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October 28th, 2011 06:44 AM #11Member
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My brother and I are 6 years apart. We have always got along and been close. I was sorta like a second mother (I begged my mom for a sibling and loved to help out with him). My mom did complain about having to re-enter the baby stage. We never had a problem finding things to play together. There was never sibling rivalry because I got to be the only child for six years and so I let him be the baby for 18 years (his current age). I think 6 years is a perfect amount of time between kids - from a "kid's" point a view. I probably wont space my kids this far because I want more than two, but we'll see.My list at the moment <3
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October 28th, 2011 07:44 AM #13Senior Member
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My mom got married at 19, had my oldest sister 10 months later, had my next sister 22 months later, had my third sister 15 months after, and then got divorced. Fast-forward several years, she remarried and had me. My sister are 16, 14, and 13 years older than I am. Sure we've had issues and argued and I was a spoiled brat at times growing up, but I feel like I was, and am, the luckiest girl in the world. I'm 26 now and have had nieces and a step-nephew since I was 16. I grew up with 3 old sisters who loved me, spoiled me, took me everywhere they went, and let me watch scary movies and what most would consider to young of an age. I always say I had four moms. My mom and my sisters. And now I have 3 built in best friends. They may have grown up and had jobs, and moved out, but I was never left out. All three of them made a point to include me in things and make time for me. They'd pick me up from school and spend time with me whenever they could. I feel like I had it really good. And now I have nieces who are my world, and a really cool 19 year old nephew who I've watched grow from an 8 year old little boy. I've loved getting to be there when my nieces were born, spending all my free time with them, and being for them what my sisters were for me.
All in all, I'd say spacing is a personal choice, based on life circumstance and there is no right answer.Current favorites-
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October 28th, 2011 07:56 PM #15
As previous posers have said, it's based on experience. I'm not a mom yet, but I do have a little bit of experience in my family.
I'm the middle child of three, and my sister is four years older then me, and I'm about 3 1/2 years older then my little brother. When I was born, my sister had become accustomd to being a spoiled only child, so it took her years and years to get used to me. And then it took another few years for her to like me. We weren't really friends until we got our own rooms, and I was nine.
As for my younger brother, we stil don't get along. He was always getting more attention, and growing up, my grandparents clearly favored him more then me and my sister. He also had a few issues, so he was always being coddled and I didn't like that. I'm fifteen, and he'll be twelve in January, and I still think he's immature, and irritating. Maybe when we get older we'll like eachother.
So, I think that it's all in choice, and your own experience.
Best of luck,
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October 28th, 2011 11:44 PM #17Junior Member
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My sisters are 17 months apart and my parents say that it made things easier when they were young. They always had someone to play with and were never bored. However, being so close together did make them very competitive as they got older and caused some tension.
I was born when my sisters were 3 and 4. They were old enough to understand the big sister role and help out a bit with the baby. Growing up I did feel left out and was a bit of a pain to my sisters. As we have got older the gap has closed and I don't feel much younger at all! I have never felt competition with my sisters and have grown a great friendship with them, especially the older one, whilst they have grown apart. (They are still friends but not as close as they were then they were younger)
I think there are pros and cons with any spacing as I have seen in my own family. Do what feels right for you and focus on being the best parent you can!
October 29th, 2011 12:25 AM #19Junior Member
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I don't have any kids (not for many years) but I'm the youngest of two. My brother is exactly 2 1/2 years older than me and we've never gotten along. Growing up it was terrible sibling rivalry and we still don't get along. I'm not sure if it's the age gap or our personalities but we're at similar stages in our lives (college) and it's not getting any better. I think it might've been easier had we been closer in age because our best friends as children were also 2 1/2 years apart and they fought all the time too. Most people I know that are have 2 years between their siblings and them don't seem to be friends. Sorry if this bummed anyone out. Just my personal experience.