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  1. #11
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    Jan 2011
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    Re: baby name regret

    Hi Confusedmom,

    Let me first say I think Liliana is a very beautiful name and I would be proud of it if it was my own name.
    But I really feel for you because I feel the same about my daughter's name. She is now 19 months. I wanted to change her name from the start. I raised it with my husband a couple of times, but it caused so much tension between us, that I let it go. Even now I do not use her name. I am always calling her bubby. I kept telling myself that I would grow to love her name because it is her name. But that hasn't happened. It was a compromise chosen after she was born.
    Given that I am in a similar situation, I don't have any good advice, I just want to say I understand how you feel.

  2. #13
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    Jan 2011
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    Re: baby name regret

    I actually know quite a few people who names were changed in the first 6 or so months of their life. Any confusion now for friends, family and your older daughter will be long forgotten by her first birthday - let alone when she is older.
    I would change it - and if you're totally uncomfortable, why not put her new name in as a middle name and then just call her that? Thats what a friend of mine did - and now that her son's a teenager he is using his original name again by choice. It isn't an uncommon thing to do. Lots of people go by their middle names.
    If you just weren't certain, or if you loved it but loved others more I'd say get over it - but seriously, I think you should act now. She's your daughter and you are the one who has to feel proud of her name (for the next 5 years at least!!!!)
    Good luck! Don't worry about it all too much - it's SO hard naming a baby x

  3. #15
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    Re: baby name regret

    I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU!! I still am not totally in love with my three year old daughter's name. I also tried when she was about 7 months old to convince my husband to change it but he was adamant that we keep it and that I was crazy. Everyone (including my husband) now calls her by a nickname she picked out. I love the nn but still don't love the name or the extremely common very popular nn that the name usually carries. CHANGE HER NAME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE if you are serious about it is my advice.

  4. #17
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    baby name regret: Re: confusedmom

    My hub will not agree or change. I am depressed and will never have closure or settled. Baby is now 3 mos. I brought up.3-4 times now I can't even bring it up. He makes me feel guilty or shut down. When I took baby boy to his 1st check up.at 1 week old, I cringe when they said his name. It never registered to me until then that it wasnt pronounced the way it was common. I had thought it was pronounced another way. Theres is another way buts its foreign and not even that way either. I called the vital place but they had just processed the bc the other day. Now baby boy is 3 mos and no result and I swear the daily hassle of telling pll to prononuced it the way we prefer or spelling it. I swear in 5 years my hubs will say he is sorry for not listening or understanding but it be too late. My hubs say he goes through this everyday with his own name so i think he is selfish to allow our son go through the same but worst is its not even our culture background but hubs name is. I was being too creative and never sound it out loud or ask others to spell it or pronounced it. Most my family cant pronounced it , try to pronounce it. Its tongue tied and worst...i dont even know how to pronounce it anymore bc if constant diff pronounciation. I just pray a miracle that hubs acceots, move on, be happy but worst coming up with another name is even more stressful and i just pray hubs can say what about this other name. I can never get used to the name. Depressed

  5. #19
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    Jun 2013
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    Hi helpplease, you might be better off starting a new thread, or people might look at the original post, see that it's years old, and be put off replying...

    My main advice is that raising a topic 3-4 times isn't actually very much for lots of men! My husband is very sweet but if I tell him that something bothers me-- even if I bring it up HUNDREDS of times-- he'll forget about it straight away. He just assumes that I'll get over it and that it's OK. It's only when I'm way beyond my limit and I break down into tears that he even begins to notice I'm upset! And then he realizes how much it's important to me and he does help.

    I don't know if your husband is the same, but it's possible that he doesn't realize just how much it's depressing you and he is still in a happy bubble in which he assumes it's not a big deal. If I were you, I'd focus on making him understand your full pain.

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