Would you prefer...

[goodhope]

I've already started off with sons, so I'll take all boys, please. My house is already stuffed with boy toys and boy clothes ready to be reused by future boys, so having all sons would be a real money saver, anyway. Furthermore, I love being around little boys and mothering them. It would even be more fun for me from a naming perspective, since I tend to love boy names and only feel lukewarm about girl names.

Truthfully, I don't have strong gender preferences, and I never have, so I don't have an ideal gender mix or gender order in mind. The families that I've known, including my own, with all different combinations of boys and girls, seem to have the same mix of harmony, discord, closeness, and distance; I think it comes down to the personalities of the family members involved rather than their sexes or birth orders. In my experience, there's not one gender combination that leads to a happier family than others.

I think there was some study done not long ago about the "ideal" family composition, meaning the one that was most stable and harmonious. I can't remember what it was, though. I believe it might have been two girls. *shrug*

Eta: I've done a cursory search, and I can't find the study I referred to. Chances are, it was in some women's magazine, so take the results with a grain of salt.

[archiemrs11]

If i absolutely had to choose one or the other i'd go for girls. I know hubby would go the opposite way and say boys but hopefully we'll be lucky enough to get a mixture. In an ideal world I'd have 2 of each :-)

[uniquenamelover]

I would be devastated if I didn't get to name two (or three!) baby girls. Ideally, I would like either two boys and two girls, two boys and three girls, or two girls and one boy. I want three to five children.

[beautiful_madness]

Easy question. Definitely all girls. I'd love to have both but if I had to choose between all boys or all girls then definitely girls. My family is quite girl-dominated so it's what I'm used to and what I feel like I would find easiest. Plus I love girls names. I feel like I only like 1 boys names but so many girls names.

[ebenezer.scrouge]

Yeah I would prefer only girls as girls names are so much prettier

[aeivy]

In my family, we tend to breed in one gender; at least, my parent's generation. It's either all boys, or all girls, for the most part. With my generation, it's more varied, but still there are a lot who just have one -- so if I ever spawn, it may well be down to one or the other barring adoption.

As the second of four girls, first of the second round (my older sister was a teenager when I was born), I have always enjoyed having sisters, but we fought like cats and dogs for six years or so during the teenage phase. I'm not sure it would have been quite so insane had they been boys! I always did want an older brother, too, to go with my older sister. As I get older, though, I'm sure that I am very lucky to have my sisters. Plus, they bring home guys for me for brotherly-ness.

That being said? Boys! If I had to choose, it would be boys, because little girls are evil. At least, the ones in my family. The boys are sweet and only occasionally nutty, but the little girls are princesses, and princesses are evil. Now, if you'd asked me when I was younger I would have said all girls and even now I'd have to stare mournfully at pretty names like Adelaide and Eleanor for a while, but well -- you know. Honestly, though, if I ever do spawn (...and that's debatable), I'd love a mixture.

[taz]

I would pick 4 girls- no doubt in my mind! I have a sister, I was raised by mom & grandma, most of my close friends are women...I guess I am just a girls girl...plus I never even look at the boys name section. Obviously if I have a boy one day I will be very happy & love him tons, but if given a choice I pick girls all the way!

[stripedsocks]

My husband would pick all girls, always, if he could.

I would pick all boys if I couldn't pick a mix. I've always seen myself as being a mother to sons. I would like daughters though.

Good thing neither of us is really picking.

Would you prefer children all of one gender or a mix? I'd much prefer a mix. Why? Partly because my husband wants girls so badly. But partly also because I was brought up that the smallest family you should try for is one boy and one girl; and keep trying until you get at least one of each. I was one of three, two girls and a boy. They would have kept having more if my brother had been a girl.

I also think different genders of siblings have different relationships. I don't have the same relationship with my brother I do with my sister and I wouldn't trade either.

Do you have an ideal order of genders you would desire? Probably alternating, boy, girl, boy, girl, boy. Why? I was the eldest; I desperately wanted an older brother. I tried to protect my siblings and I got in fights defending them, and I was a little teeny thing that wasn't four feet tall until I was about nine years old. I was envious my best girlfriend had an older brother.

What are your experiences in different gender combinations of siblings? As a child I pitied only children, wanted more siblings than I had, wanted both elder and younger siblings, and was always extremely close with both my brother and my sister. I competed less with my brother; I am not sure if that's our gender differences or the fact we were farther apart in age.

My brother heard my husband wanted only girls, and asked why. I said "he thinks girls are nicer, cleaner, less violent, and smell better" - which were all actual quotes. My brother laughed and replied "Said the man with no sisters!" lol.

[myowngildedbutterfly]

Oh 4 boys! like someone said above, raising 4 teenage versions of myself? No thank you!

[missscissor]

I think i'd say girls, but not because I want girls more than boys ... just because if I had 4 girls, there more likely to want lots of help from mum with their own kids ... and with 4 girls all wanting Nanny to babysit, i'm sure to get some quality grandson time lol!! If I had 4 boys, i'm sure i'd still see grandkids, but main babysitting/advice/cooeing duty would go to their partners mums i'm sure.

...I think I thought that out a bit too much haha!


I would love to have a little boy. I grew with up two brothers, and now have a step-brother too. I think DD/DS/DS or DD/DS is my perfect combination. Already have my DD, but if I had another DD one day i'd still be made up with that .