Are you sharing your name ideas with people?

[ferdinand]

Hey Berries,

I'm wondering if you are sharing your name ideas or your final choices with family and friends. We have names picked out and I'm a little hesitant to get a flood of opinions from people actually in my world and not just anonymously on here! What are you all revealing??



John Stephen
Or
Bronwen Frances

[ctmomma]

Stephen Bronwen
or
John Frances?
:-)

[lainy]

I am not pregnant but I will not be sharing the names when that day comes. I don't even tell friends/family my current favorites.

[labmama]

Hi Ferdinand! We did not reveal the names we had chosen with our first, and are doing the same this time around. I find myself not wanting the opinions of friends and family to change how I feel about a name, so in order yo save myself from hearing something I may not want to hear, our chosen names are ours alone until the baby arrives. Everyone will have an opinion, and it's much harder to be citical of a name when holding a tiny new bqby!!

[jennipea382]

I haven't decided yet (won't be having kids for at least a year or so). I haven't really shared my favorites right now, but every time someone I know has a baby, I hope they don't use a name I like, haha. So far so good but a bunch of people I know are pregnant now! At least I have a decent list of names going so if a friend uses a name I like, I still have others I love. Plus most of the people I know that are pregnant aren't good friends, so I'm not AS worried about using names if these people use them.

I'm also not 100% sure if we will decide the name before the baby is born. I like the idea of narrowing it down to a few choices, then seeing which name the baby "feels" like. So that might be what we do. But like I said, we have plenty of time to decide!

[poptart]

I can't think of one good reason to share your names ahead of time. No one has a problem sharing negative opinions before a baby is born, but most people will not say anything bad about a name once the baby arrives. Also, people might "steal" your names before your baby comes. I don't discuss names with anyone but my husband.

[dantea]

I share on here and I share with my best friend and with my mother. I know my mother will be totally honest without hurting my feelings. She'll tell me she doesn't like something without being so negative it hurts.

If you do choose to share, don't share with everyone. Share with the people you know will give you constructive criticism and positive comments and not just "omg I hate that so much!" It's good to get negative comments IRL you just don't need them to be so negative that you change your mind. Try not to let what other people say effect you too much.

[ariannew]

I agree with dantea. It is difficult to not share, for me, but at the same time I really dislike it when (on the occasions I have shared) I mention a name I love (Ronan, for example) and no one but me likes it. "Oh, that's a horrible name!" "People will always misspell/misprounounce it." REALLY, people? And unfortunately, I'm a people pleaser. So that is definitely something for me to take into consideration. I only share with my husband, my mom and my MIL. All give good opinions and constructive criticism without being mean. Everyone else can find out afterward.

[katyg]

Not pregnant yet, but will be TTC soon! We will absolutely NOT be telling anyone our names, nor do we tell anyone what we like now. The only person I've shared my names with is my 10 year old niece, who I'm very close with, and she knows how special it is that she's the only one I share with =) I learned the hard way. We told people we loved Sloane for a little girl and got such awful reactions that it completely turned us off from using the name. I was so bummed because I just LOVED the name!

[moxielou]

We are definitely not sharing! I've already tried sharing a few with the future grandmothers which has ended up scratching a few off our list, at least temporarily anyway. I think people just naturally assume by asking their opinions we are asking for possible negative reactions!!