surname, consisting of both our surnames as I kept my name when we married.
* Would that position be reserved for mom’s maiden name, another family name or a personal hero you wish to honor? How about the idea of honoring both grandmothers or grandfathers as Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin did with their kids Apple Blythe Allison and Moses Bruce Anthony?
Because we have both our surnames in our children’s names, I don’t feel quite so compelled to recognise family through middle names. If we had used just my husband’s surname, then the baby would definitely have scored middle names from my family and vice versa.
* Would you put that slightly too outré name you don’t quite dare to use as a first into second place? Or, flipping that coin, would you give your creatively named child a classic middle for him to fall back on?
Possibly, more likely number two (creative first, classic middle) as there’s no name I love that I think would be too daring to use in first place. But the names would need to flow together.
* How much do sound, syllables, initials factor into your decision?
Very much. A name should sound like poetry for me. To that end though, I think the name needs to flow WITHOUT the middle name too. I wouldn’t want to detract from a rhyminess with a middle name (say Morgan Morganstern becoming Morgan John Morganstern) because I just don’t think middle names end up being used all that often, even in official situations.
* If the child has a unisex first name, would you give him or her a more gender-specirfic middle?
Probably. I love the name Clancy for a girl or a boy, and I can see myself using some pretty patent signifiers for middle names – Clancy Rose, or Clancy John.
* How would this baby’s middle name relate to those of her present or future siblings’?
Not at all, like I said our first daughter doesn’t have a middle name, our second daughter does. We are pregnant with a boy at the moment, and are undecided on a name, we could go either way really. And no, I am not worried about Oldest Born feeling like she’s been deprived of a middle name, because it was such a thoughtful decision on our part. I have a growing aversion to the whole notion of “sibset”.
on July 7th, 2010 at 6:33 am
My first daughter, Eliza, inherited my first name (Lyndall) as her middle name, as I have my mother’s, and my mother her mother’s. It’s a nice tradition I think. We’ll do the same if our bub #2 due in August is a boy – he will have his father’s first name as his middle name.
If bub #2 is a girl, we plan to use ‘Marnette’ as her middle name – this will honour both grandmothers (Margaret and Annette).
I love middle names with meanings and tradition 🙂
on July 7th, 2010 at 8:30 am
We use one middle name.
“Would you put that slightly too outré name you don’t quite dare to use as a first into second place?”
YES! I did this with my first two: Wesley Emmanuel and Lydia Pearl.
Of course, syllables are important (the name has to flow) and I absolutely will not do rhyming names, or even names that end similarly. (For example, no Lydia Maria.)
For our 3rd kid, Cora Jeanne, we used the middle name to honor my grandmother.
on July 7th, 2010 at 8:39 am
My middle name is a kinda-bland filler “Ashley,” my mom liked it but there was no history with the name, no story so I grew up hating it. When I marry, I plan to replace my middle with my maiden name, like my mom did and all the women on my dad’s side does. I would let this be my daughter’s choice also.
So for me, the middle name allows for more story telling. Clementine for the edible love letters I used to leave my fiance anonymously for months. Luther to encourage our child to be eloquent and passionate, like his famous namesake.
I think honoring grandparents is a very nice thing to do, giving names a modern twist along the way. Though my family does more great-grandparents: Dorothy, Aurora.
No sibset rules.
on July 7th, 2010 at 8:57 am
I grew up with a “filler” middle name (Lynn) – moreover, the one my parents initially planned to use for my older sister, until they realized they would be naming her A Mandolin (Amanda Lynn). So she got the interesting, vintage middle name – Faye, after Faye Wray – and I got the hand-me-down. Sigh.
While I desperately wanted to use two middle names for my daughter (one with personal meaning for my husband and I, and one to honor my mother), combined with our double-barrelled surname it was just too much. So we chose Verity, and should we have a second daughter her middle name will be Cecily, to honor great-grandpa. Now I’ve inadvertently started a pattern…
on July 7th, 2010 at 8:59 am
One of my nephews has his father’s first name as a middle name and his younger brother has a middle name after both his maternal grandfather and one of his paternal great-grandfathers. My brother has the same middle name as our father. I was given the feminine version of my dad’s name, Andrew, as a first name and a filler middle name that neither of my parents (or I, for that matter) particularly like. “Kay” was apparently the only thing they could agree on. If I wasn’t too lazy, I’d change it to my confirmation name Elizabeth, which is also my mother’s middle name. In general, I think two or three middle names is excessive for an American. It takes up too much space on forms, looks pretentious and is probably rarely actually used. But middle names that have meaning are probably preferable.
on July 7th, 2010 at 9:45 am
My son has two middles. When my husband and I were discussing baby names while I was pregnant we weren’t sure what surname we were going to give him (neither of us changed our surname when we married). As my husband ended up ‘winning’ the surname, I chose both middles, as it is important to me that my side is represented as well.
