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April 24th, 2014 06:15 PM #1
I can't stop thinking about HER name! (+ discussion on 'name stealing')
I'm not really sure where this should go, so I'm plopping it in here.
I met with my SIL a few days ago. We ended up talking about life and kids (you know, the usual topics that follow women freshly married!). She mentioned that if she were to have a daughter, she'd want to name her Liliana. I've always liked Liliana. It's by far my favorite of the Lily-names, but I always dismissed it as too frilly to actually use. But now? I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. I think I'm falling for it and I don't want to. Urgghh. It's okay, I'm sure my current infatuation will pass. It's not a big deal anyway because we're both kinda far from kids.
Anyway, I'm posting not just to vent my frustration (with myself, hahaha), but to pose an issue that doesn't get talked about very often. We see boards of people lamenting that someone else "stole" "their" name, as if it was an item that belonged to them alone. We always commiserate with them but in the end tell that person that it's all free game on who has a baby first. Welll... have you ever "stole" a name? What happened? Discuss!
Just to clarify, I have no plans of using Liliana/"stealing" it from her! It was just an interesting feeling, to be on the opposite side of the coin.
Last edited by fanciful; April 25th, 2014 at 12:48 AM.
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April 24th, 2014 07:52 PM #3
A name can not be stolen. If a family member or friend wanted to use my son's name they have all the right to do so. Actually I personally would not mind.
Liliana is a beautiful name. Have you considered Lilia? I also love Lilla (lil-ah), Lily, and Lilian/Lillian. I love lily names. lol I have Lilia Rose in my top three, I would call her the full name quite often.Piers Lachlan o Maebry Eloise
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Tadhg Everett o Coralie Winter
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April 24th, 2014 10:51 PM #5
Not to my knowledge. I'm obsessed with names but friends and family don't care so I don't end up hearing about baby names until they arrive or, sometimes during the pregnancy I'll ask.
I've been crushing super bad on Lila lately, but I can't use it sadly. It really clashes with the last name.
April 24th, 2014 11:03 PM #7
I think it depends on who the person is and what the name is... I have names on my list that are uncommonly used - my favorite girls name, Endora, was used less than 5 times in the US last year. I’d be rather upset if I mentioned it to someone as my favorite name and they decided to use it without talking to me first. I’d be thrilled that some little girl was named Endora - my FH doesn’t like it much at the moment. But, it would be very unlikely that they came across the name on their own as it doesn’t show up on many name lists and only a true name nerd would probably ever even consider it. If I told someone I loved the name Olivia I wouldn’t be upset if they used it without consulting me - after all the name is EVERYWHERE right now, and it would be easy for them to forget I said that.
I don’t know if that makes sense but it really comes down to the popularity of a name. There is also the degree of separation - a sister or SIL “stealing” a name could be much more of a sore point than even a good friend....if my husbands has no vote, then....
Endora & Lorelei / Dexter & Gideon
...we are newlyweds and not trying...yet...
April 24th, 2014 11:29 PM #9
I didn't actually steal a name, but my SIL planted the name in my head. We were both pregnant together and discussing baby names, and she mentioned the name Jack. It was not something I really considered before, but she tested it out using her maiden name by accident (which is my last name now) And I fell in love with the sound.
I felt terrible because I loved the sound of the name. Thankfully my husband didn't like Jack.
And neither of us had ended up with boys named Jack- she had a Logan and I had a Maddox.
I think I am more concerned for names that I love being used when I am not pregnant. I feel like it is one thing to dibs a name when you are having a baby, but to 'claim' one while you are not expecting and someone else is, isn't really fair. So I'm really hoping none of my close friends or family end up having a little Rosalie before I start ttc again.Maddox (Max) James 08.31.13.
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