BIG Surprises -- Need advice!

[shaunalynn]

Hi all!! So, don't ask how I did it, but I have managed to keep my pregnancy with twins a complete secret, even from my fiance!!! I'm just now starting to show a little bit, but I would like to get my family together and tell them all in a fun and exciting way. Ideas!?

[lynae]

I am amazed you could keep this to yourself for so long! I can't imagine!

My only advice is tell your fiance before you tell everyone else.

[shaunalynn]

I wanted to surprise him at the same time!! Why do you think I should tell him first? Do you think it would just be too overwhelming?

[amberdaydream]

Congratulations!!!

I agree with lynae, you should tell your fiance first. He's going to be a big part of their life; only fair that he knows first. Also, it'll be cooler if you can announce it to the family together.

At any rate, I guess you and him better start drawing up a list of names for twins!

[malindarose]

I agree with lynae. This pregnancy is both yours and your fiance's and I think sharing the news with the rest of the family is something that should be done as partners.
I read in another forum that you can take a family photo and instead of getting everyone to say cheese you can say "_______ is pregnant with twins". That way you can capture their reaction.
Hope this helps!

[mollykat78]

Yeah..I. think you should tell him first..
I can't imagine keeping a secret like that from my boyfriend..he would have every right to be really mad and really hurt

[shaunalynn]

malindarose -- that is SUCH a great idea!!! and i think i am going to tell zach tonight...i have a blue onesie and a pink onesie that i am going to wrap and give to him as a "present". as far as names go, we've talked and agreed upon some before I even got pregnant. given we don't change our minds, the names will be Sawyer Lane and Charlotte (Lottie) Emmaline.

[shaunalynn]

mollykat78 -- my fiance loves surprises, especially big ones. he won't be mad or hurt. stunned, maybe. but definitely not mad

[lynae]

Obviously you know your fiance and we do not, but in such a situation I can imagine someone not wanting to receive such shocking news in the presence of his future inlaws. Also, you telling him he is going to be a father for the first time has the potential to be a very special and intimate experience for the two of you - why would you wnat to miss out on that by telling him in mixed company?

I also agree with what others have said about the importance of making your announcement as a couple, as the parents of these two little lives. This is your first 'coming out' as a family so you want to think about the tone that message sets. Honestly, if someone in my family announced a pregnancy in this way and told the fiance in the same announcement, I might be thinking, "wonder how long fiance is going to hang around." On the other hand, if the couple announced together I would take it as a sign of maturity and stability in the relationsip. These kind of impressions matter a lot (even if they are wrong) in terms of the type of support and respect you may receive from family members at this critical time in your life.

Best of luck!

[amenspanglish]

I completely agree and although we dont know your fiance, I am glad you are going to tell him first and you can announce it together. By the way, I love "Lottie" Emmaline! My stepsister's name is Charlotte Emily and I think it's gorgeous.
Congratulations!