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January 12th, 2012 06:31 AM #11Senior Member
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Me and hubby have names picked and we haven't shared with anyone lol I like unique names so I'd rather wait and have it as a surprise when baby is born, I expect a certain amount of criticism from traditional name lovers in the family and feel I'll win them over easier once baby is born rather than before.
SIL also had a baby (rather unexpectedly) last year and put out quite a few name ideas! I don't mind that as none of the ideas were ones we had a our hearts set on but there was one (which they used!!) that we were considering. I now feel that no one in the family could use any of their short list of top contenders since they told everyone about them so people would now think we'd stolen them from her! So I'm keeping mine to myself, although I highly doubt anyone would use our names anyway, but I'd rather not tempt fate.
January 12th, 2012 06:43 AM #13
I don't get what you are worried about I don't think that there is such a thing as 'name stealing'. In our family there are sisters who have sons with the same name. I don't have a problem with that at all.
Give the baby the name you love and if a special person in your life or even a distant one has the same name it can only be a problem if the adults allow it to be.
Mother to Miles and Jacquelyn, and Nanny to five grandchildren
January 12th, 2012 10:23 AM #15Senior Member
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@east93: Oh, I was. And hurt. I felt like SIL could have at least had the decency to say something to me herself. It would have changed things for me had she said, "Hey, I know this was your name, but I love it it too, and would really love your blessing to use it on our DD." But that's not how she operates. She never even acknowledged what she had done, though we all knew she knew. The crazy thing is, if I had done this to her, she would have spread all manner of rumor about me and called an all-out war against me among our common acquaintances. As it was, after a few months of anger, I was blessed to have a good friend gently suggest I let it go and make peace with the situation. It actually felt really good to let it go (tho I obviously still have issues with SIL, but so does everyone who knows her...).
On another note, one of our top 2 names we're considering right now is Anna-Frances. We plan to call her the full name, but Annie is a possible nn we like that could evolve. One of my BFFs has a toddler daughter, given name, Annie. I texted her last night to ask if she would feel like I was name-stealing if we went with Anna-Frances and it evolved into Annie. I knew she would say it didn't bother her (she's really sweet) but I'm wondering what you berries think. Would it bother you in this situation? We live about 2 hrs from each other and only see each other a couple times a year at best (sadly), so I know in theory it shouldn't matter, but how would YOU feel?
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January 12th, 2012 10:47 AM #17
This hasn't happened to me, but I can imagine it would be infuriating. I don't have any preggo family or friends right now, so we're not too concerned about sharing our names, as we plan not to have any more children after this one. It doesn't bother me at all when I hear of other baby girls named Fiona, or that there have been several nameberry babies named Sylvie (our pick if baby #2 is a girl) lately. Maybe that means it's headed for the top 1000 and people over here will start accepting it as the full name it is, so I won't have to worry about her being called Sylvia all the time. My biggest worry is that a major celebrity will use the name Sylvie before our baby is born. Top 1000 is cool with me, but I don't know if I could use it after a celeb and have people asking me "Oh, like so-and-so's baby?"☮&❤,
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January 12th, 2012 10:49 AM #19Senior Member
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