My son’s first was the only name we could both agree on (heaven help us if we have another boy!), his first middle is after my stepfather, and his second middle is the masculine version of my name (i.e. Philip for Philippa or Alexander for Alexandra).
I did want to have either my surname, my mother’s surname or my stepfather’s surname as the second middle but most people thought that was weird or discouraged me when I got their feedback (I live in the UK where that seems to be uncommon nowadays; upon marriage if you change your surname your only option is to exchange one surname for another, you cannot double-barrel/move maiden to middle/etc. so maybe it’s related?).
Jill Q. Said
on July 7th, 2010 at 10:18 am
I’m borrowing a bit from my mother in law. She gave her maiden name, Jones, as the middle name for her only daughter.
I like the combination of the gender specific first name and the more unisex middle name. My sis-in-law often went by Jones in school b/c her first name was more common.
I liked the idea, but I didn’t like my maiden name (Moloney) and I wanted to honor both sides of the family. Also after doing some genealogy research, I could appreciate the usefulness of “family names.”
So with the firstm we decided if we had a boy, he would get “Jones” as a middle name to honor his father’s mother. And if we had a girl her middle name would be “Logan” b/c that is my mother’s maiden name.
We had a boy and gave him a traditional first name and Jones as a middle.
I think the next one, boy or girl, will have Logan as a middle b/c we do still want to honor both. We did think about flow and b/c we have the middle names picked out already that made first names easier.
We only want 2, but I suppose if there is ever a “surprise” that poor child may get saddled with Moloney as middle 😉
I do think you can be much more creative with middle names than we were! It’s really all about what works for you.
on July 7th, 2010 at 11:14 am
What is most important to me is the sound, the flow, the uniqueness and the way it looks when written down. They must compliment each other. I like the first name to be short and the middle name long. I prefer having only 1 middle name.
It has to have a spice to it, as well. It must be romantic sounding as if it could belong to either the hero or the villain of a novel or movie. And it MUST look amazing when written in cursive.
Susan Chesney Said
on July 7th, 2010 at 11:28 am
My children each have one middle name. Their middle names have the most syllables of all their names. I gave my son an eccentric middle name – Sebastian. My daughter has a Biblical middle name which is Elizabeth. I did not go for a theme, but it is interesting that both names have the letter “b” in them. Sebastian has the sound “seb” and Elizabeth has the sound “zeb”. I must love that sound. There are no Sebastians in our family, but there are several Elizabeths.
Here are some more middle names that I love:
on July 7th, 2010 at 11:56 am
So far, my 2 children have middle names that honor a family member:
#1: Sebastian Dee: Dee is my husband’s middle name and his father’s middle name.
#2: Oliver Lee: Lee is my father’s middle name.
If we have more children, the middle name spot will continue to be to honor a family member, and if I have a girl I would consider using 2 middle names.. I have lots of grandmother, with beautiful names, whom I love very much and would love to name a daughter after. (We prefer first names to be their own, and not after a family member).
Giving my children my maiden name is not an option, it would make a terrible name (Payne).
on July 7th, 2010 at 12:16 pm
My children have family names in the middle, which is what I prefer. Both my husband and I have middle names after family – his is the same name as the namesake and mine is the feminized version of my Dad’s name. I consider flow, but using a family name is more important. In naming our children I have actually picked out the middle name first and then I have found first names that I liked that went with the middle name. I didn’t realize that’s what I did until answering this question!
I don’t get the idea of two middle names. That is just not done much in my area, at least that I am aware of. It just seems cumbersome to me.
I also don’t understand the idea of calling a child by his or her middle name. If my children don’t like their first names, I hope they like their middle names enough to fall back on. I would be okay with that, but I would not intentionally name a child Jacqueline Sophia and then call her Sophia. I don’t understand the point of that.
If I were to use a family name in the first name spot, I would consider the middle name spot a good place to use something a little more creative.
I think middle names are important, but they aren’t as important to me as they are to some name enthusiasts. 🙂
on July 7th, 2010 at 12:38 pm
I love middle names. Middle names give a chance to add spunk to a name. Family names can work, but for me I’m not a big fan. I like middle names to be creative and different, innovative too. I like the idea of more than one middle name.
