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June 29th, 2014 04:52 PM #71
I've seen them all, you can also add your maiden to your middle or hyphenate with your married name. Keep in mind children when changing your name you'll probably want everyone to have the same last name
July 1st, 2014 11:38 AM #73Senior Member
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"Spain, where it's unheard of to change your surname when you marry. I love how they do it there- you get your father and mother's first surnames as your surnames, and with an equality law, you can switch them around or use the less common one to be able to pass on a name in danger of dying out."
THIS. This is exactly what my parents did. My mother is Dominican and French and my father is American. Generally you will find that Latinos/Hispanics have this custom. My last name represent me, a blend of different cultures and I love it, and I wouldn't change it. But also since, I only have one biological sister, Patricia, and she plans on chaging it when she marries, so I'm the one left too keep our last name alive. I have many half siblings respectively on both sides but none of them have our exact last name, and I would heartbroken if I didnt give it to my kids, ideally future DH would change his last name to mine and our kids would have my last name, but I know that probably won't be the case, I'm still keeping my last name and maybe future DH would consider hyphen name or double barrel. I was even thinking that if I had boys, they would take my last name and if I had girls, they take future DH last name. But I have a constant fear that who ever I get married to, will have a hideous/"Made to make fun of" last name. When I was in middle school, I knew a kid whose last name was Rajkovic and mean kids would call him Stephan "Rape-A-B@tch," it was terrible. So add that to another reason why I would change my last name...punctuality is a virtue of the lonely.
July 1st, 2014 12:35 PM #75Senior Member
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If I am with my current boyfriend, I think I will put my maiden name as another middle name and use his as a last name. But my first name and his last name rhymes... So I dont knowLeo Anthony or Maggie Antonia
July 1st, 2014 02:23 PM #77Senior Member
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Luckily I come from a culture where this is a non-issue. To start with in Portugal people more or less randomly inherit surnames from both sides of the family tree, rather than only the male-line (people have two to four surnames). Sometimes people add their spouses last names (a "tradition" invented in the 20th century that is luckily falling out of favor fast — nowadays it's usually both members of the couple who do change it).
I always found it quite strange how women from Anglo-Saxon countries completely give up their own name after marriage (rather than keep it as a middle or hyphenate). It really is a cultural practise that is very hard to understand for an outsider. My grandmother, hardly a progressive feminist, was quite shocked when I explained that her niece dropped her 3 Portuguese surnames after marrying an American and that her US-born kids do not have any of their Portuguese grandparents' last names. In fact my grandmothers are always bitter that me and my siblings don't carry their any of their last names (we "only" have 3: our grandfather's and paternal great-grandmothers): they came from a generation when daughters almost always passed on their mother's last names, rather than their fathers.
Personally, I always liked the suggestion of a famous geneticist: kids should have two last names, one indicating the matrilineal (Y chromosome) line and one indicating the matrilineal (mythocondrial) line. Siblings would have the same last name but daughters would pass on their matrilineal name and sons their patrilineal name. It's utopical, though. I wonder if with gay marriage people will start questioning the traditional ways of taking and inheriting last names.
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July 1st, 2014 05:11 PM #79Senior Member
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Wow, reading about everyone's experiences was super interesting, so I'll share mine. My husband and I started dating when we were 15, so we had a LONG time to ponder the last name issue. We agreed that [I]ideally[I] we would create our own smoosh name, but the options sounded terrible to us. Dittman+Morris=Dittis?Morman!? (No offense if one of those is your last name...) We thought about choosing a word/name that was significant to us, but never came up with anything and didn't think about it often. When we finally got married, I chose to change my name to match his because:
1. We wanted to have the same last name.
2. I never liked my last name at all.
3. He is super attached to his last name.
4. People address each other by their last names in his profession.
5. I haven't made a name for myself professionally yet, which made changing my name easier. (We were only 21 when we got married.)
If I had been more attached to my maiden name, I would have tried harder to come up with a new name for us both to share. Not sure if that is logical, but disliking mine and knowing he was so attached to his made it easy for me to agree to take on his last name.