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Thread: Santa dos and don'ts
December 21st, 2013 03:12 PM #31Senior Member
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I can't imagine not doing Santa. Its one of my very favourite things about being a parent.
I did have some reservations about doing it though, as did my husband. Mainly from stuff we ourselves had seen holes in as a child. I remember being younger and always wondering why some of my friends got more than others. Why the starving children in third world countries didn't get anything for Christmas. Why some of my friends' presents were wrapped and why others were not. With this in mind, we decided to things a bit differently.
Santa only brings one present to my children. Its taken out of the box, and we put a bow on it or something. Its always already assembled. This year Amelie is getting a kitchen and Daisy is getting a trike, so those will be ready to go with bows on. Santa will have brought these.
Then, under the tree, will be their other presents from my DH and I. The kids will know these are from us. We've spent a lot more than we budgeted on them this year, maybe a few hundred or so each not including their Santa present, but in my defence, they only ever get new toys on Christmas and birthdays so I don't feel too badly about it. I'm not the type of parent that will buy something new "just because". I prefer to just spoil them once or twice a year.
Amelie has already asked why the poor children in Africa don't get anything for Christmas, and I've told her its because they don't celebrate Christmas there and FC only comes to children who believe in him. She wholeheartedly believes in him but if she starts seriously questioning it, I won't make a fool of her, I'll tell the truth. I can see this lasting another few years at least though, because she's a very innocent child. When she stops believing, I'll make it very clear that she cannot tell this to any of her friends. I'd hate for her to ruin it for someone else's child.
I do encourage believing but I won't go as far as dressing up as Santa while putting out their gifts. I believed until I was about 11 and never felt traumatised or emotionally scared from the lies my parents told. It was all done in the spirit of Christmas and I was grateful for those wonderful years.
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December 23rd, 2013 03:41 AM #33Senior Member
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Our kids believe. We've let them take the lead and any questions they ask we turn them around and ask 'how do you think he does it'. But they only get 1 present from Santa so they understand that it's really family and friends who give us presents. We use different wrapping paper and my mum sends them video emails from Santa.Mum to Mousie, Foo, Bumptious and Pudding.
December 23rd, 2013 04:59 AM #35Senior Member
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December 23rd, 2013 06:13 AM #37
Reading all the responses I can't believe so many grew up not believing in Santa at all.. I thought it was just something everyone believed in.. some of my fondest memories of childhood are created around the magic of Santa and I couldn't see myself denying my children of that.. one of the things I'm most looking forward to about becoming a mum
As a child I never felt I was lied to. I always stood by the fact that I knew my family weren't rich, so how could my parents afford to buy gifts for me and my siblings.. Santa HAD to be real.. being the eldest I found out first, asking if he was real.. that's when I grew up.. suddenly I was let in on this "adult" secret and no way would I have imagined ruining that for my brother a d sister.. I was now allowed to go Santa shopping with mum and helped choose presents. It was great!
Children are only children for a short while and I want mine to believe in magic for as long as possible...
December 23rd, 2013 11:52 AM #39Senior Member
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We're going to try to do a healthy balance of Santa. I think it's important for children to have that little extra magic in their lives, but I don't want to take any extraordinary measures to delude him if he just isn't a natural believer.
My parents never really did extremes. Looking back, my dad seemed to be the person encouraging it and my mom was the organizer, and pretty freakish about the advent calendar. Most of our presents were from Santa every year. I don't remember when I started seriously questioning Santa, the guy who drops off presents, but I think my mom handled it very well. She told me that Santa wasn't the physical person they had told me about, but the Spirit of the Season. He was why everyone felt happy and loved giving to others, but it wouldn't work if I was mean or selfish. It let me believe a lot longer in a more adult way, so that's what we plan to tell Ivan and Next Kid when the serious questions start.
SO wants to do Krampus too, he thinks he's really funny, but I think it's a bit much for a really little kid.
Also, we don't know what to leave out for Santa... all we can agree on is beer.Mommy to Mr. Ivan Eli
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