Middle names are very important. Its how you separate yourself from another person, especially if you have a popular first name or last name.
on July 7th, 2010 at 12:42 pm
I’m so glad to see this post! I’m getting flooded with filler middle names (Grace, Anne, Renne, Lynn etc.), and its seems like such a shame. I love seeing people’s creativity (not cre8ivity) and stories in a middle name. According to Behind the Name, African given names often reflect the circumstances surrounding the birth. I love this idea for middle names. My daughter has an old-fashioned, feminine first name, and a word name for her middle. It’s my favorite word in the English language, and it makes me happy every time I see it. My middle name also has a story behind it, and I love it. My mom got Marie – which I’m sure is an nice name and all, but so did her sisters.
on July 7th, 2010 at 12:47 pm
Ashley- I agree with you about calling a child by his middle name.. my brother in law goes by his middle name with the family, and his first name with his friends and professionally.. I never know what to call him!
on July 7th, 2010 at 1:29 pm
Both my husband and I were named after a parent’s favorite relative to honor that person (an uncle and a grandmother) but some parts of the names were dropped in order to not have two middle names. I don’t think it ever occurred to our families to name us after anything other than other people. (I mean, none of our siblings is named, say Chablis or Narnia, for example). My middle name, Ann, anchors me in a particular time and place and, certainly, in a particular family, even if I’m anchored nowhere in the Bay of Originality. Despite the fact that millions of other late-Boomer girls were probably middle-named Ann, it’s unique to me because it’s after my great-grandmother, not a kind of roof tile or a designer whose sweaters my mother particularly enjoyed wearing which, despite their. . .um, uniqueness, seem pedestrian after all.
on July 7th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
I would like to use two middle names for my child but not sure if husband likes it!
One of the mn’s would be a family name and the other would be one I really like.
Yes sound, syl, and initials matter to me! I wouldn’t want my child having initials that spell something obscene or silly.
I probably won’t use a maiden name as a mn.
If I chose a unisex name ( which I probably won’t ) they would deffinitly have a gender specific mn.
Siblings would also have two mn’s with one a family name.
on July 7th, 2010 at 2:44 pm
I personally want to use family names as my future children’s middle names. I was given my great-grandmother’s name as my middle, and I really appreciate having that connection to her. I’ve already decided that when I have a daughter she will be named after her great-grandmother’s who conveniently share the same middle name!
Oh, and I was checking the meaning of Mason and you have Kim Kardashian listed as using it. It’s actually Kourtney Kardashian who used it! 🙂
on July 7th, 2010 at 2:51 pm
L–Thanks for the Kardashian note–it’s now been corrected.
on July 7th, 2010 at 4:01 pm
We plan on using two middle names for our firstborn of each gender, (if we have one of each) then the rest of our future children only get one middle name each. I’m still negotiating that one.
But I definitely use more unusual names as middles. For example, we want to use Dmitri as a middle.
My mother gave my brother and me one name that was ours, unique to us in the family, and one name that was family. My family name is my middle, Lee and my brother’s is his first, Theodore.
I’m afraid I wouldn’t honor our parents that way, since their names are Howard and Jerrold and Linda and Jane. Fine names, but I don’t like them. And neither do my parents and in-laws.
on July 7th, 2010 at 4:11 pm
We used one middle for each of our kids. They were names we loved; no family connection/honorific of any kind. Mainly we wanted to love the name and then the full name as flows with the first. Initials are only important in that we didn’t want them to spell out something awful. My son’s names are more equally popular (around the 100-150 mark in rank in the US, but we did give our daughter a much more unusual (in the US) first name and a very recognizable middle, not necessarily to ‘fall back on,’ but it does provide her with another option, as any middle would, I suppose. I do love the idea of other people using middle spots for honoring/family names and also for off-the-wall names (an acquaintance has given children only names that she can tattoo in picture form: e.g. Rocket). I love that the middle is so flexible!
Boston Girl Said
on July 7th, 2010 at 4:49 pm
I guess I’m traditional; I’d probably use only one middle name. For a girl, it would give me an opportunity to use at least one more name I like (my top favorite for the first name, second favorite for the middle). For a boy, it’s a chance to honor my dad with the middle name while using my favorite boy’s name.
