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Thread: Shower Rules
May 8th, 2012 03:27 PM #1Senior Member
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What rules/opinions does everybody have about showers? I have two friends that are pregnant, both with very different ideas of how things should be. I fall right in the middle. My first friend is pregnant with her 3rd child, which is her 2nd boy. She expects a full out shower. My 2nd friend is pregnant with her 2nd child, which is her 1st girl, and she refuses to allow anyone to throw her a shower because she has a child already.
What do you guys think?
May 8th, 2012 04:27 PM #3
I really do not know, but I know that a lot of people have some strong feelings about it. I think that a full, blown out shower seems acceptable for a mom that is having their first of a different gender, or if there has been a nice gap (maybe 5+ years?) between babies.
There is certainly a difference between renting out a hall for a baby shower and having a baby festive luncheon. Everyone deserves to be celebrated in some way!
Also, from what I gather, people do not seem to have a problem skipping a baby shower, which it totally up to them, if they find a baby shower to be "inappropriate".
I got crap because I had my baby shower too early, but I didn't care, there was no way I was driving 6 hours by myself to see my family in the 3rd trimester of my pregnancy with twins. I could tell people were disappointed that they did not get to see me giant preggers... ha! I did look ridiculously large by the time that most people traditionally have their baby shower.Momma to Delightful Identical Twin Girls
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May 8th, 2012 04:37 PM #5Senior Member
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It's incredibly bad taste to have a second shower, regardless of gender. You get one shower. If your second is a boy where the first was a girl, you don't get another shower to get all the "boy stuff". People will still give gifts, but you don't get the whole blowout again. If I was invited to someone's second shower, I definitely wouldn't go and probably wouldn't even get a gift at all.Girls - Abigail, Georgianna, Anne, Charlotte, Claire, Genevieve, Annette, Eliza, Felicity, Hannah, Noelle, Eugenie, Grace, Phoebe, Philippa, Cecilia, Cecily, Elizabeth, Hollis, Piper, Lorelei, Vivienne, Paige, Carolina, Isobel, Lucy, Molly, Georgia, Victoria, Naomi
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May 8th, 2012 08:49 PM #7
I am not sure on what's proper, but I agree with lucystone.
I am not pregnant, but I am getting married in September. My boyfriend and I are around 30 years old and have our own house. For that reason, I told people no showers of any kind! I am not a young girl being given away. It just seemed silly. Just come to the wedding and have fun! Same type of concept I think.
May 8th, 2012 09:08 PM #9
I have 3 children and didn't ever have a baby shower. The idea of people turning up making a huge fuss and feeling like they should buy me a present for the baby... no way. Many friends chose to bring a card and a gift to the hospital after the babies arrived, which was appreciated. Do people give a birth gift as well as a shower gift? Australians are not really into the whole baby shower thing.
So for me, the idea of someone wanting a full on baby shower for a third child seems... let me think of a tactful word... greedy? and as if they seek the limelight. The idea of a few close GF going for a lunch out, yeah maybe. A full on shower? no.
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