Name regret w/ 7 week old, any advice?(LONG)

[frustratedauthor]

I love the name Rosalie. Very pretty!

[villette]

I really like her name! I think it is beautiful and vastly prefer it over the other names you mentioned. I would hate for you to change it due to hormones and regret it later.

[wootz]

I too did the name regret thing with my now 9 month old. I loved what we named him, but it just wasn't him. I changed it at 6 weeks, and I'm glad I did even though I have the reverse problem as you. The name we settled on is the one that people have pronunciation problems with (where I live anyway), and it does drive me crazy. But I still love his name. If I say his name to someone and they say it back the wrong way, I have his nickname at the ready and tell them to call him that, in a way that doesn't say, hey dummy, did you not hear what I just said? Something like "You can just call him ___" Or "We just call him___". Most people that say it wrong are not those who have tons of contact with him anyway, and most just run with the nickname for whatever brief interaction we have. It has worked so far. If you love her name the way YOU pronounce it, just keep it, and tell the pronunciation impaired to call her Rosie or Rose or something, so you don't have to keep cringing at them saying it incorrectly!

[jersey_gray]

If you regret all your kids names as you said in your post, then I think the names aren't really the real issue. Some name regret is normal and common but the fact you had it with EVERY one of your kids make me want to advise you to wait it out a bit. Pregnancy and labor do a real number do your body and your hormones and our mental state and it takes longer than seven weeks to get back to normal. That said, I don't think Isis is to close to Isabel (unless you call Isabel by Izzy) so that would get my vote from your list. I'm sorry your feeling this way-those first few months are hard enough without being bothered by your child's name.

*Rosalie is a very pretty name whether it's pronounced the way you prefer or the way you are saying is mispronouncing it that I'm pretty sure is the way I say it.

[katzenjammers]

Thank you both, it's helping to hear the endorsements and all of the advice! Villette, this is his BIG fear, that I am going to change it due to some wacky PPD/hormone issue only to regret the change later.

Right now, the name that I was leaning towards was Katrina, but he just isn't sold on it at all. (I don't like the nn Trina).

It hasn't helped that my oldest child has liked almost every name I talk about better than Rosalie.

[katzenjammers]

nope, I don't call my oldest Izzy-but he really felt it was too close visually, plus his particular hang up was that he doesn't care for goddess-oriented names. I'll add it to my list of revisits (of which they'll be few since he adamantly opposed most of my orginal names).

Yes, jersey grey. I think I suffer from a fixation with thinking I've made a mistake ever since my first, as she was the one where I reallly ended up not being happy with her name and I just didn't want that to EVER happen again, of course the sheer nature of reproduction and having to compromise has made it nearly impossible not to have some regret as I have only gotten my first choice names with my boys. girls the closest I came was with Saoirse-the others have been 6th or 7th down on my list.

[katzenjammers]

Hi wootz, thanks for your post, I have yet to know anyone who has changed a first name afterwards, but appreciate this as it gives me some solace that it's possible. RE: the pronunciation/emphasis issues I agree with you, that is what my husband says, just kindly correct the people and get over it!

[jersey_gray]

I like a pp suggestion of having people call her by a nn to resolve the pronunciation issue. I would give it a year before changing her name. I don't see changing a toddler's name as a big deal. At that point you know it's not hormones but that it truly is the wrong name. I wanted to change the spelling of my daughter's name when she was two but my husband wouldn't go for it. He did have a point though-we picked a name that half the time people will mispronounce but it's a beautiful name and I don't regret it.

[jersey_gray]

nope, I don't call my oldest Izzy-but he really felt it was too close visually, plus his particular hang up was that he doesn't care for goddess-oriented names. I'll add it to my list of revisits (of which they'll be few since he adamantly opposed most of my orginal names).

Yes, jersey grey. I think I suffer from a fixation with thinking I've made a mistake ever since my first, as she was the one where I reallly ended up not being happy with her name and I just didn't want that to EVER happen again, of course the sheer nature of reproduction and having to compromise has made it nearly impossible not to have some regret as I have only gotten my first choice names with my boys. girls the closest I came was with Saoirse-the others have been 6th or 7th down on my list.

It's hard having to compromise on the naming. Many names I absolutely love my husband would never consider. Naming your kids is just HARD!!!

[katzenjammers]

yes, names are hard (and BTW I misspelled your user name, and my middle name is spelled gray, lol)

Yes, it is VERY hard to name kids, boys have been a lot easier for us has he liked my choices. He never offers names, only vetoes, so when I ran across Rosalie a few months back and he liked it, it stayed on the list. But compared to all my other "out there" choices, it was just so much less alluring to me, and so much MORE alluring to him. Nonetheless, he's been somewhat of the opinion of "you made your bed, now lie in it." I feel like now is the time to change it if we are going to-and he is barely open to this as he feels she already is her name.

As for nicknames, I can't find anything I like for her-only option would be to call her by her middle name, and then switch it back, but with so many little kids around her it will be hard to go back and forth. Her 2 yo brother is just learning to talk so would be extremely confused if I went to a nickname and then changed it to something else.