I don’t think I’d use the family middle name, but it wouldn’t really be mine to use anyway, most likely. It seems to have been handed down through the male line in the family; my brother is the fourth (and apparently the last) generation to bear it. Since he and his wife are not going to have children, I guess I’d have the option to use it, though I don’t expect I would. Neither my brother nor I are very fond of it anyway. (For the record, it’s Winthrop.)
No honoring grandparents either. None of my grandparents had names that appealed to me: Alton and Lenora (Mon’s parents), Horace and Margaret (Dad’s). In the latter case, Grandma emphatically refused to name my dad Horace after his father, as she couldn’t stand the name. Probably my grandfather didn’t either, since she never said he objected! 🙂 I myself bear my grandmother’s middle name, Elizabeth, which I actually prefer to my first name, partly because I grew up among so many other girls who had my first name.
on July 7th, 2010 at 4:56 pm
I think it’s important for the middle name to honor someone. I like it when there is meaning behind the middle name.
I also think syllables are important and the first and middle names must flow!
My grandmas’ names are Jane and Claire, and I’d like to use both of their names on one daughter. However I don’t think Claire and Jane flow together as a fn/mn combo.
on July 7th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
I like two middle names. Especially if you pick a short middle name like Jane, Rose or John or Frank, it’s nice to give it another spin. Just when you think the name’s over, BAM! Jeremiah.
I like using family names with different variations. For example, I like Lorelai to honour Aunt Laura, Sean to honour Grandpa John, etc.
Of course it has to sound nice! Style and sound and syllables always matter.
I love risque middle names. I knew a guy who’s middle name was Innocent. That’s awesome!
on July 7th, 2010 at 7:40 pm
I love MOAR middle names, if only because I’m greedy and obsessed with names and want to use more of the names I love.
I have a common Biblical first name, and a very common married surname, and if it weren’t for my middle name–Sachiko–I would have been lost in the mix several times over. “Sachiko” is literally all that saved me from paperwork-death-by-anonymity when dealing with the military, library systems, the Social Security office, the IRS.
All my kids get a Japanese name. For my first four, their Japanese names were their middle names; then I tried something new and used the Japanese name first for the latest 2 kids. (Sakura LouJean and Musashi Dustin)
My husband has an unusual first name and a more-normal middle; he goes by his middle name. So, both he and I use our middle names regularly, but only because we are compelled to–he, because his first name’s too weird; me, because mine’s too normal.
I concluded from this that if the first name is in the middle of the weirdness bell curve, (what The Berry Ladies call “the golden circle”) then the middle name might as well not exist for all it gets to come out and play.
So my policy is to place the most fun, exciting, left-field name first, and the more normal name second. That way if the kid I’m naming turns out to be more of a left-brain traditionalist attention-shy person like my husband, they can go ahead and do what he does and go by their more normal middle name.
IOW, I would name my kid Superman Clark Kent Person. If they insist on not wearing the cape and feel “Superman” draws too much attention, they can wear the cool glasses and go by Clark. Fine with me.
I LOVE multiple middles, and the idea of not using more middles because of paperwork reasons raises my ire. Paperwork is created for man, not man for the paperwork! ( I’ve locked horns with SSA weenies about name issues before and trust me, they’re all bark and no bite. )
Besides, with all the folks out there not using middle names, or using default-setting ones (e.g. Lynn, Ann, etc) Not only should I be allowed to use 2 or 3 per kid, I should be encouraged to. (am I the only one who approaches naming as a zero-sum equation?)
The main thing about multiple middles is that more names = greater complexity.
You have to care more about issues like tonal flow (are the syllables jumping in the right spots? You don’t want to iamb where you should trochee!) and theme.
I’m planning on using 2 middle names with my next kid. I’m trying to establish theme via alliteration.
on July 7th, 2010 at 11:09 pm
For hubby and I choosing the middle name was easy. Choosing the first name, was harder.
We conceived on a trip that we had both been dying to go on our whole lives. The trip was special, meaningful, tremendous fun and everything that we had hoped for. We wanted to honour that so what better way then to use the city of Geneva as her namesake. (or his, had she been a boy). Not wanting a different flow to the names, and having gotten pregnant on vacation again, we decided to follow suit and use Austin as our second daughters middle name.
Our next child (ren) will be named to follow suit.
My parents gave me and my siblings 2 middle names, with the first one being a hard to pronounce exotic name and the second one being filler. Hubby didnt get any middle names at all.
on July 8th, 2010 at 4:02 am
Sometimes less really isn’t more. More is more. Both my daughter’s have four. I couldn’t give a monkey’s left one about flow either (as long as it’s not horrendously comical).
