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December 2nd, 2011 06:04 AM #21Senior Member
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Thanks 'rollo'. So many things to consider when starting a family but luckily that is still a while off for me!
December 2nd, 2011 02:04 PM #23
I was an only child for 6 years, and I hated it. I always longed for a sibling. I ended up with two, and while there's a good age difference (6 and 9 years), and they make me want to throw them through closed windows (they're two boys), I love them and would hate to have gone through the rest of my years with out them.
In my experiences, only children tend to have issues with socializing. They're either unsocial, or too clingy. I was both. I also hear testimonies of this from other only children I know. They're lonely, spoiled, or not paid attention to. They don't have any partners in crime. They don't get to experience many little joys of having siblings in the house.
Also, my boyfriend's father is an only child, and he's living the nightmare that I'd hate to have gone through.
Both his parents have died, he's divorced, he has two kids who live with him on Thursdays and Fridays, he has no girlfriend, no cousins, very few friends, his kids are growing up youngest is 15. He's extremely alone. Of course this has a lot to do with his personality, but he's the loneliest person I know. I wouldn't want my child to grow up alone. There's nothing like the bond of a sibling. Nothing.
On the positives, they get all the attention of their parents, it's not shared. Same with money, and privileges. No jealousy between siblings, or fights. Parents don't have to worry if their kids will end up hating each other.
In my opinion, the negatives outweigh the positives of being an only child. I would hate it myself, even though my brothers are way younger than me and I can't stand the older one a lot of the time, I wouldn't want life with out them. I would never limit myself to one child. It's not really fair imo. I've never heard anyone say that they hated being a sibling, but I've heard plenty voice their dislike on being an only child.
December 2nd, 2011 02:08 PM #25
I agree with everything rollo said. I'm the eldest of three, one girl, two boys. The boys are three years apart and much younger, but I'm still the one left out. I would never do that to my child. I know families of four that are perfect, two get along the best and are super close and it's the same with the other two.
If I have more than two, which I probably will, it'll be four.
December 3rd, 2011 02:16 AM #27Senior Member
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I always imagined myself having a few kids but since I "grew up", eventually met my husband I only really ever think of having one, a boy haha (actually I don't care it's an inside joke). My husband has joked about having 5 kids, but since being married he has started to feel like one may be enough too. We love to travel and be out and about, which would be difficult with multiples. Ou plan now is one and take it from there. Who knows what the future holds!
On a similar note, both my husband and I each have a younger brother. One of my best friends was an only child, same with my husband. We also have best friends with siblings and well, we see no difference haha. Both onlies loved it, multiples loved having siblings. Whoever said the only children are spoiled and anti social are totally wrong. The onlies I know are all extremely social, if anything it was an adapted skill and not selfish at all. They make family strength bonds with others even, like our friends have. It all comes down to parenting. My step sister was an only child before joining our family and all her problems are related to the upbringing her mother gave her, which was non existent.
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December 19th, 2011 11:42 PM #29Senior Member
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- Tucson, AZ
I have 4 brothers an a sister (oldest to youngest are 10 years apart). The six of us together as we grew up had goods and bads. We did a lot together and my parents encouraged us to support each other (going to soccer games, helping with homework, etc.). That's not to say we didn't fight. Some of us more than others. The good outweighed the bad by far.
(Far into the hypothetical future for you) I would like to point out that, as my siblings and I are all 30+ now, family reunions are SO FUN! None of us live close to each other and we only get together every two years or so, but it is ALWAYS a blast. Along with the parents and six kids, there are now 19 (soon to be 20) grandkids ranging from almost 1 to 16. Gone is all of the fighting, and it's just about enjoying each other. Cousins have someone close to their age, so they love getting together and all of my siblings truly enjoy each other's company. I can't for the life of me imagine less of us. It is one of the greatest blessings of my life.