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Thread: How many stay on "Team Green"?
November 8th, 2013 12:17 PM #6Senior Member
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I'm not pregnant yet but hopefully soon! We want to find out as soon as possible. I don't know, it's our first and I think we need that and to be prepared for our daughter or our son. I think it'll make the process and all the newness much easier. I heard a story of a women who was Team Green. She had one of each and was expecting her third and wanted the gender to be a surprise after finding out for her first two. After her newest child, a boy, was born, she felt sad. Even though she didn't care either way, she just wanted a healthy baby, she felt like someone took her new daughter away from her. Like she'll never have her. She felt she would've felt the same way about a boy if she had had a girl. Does this make sense? Just something to think about...
November 8th, 2013 01:02 PM #8Senior Member
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I'm not finding out!! (or, as I like to joke, we'll find out EVENTUALLY, but not before the birth). It's our first baby. Yeah, I know what you mean about it feeling slightly hypothetical. When we were discussing finding out or not, I kind of wanted to and my husband kind of didn't...then by the night before the ultrasound we had sort of switched positions, and somehow we ended up with NOT finding out. I'm glad we did! But I wonder if my husband especially--who isn't feeling every little kick and flutter--has a harder time connecting with this unknown human being that we still refer to as "it".
As for names, I think it just requires the same discipline that naming a baby whose sex is known requires. If it's super important to you to have a name that flows well, or is unique, or has meaning, or whatever, yeah you'll have to put the work in, just like people who do know the sex. And you'll have to put in twice the amount of work, because you'll need one for each. But I know plenty of people who are just like "Oh, I like this name, you too? Ok cool that's what we'll go with" and that works just fine too. We are planning to narrow our list down to about 3 boy names and 3 girl names, and see what fits best when we finally get to meet our baby! Personally, I have a list about 70 strong for each, but when I bring names up to my husband, he usually says, "eh, they're OK." This is a problem that couples have whether they know the sex or not!
So congrats to you for doing it the "hard way," and from what I've heard, you and I won't regret it =) I work with a lot of grandparent-aged adults, and so many of them are absolutely delighted when I tell them we're not finding out beforehand (other than the sweet old grandmas who want to make me baby blankets!). And for the adults I work with who are my own generation, the ones who have waited also tell me "oh, it's the best, I wouldn't have done it any other way!!" The kids I work with have a field day with guessing. It's fun for everyone!Current favorites: Olive, Louise/Louisa, Magdalene/Madeline, Phillipa, Talitha, Mallory, Blythe, Eliza, Mercy, Talia; Calvin, Charles, Gideon, Abram, Jude, Reuben, George, Reid, Clark, Holden.
November 8th, 2013 01:44 PM #10
I'm kind of neutral. I could go either way because the gender wouldn't matter to me as long as I have a healthy baby.
Since this thread isn't about names I'm moving it to a more appropriate sub forum.
Oops! Sorry I missed your last sentence. Moved back to Baby Names.
Last edited by ikfly; November 8th, 2013 at 01:48 PM.Could you guys check out these threads please? I'll return the favor. PM me.
November 8th, 2013 01:48 PM #12Senior Member
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I don't know what I would choose if/when I am pregnant. I think it would be cool to be surprised, but at the same time, I'm quite an impatient person, so I think I'd wanna know. As for worrying about not connecting with the baby if you do not know the gender - personally, I don't think it affects how you bond with the baby, but if you don't like calling the baby "it", you could come up with a gender-neutral cutesy moniker like Munchkin, Peanut, Bubba etc... and you never know, it might stick after birth too!
November 8th, 2013 04:08 PM #14Senior Member
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I was Team Green, and I would do so again with a future pregnancy. The surprise and anticipation was absolutely wonderful.]
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