Paperwork has been smooth sailing so far.
on July 8th, 2010 at 8:55 am
I will use two middle names, just because I am a name freak, there really is no other reason!
I love a more outgoing mn choice and believe family should be honored in multiple ways, not just by using a name from the family tree as a mn for baby.
on July 9th, 2010 at 11:27 am
My Dad started it all with us, there are 5 of us and our middle names start with A,B,C,D,E. I’ve continued it with F and G. I go for short names that match the first.
Pamela Redmond Satran Said
on July 9th, 2010 at 11:35 am
Very cute! No one will ever lose track of where they are in the line of succession… (though when you get to Z, you’ll have to start with TWO middle names, AA, AB etc)
on July 10th, 2010 at 9:42 am
I have 4 kids all with 1 middle name. Our first three children received middle names honoring our favorite saints (Stephen, Michelle (for St. Michael), and Joseph). Baby number four received the same middle name as my husband’s grandmother who died during the pregnancy – Rose which conveniently was a saint name as well. If we have another boy he’ll receive the mn of my husband which is also my dad’s first name and a great saint too – Lawrence. Since we want a large family picking middle names can be trickier as we don’t want to “use up” a favorite name in the middle spot.
on July 10th, 2010 at 9:50 am
I also meant to mention that I’ve grown up hating my middle name – Antoinette – which was after my grandmother who didn’t like her name anyway. So while I’ll honor family with a name if I like it I’m always sensitive to how a child would feel with that name. It also makes me less afraid of filler names as I would much rather have a middle name of Ann than Antoinette.
on July 11th, 2010 at 12:18 am
We (I especially) couldn’t resist naming our girl Sophia, but we (I especially) wanted something whackier in the middle. For a while she was going to be Sophia Posy, since Posy is a name we talked about since first meeting and one I’ve loved for a while, but I was afraid she’d get teased if I put it in the first spot. I also sort of thought that Posy looked a bit like an inside-out Sophia (pos-sop) and that maybe I could get away with nicknaming her Posy. (Sometimes I do call her this.) Anyway, a month or so before she was born, we got the idea of giving her a Hawaiin middle name, since my husband grew up in Hawaii. So she is Sophia Noelani . . . sometimes I still mourn Sophia Posy, but the exoticism of Noelani does suit her.
By the way, Noelani is listed in the data base as “a variation of Noel” when in fact it means “heavenly mist” in Hawaiin. (I’ve never otherwise seen it connected to Noel or anything Christmasy.)
on July 17th, 2010 at 10:13 pm
Until I came here, two middle names was an unheard of/pretty odd concept for me.
I kind of like them now. I am pretty far from having kids of my own, but my own middle name and the middle names of my parents and sibling are meaningful and I’d like to keep it that way. My full name flows pretty nicely (my real name better than my nickname…Sophia Sinclair vs. Sophie Sinclair) and I have always felt a little sorry for those without middle names (poor Harriet!)
So I think if the double name sounded good or there was someone in particular we wanted to honor/recognize but liked another or additional name, I could get behind using two middle names. But there will definitely be at least one.
on August 8th, 2010 at 6:36 am
I personally use family names for first choices when thinking up combinations. Family and friends are very important to me and I like to include there names. Furthermore I like the using two middles names which is a tradition amongst the boys normally in my family however I would use it for both genders when thinking up combinations. For instance my favourite names is Vivienne Jane Alice Jane is a family name Alice is my best friend name along with this my other favourite girl’s name is Charlotte Jean Helen, Helen a family name and Jean my other best friend’s name. With the boy’s it’s a similar story. I think middle names sometimes make a combination especially as these people will defiantly be involved in your children’s life and yours then they should be honoured right?!
on March 13th, 2011 at 1:55 am
My partner and I gave our daughter Sloane two middle names.
It was originally just going to be Eunice after my partners grandmother who recently passed and she was incredibly close to, but with Sloanes middle name, it just felt like it needed something. We eventually decided on Thora as well.
So it became Sloane Thora Eunice. It fits her perfectly and flows a lot better then it did without Thora.
on April 7th, 2011 at 12:54 am
I am a big fan of middle names sibset.For girls,I like virtues(Since my mn is Hope)such as Mercy,Grace,Serenity,Faith,Allegiance,and Liberty.For boy names,I like significant names to both me and my husband, such as people who we admire(both family and famous) and places.For first names I prefer common names with a twist – Jenica for Jennifer and combination names- Bethannie a combination of Elizabeth and Stephannie.
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