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April 3rd, 2012 08:32 PM #11Senior Member
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For me I had to find out cause I couldn't bear not to know!! I don't go for the pink & blue everything...but it was fun to buy a few dresses once I got the info! Plus it narrowed things down in the naming dept! In my thinking the surprise is the baby...the person they are, what that little face looks like, what they sound like...so any info I can gather beforehand isn't ruining a surprise!
Also, I found pregnancy rather miserable so it was nice to have a fun day or milestone to make me feel a bit more positive through the nausea and strange health issues that kept popping up!
April 4th, 2012 01:22 AM #13
Somebody else already pointed this out but you will be surprised either way, at the sonogram or the delivery room. I was thinking that maybe I would NOT find out the next baby's gender, but for me it's impractical. If I don't know I'll just end up buying stuff for both genders. I hate the traditional gender neutral items for being overly cutesy. If I know than that limits my buying. It seems silly but I just see things and think "OMG this would be perfect if I had another___! I must own that." And it cuts the naming issue in half as well.
It's not that I don't think I could be prepared without knowing, it's that I would be over-prepared.Blessed to be a mother of 5.
My dashing fellows: Aidan Mackenzie (12 yrs) and Remy Forrester (resting in heaven)
My dahling daughters: Ava Dulcea (5 yrs), Mia Isobel (2yrs) and Gemma Hermione (just joining us!).
April 4th, 2012 03:38 AM #15Senior Member
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We found out both times and don't regret doing so. First pregnancy I had wanted to be surprised, my husband didn't, and then I just wanted to know to badly to keep waiting myself. Second pregnancy didn't even contemplate being surprised. I mean, it's a surprise no matter when you find out. One baby cooperated at the 20 week anatomy scan while the other did not and the doctor did a quick scan at my following appointment and baby cooperated then. I do have one friend who waited to find out with her first and she was very happy to have waited. However she did find dealing with the family guessing/STATING that she was having a girl because of yadda yadda yadda or a boy because of yadda yadda yadda very annoying. Her second pregnancy she didn't announce until they knew the gender to avoid all that.
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April 4th, 2012 04:14 AM #17
I didn't find out with my daughter and it drove me NUTS! Because we were so sure she was a girl, and even though I'd have been happy with a boy I just couldn't imagine taking home any baby that wasn't a girl, and that made me feel so guilty. We couldn't even agree on a boys name because we were so sure she was a girl that hubby refused to talk about boys names.
This time I am finding out for sure. Hubby doesn't want to know, but I'm not giving him the choice. I can't go through that guilt a second time. Besides which my daughter tore down a lot of the wallpaper in the nursery, so I have no choice but to re-paint, and I am not wasting my time on a second gender-neutral theme, which I'll just have to change down the track. This time it'll be purple or blue, right from the start.Mother to Evelyn Heather and Callum Richard
Currently loving: Annabel, Hamish, Bethany, Liam, Violet, Lachlan, Isla, Lennon, Amelie, Callum, Claire, Reuben, Fiona, Rowan, Aurora, Connor, Ever
April 4th, 2012 09:22 PM #19
Great thread! We are expecting our second baby, and this will be the second surprise. With the first, I went back and forth with wanting to know and not wanting to know, but in the end, we decided that we really wanted to be able to call our friends and family when baby arrived and announce that a boy or girl had been born, and what he/she had been named. The names were also a secret! This time around, we had a serious talk about if we should find out. I argued for finding out, mainly just to try it differently the second time around. It got to be a bit of an intense discussion, and in the end, my hubby admitted that he felt he didn't have much to contribute to the actual pregnancy, but that it would mean a lot to him if he got to be the one who told me that I had just delivered a baby boy or a baby girl. Now I'm not only looking forward to the baby arriving (I'm nearly 34 wks), but I'm also looking forward to having my husband announce who this baby is!