Find out gender or leave it a surprise?

[justme]

We made a choice not to find out either last time, or with this pregnancy. Though to me at least, it seems that society wants us to find out. It is VERY difficult to find unisex baby clothing that is cute, and most of the furniture and room fixings seem very gender specific.

As for us, it's pretty much the last true surprise in life. At least that's how we looked at it.

[alyssahayes]

My husband and I found out the gender of our first two kids. I really wanted to find out the genders because I wanted to be super organized when they were born. Now that we're having our third child we know what to expect so we have decided to keep it a surprise. I would suggest that if you want to be prepared with a gender-specific nursery and/or clothes then you should find out the gender. If you want to surprise your relatives, just don't tell them.

There really isn't any reason to find out the gender. Your baby isn't going to care if he/she has to wear blue or pink. Just pick out a boys name and a girls name, and you should be set!

- Alyssa

[kibby]

I think, and I haven't had any kids yet, that we will find out for the first two at the very least, I don't think I could not know, I'm a bit of a control freak in that way. If we got a boy and a girl, I would be inclined to try and leave the third girl a surprise. Try anyway, might not be able to resist.

[ebenezer.scrouge]

My mum waited to find out me and my 2 younger siblings to name us and it worked out but she had the boys name picked Isaac my little brother.

[kupcakes]

I found out with both of mine. The wait until the 20 week ultrasound where they can tell was suspense enough! My thing is, I don't want my doctor and the ultrasound tech knowing information about my baby that I don't! That said, I do think it's cool when people are able to hold out until the birth. It would be fun to try to guess.

I never tell my names before hand though!

[joyfulmomto8]

I have found out with every one of mine. I am just way to OCD not to, LOL! I like to have coming home outfits, and nurseries ready... not to mention names picked out

[barefootri]

With our first (a girl) we found out. I just felt that I couldn't wait and we found out the first chance we got. I don't regret it and it was still exciting, but we still bought all gender neutral baby gear anyway to be practical (and decorated her room in a Dr. Seuss theme, nothing girly). I think it's silly to think you NEED to find out to "prepare". A baby doesn't need all pink or blue stuff. You can always get some gender neutral newborn clothing and then buy more gender specific after he/she is born (or I'm sure you will receive a lot as gifts too).

This time around we are not finding out. I'm 31 weeks and it's been so much fun not knowing! We have all our gender neutral gear leftover from our daughter, and we have all of her clothes saved for if it's a girl. I've been having fun building a (very inexpensive) stash of baby boy clothes from the thrift store and garage sales to be prepared in case it's a boy. It's fun not knowing and I can't wait to find out after all the hard work of labor and delivery. I feel like that's even more motivation to get through it. I also can't wait to call all our family and friends and announce the sex AND the name in one shot

Again, it was fun finding out with my daughter (we went to one of those 3-D ultrasound places and they made it a very memorable experience) but I think I'm enjoying this time around even more, and I would totally recommend waiting!